ON A PEDESTAL

People crave to be like their idols as though their idols have accomplished everything that they themselves aspire to be like. They believe that if they mirror their idols choices that they too could share in the lifestyle glory that their idol experiences on a day to day basis. Alot of people are guilty of placing their idols on a pedestal and idolising every little thing about them even though what they believe is a true representation of their beloved idol is purely based on what is seen when the lime light is shining on their idol. It's easy to assume that those we aspire to be like are living an easier lifestyle with minimal struggles but when you are in the lime light and are constantly judged by your fans the pressure to perform every time you walk out of your home would feel exhausting when you just want a little me time. We crave the good things we see from those we aspire to be like and assume that the bad things won't come with the lifestyle that we desire but the reality is life itself has great moments as well as some disappointing ones and having all the wealth you desire can not take away the disappointing moments that you can not control. So you need to be your own idol by idolising your own achievements because if you can have less then the famous person you envy and can be happier with what you've got then you've achieved more with less resources and that is an achievement you should be proud of when you stand on your own pedestal. When you do feel that you've hit a slump remember Bobby Mcferrin wise words "Don't worry be happy" and do it.

LOST IN TRANSLATION

When interacting with people we are hopeful that the conversation we are having will end up in a positive experience, but this is on the basis that the  discussions you have would eventually reach a common ground. Whether your intentions are to learn by listening or to teach by explaining, your efforts may end up being pointless because if your handbook of ideas doesn't work with those you socialise with then you will eventually hit a wall that won't ever budge. Peoples foundation of truth that they depend on is structured to make sense to that individual, if everyone has a different handbook of truth that is ever changing then they will always bump heads. People will always disagree with you when their book of truth that the solely rely is questioned, because it feels like a personal attack to the truth that they believe in and hold onto. Not liking a situation doesn't mean that the situation isnt happening and it doesn't matter how much we will it to it is still the truth. Your mindset strongly depends on structured thoughts that are governed by rules of logical thought, without logical thought we are left in constant chaotic imbalance of who we are and what we stand for. There's a lot in life you might not like but truth correlates with reality,  not with your preferences. So deal with the truth that science understands or live in your own fantasy world where a person can be whatever they want to be because logical thought isn't bound by proven science. The world is a big place and there is no need that your fantasy should affect my reality,  so be you if fantasy is all you can handle.

DO I HAVE YOUR ATTENTION?

What we consider to be entertainment varies from individual to individual and what makes one person happy may displease another person, this is guided by our own perspective of interests. It is our differences that separates us and guides us to find others that we share common interests with that gives us affirmation that we belong. If you are entertained by your interests, Is it safe to say that you interests are responsible for making you happy?. Or is it just a momentary distraction to your confuse your mind in believing that you are happy even though its only a short term happiness. Entertainment keeps you in a happy state of mind, but is the happiness that entertainment provides enough to claim the label that you are a happy person. Happiness can be measured in so many different ways but the basic foundation of happiness is about being entertained because you can not be happy while you are bored. Boredom craves entertainment and entertainment creates satisfaction which will ultimately lead to you reaching happiness. If you are happy doing nothing then you happiness threshold is very easily satisfied. Those with high demanding happiness threshold never are sated. So be happy with the reachable and don't let the unattainable determine whether your happy or not. 

POISONOUS MINDSET

Lifes dramas can lead your mind to dark places where the anger you hold onto will eventually transform into resentment. The negative energy that you allow in will more than likely manifest into bad choices by keeping you in a negative state of mind that will not only affect you but will also affect the people that you socialise with. If your lucky enough to have a strong mind your frustrations will heighten your ability to deal with lifes dramas, but if you find yourself easily manipulated by a negative bandwagon of bad energy then it will knock you down and take control over you. Resentment can be overwhelming when you find yourself being overly pessimistic, where as optimism will give you hope to see the brighter side to the problems that your facing. When you constantly justify your anger, resentment gets a free chance to create chaos within you logic parameters and thus comes at a dangerous cost that poisons your mood which you'll find is extremely difficult to get yourself out of the slump. Angry people will say the opposite of you just to disagree with your point of view even if they don't, which is their only tactic they've got against your positive frame of mind. So don't tackle a persons complaints because the lies they weave with only entrap you with bad mojo. You have to understand their motives and then do the opposite of what they would expect of you because they want to lead you to an argument by bringing you to their miserable frame of mind. Be smarter than the angry person that they would prefer you to be like, by leading yourself to where you would rather be. Don't play their games by their rules and you will win in the end because you have stayed true to your core.

CHASING THE MOLD

Growing up we all go through stages of self development where we make choices that we believe will help give us a desired result. The results helps us discover who we are as individuals and identifies our  motivations, this basic tactic is our way of figuring out what we like and what we would rather never expierience again. This basic tactic is more miss than hit in our adolescents but with wisdom gained with age we hopefully fine tune the system. Sometimes when we feel someone we admire has achieved what we desire we place them in high regard and place them on a pedestal as though they are the type of person we most want to be like. This so called desired mold we believe will lead us to the standard of happiness that we crave, but at what cost?, Are we willing to sacrifice our own individuality in the pursuit of happiness?. Chasing to fit the mold seems that your expectations are solely based on your chosen idol as to boldly claim that their life is the ultimate result, but the grass isn't always greener when you've become your idol. You should perfect yourself not mirror someone else's shadow.  Being grounded in your own lifestyle is much more real and satisfying then losing yourself in someone else's.

I THINK I HAVE A PROBLEM

People who get asked over and over again Are you okay ?  start looking for a problem even when there is no problem the more persistent you probing questions are. Some people rely on the sympathy of others to prosper, so the quickest way of getting the attention they want is by faking a problem that they dont have. When craving attention at the detriment of your own merit you start to sacrifice too much for too little and the good feeling you get from the carer is fleeting. We all like to feel loved and needed, but sometimes when your not getting the attention you crave you might find yourself going through extremes just to get the attention that you feel that your lacking. If you have to manipulate the right attention out of someone maybe it's the wrong someone. A person who genuinely cares for you doesn't need to be played because they are there for you through thick and thin. So maybe revaluate who you are wanting to get the attention from and stop playing games with the wrong players. 

THATS JUST A PART OF ME

Everyday we interact with people on different social levels, but only few of the people we interact with truly know who we really are. It takes time to get to know someone properly and giving up on your free time to socialise with someone you dont really know is a risk that people dont always want to take. Sacrificing time seems to be a big ask in these modern times when your time is competing with social media. Social media shows people a snapshot of what was taken to project the ideal image that we would like people to see when they think of us, but we are so much more than our names and profile pictures. Very few people want their peers to know that they are not perfect and that they have flaws. The reality is everyone has flaws but that doesn't mean you are not perfect in someones else's eyes flaws and all. Hiding who you are will only disadvantage you in the long run. The people who get to know your false bravado admire you for the charade your showing which can only last so long as you maintain the show. You are only human and as a human being we have  many faces that are attached to many different types of moods that aren't always good or right ways to be but burying your emotions deep inside is only going to take you quicker to depression. We are a whole lot more than perfect human beings that's what makes us unique. Accepting your true identity is about accepting you for everything you are that includes your likes, your dislikes, what motivates you, what you stand for whatever you bring to the table even your baggage and everything in between. Showing people just a part of you is a dishonour to yourself. So be honest to yourself and honour yourself, you are what you are.

OPEN TO CIRCUMSTANCES

It's fair to say that people are not our personal pupets so we can not expect them to do whatever we want, but by the same token some people like to blame their failings on the people who have forced them to make a decision when they weren't ready to make up their mind. You may be able deny your actions by blaming others for the pressure that they put on you, but you should acknowledge that you alone have the power to influence how your day will go based on how intune you are with your own personal problem solving skills. Language and your attitude are such a powerful tool that can influence the choices you have and will lead you to open circumstances.  if you ignore the parameters of your decisions and don't learn to be tactful you might find yourself in a not ideal situation. You are solely responsible on how you react to peoples attempt to manipulate your direction, nobody has the power to get you to do what you have already made up your mind not to do. We are a product of our circumstances, and it is our choices that have lead us to those circumstances so increasing your interaction with people who you don't see eye to eye with you will increase your chances of conflict of beliefs that will lead you to discomfort, the more you you'll find yourself shaking your head with disbelief. The proof that the power to influence your life for the better is in your hands is that if you did the opposite of every decision that you've ever made in your past your more likely to be in a worse state of mind than you currently are because you have gone against what your core beliefs craves which will lead to being unsatisfied. So satisy yourself by being true to your core beliefs. You are what you believe so be you.

THATS MY BELIEF

My beliefs are my personal beliefs, we may share similar beliefs on certain topics but that doesn't mean that we have to agree on everything. We may all believe that we have good reasons to think the way we think that justifys our thought process so anyone who tries to convince us on how we should see things has a challenging task ahead of them. People who feel content in their own perspective of belief system dont usually have the desire to try and understand the reasoning behind someone else's beliefs. We are governed by our own belief system so we should understand that our motivations vary from each other, and trying to find common ground is a goal that will not always beable to be reached. All that is left is to agree to disagree, and accept that we are different and that we need to work with each other in harmony to the best that we are capable of. We like to blame the world for what we see is considered is the wrong way to approach things but the world follows trends and who is to blame for where the trends are going?, only the people who choose to follow the trends. The worlds focus is on the majorities opinions and if it was on the minorities than more people will be displeased. It is impossible to keep everyone happy because pleasing one group of people displeases another group. The reality is  the communitys best interests takes president over an individual desires. We live in a world where we are afraid to say "That is wrong" "Infact that's stupid" because the only thing that is considered wrong these days is to say that "Someone else thought process is delusional" because it will trigger them and offend them. How you feel doesn't change the facts of a situation so base your beliefs on truth that is backed up by facts whether or not you agree or disagree it is still the universal truth that will stand the test of time. People will follow your beliefs if they agree they will not agree to follow you by force, so don't push your beliefs on anyone. If you don't see eye to eye then you can agree to disagree like you would in a normal conversation that you would have between two adults or you can jump up and down like a two year old having a tantrum and see where it gets you. Grow up and show the respect that you crave for yourself and remember its not always about the individual.

LISTEN TO ME WHILE I PERSUADE YOU

When drama strikes a lot of people like to play the blame game claiming that they are victims of manipulation. They believe that they are innocent of blame because their only mistake was giving trust to someone who has misguided them with deceitful acts of betrayal. The naive victim who will unknowingly react in any way that the manipulative culprit desires feels that they would of made different choices if they were told the truth from the start. People might have the power to say what ever they want but they do not have the power to force your hand. You may be forced to listen to the nonsense but the choice is yours to make, do your research and trust your gut. Some people don't try looking to deep into things to understand the motivations of people they socialise with then act surprised by the actions of those who have betrayed them as if they couldn't of seen the trouble coming. Manipulation comes in many forms whether your shown information to sway you or shown less information to deny your knowledge of the topic, either way what ever the reason for the manipulation we must learn from our experiences so that the next person that tries to manipulate us hits a wall that they can not impact our lifestyle for the negative. Relationships are built by gaining trust that you gather through time and shared experiences with a person which helps us better understand what type of person we a dealing with and what type of character he or she has. Knowing what interests a friend helps focus your conversation so that you know what they would rather talk about and what they would rather ignore, this is not manipulation of a friend its about sharing common interests and simply having a good conversation. A good friend will tell you about a sale on clothes because they know fashion is your thing they will not talk to you about a sale in technology products because it will go in one ear and out the other if it is not what interest them. Persuasive technology uses algorithms to record how you react to what's in front of you and then knows what to recommend. Most people are aware the phone hears the conversation your having and then you find it pop on Facebooks notifications. So maybe you should be one step ahead and have a conversation with someone about something that you are struggling to find and let Facebook be your lap-dog by getting it to search for the things you have exhausted yourself trying to find. Don't be manipulated by technology or by people if technology is showing a sale on pants and you have no need to add to your already large collection then don't bother if someone is talking to you about something that interests you but not them then ask yourself what are their motives. You should beable to fight the overpowering desire to give in to the persuasion if you see the logic in not really needing the item, if you are any kind of holic you need to conquer the addiction and set a limit. You need to be tougher than your weaknesses, you need to control the part of your brain that tries to convince you to do the things your rational mind won't agree with. Mostly you need to put yourself in a good frame of mind ready to take on lifes challenges