WHO AM I?

Growing up one of the hardest questions that we can face and spend a lifetime trying to figure out is, Who we really are? In our adolescents we try to mirror the ones we admire thinking that if we do everything that they do then we too would be admired and respected. Eventually our interests changes and we focus on another person to put onto a pedestal, all  this does is to divert the much needed attention away from ourselves and gets us to focus on other peoples achievements. This should be the time where we spend on working on ourselves, what are our wants and what do we need to do to achieve our personal goals. Trying to be something that your not will detach you further away from the person that would bring you true happiness the person that is the truest version of yourself because that version has accepted that you don't have to be anything but yourself. Most people believe that how they see themselves is how people see them, but if this were true why are we constantly trying to prove ourselves to our peers rather than letting our honour stand for us. Guilty until  proven innocent seem to be the mood of these days If your not present to defend yourself then your honour isn't enough to defend the heresy of conversation that has spread lies about your stance. So stop trying to please others if it puts your honour on the line and just be the person you want to be because the people that truly matter to you don't need you to defend yourself because they already believe in you.

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I DONT LIKE THE RULES

Rebelling against what's not fair makes sense but rebelling against a rule just because it's a rule makes no sense. Defiant people will break the rules even though they may agree with them because being told that they can't do something makes them want to prove that they can do whatever they want and that nobody has the power to tell them what they can or can't do. As the saying goes "Rules are meant to be broken" is the underlying basis of their beliefs system and it is enough to overpower the logical part of their brain that knows that they are breaking the rules for the wrong reasons. Some people find it hard to look past the person enforcing the rules because of a dislike that they may have of a particular person . This form of stubbornness affects them from taking in any valid points all because of the disconnection that they may have with the person speaking.  People need to listen to the content of what is being said and separate their feelings from what is the right thing to do otherwise they will be left with following the wrong path all because it wasn't suggested by the speaker. So keep your thoughts aligned with the right side of your brain otherwise your fears of following instructions to the right path will steer you to the wrong path to misfortune.

GOOD AND BAD

As humans we are all capable of good things and bad things, but it is in our power alone to choose how we react to the world around us and the people within it. Nobody can force your hand on how to act or control what you should think that is all controlled within the confines of your own mind. With all the conflicting information we receive it is up to us to make sense of the things that we dont understand and accept that we alone are responsible for our actions. The world does not owe us a thing, life is a blessing we need to appreciate that we are all lucky to have the opportunity to make something of ourselves. The chances we all had at birth was one in more than a million so we should appreciate being alive. How you choose to live your life is up to you, your choice to be good or bad is up to you as well, so don't blame the world for what you've chosen because the power to choose is in your hands.

SIGNS OF NICENESS

Being nice some of the time to prove a point might be enough for you to feel good about yourself but most people base their opinion of you on the majority of the time. If you have to prove that your intentions are good and your heart is pure then you don't have much faith in you what your actions are showing. Being yourself is not a performance act, it should just be a natural action that reflects what you are like when the lime light isn't on you without the forced filters that highlight all of us as flawless human beings. One of peoples biggest flaws is that we try to act in a way that we think our peers want us to be like but who are we fooling because this decision will catch up with us in the end when we are trying to work out what went wrong. Life is about figuring yourself out the sooner you come to terms with who you really are the sooner the charade can end and the sooner you can reach your true goals. 

FORCE MY HAND

We like to believe that fair is fair, you do what is right for you and I'll do what is right for me because your business doesn't have to be my business. This may be the ideal way of thinking in most circumstances but when conflicts do arise all because of a difference of opinion the only outcome left is to push forward your perspective even though the road will get bumpier when conflict hits. Your stance now is forced to adapt to the current situation at hand and accept that your opinion is as important as those who have shunned your point of view and tried to speak over you to highlight the importance of their own words. Your choice to stand up for what you believe in is the only move you have left otherwise your fate will be at the mercy of others. Those people who have gotten comfortable always getting their way will get a rude awakening when they realise there is more to a situation than their own point of view.

THATS BIASED, I THINK

Some people spend more time trying to find problems with a situation than trying to accept that things are the way they are. Even when there is no real issues they spend time nitpicking to find fault so that they can feel justified in any action they decide to take. They are largely influenced by their biased beliefs, which prevents anyone changing their mind. They will use any tactic at their disposal to entrap a person into showing them their bad side just to prove that their negative judgement makes sense. They spend a lot of their time making themselves unapproachable  so that they can play the victim card when nobody wants to spend any time with them. This tactic stops them from pursuing most things because it takes courage to try to make  things work and if they don't try to work on things that are difficult then they technically didn't fail. Making themselves unapproachable sometimes can have the opposite affect when a person starts to feel sorry for them and gives them more attention than they deserve. To them it is better to get any attention than no attention at all. This pattern gets monotonous and so does the rut that they have put themselves in. People will help you out of the hole you put yourself in but you need to be nice and appreciate them otherwise enjoy your ride of pattern of disappointment that will go on and on until you accept your responsible for your own life, no one is to be blamed for your choices. 

I HAVE YOUR BACK

We like to believe that the people that we share our time with will all have our back when it counts, but this is a presumption that can leave us with a bad taste in the mouth. The problem is that we assume if the shoe was on the other foot and if the chance were to arise that everyone would do what we would do for them, but what comes natural for us is not always the same for others. What we consider is a natural way to treat those we spend time with can be far from what others perceive should be a natural way for them because they believe if they were to do anything differently it will go against the grain and they will lose any of their standings all because they went against the usual way of doing things. Expecting that your peers would follow suit will only highlight your relationship standings with them by uncovering the truth of what they would truly do to keep your bond strong. Karma doesn't always come around to teach people the lesson of "Treat people how you would like to be treated", so you can either accept that you can either treat people better than they will treat you or you can stop being a doormat for those who feel that they dont owe you the respect that you always show them.