THATS NOT HOW I REMEMBER IT

As adults it's hard for us to remember what it felt like when we were kids growing up in a world that we didn't understand. Every new experience we faced we found ourselves struggling with what is the wrong way and what is the right way to do things because we were all ill-prepared. Now grown up and being responsible for my own kids well being the answer seems simple, the right thing is to get my kids to be better prepared so that they can cope with their own conflicting dilemmas all that is required is more of what I felt I was without. More advice, more support and more of whatever they are feeling that they are missing in their life should mean that they will be all loaded up with the right tools to face their struggles head on. Believing that getting more of what they are lacking will be enough to better prepare them for the real world seems logical but its the challenges that you face alone that makes you a stronger person and by doing more for them you remove the challenges that would of transformed them into capable adults. The real world isnt forgiving to the mistakes you repeatedly make and can make you feel that you are alone in your struggles, being assisted in every challenge forces them to face no challenges that would of helped build their perseverance up,  over helping will only create kids who believe they are entitled to have more and thus far has created less resilient kid's who will give up even before they try. So reward kids for good behaviour only, otherwise you will condition them to think that they still deserve a reward even when their not.