CURIOSITY KILLED THE CAT

Curiosity killed the cat is a proverb that try's to turn off your desire to investigate because it could lead to danger and misfortune. We have grown in a society that keeps people limited in how they interact because of the chance of offending others. This kind of mentality hinders relationships that would be open to all forms of discussion all because of fears that are instilled in the minds of the curious. We are an evolving race without the search for the unknown we will never discover anything new. So forget about the cat and keep your mind intuitive to the ever changing world.

MIND IS READY MADE UP

The smartest person in the world couldn't convince someone to change their mind once that person has already made up their mind. Whether you try to tackle pros and cons to justify how you got to the outcome it really doesn't matter because as the saying goes you can lead a horse to water but you can't force it to drink. If people aren't willing you can not force them to think the way you do. Thinking is a matter of perspective and getting people to see from your point of view will only work if they desire it. No force of inception can get them to stay on your side of the fence. To have their attention for a brief moment will not carry as the voice of reason all the time. People will do what makes them happy no matter who tries to grab their focus. So you may try to educate but in the end do the smart thing and not force someone on your side that they won't remain loyal to.

 

RED PILL OR BLUE PILL

People go to psychiatrist to find clarity in their life, a truth that can bring them closer to inner peace away from the struggles that feeling alone can bring. We all strive to find our place in the world but if we base our truth on false beliefs we will feel attacked when anyone questions them. You ethhical beliefs are your foundation that define who you are as an individual which is where your true strengths lie allowing yourself to see things as they are which will enhance your perspective dramatically and transform you to accept the true nature of a particular situation. Life is what you make it so don't base it on a stack of cards that could topple in the wind, base it on truths that are universal because they will always remain, where as what is right for now will change with the trends. Following trends will put you at the mercy of whats popular not what is right. 

HOW MANY GENDERS?

 Just watched a clip of "GOOD MORNING BRITAIN" where a film that was made by the BBC for schools' support in PSHE classes for 9 to 12 year olds are explained that there are more than 100 different gender identities. Doctors might have to keep this list near them when a soon to be parent asks what sex my child is? The world will be changed forever because they might have to make more prison types to suit all of those non male and non-female gender types who have broken the law. We also might have to consider how sports should be compared in competitions it's no longer men and women we have to be fair and consider the other minorities. If those who haven't studied biology can choose what they identify as then praise the modern times we no longer have to limit ourselves by facts my childhood dreams can come to fruition that I can be whatever I want no matter what proof I have to support my claim, then hurray for my unlimited imagination.

MORELAND CITY COUNCIL

Moreland City Council desires to change their name over links to slave labour is their first attempt to be seen as a council who has the public best interests at heart  but is it enough to change the public's already perception on this particular council. Changing your name to show that you can be respectful of the public state of mind are your intentions true or has your Customer Service Team been overwhelmed by complaints. Claiming that you are here to support your community during these tough times then when a member of the community gets an parking infringement fine at 4.14 pm which is 14 minutes from fine to park shows little to no compassion especially when the trip involved was going to the chemist to get medicines to alleviate some pain. When informed Moreland City Council 

 sends a cut and paste response that arterial roads are designated Clearways by the Vic Roads Corporation to facilitate safe traffic flow during peak times. Stopping in a Clearway during these times causes traffic congestion and can pose a risk to public safety. This Clearway was infront of full park spots which would not inhibit traffic flow because the parking officers "important role" in maintaining public and road safety at all times would of got out of his vehicle and got the alleged offender to move as soon as humanily possible, not send them a fine weeks later. Maybe the Moreland City Council needs to act quicker in protecting the public from illegally parked vehicles if that is their true intentions. For anyone who would like to dispute the Council's decision be warned that the Court lodgement fees may be added to the already overpriced council fine if the matter is found in the Council's favour so shut up and show me the money.

HERE ARE MY KEYS

Aging gracefully means more than just aging and your appearances it can mean your state of mind while going through various stages of life. So as much as we don't want to admit that there will come a day where you should hand in your keys in and let someone else drive you to places it is very hard to give up on something you've been doing for longer than you can remember. Letting go of the reins can be hard and even harder for the stubborn minded because they believe letting go is just the beginning of the bigger picture which is accepting your getting old. There are numerous situations where old people refuse to take the advice from their family and friends and ignore the signs that they are no longer capable of making the right decisions for the safety of the people in the community. These dangerous situations could of easily been avoided all because some incapable people are too afraid to slow down and remove them selves from problem. Be smart and be safe or be stupid and put yourself and others at risk.

 

MOTION TO EMOTION

How do you unite a world with so many different point of views? You get people to focus on what they share in common. We as people may seem very different from each other but what brings us together and unites us is our passion for the arts. Painting, Architecture, Sculpture, Music, Poetry, Photography and Performing arts are passions that all communities have blended into their culture. A way of life that removes the fears of our differences and replaces it with the warmth of belonging to the human species. Our love for expression and connections to people remind us that we are in this world together so make it better even if it takes a lifetime because when we leave this world we leave it in the hands of the ones we love, our children.

WHAT DOES LIVING IN A COMMUNITY MEAN TO YOU?

Community defined by a small group of people living together in the attempt to reach a harmonious lifestyle. Each member of the community benefiting from what each other brings to the group, this bond ties themselves to something larger than themselves and highlights that they are an integral part of the community. We live in a community to gain the advantages that being part of a bigger ecosystem will offer which is unified by common interests. You can not take the all the advantages of the communitys offerings and not follow the laws that are put in place to create order. If you disagree with the law become a hermit and follow your own rules by moving where their are like minded people. 

VOICES IN YOUR HEAD

Without a healthy perseverance and control of your mind you may be prone to let negative thoughts in which can take over you and lead your feelings to a bad place where thinking positive is almost impossible. By letting your insecurities take over you you've enabled yourself to become your worst enemy. You must have the mindset to move forward with a positive push to your short-term goals and once in control make grander plans. Be a forward thinker solve your problems one step at a time don't look at problems as a whole break them up and tackle them one problem at a time. Mentally tick off the problems once dealt with and remember if you can't change the end result then only focus on what you can change. Life is made up of ups and downs don't let your downs control the way you feel in your life.

FOLLOW THE RULES OR LIMIT YOUR CHOICES

As retail businesses now will only allow to enter if you show them your vaccination pass this force of government rule brings out the flaws with some peoples personalities. I've heard some customers claim that Australia has become a communist country even though living in a communist country is far different from living in Australia. Some so called customers will get vaccinated but believe by showing their vaccination pass at the door before they enter goes against their privacy. I'm not sure what they thought was going to be the next step after getting the vaccination pass set up on their phone but following the rules halfway will not get you in the door. Some people will get angry and will respond with you have just lost a sale im taking my business elsewhere this threat has lost its validity because those type of irrational people will usually refuse to do what the majority of the community will do and go against the grain which will leave them in the exact position they started in, without a product they were searching for. Those who easily throw around that threat of loss of business are few that's why the business they are trying to threat are usually thriving. 

SET YOUR IMAGINATION FREE

As Einstein quoted "Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited, imagination encircles the world". Kids rely on their imagination to make life more than what it is. Alot of parents try to control what their kids see, think and experience. When their kids grow into adults the world's unfiltered dramas can be a shock to their system. It's not just the pleasant experiences that makes a person development reach its full potential, sometimes the tougher experiences can strengthen a child's growth and empower them to take charge of any uncontrollable situation. Putting a cap on a child's imagination can only halter their maturity and limit their minds growth to a standard that is only controlled by the parameters that the parents feel is appropriate. The key is that every child is different and that's why we shouldn't paint one rule for all kids see what the child is capable of and encourage them to put more effort into their passions. On average girls mature quicker than boys and should treated accordingly. 

THRIVE TO BE ALIVE

We thrive to feel alive with whatever tools we have at our disposal whether it's music to inspire us, exercise to push us past our limits, doing something out of our comfort zone to enthral us, or even breaking an inanimate object to release any built up frustrations, whatever we choose to task ourself with to alleviate any of our prolonged boredom is a blessing. Breaking routine modifys our predictable daily routine and lifts our spirits by reminding us that we are in control and alive. Our daily routine can keep us feeling that we a following a regimented monotonous plain patterned lifestyle which blends our day to day processes and leaves us feeling stuck with nothing to look forward to. It is up to us make the choices that puts us in the drivers seat of our own life and not fall victim of letting your life pass you by. It's up to you to be just like Nike and just do it.

RULES FOR SOME

When following the rules your path is directed to what a governed bodys preferences are. Whether you choose to abide by the rules or try to follow them as close as your dignity will allow your choices can concrete how you are perceived by others. Some of us believe it doesn't matter how you get to the end as long as the result is the same, while others believe their path is paved with challenges that are pronounced because they chose to allow their morals get in the way of following the rules that lay in front of them. Choosing a pathway that only has your best interests at heart will teach others the pattens of your selfish behaviour which will eventually create a mirrored response when they decide to treat you the same way that youve been treating them. You may not believe in karma but it will be proven to be true in the actions of others when they respond to you. Most people will stop treating you better than you treat them because it becomes harder to justify their actions in a rational state of mind.

PREGNANCY DURING COVID

Hi my name is Teresa and for a long time I have wanted to have a family of my own but finding the right person to start a family with has been a challenge. So I have decided that I will do this on my own but with covid looming over our heads it has given me concern to rethink my decision. So i am asking help from anyone who has experience with pregnancy during these tough times. Any advice will be appreciated. 

IRREPLACEABLE YOU

We like to believe that we are uniquely different which makes us feel that we are irreplaceable. Even though we try and create a positive impact to someone's life what we give is hard to measure when comparing the differences of our positive impact to those who are there to replace us. We live our life wanting to be treated with the respect we deserve which usually entails putting our values on the line and leaves us open for criticism. Being vulnerable only takes affect if you let the criticism take over you. If you are confident with who you are you don't need the approval of everyone to keep your integrity intact just those who you admire and respect. We are all replaceable but that doesn't mean that we won't be missed by those we have left a huge impact on. So be yourself even if it means you have ostracised yourself from the rest of society. Your circle of friends will stick with you through thick and thin and that is all that matters. 

MAINSTREAM MEDIA VERSUS ALTERNATIVE MEDIA

I keep on hearing the misconception that main stream media is one sided pushing its opinion on its viewers and that alternative media always offers a raw view untainted from reality of whats happening in the now without personal bias and judgement. Whether it's mainstream or alternative media both are edited news platforms pushing a narrative and both still have an agenda because there is no such thing as an opinion without bias. We make our opinions based on own bias, whether we make it based on the little information we see or we make our opinion on what we didn't see its our own wants and needs that is steered by our own bias. It is impossible to get the whole picture because we can't be involved in every part of the situation so we have to rely on the little information we get which usually involves us digging deep from within our own personal experience and using our wits to work out what is the closest truth and make a judgement call that we use to back up with our own bias opinion. Those who get manipulated by false news let themselves be manipulated because it is their defence mechanism that protects them from making their own mind up and then they can blame those who pushed them on the wrong track because they were misinformed. 

WIKIPEDIA TOLD ME SO

Frustrations are felt and shared by so many, whether you have a small business, or your out of a job the current situation can be frustrating for all of us who've been affected by covid. At the top of the frustrated list would have to be nurses and doctors who's job is to help the community stay in better health even though some of the community are fighting with the government and believe that health devision is going against their interest. When you lose your faith in doctors and the health system you may as well put your faith in someone who is practicing medicine without a licence. Most people will listen to those who have studied a profession that they themselves know nothing about rather than relying on your own research on Wikipedia.

DONT LOOK, BUT LISTEN

Whether or not you like the person or group speaking if you ignore who is speaking because of your feelings towards the speaker you may miss out on the validity of the point being made. If you listened to what was said would your opinion change or does it matter more to you who is speaking than what information they are trying to relay. A bad person can still make a good point. You don't have to respect who they are to see merit in what they say. You need to be bigger than your emotions to grow with the wisdom you may be missing.

MIXED PROTEST MOTIVATIONS

The problem with some of the protestors is that their motivations dont always correlate some of them are their to fight, some of them are their to take selfies so they can get hits on their social media sites, some of them are deeply frustrated and believe that it's the only thing that they can do to show the government what their feeling. Whatever kind of protestor you are, maybe you should ask yourself other than the police and yourselves that have been injured kids have also been hurt in the cross- fire "Are you actions achieving your desired outcome?". Some parents have made the decision to bring their kids to the fight that they stand for knowing that it has put their kids in danger of being hurt because now they are a part of the mob and because of the mix of motivations and limits that vary the troubled protestors will push in a way that will effect the peaceful protestor. If you want to make a stand for your belief choose the right people to stand with, those who are liked minded.

NACOS 2015-2017 (NETFLIX ORIGINAL)

Narcos tells the true-life story of the rise and fall of the kingpin Pablo Escobar. It centers around Steve Murphy, a DEA agent sent to Colombia on a U.S. mission to capture him. This blockbuster series is a must watch for anyone who wants a little truth in a crime thriller. Once you start this series you can't stop yourself from binge watching this because each episode is as adictively exciting as the next.  I give this series a two way up thumbs up.

LIMITED FREEDOM

You are not born with freedom unless you are born in a country that offers freedom within it. Freedom comes at a cost, it isn't free unless you live on your own on a secluded island that you own. Freedom comes at a cost of your allegiance to the community you are a part of. If your freedom of right affects someone else's freedoms, yours would be taken away. Freedom is given to you and can be earnt by your following of societies rules. You break the rules you break your power of limited freedom.  If you think you should have freedom because it's your basic human rights then what makes your freedom different from others who have been affected by your choices. Freedom is the power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants. "we do have some freedom of choice" but not at the expense of the society that your a part of. If you don't like the rules governed by the society you are a part of move to a community that you believe has your interests best at heart. Good luck in finding one that will make you and your neighbours happy hoping your happiness aligns with your neighbours. You can not expect to take advantage of the freedoms that the government provides you but then be able  to hand-pick the rules you accept and ignore the remaining implemented rules without consequences.

THE SANDMAN

The story is epic but adding sound effects has brought the expierience to a new level. This Audible book makes you feel that you are listening to a blockbuster movie. The story holds your attention and listening to the dramatic sounds combined with the acting paints a clear picture of a worthwhile expierience that you must take.👍 

MYTHOS

This book made me a fan of Stephen Fry. He modernises Greek myths in a way that only he can do. I learnt that Pandora's box was misinterpreted and was supposed to be Pandora's container. He masterfully entertains you with a collection of story's that helps you understand the essence of greek myths. 👍 

BOBIVERSE

This collection is an amazing read. Not only are you immersed in a deep science fiction story where alien worlds and space battles entice your imagination but also the protagonist Bob who is funny and a stand out character grabs your attention because of his vulnerabilities chooses to cryogenically freeze his corpse in the hope that advances in science would one day allow him to be woken up and cured of the conditions that killed him but finds himself waking up in a way he never prepared for. 👍 

TIME RESTRAINTS

Our time restraints force us to make decisions on how we should spend our limited time. Whether your making big decisions that change how your live your life or small decisions that affect how you spend your day both choices work together in keeping you level headed. We may spend some of our time doing what others may see as trivial but what seems a waste of time can be as important as the tasks that are life changing. Our time is comprised of what is important to us and because we are very different from each other it can be hard for people to look past our differences but where we may differ with our choices our common desires are the same. We desire to be happy and how that can be reached is fulfilment. What gets you through the day is as important as where you want to be and remember all work and no play is not good for the soul.

YOUR CHOICES

Throughout the passing day we make time for our have-tos and want-tos. The more time we spend doing the things that we want to do the more we feel relaxed which helps us deal with the things that we have to do. On a day to day basis we all have our own personal self achievement quota to reach our desired level of happiness which will propel us forward and enable us to be at our strongest state of mind dealing with any dilemma we are faced with. Sometimes when facing problems you have to forget about the problem put your focus on something else and when you are distracted with something else you'll find the answer comes into your mindscape without even trying. We as people need our minds to go with the natural flow that will lead us to our happy place not force your mind to be where you are not ready for it to be. Understanding yourself is the quickest way to get you there. 

COVID VS VACCINATION

Do anti-vax's believe covid is real? Do they think the chances of getting covid is low and having a vaccination for covid is wrong because they feel bullied to take it.? Do they believe the government around the world is encouraging all the people in the world including themselves for a grander plan. What is the conspiracy that drives the government to a destination where the people in society have all have been vaccinated. Maybe we can blame the movies that have shown us all the conspiracys that the world has supposedly been through and the parents that haven't taught their kids that what happens in the movies is mainly for entertaining purposes. Kids have to be a 18 before they are mature enough to make choices but sometimes maturity doesn't set in with age and what your left with is ignorance. This can explain the conspiracy theory that the world is against those who oppose the government because that minority group are humanity's last hope. Luckily for the rest of us that are ill informed civilians we have superheroes willing to fight the good fight that only they can fight because they are the chosen ones.

ALONE (2020)

Alone has you grasping for seat hoping that Jessica a recent widower survives the clutches of wood be serial killer. He relentlessly chases her through the wilderness where she is forced to face the elements and a psycho madman killer alone. This is a must watch for those who enjoy thrillers it keeps you guessing what will happen next, will she perish or win the fight to survive another day.

TRUE BLUE

Why is it that people jump to say that they are from a Australia when it is highlighted in positive way?, but the moment something bad has happened in the country they try to distance themselves and claim that they are from a specific state and the state they reside in will never have done the bad things that were highlighted. True blue very genuine and very loyal used to express Australian values but when the tough times come the tough dont stand up and what your left with is certain individuals acting only on what is good for them a savage state of mindset. We need to hold onto our values when tested not bolt for the trees. If you strive to do the right thing for the majority of the community you will discover the better version of yourself and the community will prosper because of your contribution.

SMARTPHONES A NECESSARY ADVANCEMENT

With the progression of technology Smartphones have been successfully introduced Into our way of life. Businesses have created apps on smartphones to encourage people to use the apps as a way of receiving rewards and discounts  for showing loyalty to the business. A lot of these rewards can only be claimed via smartphone app, so if you want to save money you need to adapt to the ever changing world and accept that smartphones are now necessary in helping you budget better. Eventually your choices will be taken away and the only way left would be the choices that your fighting hard to accept. Technology is the constantly evolving and we need to change with it otherwise we will be left behind struggling to fit in.

FEAR TO THINK

Fear is a hurdle to a mind that is overcome by an emotion that is caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm. Courage is the nemesis of fear, it pushes you to think fast and clear with a rational mindset. Fear keeps your focused on loss which hinders your ability to move forward. It is okay to start off with fear in your mind but do not let it overcome you and lead you to a life not lived in full. The power to take charge lies in the confidence you hold to yourself so remember you are in charge of your reaction and don't you let your reaction be in charge of you.

COMPASSION OR NEGLECT

Throughout our life we are thrusted with different types of responsibilities which challenge us to follow certain tasks that can sometimes be contradictory to the harmonious outcome we desire. Roles in which we forced to take part in encourage 

us to do what is necessary to get the job done by any means possible channels our strength by grasping onto our animal instincts can distance us further from working without conflict. The more we try and channel our genetically hard wired instincts of self preservation the less our compassionate state of mind controls our choices. Its our animal instincts that pushes us to step over people to get what we want without considering how our actions may affect our fellow colleagues. You can not get people to work in a harmonious environment while at the same instance punish them for not going in harder irrespective of the collateral damage that jumping in without logical thought brings.

REAP WHAT YOU SOW

If you were honest with yourself could you comfortably say that you treat people mostly in an honourable way, or do all of your actions revolve around how it will affect you. If you asked people to give you an honest opinion of what kind of person you were would they say you showed integrity in your mannerisms or would the truth be less flattering. Your future consequences are inevitable shaped by your actions rings true when you see that you've always looked after your own interests at heart and now you've found yourself facing an unideal situation. If we needed to rely on the opinion of the people that we surround ourselves with on a day to day basis would most of those people proudly admit that knowing you was a pleasure or would it be more fitting that they found you to be a selfish person. If you find yourself not wanting to delve to deep in what is the universal truth maybe you should spend more time on trying to be the person that you aspire to be because basing your persona on false strengths will have you around the clock dodging the tough questions that could deflate your ego.

PFIZER IN OR OUT

Today I've realised that having just done my second pfizer shot the anticipation is finally over and now i am filled with a comfort feeling confidence that having the vaccination can only have brought on during these scary times. Fear is the overpowering reason that drives people to question whether they should or shouldn't be vaccinated which steers people's logic to focus on irrational thoughts. Those who believe micro chips will be mixed in with the vaccination assume that the government has interest in their location, are forgetting that their mobile phones and their cars have a GPS signals. With all the conspiracy theorists pushing negative thoughts to the minds of the vulnerable, society's progression will stagnate leaving us far behind in modern world. Through the evolution of medication vaccines have had to be introduced to fight the illness that have hit society hard, it is our only defence against a sickness that can take away your life. So the choice is yours live your life with or without pain. But choose wisely because there is no sense in letting fear decide.

YOUR DREAMS YOUR GOALS

Everyday people strive to reach their goals, short-term goals usually take priority because they are easier to be attained. Most of us are distracted with our day to day hectic lifestyles that it hinders us to think of anything long-term which inturn leaves us to master the short-term goal that requires little to no effort. This easier pathway leads you to a monotonous routine that can take over what is really important to you. Our dreams reside in our long-term goals which usually are seen as an unattainable dream so it gets pushed aside for us to focus on what is considered more realistic. If people only set up themselves for what was easier than what we now consider a greatness in human achievement will never be experienced. People longing to be the best version of themselves because they don't want to let themselves down would encourage others to follow by their positive examples. Life is short but our dreams are large, the harder pathway you choose to follow the more persistent you have to be.

COVID VERSUS LOCKDOWN

If you try and project what would happen to Victoria if we weren't in lockdown im sure the majority of people would agree covid numbers will rise. So what is at stake? the economy or our health. As painful as lockdown is, it is necessary to keep us safe. To some their businesses can not survive the affects of lockdown  to others their lifestyle will forever be changed with the risk that covid brings to their health. Self preservation can sway how people evaluate what is important to them, but with such a vast mindscape in the community this guarantees a collision of adverse opinions. Majority rules in a community the smaller voices are forced to accept that the community interests comes first over their individual desires. This will always be the way because it is impossible to make everyone happy at the same time.

PARENTING QUICKLY OR SMARTLY

As parents our attitudes vary on what we consider is the right type of parenting.  Parenting can be categorised in four main groups Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive or Uninvolved. The one thing all parents can agree on is that their child's health is the number one priority. This doesn't mean that what we all consider is unsafe is the same for all of us. You might leave your child alone when the pot is on the stove boiling because you've done it a thousand times and your child has never shown any interest in touching the cooking, but it is still a gamble. The odds might be in your favour but is it a risk that you as the guardian want to take. On a day to day basis you as a the parent or carer are constantly making decisions on behalf of those you are responsible for so make the choice that is better not the one that is quicker. 

I DON'T KNOW

It's okay to say I don't know. So many people feel embarrassed to admit they don't have the answers to questions that their peers know off by heart. Trying to fool people that your confident about the topic of conversation without having any clue to what someone is talking about will only falter your personality and highlight that you are struggling to connect the dots with the current conversation. People crave to be connected to that is why you owe it to yourself to be your true self so when you do find a connection with someone it is strong and true to who you really are and what you stand for. A mutual respect for your integrity will only show when you be yourself without trying to impress your current company.

SWITCHED ON

To be switched on and connected to your surroundings is the only way to multi task. When you find it hard to focus on more than one task at a time you suffer the consequences of a slow mind which will leave you struggling to handle the tough decisions that have to be made quick. Life is fast paced and without training yourself to think fast and make rational choices you'll find yourself falling far behind struggling to climb out of the mess. So be alert and train yourself to take in more than just what your experiencing. So much is happening around you and if you master the art of paying attention to your surroundings you will find it easier to respond to more than what your use to. You are not the only one trying to get through the challenges that life throws at you so be less self absorbed and be one with the world. 

DAMSEL IN DISTRESS

The Western movies that depict the typical Damsel in distress saved by the male protagonist of the big screen has now transformed from our living room and into our everyday life situations but with a unique twist. The modern times have now modified the roles because its not only females who find themselves in trouble playing the victim, but also time has added dudes in distress to the equation which still carries the same message "Oh Please help me for I am helpless and need a hero to save me". This is the easy way out for both of the sexes, why try when someone else can do it for you.  If we let this mentality rule us we will never stand on our own two feet and never excel to a potential that can only be reached if we push ourselves to be better. What may seem the easier path will only damage us in the long run. Life's tough times strengthens you so your able to get through the difficult challenges you face and avoidance will only teach you the bad habits that you will find it virtually impossible to break at a later stage of your life. So be like Nike and "Just do it" yourself.

A FAMILY AFFAIR

A family that lives together, doesn't always grow together. We may all start off close-knit and bounded together by our forced upon proximity experiences, but that all changes in an instant once our social bubble grows and we leave the comfort zone that we grew up in. The moment we get older and leave the nest so does our ability to relate to one another change. What seemed to be a simple task of interaction metamorphoses into "The idiots guide to relating to one another from scratch".Surrounded by an awkward feeling that is controlled by the space of time since your last meeting swollows any nostalgic memory that entwines us to our shared childhood. Do we fight to rekindle what was once there? Or do we continue the charade that simplifys our new relationship?

TO BE OR NOT TO BE CONSISTENT

 Conditioning relies solely on the consequences to keep it relevant. The desired result will never occur if the wrong conditioning is applied. Consequences need to be consistent to reinforce the lesson that good or bad life decisions are connected to completely different end results. It is your responsibility to accept that your choices have lead you to your current outcome. Without taking sole responsibility for your actions you will never learn the lessons that will guide you to an optimum lifestyle and easier decision making abilities in your future. 

SMILE FOR A WHILE

 Treating people good only when your feeling good means it's an effort to be nice. Are you really a nice person when it counts? or does being nice take all your energy?.Being short with people over minor issues and blaming them for the cause of your bad day is really your defence  mechanism trying to stop you from delving deep into what's bugging you. Are you really the one with the problem? If you accept yourself as you are you'll find it easier to accept others as they are and you won't need to pretend that you are a tolerant person. Smiling will come easier without trying so hard to be happy.

SIN IS IN THE MISINTERPRETATION

We grew up being taught in the classroom to be more descriptive with our writing, the more detailed the better. It is now instilled in us that even in our social interactions that we try and share our experiences by using descriptive words. The fat, skinny, tall, short, black, white, young or old person is used as a way of painting a picture of our experiences. The description helps you understand what the storyteller went through and sometimes the descriptive word can connect you to the why it happened. You can single out any descriptive word and claim it's used in a negative way but unless the storyteller uses all with a negative connotation then the listeners are interpreting it wrong. Their are so many layers that affect how and why we react the way we do, to simplify it by saying someone is being discrimatory is like telling someone to describe their friend features without using describing words that paint the picture of what they look like. Their friends description may tick what a listener would interpret as negative interpretation. 

CONSEQUENCES WELCOMED

If you know that your heading to dangerous grounds and you are still willing to put yourself in harm's way what is your train of thought?. Do your reasons justify your decisions? or Do you just think if things don't go to plan someone will bail me out?. When the shit hits the fan is it okay to back pedal denying that you made the conscious decision to put you life at risk or do you do the honourable thing and take full responsibilities for you actions and accept you are where you are because of your choices. If we live our life taking responsibilities for our choices good or bad and stop playing ignorant when things do go bad we can move forward and learn for the next time we make choices that could affect our well being.

RACIST EQUALS IDIOT

The word racist should be replaced with the word idiot because anyone who thinks that the location of where you were born depicts the type of character you will become are fooling themselves. In every country there will always be a mix of personalities, so the idiot way of thinking will always stand out from those who are lateral thinkers. If we shut our eyes to what people looked like and treated people based on their personality we would soon  discover our inner circle of friends would be like minded people and that doesn't mean the same nationality. So treat people as you would want to be treated and remember the less idiots you associate with the greater your chance of reaching happiness.

SUPPORT NOT TAKE OVER

As parents we feel responsible for how our kids react in their everyday life situations not just because of what we try to teach them on how to behave in society but also because they are made up of our own DNA which makes us feel we are partly responsible for who they grow up to be. Irrespective of what views we try push onto them it's not only just one thing that influences their choices in day to day life it is their core being that reflects who they  are and shows in their personality. We may try to give our opinions but it is up to them to choose who they want to be and how they want to react that matters. You can not control their thoughts by piggy backing your ideas onto their beliefs, they alone will make the choices that matter to them no matter how much respect they have for you. So be there to support not to take over your children's lives because the moment they feel you've ignored their input is the moment they have ignored your input whether or not you might make complete sense. So lead by example and show them the respect you yourself require.

SMART PHONE OR JUST A PHONE?

 I keep on hearing stories that people are addicted to their phones as if they are doing only one thing but what the stories fail to mention is that people are mainly using their phones for internet access so blaming the device as the addiction problem when it is just the tool that allows them to get the information they search for on the world wide web. My phone is only used to call people 5 percent of the time it's used majority of the time for checking emails, paying bills, shopping, taking photos, social networking, Audible, Netflix, surfing the net and game playing so taking away a phone which is like a mini computer in the palms of your hand will only remove the easy access that once used to take so much time in your life. If you would rather go back to the time where you had to come home before you got your message, post letters and wait a week for a response, carry a camera all the time and go to the post office to pay a bill then don't get a smartphone. We are addicted to being entertained and information the phone can get us not the phone.