JUDGEMENT DESERVED

People are overly cautious when they meet someone new because of how they have been mistreated in the past by those they thought  they could trust. Our past experiences are our only point of reference in order for us to have the assurances that enable us to make the right decision for our current situation. Déjà vu is there to remind us that our past is important, and if we ignore the signs that are in front of us that we are more than likely to repeat our mistakes. This is why when we only know a little about someone, we still make judgements based on what they say and how they carry themselves in order for us to be prepared for the possible. Whereas we believe the better alternative is to take the risk and lay judgement on those we see even if there is a chance that we may make a wrong call with our assumptions because of the limited information on hand. Our preparation for the worst has us focusing on the patterns that seem to more than likely eventuate into bad circumstances. These patterns usually give clear cut signs that you are heading for unpleasant times so if you would rather have a clean slate mindset when dealing with someone new then dont be surprised if your treading on the same shit path that you blindly trotted on previously. These signs are known by many names, but the end result is the same for all. it's our intrensic ability to protect our well-being from those that may cause us harm. So your choice is would you rather be prepared by protecting yourself and apologise if your assumption was wrong or are you comfortable with the opening up to those who would take advantage of your kindness by knocking you down the first chance that they get.