CHILD TO ADULT

Our past self is but an echo of who we use to be sometimes unrecognisable to who we've now grown up to become. Would our younger self approve of the changes that you've made on their behalf and be proud to recognise that they were the first step that guided us to become the person that we are today or will they feel ashamed that we've changed so much from the person that they were hoping to become. Growing up we all have hopes and dreams that are lost when we are forced face the world with a sense of maturity that pushes us to hold onto whats real rather than a childhood fantasy that can be too risky to pursue. Our choices are weighed and decisions are made for what we believe is the betterment of our desired lifestyle, but is it better to choose the odds that are in your favour and let go of your childhood dreams? or deny what is real now to chase the dreams that might lead you to a utopian lifestyle?. Most people before making any life changing decisions weigh the impact it has on them to determine what is the mature decision whether its to pursue or to let go. We may believe that if we had the chance to turn the clock back we would choose a different path but the truth is the decisions that we made were made with a clear conscience. So don't be hard on yourself because your younger version will grow to understand the choices that you've made were the right choices for the both of you.

ONE INTEREST, ONE FOCUS

We are  continuously exploring ourselves trying to work out what our priorities are by focusing on what interests us the most. Interests can come and go as quickly as we discover them but only a few will stick with us. Some of us are lucky enough that we have multiple interests which enables us to choose our options of interests and spread them out throughout our day never to be bored. On the opposite scale there are others who are captivated only by a few options of interests and prefer to keep things simpler with less interests to focus on. These individuals have more time to perfect their interests with less distractions to interrupt them from what they are currently focusing on. Is life more rewarding if you enjoy more things? Or Is life better if you focused on less allowing you to take in everything about your chosen interests and be one with your interest. Those who only focus on one thing become masters in their chosen field but at what cost?. Is the depth of your character measured by the amount of your interests youve claimed to have? Or Is your choice to focus on one interests a good representation that you are committed to your chosen interests?. Whatever you choose to focus on as long as it adds to your happiness there is no need to find an excuse for it because we are our interests and we should be proud of the things that we choose to spend our free time doing.

TO BE OR NOT BE CLOSE FRIENDS

Whether you're an acquaintance, friend or close friend what does it take to climb the ladder of friendship so that others will be able to call you a close friend? Some might say time and shared experiences is the answer to build up enough rapport to be able to call someone a close friend and as logical as that may sound the true answer is its really about boundaries. You could share a lifetime of experiences with someone but if they place boundaries on what is a permitable topic of conversation that can be discussed this might not align with what your preferences of conversation are. Restrictions to conversation will take away any lingering topics on your mind and push them away out of bounds to be ignored because it isnt a desirable topic of conversation for your so called close friend. Some people will meet someone for the first time and feel instantly comfortable enough to talk about anything with no set boundaries to taint the direction of the conversation. This type of connection can surpass any limited long term relationship in a vast quicker time frame. Close friends are their to support you by giving you their ear and their advice without restrictions of boundaries getting in the way of a deep and meaningful conversation. Close friends don't want to let you down because they believe in treating you with the same respect you treat them. So you may easily call someone your close friend but when you try to initiate a sensitive conversation will they stop you in your tracks and give you their ear?

CANT WE ALL JUST GET ALONG

Most people get along with most types of people quite easily with the help of their  social skills. Whether you chatting to someone about common interests or your intrigued by topics that you know nothing about, the drive to be social comes with many rewards. We as people a sociable creatures most of what we do we like to do with others, whether its because sharing our experiences with others heightens our own personal experiences or its just purely for the reason to get to know someone on a more personal level we are driven to socialise. Life without friends or family time can feel a little pointless because acquaintances can only get your social meter so far and you cant expect any acquaintance to go out of their way to accommodate for any of your unfair requests. Life truly feels more fulfilling when you share your experiences with your friends and family who will back you up when you  need it and help you when you are struggling with the pot holes of life because of the long term emotional connection you'll always have their support when you feel sad and lost. So socialise and be happy in knowing that an independent person may be strong alone but a group full of friends and family will always conquer.

SAME SAME, BUT DIFFERENT

We are all creatures of habit and because of this we can easily overlook the things that we are constantly complaining about that can also be found in our own set routines. This is mostly a problem for those who spend most of their time looking outwards and never in. It is even harder for those who are bitter and full of resentment to connect the dots between their personal frustrations with their peers and the things that they do themselves regularly enough that don't differ that much from those that they feel very comfortable to complain about. It is understandable to see that some time or another that we all may show a little hypocrisy in our actions but a little may be the result of you not feeling yourself because your having a bad day whereas those whose majority of their conversation consists of complaining about others it is obvious that they are only happy when they are putting someone down. If someone finds it easier to complain about the actions of others than striking up an interesting conversation then maybe they should spare a moment of their time to explore what about their own life isn't worth talking about in a positive light when they are conversing with their peers. There has to be more topics of conversation than what's wrong why not mix it up a little and talk about what's right with the world and see if others will gravitate towards your positivity. What do you have to lose other than your negative aura?.

PLEASE SIR CAN I HAVE SOME MORE MORAL?

Your outlook on life is heavily reliant on your chosen environment whether you are surrounded by positive energy that is uplifting to your spirit or negative energy that keeps you down in a place where you feel at your most insecure it is up to you to choose your environment carefully. No matter on the strength of your spirit, being tested on a daily basis you might of convinced yourself that its character building and it will increase your endurance but is the constant barrage good for your moral?. It is hard to stay true to yourself if your moral is low because your moral is what motivates you to move forward when your feeling down and you don't know what to do. During the tough times when you can feel disheartened by the dilemmas your facing it is only the show of moral that has the power to lift your spirit up and without the presence of moral we become robotic by showing no emotions. In robotic mode we only do the bare necessary without the extra effort that you normally would put in when your moral is high and feel good about what you are doing . Our undesirable chosen environment tries to push away the humanity in us because it is the humanity that connects us to our moral. Knowing one's self is the grandest task of all and going against what feels right is bad for your soul hence will only lead you to unhappiness. So follow your heart and keep your moral intact otherwise your choices will lead you to a place where you find it impossible to justify the reasoning behind your choices.

RIGHT TO BE RICH

The rich will always think they're right because they believe the masses that they have acrued represents that all their choices in life are always going to be spot on even the ones that don't concern finances. It is hard for them to see that they could be wrong when they are surrounded by so much wealth but as much as they can afford all the materials that money can buy without a balanced mindset it is easy to lose sight of what their money can not reach. Not everything has a price tag loyalty from close friends that are there by your side because of your honourable qualities and not there because of the size of wallet. A man with less money and more true friends is richer than a rich man with no true friends only paid ones. Respect goes along way further than money will ever reach, respect from your peers can not be bought and if it could why would anyone ever want respect that wasn't earnt and based purely on what you paid for it. If you were a (wo)man of your worth you would only want what you have earned fairly knowing that you followed the rules and didn't step on anyone to climb the hierarchical ladder just to reach your goal. The satisfaction of being triumphant honourably will fill you up with satisfaction that rings true through your whole body that builds a solid foundation that good people will flock to. If you achieve success dishonesty you will be left feeling shameful, so be proud to be good instead let the dishonest be alone wasting their money on those who will leave the moment the money leaves.

SAME WORD USED DIFFERENTLY

Words only have true meaning if they are factual and are based in reality which inturn helps reassure those who are conversing that you are following the conversation and that the points that you are making are not being misconstrued. When the majority of the population agree that the true meaning of a certain word has a universal meaning that goes beyond all cultural differences ignoring its functional side leaves the unrelenting few  grasping at only whats left which is the irrational thought process that is hard to support because it is based on feelings while true meaning is based on reality and how it connects to the truth. The world would be simpler if it was based on multiple truths because then there would be no need to compromise our beliefs but the harsh facts of life are based on a universal truth which is connected to all of us whether we take part or deny in its existence their is no changing what is fact. If you base you beliefs on something that is not real you will have a hard awakening when the truth hits you like a brick so stop sweeping your issues under the rug and deal with the truths infront of you before your left looking dumbfounded by the questions you can't answer.

LOOKING LIKE IT, DOESN'T MAKE YOU IT

Sometimes someone admires someone so much that they will do anything to be exactly like the one that they admire but all they know about that particular person is what they see on a superficial level. What a person looks is only a small part of who they are and how they choose to represent themselves is not always interpreted in the way that they themselves intended it to, alot of their true character is lost in your translation of them. Twins may share alot of similarities but that doesn't mean that they feel the same inside, so trying to mimic someones appearance just to make you feel closer to them doesn't change that you still are the same person underneath. In life you must accept yourself as you are but if you dont like something about yourself it's okay to look to others for inspiration for qualities that you admire, as long as it is not at the detriment of losing yourself.  Its easy to make judgements based on a lack of information when your trying to compare your life to those you admire but you need to remember that the grass always looks greener from a far. Falling in the trap of needing the approval of others just to justify your insecurities will have you feeling on edge all the time so let the inspiration of others guide you not control you. Generally speaking we look for patterns in the things we focus on so that we can find common ground this is to better understand how we as people work and what motivates us to do what we do this doesn't mean every single instance has to be the same for everyone, it just means that when it counts most that we are more alike than different which is not as bad as people make it to be as if they feel they have to be different to stand out. So don't lose yourself in doubting your part in the grand scheme of things we are all important even if we don't fit the mould, just make sure that what motivates you is real not rushed.

ITS NOT THAT LOGICAL

When we have to make a decision that most likely will affect our life but we are stuck at crossroads alot of conflicting thoughts can go through our mind when we are trying to figure out what is the better path to choose?. While facing the crossroads dilemma, logical thought is relied on more than ever because its logical thought that helps us priorities the importance of our options by taking all considerations and then evaluating them to make the right choices. Whereas when we let desire lead our decisions our desires may lead us astray for that our desires are only focused on our ever changing mood and our desires doesn't normally take in consideration how the radical behaviour may affect others. What is considered logical to someone is illogical to someone else so our logic is based on what makes sense to us as individuals. If most people in a community shared the same logical views it would make sense to say that the communities chosen path is the most rational? It seems that our focus has now shifted from what makes sense and is rational to please the minority radical mindset which complies of the mentality what is right for me and me alone is the correct view and the only view that should be considered important so change all of your views for me,  this one sided view has the majority of people wondering is logical thought a thing of the past? Logic is tied to boundaries without boundaries in your life you have no way of recognising what your doing is right or wrong in the eyes of the people you surround yourself with. If what you desire was your only motivator it would lead us to a world that was full of over confident students unable to take in anything that wasn't about them, without competent teachers to guide them that taking in all considerations when trying to make choices that makes sense for the majority of the community should be an easy choice. Without logical thought their is only chaos where the lessons we've learnt in the past are ignored which will more than likely mean that we are doomed to repeat them. It is through trial and error that we've achieved our progessive development in the community by recognising patterns in the similarities which allow us to organise groups because of their unique similarities that we are able to tend to them by focusing on their collective interests all so we can create order in the system, this is now seen as the wrong way because the generic labels aren't inclusive. Language has helped us find common ground in our similarities and by creating groups which it may not be a perfect system but that doesn't mean it's broken, it just needs to be fine tuned not thrown out. It is impossible to please everyone so logical thought tells us to please as many as you can without tipping the balance otherwise you'll be wondering how did we get to a place where we have lost our logic system and replaced it with chaos.

IF I CANT SEE IT, IM SAFE

The world can be a very scary place to live in and it is natural for some people to take the easier path when trying to handle their fears rather than face their fears head on. To remain in a pieceful state of mind some people prefer shutting their eyes to some of the atrocities that could affect their own mental state of mind. Shutting their eyes to what's happening around the world might make them feel safer in the moment because their belief system relys on out of sight out of mind to help them when the situation gets too hard for their mind to process, but what would of bothered them in the present is still happening in the world with just fewer people accepting that the problems are real. So if you've chosen to ignore a problem you will only do yourself a injustice because without your voice having any impact on what may bother you, your choice to not speak has left others with the power do the talikg for you. Standing up when it's time to speak shows the victims that you acknowledge the injustice that they have faced and you admire their bravery to tell their story so your only right choice is to show them the respect that they deserve is by acknowledging that their suffering is never ignored. Hardships are not to be ignored but respected for that it was great strength in their perseverance that they have mustered up in their darkest moments that got them to the other side.

KIDS OF TODAY

As time passes on and people evolve so does their thought process change to the current times, what used to be considered a normal thought process in the past is now shunned by the people in the present with the added saying "leave the old ways of thinking in the past because we now know a much better way to do things for the people of today". This kind of thinking prevents people from using the worlds past experiences as insightful lessons to help build upon the already solid foundations that were put in place to encourage solidarity in the community by rewarding hard work and perseverance. Those who were willing to stick through the difficult challenges would reap the rewards and benefit from their due diligence to succeed rather than today's generation of the privileged who just give up on things the moment they get hard. The kids of today dont like to be reminded of the past where life was harder because the advantages that they have grown up with now is considered to be normal so why mention what is now a normal part of life to them for that their lifestyle does not stand out to be special compared to any of their friends. The past is no longer seen as an opportunity to learn a lesson from because by choosing to willingly ignore the past they secure their own ideal thoughts and the new times ahead will give them better opportunities without the need of guidance from the past. The mistakes of today's parents is that they believe if they give more to their kids that their kids would appreciate their sacrifices and then their kids will strive to show their parents that they know that they are lucky to have the opportunities that have and that's why they will do all that they can to show their appreciation with their successes. Generally people only appreciate what they have if they are able to connect the dots of the worlds past difficulties to the advantages of their lifestyle, otherwise they will take their privileged lifestyle for granted. So it is our responsibility to condition good behaviour so that they'll appreciate the commitment that it takes to do the right thing and stop rewarding those who take their privileged lifestyle for granted.

OPEN TO REFLECT

As we get older and we find ourselves reflecting back on our past decisions the thoughts bouncing back at us either leave us feeling positive because of our achievements or leave us feeling negative with a build up of regret for what we have never achieved. Accepting that we alone are responsible for where we end up because of what we've chosen to priorities in our life is the first step of dealing with our misfortunes which then gives us an opportunity to take a step away from blaming others for us not reaching our intended goals. Accepting our role empowers us to make the right decisions to get our life back on track where we would prefer to be. Realising that bad choices that we've made has lead our life to a place where our time is now limited to remedy. Time constraints now force you to think harder than you have ever before about what is the right thing to do but with the added thought will you be happy with where your choices lead you. Time is the most important commodity how you choose to spend your time on this earth will be remembered by your family and friends. So do yourself proud by leaving a positive impact with those with whom you interact with otherwise don't be surprised by the few people who will raise a hand to help you at your time of need. If you only think of yourself then be prepared for a lonely life where companionship is limited to acquaintances who are bored with very few options. Or be someone who someone will make you their priority, the choice is yours and so are the consequences.

STAND BY YOUR CLAIM

People project themselves confidently to show others that they know who they are and that they know what they stand for, but are they willing to stand by their claims. The confidence that they show others is designed to take away any doubts that non-believers might have against any of their claims. They believe if they say anything untrue it will be camouflaged by the confidence in their lies so no one will see any reason to doubt the person that they're claiming to be. Whether or not their charismatic behaviour is enough to distract the audience from whats really happening it is only short-lived because their lies can only carry them so far. If you claim to be this person that you are clearly not you actions will unhinge the truth of your claims so when your actions are contradictory to your claims you begin to look the fool that you think that your not. So if you think that you are the real deal then there is no need to have to talk yourself up because people will see it. But if you have to blow your own horn maybe there is a part of you that believes that if you think it with all your might then maybe others will see that you are everything you claim to be.

TAKE IN MIND

The advice we give directs people to a suggested pathway but doing so what are our true motives when we give the advice that steers the willing to partake?, is the advice pure of heart with only positive intentions? Or is the advice set in malice?. If the advice you've given steers people to a troublesome situation was your advice bad or was it how your advice was handled thereafter that caused the issues that came to play?. It all depends on the intent of the advice given, is the advice tainted by personal preferences or was the person's interests taken in hand?. Like the relevance of the saying "You can lead a horse to water but you can't force it to drink" rings true when you are trying to show people that there are plentiful opportunities that is there for the taking but wondering why they choose not to take advantage of what seems to be an obvious choice to make. Is it better to choose the untravelled path that may heighten their success or should we really be focused on what is it that the recipient truly wants?. Is your personal happiness guided by your wants the right way to enhance your happiness or is what looks like the right choice the better choice because it is a different path from the one your use to?. We are at our most happiest when our desires are met even at its most simplest form. Easier isn't always better when you are suitable for a type of skill set that works well within the parameters of threshold that works to support your self happiness. It is better to be you than a version that is perfect on the outside but miserable on inside, so be true and be you.

RESPECT IS ON TRIAL

We all share the same reality that we are all are born, and we will eventually pass away and because we share this fate as human beings, we feel that we are connected to each other in the grand scheme of things. As human beings we can feel compelled to show each other respect because of our common ground but the respect that has been given to us is only based on a limited trial bases that is dependent on our choice of action when interacting with others. Respect will only last if we ourselves show respect to others because you cannot claim that it is your god given human right to be treated with respect if you're not prepared to practice what you preach. Treating others in a disrespectful manner will eventually lead them to realising that enough is enough and the respect that they had for you will dissipate. The respect that they have always shown you lead you on the right path to be treated with dignity. Your choice to show rudeness to others opens the door to people being rude to you, so be the person that people have no choice but to respect otherwise they will take whatever they like from you because the person who shows no stance of what is and what isn't acceptable will be walked all over with a smug look that intensifies when they feel like they can do no wrong.

DONT DEFEND STUPIDITY

We may be responsible for only what we say in life but when friends or family make claims that we don't particularly agree with we feel compelled to support them because it is the honourable thing to do. We stand up for them even at the detriment of our own viewpoint because we don't want them to feel that we don't have their back but is it better to support their stupidity? or educate them in the understanding that we are all entitled to our own opinion? their choice of viewpoint doesn't mean everybody needs to follow their views just those who choose to. You can still be friends or at least friendly to those who don't agree with you just as long as the mutual understanding is that your belief is yours and anyone who chooses to follow your viewpoint can and my views are mine and anyone can agree to follow me if they choose. The only rule should be that we must be civil even though it can feel unfair if you don't have the following to get your way because the truth of the matter is that the rules are set for the majority because making most people happy is better than making the few people happy. If we focused on the few then in life most people would be unhappy, so a little compromise is fine as long as the majority of people are still happy. So, to determine what is the rational call would mean to listen to the community because the popular opinion displayed is the right call for the people. Those who disagree need to understand that should we choose the needs of the minority over the majority then we would be living in a community that will fall apart with the minority trying to hold things together. Choosing the majority is less of a sacrifice to the community that is why we should not support stupidity but educate it. An educated mind focusses on the masses that can contribute to society not the few that only want to disrupt it.

CRAVE TO FEEL

Every day of our life we share the one repetitive dilemma, what should we do with our limited free time? but as much as we share the same dilemma our choices vary from individual to individual all because the satisfaction that we crave comes in many different types of forms. Some of us are happy to choose less to do during our day of free time while others are only happy if they fill up their day with as many things as they can fit in so that they can reassure themselves that they didn't waste any time procrastinating. As unique as we all are, we are also simple creatures in that we crave to feel something just to remind us that we are here and that our opinions matter, this satisfaction of reached craving is sometimes reached at the detriment of our well-being all because our line of integrity shifts when times are tough. At our lowest times our self-esteem would do anything to receive attention even if its negative attention. All we can do to counteract the craving to feel anything is to satisfy the craving with healthy positive reinforcement. Most of us crave the company of others even the homebodies of the world crave company and adventure sometimes to break the monotonous routine of work and home life. So, remember we spend a lifetime working ourselves out that formula of happiness doesn't always mix well with others to stick with your happiness and leave others discover their own.

MEN AND WOMEN

We all hear the claims that men are better at this and women are better at that, both men and women use this claim because they know their gender is successful at something so they believe that they too can use this statement to highlight that they themselves are successful. But just because men are the stronger gender in general im sure there are many stronger women that are much stronger than myself and to think otherwise is narrow minded. The same with women just because women may be better at multi tasking it doesn't mean all women fit the same mould, we all have our own strengths and weaknesses thats not gender based thats individual based. If you want to be the exception you need to do what it takes to stand out, you have to strengthen your weaknesses by working at it you cant just claim your stronger and better at multi tasking just because you are a part of that gender. So maybe the lesson is we should stop piggy backing on the success of others and focus on how we want to represent ourselves. On the average men and women are equally intelligent but some men and women use their intelligence while others play the victim card and never try to better themselves. So stop with the negative words and start with the positive movements by reaching for that better you that people would crave to be around. 

BEING RIGHT ISN'T ENOUGH

What makes sense to you doesn't mean someone else will see the sense in your stated facts. Logical thinking is dependent on facts not emotions because focusing on how your feeling doesn't change the end result, What are the facts?. If you would prefer to ignore facts and focus on your emotions then that is up to you but dont then question how you got yourself stuck in a bad situation when you let your heart control what your head should of. Emotions may steer us to what we believe is a happy place but at the end of the day we need to be able live with our choices and be able to justify our actions. If you choose raw emotions over logical thought then your raw emotions may put you in a place where you wont be prepared for and not know the right course of action to to get you back on track because thinking hard about the right action to take is always going to lead you to a better result rather than blindly going where your heart leads you. Logical thinking will get you out of the trenches that emotion has left you in, so listen to you head more because eventually your heart will catch up and be on the same page once you realise that your head and heart want the same thing, they both want what is best for you in the end.