PREGNANCY DURING COVID

Hi my name is Teresa and for a long time I have wanted to have a family of my own but finding the right person to start a family with has been a challenge. So I have decided that I will do this on my own but with covid looming over our heads it has given me concern to rethink my decision. So i am asking help from anyone who has experience with pregnancy during these tough times. Any advice will be appreciated. 

THE UNDERLYING TRUTHS

Why focus on your trauma? Why let it beat you? Why spend hours upon hours every day/night going over what happened and wishing it hadn’t?
There is no point to that. The point is as a person you got through it. You pushed yourself beyond that measure, picked yourself back up, and came back stronger then ever. You still eat, sleep, and function as a person. Laughter is not the opposite to sadness, happiness is, and no one expects you to be happy after coming out the other side of something traumatic. But laughter? Jokes? No matter how dark, self deprecating, or even offensive they are? Those help. If you can laugh at yourself, one day even make cruel jokes about what you’ve been through? It makes it seem a little less scary. I myself have a fear of thunder due to traumatic events, but I make fun of myself and jokingly criticise myself into taking a deep breath, blocking out the noise, and pushing myself through every day. Strength isn’t a measure of how much you’ve healed or gotten past what you’ve been through, strength is measured by the fact you still get up and do your thing every damn day instead of letting it beat you. It’s okay to have weak moments, it’s okay to take days to yourself when you just can’t anymore, but don’t ever consider yourself weak. You’re still here. Still fighting. And getting stronger every single day.

Miss S

DAUGHTER DRAMAS

My daughter is a about to be a teenager and from a child who would listen and try to make her dad happy, she is now challenging everything I say. It doesn't matter how trivial the matter she seems to just want to prove she is old enough to make decisions even if what I've told her to do is something she wants to do. When she sees me getting frustrated because of time restraints she enjoys trying my patience. Every strategy I've tried doesn't work but when I get angry and raise my voice she gets in line. This sucks because I want to be rational but taking the caveman approach gets a better result. Any ideas to the people out there?

TRUTH BY YOUR SIDE

I realised that truth is vital. Not just speaking the truth but being true to oneself. To never be ashamed of your own feelings or what you think to say. I also realised that bites you in the ass a fair bit. You wind up giving so much that it hurts every time you realise someone isn’t ever going to give that backYou wind up saying too much, or too little. You wind up pouring your heart and soul into something that only gives you a drop in return. You realise how unique you are but in turn how alone that makes you. You should always be proud of it, and never let another person tell you you should change. I just realised I need to learn to stop expecting the same from people that I give. It’s a vicious lesson in life, to realise that not everyone will give as good as they get.

Miss S

TOUGH LOVE

I'm writing to this blog because sometimes I'm worried that I'm being to tough on my kids, I know discipline is important but I'm worried that if i am easier about their misbehaving that they will become harder to get through to and become shitty kids. Please help.

JOB HIERARCHY

I love my job and enjoy working with people who I would confidently call my friends. I have recently been promoted to a 2IC and have been instructed by management that I need to distance myself from the staff because they wont respect my authority. I disagree with their views but I do need the promotion and the extra money. What should I do ?

KEEP TO MYSELF

Hi my name is Dave and I work as a computer salesperson,  I'm sure this is just your average salesperson problem but I find it frustrating that even when I have good intentions to help my fellow colleges out I seem to find myself in trouble. I feel that if I get involved and try educate newbies that what ever I have said gets turned into poisoning their mind of the sales team member. When I started 5 years ago selling I was naive and lost sales just because I trusted everyone would do the honourable thing and help your fellow team member out but I learnt late that sales is like a jungle and your either toughen up or you'll get eaten alive. Please advise me what would you do ?

BLIND FAITH

I feel it is impossible to have blind faith when it comes to religion. I cant help but to question why ?
Do people just ignore their instincts when it comes to religion ? How come people get angry when your asking questions in regards to their faith ? Shouldn't they be proud and confident and take the opportunity to teach the willing listener ? Why do their seem to be so many rules and restrictions? Why cant their just be one rule "treat people how you want to be treated ?"

ALWAYS WORKING

My husband is always working and when he is at home he doesn't spend a lot of time with the kids. He complains about being tired but i run a household and work part time and still manage myself. I try to get him involved with his family but he keeps on giving excuses about being too tired and he would rather spend his time at home. The kids get frustrated because they have been waiting for their dad to come home. I'm frustrated with the same routine over and over again and again. What should I do ?

BAD GUY

I always feel like the bad guy when it comes to parenting. It can be frustrating because if the kids aren't doing what their meant to be doing I hear my name as if I meant to be the saviour to a bad situation. It doesn't matter what I'm doing I have to stop and take control which usually means, me being firm where my partner looks like the reasonable one. I'm tired of getting angry when I would rather be the fun one, but If I know if I'm not firm the household would be chaotic. There is no wining when parenting feels like you sometimes have to be the bad guy.

ARRANGED MARRIAGE

I'm a 28 year old man with a Indian origin, I have being living in Australia for the last 5 years. I am a good son and will do anything for my family but now they would like me to consider an arranged marriage with a nice girl that I have known for a long time. I have the utmost respect for my family but I'm in two minds with the situation. Any advice would be appreciated. Thankyou.

ROAD RAGE

I find the more I drive in certain areas the bigger the chances that I come across idiots who don't think before they react. I use all my restraint not to step out of my car and punch  them in the face for being complete morons. Is it normal to want to teach them the lessons of respect that they should of learned a long time ago?

FUSSY EATER

My son is a very fussy eater. Every meal is a challenge and no matter how much variety of food I try with him all he wants is milk. When he does eat it is in such small amounts that he says he's full and that he doesn't want any more but hours later he wants more food. Is anyone having a similar problem?

IS MY NATIONALITY THE REAL PROBLEM ?

SUSAN
I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and yet his parents still haven't accepted me because of my nationality. He keeps on telling me that they will come around and eventually accept me. I am not so sure.?

BAD BREAKUP

I recently had a messy breakup,  my ex-girlfriend didn't take it to we'll. Since we broke up she has keyed my car three times and recently punctured my car tyre. The cops can't do a thing because there is no proof, I've now am forced to park in front of buildings with cameras which adds to my anguish.???

MONEY PROBLEMS

Anonymous2 March 2016 at 17:00

Money problems seem it is unavoidable. Doesn't matter how much I keep on paying off my dept is always hanging over my head. It feels as though this is my normal way of life and it won't change!

5 year old son

My son is 5 years old and when I take him for his swimming lessons he refuses to follow the swimming instructors directions. The other kids seem to be excited to splash around but he covers his face as if was scared of getting wet. I'm not sure what I can do because when I take him he won't even stick his head underneath the water.

MY FOUR YEAR OLD

TANIA
Im writing about my boy who will be in prep next year, but I'm concerned because he seems like he won't be ready by the time the year is up. He shows very little independence and he is sticks to me like glue when i try to encourage him to play with other kids which makes four year old kinder a bit of a nightmare. He runs to the toilet in the last 5 seconds he has to go, which results in the usual accident. He doesn't have much of an appetite which makes every meal a struggle. Im hoping he grows out of this possible phase fast because i don't want to hold him back.

LOOK AT THIS, JUST LOOKING, ALTERNATIVE SOLUTION LINKS, BEING DIFFERENT, HELP WANTED

http://suicideline.org.au PH: 1300 651 251

https://www.beyondblue.org.au PH: 1300 22 4636

https://kidshelpline.com.au PH: 1800 55 1800

http://www.gamblershelp.com.au PH: 1800 858 858

http://griefline.org.au/ PH: (03) 9935 7499
https://www.headspace.org.au/ PH: (03) 9027 0100
https://www.lifeline.org.au PH: 13 11 14
https://www.ruok.org.au/ 
http://www.edvos.org.au

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ANXIETY TAKES OVER

SUE
I find it doesn't matter how much i try to prepare myself, the moment i feel pressured anxiety hits me hard. The more I'm told to slow down and relax the more i panic and feel worse because i can't grasp the situation at hand. I feel flooded with thoughts and i find it hard to prioritise my tasks. I feel only anger and frustration when anyone gets in my way. Please help....