PASSION TO MOVE

Life without purpose can feel pointless when your trying to figure out what your place in the world is. Everyday can feel like a repeat of the day that just past unless you set yourself some goals. Whether its the achievable short term goals that you put in place in order to encourage you to commit yourself or the long term goals that require you to persevere through the tough and challenging times ahead of you, goals are a must to break your learned bad habits. Goals push you to want more for yourself without them you are left following the same monotonous pathway that will only lead you to a dead end where your  dreams go to die. In life we must have something that moves us to keep us striving for more otherwise we are left without wanting anything better for ourselves and happy to be unhappy remaining stagnant where our purpose remains unfulfilled. So remember time waits for nobody so heed the warning and chase your purpose before it is lost.

NO PEACE WHEN VIOLENCE RULES

There will never be peace in a world where violence is the only language people understand. Peace needs to be the common ground that we all should strive to reach, rather than what seems to be a commonly made mistake by a lot of people is to focus only on our differences which will only lead to an unhealthy segregation in your body,mind and soul. Seeing people's differences as wrong all because we don't understand them will build up dislike which eventually grows into a hate, then all you are left with if is having a broken mindset where you have lost your morals in the gutter where it is nearly impossible to pick yourself up again. Our high morals help dictate our choice of actions which will lead us to what is right, for that once you do what's right you'd have done your part to reach peace. So we should keep our morals high and be guided by our intentions to strive for peace because  peace should be the norm not violence. There will never be peace if the world stays ignorant to the stupid that surrounds us all. If we wait for the violence to end than it will end us we need to be smarter than the stupid people that hold us back. Education should teach us all about each others cultural differences and also our similarities so that we recognise that that we are part of the same race just with unique differences. If we choose to bow to our weaknesses and fight with each other than it is like we are fighting with a part of ourselves, the part of ourselves that is too weak to strive for peace.

WE ARE THE WORLD

Personality should be the most important consideration when deciding if you want to let someone into your circle of friends not their nationality. Sharing the same nationality may help you when cultural similarities are high on your priority list but this is only a small part of who you really are and should never be the be all and end all in deciding who you should  associate with. That is why it is important that other things should be considered also when determining who should be a part of your circle of friends, like do you share similar interests with them or do you consider that person a good enough person that you would want to get to know better. There is so much more to us than just our cultural beliefs and because of this how are we ever meant to connect to one another purely on our cultural beliefs if we cant relate to them on any other level. If we all had the mindset that the human race should stand together no matter where their descendants may have started from then the prejudices that will hold us back from mingling with those from a different country will be removed and the only borders that will remain will be the ones that we put in place to divide us from those out there who will do us  harm. So judge the individual not the group so that you don't shut yourself away from the deserving all to make space for those who lived near you and shared your  cultural beliefs but never agreed with your values or your personal views. .

THE POWER OF HOPE

Hope is a powerful tool which has the power to encourage us to look past our current state of misfortunes and persevere through the pitfalls that hold us back from pursuing any of our desired goals. Without hope we are lost, stuck in a place where depression sets in with the intention to drown out our dreams of possible success by filling us up with the fear of adamant failure. The fear of failure is instilled into our brain with a predominantly negative lesson in mind "If we don't ever try then we never ever failed",but this lesson will only ever take if our fear of failure outweighs our desire to want more for ourselves. This is why it is important to have a strong mind that understands that you only ever fail when you decide to give up, every failed attempt is a lesson that can steer you closer in the right direction. The one mantra that we should keep in mind is nothing worthwhile is easy to attain. So try and try again and learn from your mistakes because you never know what is around the corner. 

TO TRUST OR NOT TO TRUST

Trust far too easily given hardly deserved seems to fit the consensus of the people, but how many of those people that are willing to give someone their trust are left with only regret. It is normal to want to trust people because we can only ever feel safe when we do allow ourselves to let go of our fear and let someone into our comfort zone, but at what cost?. The more we are open and honest the more we are vulnerable of getting hurt that is why we should choose our friends wisely because they will have your back when it truly counts. The moment we have made up our mind of who we can call a friend the less likely we are to question any of their motives as time goes by because by questioning them we are doubting our own ability to choose the right person to call your friend. If those we call friends don't remain consistent as friends should pretending that its all okay will only hurt you in the long run. We may think that giving up on them would mean we've wasted a whole lot of time but it more likely will save the time that's ahead of you. Our inaction to react to their bad behaviour will eventually find ourselves challenging our own moral compass because we will end up justying their actions with "They are my friend and friends have each others backs no matter what". Our bond make us ignore the signs of being taken advantage of and forces us to ignore thier repetitive mistakes by making our own. The best thing for you is to be true to yourself where your values and morals will stay intact otherwise you will set yourself up for a ride where your integrity will decline with your sanity. So trust only the trustworthy and leave the rest to their own destructive devices and you will be far better off because you owe it to yourself. 

FORCED CONVERSATION

Conversation like most things needs to flow naturally because if we let ourselves be lead into a conversation that we have no opinion on then it becomes a one sided conversation. Some people fall in the trap of forcing a conversation even when they clearly have nothing to say on the topic because they believe that saying anything is better than saying nothing at all. All this does is highlight your lack of knowledge on the topic and your inability to add anything meaningful to the conversation because what little you've added is insincere with little to no thought going into it. Sometimes it is better to give no input and just listen because you can learn alot more by listening than you can by interrupting with a forced comment that you've prepared earlier. Conversation needs to be sincere to matter otherwise you may as well be talking about the weather. You can only build a solid foundation of friendship if you are honest with what comes out of your mouth, otherwise you will have to backtrack on your claims. People will only respect you and what you say if you show them an equal amount of respect, so speak the truth and try to listen without interrupting with things that you don't really feel or you might just find yourself fitting into a crowd that you dont want to even be a part of.

THE INVISIBLE MAN

We are so much more than what we show others on the surface and unless someone takes the time to get to know you properly then they will only ever see you in a two dimensional way. The more time we spend having an honest open dialogue with our peers the more evident our beliefs are and the more it shows others that we will stand by our words even at the cost of offending people with alternative view points. So whether it is your true intentions to mystify people with your colourful lies that don't exactly correlate with your beliefs in order to stay in green with those that you admire or you've chosen to be courageous by standing by your views even at the cost of being placed in the red and under a microscope to be criticised for not following the mob. Your choice will either have you changing your views regularly based on what's trending at the time or you'll choose the path that is true to who you really are by showing others that you walk your own path no matter of the consequences. We all want to be liked but Is it better to be liked for who we are ? rather than changing who we are just to be liked, the choice is yours and yours alone.

CAMOUFLAGE EXPOSED

Those of you who prefer to spend your free time in hiding your true intentions in order to camouflage your bias ways feel like utter failures when your foxy ways to manipulate others are exposed. The harder you try to convince others that your crossing of pathways is just a serendipitous moment which has now given you the opportunity to make your bold claims doesn't fool the people that are familiar with your true intentions. Your planned response only comes across as a failed rehearsal that you have orchestrated in your distorted mind. We are all creatures of habit and the moment you change your patterns of behaviour you only highlight that you had planned to be deceitful with a smirk that highlights your true intentions. It is no coincidence that you are face to face with the person that you happen to have a preset conversation with where you can try to make your points stick whether their relevant or not. So rather than being disappointed for someone seeing through the farce and seeing your true negative side maybe you should focus on the side of you that you would prefer to be seen because that is the side of you that you feel you are most of the time. We all have the potential of being ugly so let's try being beautiful people by showing the side of us that we strive to show our peers.

RESPECT THE WAY YOU THINK

We all like to believe that we are good people with good intentions at heart but for this to be true we must have a good value system. How many of us can say that we can stand by our beliefs without the need of camouflaging our truth? If your personal views come out will you shy away from them by pretending that you never had that thought in your mind? or Would you stand proud by your views even if it makes you unpopular with the masses?. There was a time when integrity stood on the top of people's motivation to do the right thing because as people who welcome the respect of others we all know that the quickest way to earn the respect of others is to be a man or woman of your word. Honesty is the key that will help bind us to a free world where truth matters and where it can sometimes be difficult to know who we should admire for their honesty and who we should avoid for their lies. One very important thing we should ask ourselves is can you respect someone who has a poor value system and if so then ask yourself what is it about their personal value system that you respect?

KEEP IT TO YOURSELF

People are sociable creatures, and because of this, we feel compelled to share our thoughts with those we are surrounded by, even if it highlights our own personal vulnerabilities. Opening up to our peers gives us a feeling of comfort when they show that they can empathise with our current predicament, but opening up to the wrong person can have an opposite effect. If we dont carefully select who we think will be true to us when their circumstances get tough, then we are more likely going to face the repercussions of placing our trust in the wrong hands. Most people prefer to choose the easier option on hand and look at the world through their own eyes with disregard of what someone else's circumstances may be. Selfish people don't have any inkling of what the other person might be feeling this is because its a whole lot easier to see how your choices will affect you alone and most people would rather jump on the simpler option. On the other hand there are alot of us who claim that they go by the philosophy "Whats good for the goose should be good for the gander" but when it's their turn to face the music they would prefer to wear noise cancelling headphones to avoid facing the music. So, rather than putting yourself in a position where someone can manipulate your words to match their personal gain, maybe you should open up only with the ones you have a genuine bond with and the same level of integrity. 

BAD TASTE

Our moral compass guides us to do what we know is right by steering us away from what we know is wrong, but some of us choose to ignore our gut by choosing the path that ultimately leads to repetitive regret. Going against your common sense will only ever lead you to repeat the mistakes that you made in your past that you had promised yourself never to repeat. Repetitive regret will always playback the same bad result that you unpleasantly experienced all those times in your past that you promised yourself that you'd never ever experience again. If we ignore our common sense, then all that is left to redeem ourselves is to take accountability for our actions because blaming someone for our current predicament will only hold us back from reaching the truth. The truth is something that you know that you can stand by without pause in your confidence that you are doing the right thing and that you are proud of the person that you see in the mirror. So stand tall and take responsibility for who you are.

NO!!!, MINDS MADE UP

With more than 8 billion people in the world the chance of everyone seeing eye to eye with one other is nearly impossible. This conflict of thoughts can lead to conflicts of actions, where each side has their own reason of truth and will close their mind to the opinions of others even if it means preventing a war. Keeping the peace throughout the world will only come if we respect each other enough that we dont try and change the minds of those whose mind is already made up because this discourse is seen as an attack on their personal beliefs. This doesn't mean that we should roll over and let someone else's version of the truth transform our own way of life it just means you do you and I'll do me with peace in mind. There is no amount of discussion that can be made to get someone to see what you are telling them as truth because your truth is seen as a contradiction to their alternative views. Alternative views wouldnt be an issue if our actions didn't impede on our neighbours lifestyle but when there are 8 billion possible opinions in our world we have to be big enough and grow the fuck up to do the mature thing and just get along. Our difference of opinion shouldn't tear us away from what should be considered our shared ultimate goal, peace. Expanding a prosperous civilzation requires us to be civil with each other otherwise we are a lot closer to a devolved society than we think we are. So ask yourself do you want to be better or would you rather live your life in a backward state of mind ?

MY HAPPINESS IS IN MY OWN HANDS

We all like to receive a compliment here and there because it can have a positive impact on us, but that doesn't mean that we should solely rely on someone else's words to bring us up from feeling down. With or without the chosen compliment spoken we should always be happy with what we have in our life in order to be respectful to those who are less fortunate than we are. To those of you who refuse to acknowledge that you are lucky to have the lifestyle that you lead and fortunate enough to have opportunities that enable you better yourself then maybe you should go without the things that you seem to take for granted and see how difficult life can really be. When you do get complimented it is merely a bonus that should only add to your own self motivated positive energy and not be the be all and end all of your life. If we give others the power to bring us up then they also have the power to bring us down, that it is why it is best that your happiness is in your own hands alone. We also should never let the people that don't have the power to inflate us to deflate us at their whim because they are not deserving of the privilege to have an affect on the positive people of the world, they should remain isolated where their negative attitudes and doubt can not affect others.

I KNOW WHAT YOU KNOW, OR I GUESS I DO

I dont need your help seems to be the first response to the question, Can I help you? We all like to feel that we are capable of handling any dramas in our life that come our way but this isn't always the case. Sometimes our ego can prevent us from asking for the help that we obviously need, all this does is hinder our own progression. This stance in our own stubbornness will only hold us back from moving forward to where we want to be. The quicker you take on the philosophy that you don't know everything will be the moment that you allow yourself to learn from input of others. Your goal should not be to prove that you know everything to others but that you respect them enough to listen and learn from their knowledge of experience on the topic. It is through mutual respect that we can learn from each other and grow. Only through learning from those that you interact with will you ever manage to be the best version of yourself that you can be. Shutting yourself from knowledge because you believe that it shows a lack of something is a weakness in your character for that we are always learning and the moment we stop learning is the moment we struggle in the evolving world. So do not flame your prejudices and allow yourself to learn from the four corners of the globe and you might be surprised what you could learn. 

WHAT IS A MAN?

A man is more than his hobbies and interests, they are merely what he prefers to spend his time focusing on. Men may share similar interests with one another and that is why we tend to refer to their common interests as "Thats what men usually like". Grouping men into common interests can partly be blamed on a combination of both nature and nurture in their set lifestyle this will always be the case because of the way we push our own belief system on how others should be all because it has worked for us. Men should be able to be who they want to be as long as they do not affect how other men want to be. Men are usually recognised for their shared interests in sports, cars, computer games etc ... but their common interests doesn't make them any more of a man from the men who would rather go shopping, dress up, or be a stay at home dad. Since language was created and a man was grouped and labelled in the same category as all those who looked similar in appearance the word man clearly was based on biology not personality. As much as we admittedly place people in groups all because it is easier to make sense of similarities when we live in world made up of generalities where the system might not be perfect it could be a lot worse if we begin to doublethink our understanding of what already makes sense, this will only lead to less understanding and more chaos. So what do you call a man who is feminine? I believe he's still a man.

THE WOUNDED BIRD

It is in human nature to feel sympathy for those that have experienced pain in their past as well as those that are still going through suffering on a day to day basis. Whether we can empathise with their plight or we just feel responsible to do what we can in order to alleviate some of their pain the moment you decide to make their problem your problem your path is set. Some people use the so called victim as a distraction from their own dramas rather than working on their own ongoing issues they are quick to defend the actions of others even at the cost of their own dignity. The decision to shield the wounded bird makes them feel happy and binds them to the so called victim. No matter what you choose to do to look out for the one who has chosen the life of isolation you will never feel fulfilled because you can not truly help others untill your own room is clean of problems. We are compelled to feel for that goes hand in hand of being human and it is when we feel most alive but sometimes it also ushers us to look out for only what makes us happy at the cost of others. So choose your side and stand proud because if you have to lie to yourself about your intentions then you may have chosen the wrong side.

THE POWER OF CONTROL

Real strength is to be able to have the power to do something but the control not to. Alot of people believe in the misconception that power needs to shown in order prove ones strength. Those who are constantly trying to prove their strength have little control of their emotions and are in constant struggle with the little strength that they do have. Through the lessons learned from your life experiences you enable your abilities to manage yourself by managing your emotions. The quickest way to manage your emotions is by maturing up. Maturity is the key to harness your true strength without maturity in your mindset you will fumble with your emotions grasping at your most prominent feelings your built up resentment. If you allow yourself to lose control all that will be left is regret because a person who experiences regret is the same person who has allowed himself or herself to ignore their rational mind over the anger that they are feeling and don't have the power to control it. So if you would rather do only what your rational mind wants then learn to control your anger so that you wont have anything that you will regret when you've let yourself be run by only your out of control emotions.

COMMON SENSE OUTWEIGHS COMPASSION

Everyday of our life we spend time interacting with different types of people who have different types of personalities that we either connect with easily, or we find it extremely difficult to find any common ground with. What should be just a simple interaction between two people has now been tainted because when the conversation is forced and only consists of superficial conversation it will only ever lead to a closed conversation. Those of you who put up boundaries around your conversation in order to detract from probing questions will never have a real conversation because the restrictions that you put in place are designed to prevent anyone from discovering what you yourself consider are your true vulnerabilities. It is accepting that like everyone else that you have vulnerabilities that is a show of your strength because true strength is only reached when you accept your reality not when you deny it. Pretending you are perfect shows others that you are without fault which none of us are, but only few of us are willing to admit that we have struggles in our life that can sometimes make us feel down. Only few of us a real enough to admit that we are human and we can make mistakes but it is being a resilient human that promotes us to push forward even when their is little motivation in us to do so. Those who choose to leave their guard up to discourage anyone from getting to close will never experience true respect because who is someone choosing to respect the you on display or the real you hiding in your own fear of rejection. It is through being open and honest that allows others to build a bond between each other and connect with who you really are. If you dont look beyond the surface of a smile you will only ever see the superficial this will only result in your true character being ignored,  because your real self is never on show. Common sense outweighs compassion so eventually people will see past the person that you are trying to portay and see the you that your afraid to show so be yourself with all the things that make you feel imperfect and you'll discover the perfect you.

SWITCHING OFF

Growing up goes hand in hand with taking on more responsibilities, but even though it is normal to take on more responsibilities as you get older there is only so much you can do before you need to switch off. Feeling responsible all the time can be draining when you don't give yourself any free time away from your obligations. Sometimes the only way to reset yourself is by switching off from your obligations so that you can take a breather even though this can sometimes seem like a selfish act. Reshuffling your priorities to put yourself on the top is the best way to get your mind and body back to where they need to be so that you can feel ready to tackle your responsibilities with a fresh mindset. You might feel that taking a break from your responsibilities is a sign of weakness but it takes more strength to admit that you have limits than pretending that you are faultless. There is true strength in acknowledging that you are only human who refuses to let your vulnerabilities hold you back because it is overcoming lifes dramas as a vulnerable human with faults that makes it a bigger feat then being a flawless person that always seems to be making the best choices all the time without fail.

IT WORKS FOR ME

The common mistake that people make when they are trying to advise someone about changing their lifestyle is that they are purely focused on what has worked for them rather than thinking about what would be beneficial for the other person. They believe that if someone took their advice and followed it to the letter that they too would be as happy as  they are, even though what may feel like a sure thing to them might not even be a consideration in the eyes of the listener. The wrong advice has the influence to dampen someone's else's interests even though it is unintentional. We all vary in our interests and believing that the formula to happiness is based on what one person's success will only end up in making a carbon copy of that person giving the advice. Those who stray from their own pathway of interests will only get lost in the end and be left questioning why they went against what felt so right. Advice needs to lead to a pathway that the person requiring the advice wants to reach but is struggling to see, not as a new goal furrher away from their personal interests of the one listening. So maybe the best advice is to not give advice so that people can work themselves out without someone steering them away from what matters most to them.