ON A PEDESTAL

People crave to be like their idols as though their idols have accomplished everything that they themselves aspire to be like. They believe that if they mirror their idols choices that they too could share in the lifestyle glory that their idol experiences on a day to day basis. Alot of people are guilty of placing their idols on a pedestal and idolising every little thing about them even though what they believe is a true representation of their beloved idol is purely based on what is seen when the lime light is shining on their idol. It's easy to assume that those we aspire to be like are living an easier lifestyle with minimal struggles but when you are in the lime light and are constantly judged by your fans the pressure to perform every time you walk out of your home would feel exhausting when you just want a little me time. We crave the good things we see from those we aspire to be like and assume that the bad things won't come with the lifestyle that we desire but the reality is life itself has great moments as well as some disappointing ones and having all the wealth you desire can not take away the disappointing moments that you can not control. So you need to be your own idol by idolising your own achievements because if you can have less then the famous person you envy and can be happier with what you've got then you've achieved more with less resources and that is an achievement you should be proud of when you stand on your own pedestal. When you do feel that you've hit a slump remember Bobby Mcferrin wise words "Don't worry be happy" and do it.

LOST IN TRANSLATION

When interacting with people we are hopeful that the conversation we are having will end up in a positive experience, but this is on the basis that the  discussions you have would eventually reach a common ground. Whether your intentions are to learn by listening or to teach by explaining, your efforts may end up being pointless because if your handbook of ideas doesn't work with those you socialise with then you will eventually hit a wall that won't ever budge. Peoples foundation of truth that they depend on is structured to make sense to that individual, if everyone has a different handbook of truth that is ever changing then they will always bump heads. People will always disagree with you when their book of truth that the solely rely is questioned, because it feels like a personal attack to the truth that they believe in and hold onto. Not liking a situation doesn't mean that the situation isnt happening and it doesn't matter how much we will it to it is still the truth. Your mindset strongly depends on structured thoughts that are governed by rules of logical thought, without logical thought we are left in constant chaotic imbalance of who we are and what we stand for. There's a lot in life you might not like but truth correlates with reality,  not with your preferences. So deal with the truth that science understands or live in your own fantasy world where a person can be whatever they want to be because logical thought isn't bound by proven science. The world is a big place and there is no need that your fantasy should affect my reality,  so be you if fantasy is all you can handle.

DO I HAVE YOUR ATTENTION?

What we consider to be entertainment varies from individual to individual and what makes one person happy may displease another person, this is guided by our own perspective of interests. It is our differences that separates us and guides us to find others that we share common interests with that gives us affirmation that we belong. If you are entertained by your interests, Is it safe to say that you interests are responsible for making you happy?. Or is it just a momentary distraction to your confuse your mind in believing that you are happy even though its only a short term happiness. Entertainment keeps you in a happy state of mind, but is the happiness that entertainment provides enough to claim the label that you are a happy person. Happiness can be measured in so many different ways but the basic foundation of happiness is about being entertained because you can not be happy while you are bored. Boredom craves entertainment and entertainment creates satisfaction which will ultimately lead to you reaching happiness. If you are happy doing nothing then you happiness threshold is very easily satisfied. Those with high demanding happiness threshold never are sated. So be happy with the reachable and don't let the unattainable determine whether your happy or not. 

POISONOUS MINDSET

Lifes dramas can lead your mind to dark places where the anger you hold onto will eventually transform into resentment. The negative energy that you allow in will more than likely manifest into bad choices by keeping you in a negative state of mind that will not only affect you but will also affect the people that you socialise with. If your lucky enough to have a strong mind your frustrations will heighten your ability to deal with lifes dramas, but if you find yourself easily manipulated by a negative bandwagon of bad energy then it will knock you down and take control over you. Resentment can be overwhelming when you find yourself being overly pessimistic, where as optimism will give you hope to see the brighter side to the problems that your facing. When you constantly justify your anger, resentment gets a free chance to create chaos within you logic parameters and thus comes at a dangerous cost that poisons your mood which you'll find is extremely difficult to get yourself out of the slump. Angry people will say the opposite of you just to disagree with your point of view even if they don't, which is their only tactic they've got against your positive frame of mind. So don't tackle a persons complaints because the lies they weave with only entrap you with bad mojo. You have to understand their motives and then do the opposite of what they would expect of you because they want to lead you to an argument by bringing you to their miserable frame of mind. Be smarter than the angry person that they would prefer you to be like, by leading yourself to where you would rather be. Don't play their games by their rules and you will win in the end because you have stayed true to your core.

CHASING THE MOLD

Growing up we all go through stages of self development where we make choices that we believe will help give us a desired result. The results helps us discover who we are as individuals and identifies our  motivations, this basic tactic is our way of figuring out what we like and what we would rather never expierience again. This basic tactic is more miss than hit in our adolescents but with wisdom gained with age we hopefully fine tune the system. Sometimes when we feel someone we admire has achieved what we desire we place them in high regard and place them on a pedestal as though they are the type of person we most want to be like. This so called desired mold we believe will lead us to the standard of happiness that we crave, but at what cost?, Are we willing to sacrifice our own individuality in the pursuit of happiness?. Chasing to fit the mold seems that your expectations are solely based on your chosen idol as to boldly claim that their life is the ultimate result, but the grass isn't always greener when you've become your idol. You should perfect yourself not mirror someone else's shadow.  Being grounded in your own lifestyle is much more real and satisfying then losing yourself in someone else's.

I THINK I HAVE A PROBLEM

People who get asked over and over again Are you okay ?  start looking for a problem even when there is no problem the more persistent you probing questions are. Some people rely on the sympathy of others to prosper, so the quickest way of getting the attention they want is by faking a problem that they dont have. When craving attention at the detriment of your own merit you start to sacrifice too much for too little and the good feeling you get from the carer is fleeting. We all like to feel loved and needed, but sometimes when your not getting the attention you crave you might find yourself going through extremes just to get the attention that you feel that your lacking. If you have to manipulate the right attention out of someone maybe it's the wrong someone. A person who genuinely cares for you doesn't need to be played because they are there for you through thick and thin. So maybe revaluate who you are wanting to get the attention from and stop playing games with the wrong players.