LOST PERSPECTIVE

Opinions vary as much as peoples personalities vary and that's why there are so many versions of the truth. If every perspective is true than what does true mean?. What you may consider true for you is not always true for your neighbours. Can anyone be lost any more? if we now make allowances for all kinds of different perspectives as a show of respect to our fellow man and woman. If something exists in someones belief system is it true in universal belief? or Is the saying in your own little world what you believe is true a definition of a egocentric self-centered somebody who thinks only about himself/herself and believes the world revolves around him/her. If the latter is true then welcome to a world where the only way of not disappointing someone is by keeping your thoughts to yourself even if it's at the detriment of your own self being. Remember its better to put other peoples feelings above your own because that is the key to happiness, for them.

OPEN BOOK, CLOSED BOOK

If you want open and honest interaction you need to be honest and open with your interaction. Without a two way communication line one person is speaking his or her mind by giving their opinions and the other is listening but not giving any input which means no negotiation can be reached. Each person or group, gathers information from the discussion and has to be willing to make changes to work together in harmony. We all have limits to what we will allow take place but once we feel we are at our wits ends no more negotiating can take place because now our stance has firmly changed. So if you choose to be closed with your actions don't be stupid and question why the situation is what it is. If you don't like the circumstances at hand, understand we are a product of our circumstances. Circumstances are things that create who we are, and if they create who we are, they are considered our circumstances, whether we like them or not. So don't crap where you eat and complain about the funny smell you have to bear because no one is longer listening. 

VOTE OF NO CONFIDENCE

So many people have little faith in other peoples actions that they automatically assume the wrong decisions would of been made. The inquisitive person asks  questions that should of been safely assumed because common sense would of guided the decision to motion and highlighted that decisions weren't made lightly. The saying don't assume anything takes the power away from what is considered rational decision making and claims that being inquisitive is warranted for asking any questions irrespective of how irrelevant they can be in that situation which is really a poor excuse for supporting your argument that its for safe guarding yourself from making an ass out of you and me. Sometimes a bit of inductive reasoning is enough to solidify any questions that you crave answers for. If we were to ask questions everytime we felt it was necessary we would never need to commit anything to memory because who cares that certain people like certain things majority of the time they might of changed their mind so ask and ask again and never take in any information from your previous answers because being safe always mean no worries, or does it.

CONSENT IN SCHOOLS

I think it's a good idea to mandate school consent as part of the curriculum but it's sad they need to. How far gone is a generation that has to be explained what is the right way to act and what is the wrong to act?. What happened to our body language skills that enabled us to work out what was inappropriate and what was not?. What happened to the line of common decency and empathy? Is common sense now a myth to this generation who need to be educated in what's so wrong with their behaviour?. If it was merely the educational fault that has been the cause of this change with kids, then Are the kids smart enough to learn on how to behave like a rational people? or are the out of control ones just to stupid to learn a new thing because their mind is full of their own wacky morality flawed beliefs where nothing clever can enter?. Lessons will be even harder when the safe guard of schools aren't their to soften the blow with the advice "They just need to be taught the right way to behave" because when it's time for them to start work they the working force would expect them to be ready for the real world where the punishment will fit the crime. Kids believe they are growing up fast but their minds are on rewind back to the days of the Neanderthals.

SAFETY NET NOT AFRAID TO FALL

As parents we try to save our children from falling too far off the pedestal that we encouraged them to get on. Our one sided praises enables them to feel infallible, this takes away their ability to learn from their rights and their wrongs and what measure they need to take to improve their strategies. We have made them feel like they are super heroes on a mission that failure would never be their fate. Our fear of our children possible failures overpowers the negative effects of our own actions . We believe the impact of the fall will hinder them from getting back up and trying again, so we do everything in our power to save them with a premptive strike by stopping anything that might hurt our loved ones. This can do them more harm then good which is a lesson that we learnt the hard way. So maybe we should take the advice we once gave our parents let me make my own choices and my own mistakes  because it's my life.

I TRUST YOU SOME OF THE TIME

Trust is a word that is thrown around to easily and shouldn't be taken lightly when used. Trust is an umbrella term that means more than believing in someone. It stands for strength in someone's character, reliability in their actions, truth in their words and believing in the goodness of a person's integrity that you would trust them to do the right thing by you . If you look at trust as only on circumstances of chance you would be ever changing the rules that apply when attaching the word trust to a person. Trust should be set in stone, breaking the parameters and constantly changing what is acceptable will only discourage your faith in that person. Your word should be your bond their is no point in giving your trust to someone some of the time. We start off by giving respect and trust to others but if it's lost then a person has to earn it back. Time may heal wounds but being honourable is the only way on you getting trust back. If you want trust then be someone who deserves it and you will find you dont need to ask for it, people will trust you in you because actions speak louder than words.

THERE'S NO PLACE LIKE NOSTALGIA

Nostalgia is tied to our past affection, a memory from a period that feels us with bliss. Is it the simplicity of times with little responsibility? or the feeling that we have so much living infront of us with the potential to do anything our imaginative mind can think of? that made us feel like we were walking on the yellow brick road to an adventure that will change our life forever. Life in your adolescents gave you hopefulness and came with unlimited possibilities, whereas now the older you get the more clouded you feel from what you would of felt when there was little doubt in your little head. Time goes on and now you are responsible for more than just yourself and the clouds are no longer where your thoughts lie. Life is now about being serious and making important decisions that will affect you or someone you care about so man up or woman up whatever you prefer is fine with me, but this doesn't mean the fun has to end. Remember what good times you may reflect on in your past and happily to reminisce in is not exactly all spot on, and on the the other side of the coin kids of today wish they could grow up quicker so that they could be like the adults they aspire to be. Nostalgia is good but only because we remember the easier life we had, now we responsible for others so we believe that if we had the power to choose that we would go back to live in our past, even though what we would sacrifice would be everything that we went through and every lesson that taught us who we are. Have your head and your heart in the now and appreciate that your past has made you who you are today.

SILENCE IS SAYING ITS OKAY

Silence is not saying no to a question or that you disagree with what someone is  doing. If you disagree you have to speak up because saying nothing is as bad as those who are performing the act of what you may consider to be wrong. Each person has a voice and an opinion, choosing to use his or her voice and give their opinion is your freedom of speech so use it while its still allowed. The power is in your hands alone choose to say what you think or remove yourself from the conversation. If you don't show people that you stand for something then others will assume you have no issues with what they are saying. Keeping your thoughts in your head has only a negative impact on your self-esteem, which will make you start to doubt yourself and your validity. You have as much right as your anyone to make a point so stand tall and show people that what you think matters. Push any fear aside and remember what is the point if you don't make your point. Are you living or mainly existing? Life is short so stand up and speak up.

ETHICS ROLLER COASTER

What may seem trivial to some people can be very important to others because where we may be similar with our primal needs its our wants that can distinguish our differences. A want is something unnecessary but it is desired, where as a need is something that is essential and is required for life. What we want can divide us to to focus on our own objectives which may require us to push others to the side so we can get what we want. Our wants can change from day to day which forces us to change our stance with it, even if it means changing our ethics to suit. Our fundamental belief system may have to be ignored because the truth might not jel well when contradiction hits us. People make rules for themselves and expect others to follow them even if they don't.  So treat people as you want to be treated and you won't find yourself changing your ethics to suit. You fundamental belief system should not be compromised by your measly desires. Honour yourself as you would like people to honour you.

JOIN US AND HAVE A LITTLE STIGMA

With such diversity of peoples opinions its easy to find stigma in most minority groups. Feminist movement focuses on equal rights for women but a lot of women dont want to be attached to the stigma that joining the movement embraces. Transgender spectrum is becoming ever so popular as growing numbers are created by its members, you would think it was safe to assume that transgender people would be on board but not all transgender people support the idea that they are part of a large spectrum. Stigmas are attached to many groups because when people who try to speak on the behalf of others claim to know your rightful standing they soon discover that people have their own opinion and do not want to be forced into a group that they do not recognise as morally correct. This  presumption unwillingly deters its so called supporters because their choice to choose where they belong has now been taken away from them. People will go with who they believe is in-line with the way they think and will not follow those who try to convince them to change the way they think. If you liked it you dont need to be asked to join because you would eagerly do the asking.

HERE I AM, TRUE SELF

Whether we interact with family, friends or acquaintance we find ourselves modify how we act and how we react depending our relationship bond. If we feel comfortable enough we let our guard down and open up so we can share who we are without any fear of judgement. It is our insecurities that makes us our worst supporter that's why only few people get to see us with our defences down which enables them to use the tools to get a better understanding of what makes us tick. It is that solititde that becomes our weakness because if you only allow yourself to open up to very few people most of your day you would feel that you have limited freedom. We need to stop being afraid of how others would react to our personalities and let them see us for who we really are. We are all unique human beings and what may seem flawed to someone will seem uniquely interesting to others, no one is perfect but we are all unique. So share your mind with more than just a few of your closest circle of friends and don't be afraid of those who aren't ready as you are for your honesty.

MISSED THAT , WHAT DID YOU SAY ?

The world moves fast whether you pay attention to it or not, you alone are responsible to what you focus on and that is the reason why you can't blame others for the changes you might have missed.  Pleading ignorance when trends cross your path is not a legitimate excuse to get you out of trouble. If you have a problem with the direction the world is headed you need to speak up and make your point there is no use arguing your point when the decision has already been made. You are part of the world's population and whether you voice your opinion or not others will speak in your stead so if you don't want people making choices for you then speak up and show them who you are and what you stand for. Not having the conversation Today leaves it for Tommorow and we all know Tommorow never comes. 

I WILL DO EVERYTHING IN MY POWER

 It's easy to say that you would do anything for someone by using words to convey how passionate you feel about the subject but living with the consequences of your actions becomes alot more challenging than you may have expected. Going through it, is what tests your threshold of pain saying that you'd rather have one scenario over another is no real tell of your commitment because saying is easier than doing it.  Being a person of your word is impressive because you have said then done irrespective of the challenge. If you say and never do then all the talk you do really has no consequences of actions,  it just pretending that you are honourable when most people can see through your false claims. So do what you say and people will respect you, or just do what is normal for you but remember there is no need to play the role of a saint if your really a sinner because no one is buying your version of the truth.

NO IM NOT LISTENING

If you are going to be a person who won't listen to anything that someone you dislike would say you may miss out on the few good points that they may make. Conversing with people should not carry the weight and unease of a previous conversation this could affect how you would take their new point. Even your enemies can teach you valuable lessons that you can add to your own repertoire of skills. The person who remains open to thought will keep on growing and adapting becoming at peace with themselves, those who are happy to stick with what they know will remain in the same frame of mind when they first gathered their knowledge. Talking will only show people what you know while listening you may learn something you didn't.

 

MONEY DOESN'T BUY HAPPINESS

If money is the key to happiness why are their so many of the richest people in the world dealing with bigger problems than those of an average income? Why do rich people gamble their wealth, when adding any more money to their already millions doesn't gain any more advantages?, unless they are chasing to be the richest person in the world. Is their already successful lifestyle enough to keep them sated for the rest of their privileged life? or do they find themselves getting bored easier all because they have achieved all the success that they see possible. The challenge of making money has become such a standard task so they now take bigger risks to get any kind of thrill. Rich people are more afraid of being poor because they have more to lose which can create obstacles in their friendships which now force them to question the integrity of their friends. Now they question which friends are there to sponge from their wealth? and who will have their back when the tough times hit? If they were born into privilege rich people may find it hard to connect with people because they can not relate easily to the majority of society. If they built their fortune from ground up and remained humble they could recall that it was the struggles that made them grow and become the successful person that they are today. This lesson would teach them to appreciate what they have and not take for granted their blessed lifestyle. You can't buy happiness, it's wisdom that comes with life experiences that keeps you happy with the hand you've been dealt with.

 

I CHOOSE ABORTION

Some people say an abortion is killing a baby and that's the bottom line. When those same people claimed if abortion was illegal that it would save millions of lives around the world, they don't want to consider any reason on how an abortion could be justified. They would rather focus on the opportunities to live that were taken away from insemination soon to be baby and not what conditions the child would be born in. Is the choice to abort a more humane way to save the child from everlasting pain?. Is it a form of euthanasia that can warranted under certain circumstances?. What if the woman was raped and gets pregnant is it a good enough reason for those trying to make it illegal for a pregnant woman to choose her own fate?. Abortion isn't an easy decision for a soon to be parent and if it has been chosen it hasn't been chosen lightly. We can't focus on just the what opportunities we may be removing for the aborted but on the impact of the world with millions of babies born into system that parents couldn't manage and are left feeling abandoned without any hope because the world can not cope with millions of unwanted babies. 

QUICK FOLLOW, BEFORE ITS OVER

Fads come and go and are short lived because what's right for you now doesn't last and remain important when the fad passes. Fads help connect you to what's in and keeps you in the loop of popularity but like an old photo of your past fashionable regrets remorse is what lives in your mind after the fad dissipates. We grow with our experiences and because our minds are ever changing we eventually give up on the efforts of trying to blend in with the in crowd and finally just say "This is who I am and if you don't like me there's the door." At this point of our lives we are as free from the fads and the peer group pressure that turns us into sheep and we focus on our own interests by connecting to what makes us tick. So be like The Masters Apprentices and "Do what you want to do and be like you want to be" without anyone else's need of approval.