ONE SIDED CONVERSATION

A monologue in a movie can resonate with you because it has the power to highlight a performance, but it has no place in an open conversation where communication is key. We all have our own perspectives, and unless we are given a chance to express them, we will never be heard.

An open conversation allows us to share our thoughts without the fear of judgment, helping to steer the flow of discussion. Without it, we will never find common ground. Thoughts are meant to be expressed, not suppressed. They are how we discover who we are and what we need to do to reach our goals.

If we ignore what makes us unique, we will never reach our full potential. A life spent without reaching your full potential is a life wasted. We must not take for granted the opportunities we have. Life is what you make it, so don't blame others if you find yourself in a ditch of regret.

Use your failures as lessons to guide you toward a better path, and listen as much as you speak. Otherwise, you may find yourself wondering how you ended up somewhere you never intended to be.

FUNNEL MANIPULATOR

Manipulators will often listen to others share their life stories only to gain knowledge of their vulnerabilities. Those who are open enough to share their lives with the undeserving will quickly discover that some of their peers are hiding their true intentions. In reality, they are competing with them, and no amount of shared experiences will guarantee their loyalty.

Manipulators will take advantage of a situation without any regard for ethics, allowing nothing to stand in the way of their pursuit of success. The sly store information in their memory banks until the moment they believe it will have the greatest effect on their competitors. Then, they sit back and revel in the drama they have created.

They believe that people are weak for sharing their vulnerabilities, and to a manipulator, the blame lies not with those who exploit others, but with those who choose to open up in the first place. In their eyes, taking advantage of someone's trust is simply an opportunity waiting to be seized.

If you want to avoid becoming someone's stepping stone, make it more difficult for them by refusing to let them use you as a means of getting ahead. Your valuable time should be spent with those who listen because they genuinely care about your story, not with those who listen only to gather ammunition for future drama and their own sad entertainment.

INEVITABLY FOOLISH

Once a person lets their biased views take over, what remains of their rational mind is ignored, and inevitably, foolish thoughts are seen as truth. Empathy is a good thing when it doesn't interfere with truth, but believing that people are faultless, and that everyone is good if you just give them a chance, is naïve.

We have to accept that everyone has the power to make poor choices, even those we consider intelligent. If good exists, then so does evil. If you allow yourself to be played because you intentionally ignored the signs, then you are not as smart as you think you are. Smart people aren’t gullible to repetitive lies told over and over again. So, if you want to learn from the brazen mistakes of others, don’t let them set you up for a fall. Be good to those who deserve your goodwill, and stop making yourself vulnerable to those who will take advantage of you, friend or foe. If you ignore the instincts that try to protect you, then you have willingly chosen the path of becoming inevitably foolish. Don’t ignore the part of you that warns you when you are about to make bad choices, or you’ll only find yourself on a less-than-desirable path ahead of you.

ADDICTION CONSUMED

Addiction relies on the weaknesses of others to thrive, allowing it to take full control over their rational state of mind. Without focusing on what is better for us, we are left thinking only of our short‑term wants rather than what is right for us in the long run. Addiction has the negative power to dull the consequences of our choices and instead sheds light only on the present moment, where a quick fix can sate our needy demands. The frustrations of failure repeat when we go against our own value system, which is put in place to keep us focused on self‑preservation. This is because we like to believe we are stronger than our plagued addiction, and every time we fall, we fail ourselves, with only ourselves to blame. Taking ownership of our bad choices is the best way to recognise where we went wrong, and knowing where we went wrong is the only way to correct our mistakes. People spend a lot of time pursuing a healthy lifestyle that includes nutritious eating and fitness, but without a healthy mindset, we remain vulnerable to our weaknesses. So spend time strengthening the mind—this will help set you free from the addictions that try to hold you down, preventing you from becoming who you are truly trying to be.

FAILURES WITHOUT CONSEQUENCES

It is through experiencing failure in our lives that we learn the most invaluable lessons. However, if we refuse to acknowledge that it is our own poor choices that have led us astray, then those lessons will never truly take hold. A stubborn mindset will continue to repeat the same errors over and over again, because it believes it can do no wrong, shifting responsibility and blame onto others.

If we accept accountability for our choices and use the knowledge we’ve gained from our mistakes, those lessons gain the power to guide us onto the right path. There is nothing wrong with making mistakes, but repeating them will only harm your self-worth. No one is infallible, so when you do make a mistake, own it. Reflect on where you went wrong so that next time, you can make a better decision.Denying your role in the mess you’ve made might bring short-term comfort, but in the long run, the truth will set you free, if you allow it to.

DIVIDED MIND

As children grow older, they change from their simple lifestyle and basic desires to a more complex and competitive way of living with higher expectations. Even though it is easy to say that the past is in the past, it does not always mean that your past has no bearing on your present day—especially if you strongly believe that you have unresolved issues.

This is why, unless you have managed to satisfy those early lifestyle preferences and personal desires before reaching a certain age, you may find that your past eventually catches up with you, bringing a great deal of emotional baggage left for you to unpack. What might seem trivial to some of your peers may feel very different to you. You might view your past endeavours as failures, and those feelings can carry their impact into the present day, affecting your adulthood.

This sense of failure can manifest itself as a constant hurdle of disappointment, reminding you that perhaps you did not put enough effort into trying to achieve your dreams. It is this feeling that can transform a hopeful, confident child into a scared and anxious adult, simply because the life plans they once imagined were never fulfilled.

It is extremely important that we do not ignore the dreams we crave, because eventually they may return as regrets. Instead, put your heart and soul into the things that motivate you. At the very least, you will be able to say that you gave it everything you had—with no regrets.

FEELING NUMB

Life’s stresses not only have the overwhelming power to knock you down, but also to weaken your mentality so that you don’t even try to get back up. Whenever you feel that you are at your lowest point, where you struggle to find any reason to stand up, the pain that you feel lingers and tries to discourage you from finding any motivation to move forward. This pain dulls your senses so that you are left with only the feeling of a failed resolution, which is why you can feel so deflated when the stresses you face are too much for you to bear.In our desperation to feel that we are in control of our own fate, we sometimes intentionally plunge ourselves into being a victim, where we can attempt to control our sorrows before they control us. Whether we use a sad movie, a sad song, or any sad feelings that we can muster up, the intention is to put ourselves in a place that keeps us feeling sad so that not even another bad experience can alter our mood any further.Once our shield is up, the pain that we feel can be turned on and off whenever we feel it’s safe to do so. This tactic to defend ourselves focuses on the belief that once you’re in pain, the numbness you feel can protect you from anything else coming your way.Whatever your tactics, you need to always remember that you will have bad days, but you will also have good ones. So don’t give up on the good ones because of the bad ones.

BOUND BY RULES

In life, we are bound by parameters — some of which we have put in place to ensure we are all on the same page, while others are defined by the natural order of things. The parameters we advocate for promote mutual respect, which can only exist when both parties give what they take. Trust, honesty, and respect form the foundation of any healthy partnership. Without a relationship built on a strong foundation, it is far more likely to crumble.Parameters show others that you practise what you preach. They reflect your belief in a structured society — one that doesn’t chop and change to suit one person’s needs over another’s. We should not expect to be respected by our peers if we don’t believe in mutual respect ourselves. This is why it is difficult to show respect to someone whose words are empty and meaningless.

If you choose a dishonest path, don’t be surprised when those who once believed in you lose their trust and faith. Even the most generous heart has its limits. Don’t let selfish actions create the patterns that turn allies into enemies. And remember: once you’ve lost someone’s trust, it’s almost impossible to win it back — so choose your actions far more wisely

SWEETEN THE TAKE, SAME IMPACT

Words have the power to offend those who would prefer a more tactful approach but by choosing to modify speech words also have the power to camouflage the impact that they have caused. So, no matter which words you choose to say the results will always end up in the same place where your left picking up the pieces from the inevitable impact. So, whether your intentions to sugarcoat the truth is to suit your narrative or you just believe that people are too weak to handle the truth then your avoidance of your responsibility to the truth will result in a society that is less than prepared for the tough times ahead. There are those who would rather live in ignorance but for those who base their foundations on truth and prefer their integrity to stay intact will stand by their beliefs even at the cost of their popularity diminishing are more than happy to converse with those who challenge their beliefs. Those of you who are willing for an open dialogue aren't swayed by an irrational emotion but purely by logical thought because the world runs on laws not your mood which is why eventually when the shit hits the fan is the moment that you will see them run to and rely on those you remain composed. So, speak your mind now or just agree with the mob when the moment arises the ones that struggle to have a civil conversation with anyone who disagrees with them, remember it's your choice because they won't give you one.

NOT JUST OUR LIFE

Our life isn’t just ours alone, because we are all connected to one another like turning cogs in a vast machine. This is why, even when our actions are unintentional, the effect they have on others can change someone’s life for the worse—even those we haven’t directly interacted with. We may live a short life in the grand scheme of things, but our brief and precious time on this earth can have a lasting impact on someone else’s wellbeing. Choosing to keep to yourself doesn’t mean you will affect only a few; it means you’re missing the opportunity life gives you to make the world better. By holding back, you avoid your true purpose—to keep turning your cog with a positivity that spreads through the world, so that everyone may benefit when its inhabitants finally reach true prosperity. The one enduring truth that should bring you comfort is this: you will have triumphantly played your part in helping the world move closer to utopia, even if that future doesn’t unfold within your lifetime.