DEFENCES ARE UP

There is no amount of effort that you can put into someone to get through to them when they have their defences up. Whether you make them feel unsafe and thats why they dont want to put their guard down or that they feel that they would rather be seen as strong to their peers so the best thing that they can think of is to hide what they believe are their weaknesses in their character. Strength is shown in your character when you are honest and open to your peers and not when you are closed because you are afraid that you might get ridiculed. If its not one or the other, then it could possibly be that they just dont think that you're good enough to show you who they really are. Either way their lack of being open shows a weakness in themselves because people who are open to being ridiculed aren't afraid to be themselves no matter the consequences whereas those who pretend to be someone they're not just to fit in has got to be exhausting. So if you'd rather just be yourself, at least those who do ridicule you are reminders to you that their opinions shouldn't matter anyway, and those who are by your side are there for the right reasons.