When drama strikes a lot of people like to play the blame game claiming that they are victims of manipulation. They believe that they are innocent of blame because their only mistake was giving trust to someone who has misguided them with deceitful acts of betrayal. The naive victim who will unknowingly react in any way that the manipulative culprit desires feels that they would of made different choices if they were told the truth from the start. People might have the power to say what ever they want but they do not have the power to force your hand. You may be forced to listen to the nonsense but the choice is yours to make, do your research and trust your gut. Some people don't try looking to deep into things to understand the motivations of people they socialise with then act surprised by the actions of those who have betrayed them as if they couldn't of seen the trouble coming. Manipulation comes in many forms whether your shown information to sway you or shown less information to deny your knowledge of the topic, either way what ever the reason for the manipulation we must learn from our experiences so that the next person that tries to manipulate us hits a wall that they can not impact our lifestyle for the negative. Relationships are built by gaining trust that you gather through time and shared experiences with a person which helps us better understand what type of person we a dealing with and what type of character he or she has. Knowing what interests a friend helps focus your conversation so that you know what they would rather talk about and what they would rather ignore, this is not manipulation of a friend its about sharing common interests and simply having a good conversation. A good friend will tell you about a sale on clothes because they know fashion is your thing they will not talk to you about a sale in technology products because it will go in one ear and out the other if it is not what interest them. Persuasive technology uses algorithms to record how you react to what's in front of you and then knows what to recommend. Most people are aware the phone hears the conversation your having and then you find it pop on Facebooks notifications. So maybe you should be one step ahead and have a conversation with someone about something that you are struggling to find and let Facebook be your lap-dog by getting it to search for the things you have exhausted yourself trying to find. Don't be manipulated by technology or by people if technology is showing a sale on pants and you have no need to add to your already large collection then don't bother if someone is talking to you about something that interests you but not them then ask yourself what are their motives. You should beable to fight the overpowering desire to give in to the persuasion if you see the logic in not really needing the item, if you are any kind of holic you need to conquer the addiction and set a limit. You need to be tougher than your weaknesses, you need to control the part of your brain that tries to convince you to do the things your rational mind won't agree with. Mostly you need to put yourself in a good frame of mind ready to take on lifes challenges
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