GULLIBLE NEVER TO LEARN

It's only through spending time with people that we truly get to know who someone is, but you have to be someone who pays attention to detail otherwise no amount of shared time is ever going to help you see the obvious patterns that are on show. We are creatures of habit which only helps to magnify the tell-tale signs that are unwillingly on display for anyone who is interested to see. There is no hiding from who you are to those that are perceptive to your ways, whereas if your supporters just allowed themselves to look past who said what and focused on how reliable has this person being in the past then maybe it will be easier for them to see who is truly responsible for the wrongdoings. Once you allow facts to lead you to the right pathway rather than your feelings, you will have the right tools to work out how to cease the same bad repetitive behaviour from happening. Biases can help camouflage who is a friend and who is a foe we all are guilty of falling off the beaten path, but some people will go there more often than others. That's why you should ask yourself, "Do you want to support someone who is always on the wrong path?"

I HATE YOU

Hate is such a strong word when you've said it to a person that you can't bare any more but once said the affects will remain with you at all times even when that person is nowhere in sight. Once you have reached that level of hate towards someone, there is no turning back because your hate now clouds your rational state of mind and can throw your judgement in disarray. This out of your hands growing problem can manifest your negative emotions into your worst version of yourself, as Nelson Mandela said "Resentment is like drinking poison then hoping your enemies die" holding onto hate will only ever harm you in the end. When a person you hate is trying to do good and you can't help yourself but to nitpick holes in anything that they say or do than this is an example that you have taken things too far because if you are seeing their positive behaviour as negative then your values have shifted for the wrong reasons. You are the one losing if your rational state of mind can not disregard the hatred that you are feeling to be able to recognise that the person you hate is making valid points. This uncontrolled hatred that you are feeling starts coming out in other aspects of your life with no care of how it may affect those that you are close to because having hate in your heart is about letting go of the control that you have that rationales your actions rather than saying "Fuck that, i dont care any more  i hate you" the problem is the moment you let yourself go and let hate rule you is the moment you will lose yourself. 

VULNERABLE UNTIL HARDENED

When we are born we are in one of our most vulnerable stages of our life where we solely rely on a carer to look after all of our wants and needs untill we are old enough to do it ourselves. Growing up the most important experiences we can learn from usually have come from the mistakes that we've made in which the dramas that we've struggled to face have undoubtedly left a negative impression on us that continues to stay with us as a reminder that bad choices will lead to bad experiences. The unpleasant experiences are instilled in our memories to remind us to use the discomfort that we feel as a guide on what to do and what not to do. If we don't use our failures as an opportunity to toughen us up, then we are likely to be taken advantage of and manipulated into doing someone else's bidding. So if you don't want to be treated like a puppet by being at the mercy of someone's whim, then stop letting someone pull your strings. You don't have to make pushing your buttons such an easy task if you recognise someone's intention in doing so.

DEFENCES ARE UP

There is no amount of effort that you can put into someone to get through to them when they have their defences up. Whether you make them feel unsafe and thats why they dont want to put their guard down or that they feel that they would rather be seen as strong to their peers so the best thing that they can think of is to hide what they believe are their weaknesses in their character. Strength is shown in your character when you are honest and open to your peers and not when you are closed because you are afraid that you might get ridiculed. If its not one or the other, then it could possibly be that they just dont think that you're good enough to show you who they really are. Either way their lack of being open shows a weakness in themselves because people who are open to being ridiculed aren't afraid to be themselves no matter the consequences whereas those who pretend to be someone they're not just to fit in has got to be exhausting. So if you'd rather just be yourself, at least those who do ridicule you are reminders to you that their opinions shouldn't matter anyway, and those who are by your side are there for the right reasons. 

THAT'S STUPID

Stupidity is not restricted to one nationality. It is bound to those who hold onto stupid ideas that lead them to taking stupid actions. There is only so much responsibility we can claim to take on our birthplace. The rest is owed to us by our own take on the world around us. Our decision-making abilities are influenced by how we absorb the information that we are surrounded by, so whether the information is true or not can set us down the pathway to the wrong belief system. If you feel that you can't stand by beliefs calmly and rationally, then it is more likely that anger is directing your path, letting anger rule over you will only lead you to failure. Rational behaviour can only be set on a strong foundation of beliefs, not on one that can be disarmed with a mere alternative suggestion. Stupid people are easily manipulated by their emotions because it takes more intellect to control their running emotions than letting them run free to cause more harm than good. Regret soon follows when anger is in charge, and that is why the point you were hoping to make is lost with your battle cries. People stop listening when people are yelling so if you would rather have your point come across rather than your lack of control which has now managed to camouflage any valid points you might of been making then think before you speak.

PRAISE FREE ZONE

Working hard will more than likely lead to a job well done but that doesn't mean that you will be appreciated for your efforts. Without any direct praise to guide us we are left filling the gap of doubt with job satisfaction. If we only see our contribution through the eyes of the ones that have pushed our efforts aside and ignored anything positive that we may have contributed to a job well done then our well-being will be at the mercy of the unreasonable. This is why it is important that we should learn to rely on our self when it comes to lifting us up when we feel down because the best thing we can do for us is to not give others the power to make us feel what we should be capable of feeling on our own. It is important that we recognise our efforts are necessary and that our efforts do lead to a job well done and no amount of selective praise will make us feel that we do not fit the requirements to receive any direct praise especially in what seems to be  praise free zone when it comes to our contribution to a job well done. One thing you should never forget is you determine your own worth not others so remember the moment you do forget is the moment others will determine your worth.

I WOULD OF

Not until the moment that things are taken away from us do we claim that if that didn't happen, we would have always done what we said we were going to do. It seems to take losing something we took for granted that forces us to appreciate what we did have, which wouldn't be the case if we just had the appreciation from the beginning. It's far too easy for some people not to see the benefits of what they've got if they have always had the advantages from the get-go. This is why when you have less of something from the start but through perseverance you manage to put yourself in a better position it is more than likely that you will appreciate the effort that you put in because you haven't forgotten where you came from. To remain humble is one of the hardest traits to hold onto because you now through hard work and discipline you have managed to gain an abundance of money and time which will now give you the advantages that not everyone has. Time is the most valuable commodity we have because it is limited that is why what we choose to do with our limited time and who we choose to spend it with tells us a lot about the type of individual we are. So if you don't ever want to lose something that you didn't realise was important, then stay humble because the alternative will only bring you down.

PUNISH THE WICKED

A wicked person who goes unpunished is like a becon to the world that you don't have to follow the rules because nothing bad will ever happen to you anyway. Consequences are meaningless if they are never actioned, and people are conditioned by action, which is why the longer times passes without the proper response to bad behaviour, the less impact it leaves on the wicked. Throughout our life we are likely to make mistakes and with those mistakes will come a negative response that teachers us to change our pathway so that we can avoid the uncomfortable feelings that will come when we make bad choices. If we don't experience bad times because of our bad choices, then we will never feel the need to change our tact. Punishment is as necessary as reward, but rewarding bad behaviour will only ever increase bad behaviour. Eventually, those who follow the rules who believe it is the only way of being rewarded will see the light and play the same game that the wicked have been playing from the beginning. We all have our limits, and if those who believe in rules give up on following them, then order will only fall apart. So if we expect order for all, then it's time to punish the wicked so that we can bring back the order that we all need in our life.

LOOKING FORWARD TO IT

The quickest way to get yourself into a depressive state of mind is not to have anything to look forward to. Planning ahead reinforces a positive thought process that enables you to think past your stresses so that you are able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. In life it is important that we are able to differentiate the highs and lows from each other so that we don't get stuck only seeing the negatives in our current situation but rather see the opportunities that are infront of us that will lead us to our preferred lifestyle. Short-term goals and long-term goals are necessary tools to guide you through the steps that you must take in order to achieve your wants. So, if you know what you want in life, you need to take the steps that must be taken in order to have the opportunities that will help make your dreams a reality. Once you allow yourself to dream and pursue those dreams, you will have the power and motivation to guide you through to the next day. So make plans so that you have something to look forward to when the next day comes and dont give in to the easier way by letting your dreams pass you by.

JUDGEMENT DESERVED

People are overly cautious when they meet someone new because of how they have been mistreated in the past by those they thought  they could trust. Our past experiences are our only point of reference in order for us to have the assurances that enable us to make the right decision for our current situation. Déjà vu is there to remind us that our past is important, and if we ignore the signs that are in front of us that we are more than likely to repeat our mistakes. This is why when we only know a little about someone, we still make judgements based on what they say and how they carry themselves in order for us to be prepared for the possible. Whereas we believe the better alternative is to take the risk and lay judgement on those we see even if there is a chance that we may make a wrong call with our assumptions because of the limited information on hand. Our preparation for the worst has us focusing on the patterns that seem to more than likely eventuate into bad circumstances. These patterns usually give clear cut signs that you are heading for unpleasant times so if you would rather have a clean slate mindset when dealing with someone new then dont be surprised if your treading on the same shit path that you blindly trotted on previously. These signs are known by many names, but the end result is the same for all. it's our intrensic ability to protect our well-being from those that may cause us harm. So your choice is would you rather be prepared by protecting yourself and apologise if your assumption was wrong or are you comfortable with the opening up to those who would take advantage of your kindness by knocking you down the first chance that they get.