IM FINE

In the past mental health was a topic that people were afraid to talk about, until we were able to move forward in our thinking by evolving into a more accepting society that recognises mental health problems as a normal part of life. Once we accepted mental health was a normal topic that should be discussed openly people finally had an outlet to work on their mental issues and society was moving forward again in being more accepting of peoples challenging circumstances. With the help of professionals and loved ones people now had a better chance of figuring out what they needed to do to get themselves back on track and in control of their own life again. Now times have changed and what would normally be considered a mental issue is now just a different point of view. We have crossed the line where insane and sane are the same which shows when you see that anything now goes whether or not it might not make sense, it makes sense to those who believe in the nonsense. It looks like psychiatrist are no longer needed in this new world of ours because all it takes is you to keep your eyes open and it wont be long before you see what was an act to be concerned with is now just another day in la la land. Now we are told that if thinking a certain way makes them happy then we should not interfere with their happiness and let them believe in the fantasy they've created because it is their life and they can choose how they want to live it. This logic may seem like it makes a good point because if their not hurting anyone then let them be, this point would be true if we were alone in the world and we didn't interact with one another but we are part of a functioning society that relys on a stable reality and we need to beable to work with one another otherwise someones fantasy will affect a functional societies reality. Those of us who don't want to support the community are not forced to live in the community so do as you want with yourself but dont expect the rest of society to follow your lead to lunacy land. 

THATS NOT HOW I REMEMBER IT

As adults it's hard for us to remember what it felt like when we were kids growing up in a world that we didn't understand. Every new experience we faced we found ourselves struggling with what is the wrong way and what is the right way to do things because we were all ill-prepared. Now grown up and being responsible for my own kids well being the answer seems simple, the right thing is to get my kids to be better prepared so that they can cope with their own conflicting dilemmas all that is required is more of what I felt I was without. More advice, more support and more of whatever they are feeling that they are missing in their life should mean that they will be all loaded up with the right tools to face their struggles head on. Believing that getting more of what they are lacking will be enough to better prepare them for the real world seems logical but its the challenges that you face alone that makes you a stronger person and by doing more for them you remove the challenges that would of transformed them into capable adults. The real world isnt forgiving to the mistakes you repeatedly make and can make you feel that you are alone in your struggles, being assisted in every challenge forces them to face no challenges that would of helped build their perseverance up,  over helping will only create kids who believe they are entitled to have more and thus far has created less resilient kid's who will give up even before they try. So reward kids for good behaviour only, otherwise you will condition them to think that they still deserve a reward even when their not.

LIKE WHAT I LIKE

What interests some of us doesn't always interest all of us, individual to individual what keeps our attention and directs our focus can vary hugely. Some of us crave the outdoors and the adventures that come with exploring our surroundings while others are content with a smaller scale of expieriences that keeps them secure so that they can remain in what they consider is a familiar safe haven? What we know for sure is what is right for ourselves we presume will feel right for those we share time with and of those of who we try hard to convince that they should follow our lead even though what is essential for ourselves isn't always ideal for others. Some us only need the simple necessities in life while others need a grander scale of possessions to feel that they are on a successful path. The more you expect in life the more you feel pressure to pursue and conquer your expectations, if you fail in reaching your required goals you start feeling like a failure even though you might have a lot more than the people that you surround yourself with. So like what you like but don't expect others to follow your lead and share your likes. We are individuals and we can not be beaten.

I TO CAN DO WHAT YOU DO

Practice what you preach rings true when you see that some people don't accept that the truth that they a pedalling is a hypocrisy. The more they winge in life the less people take them seriously, so be factual not emotional when stating your case. When confrontations arise they all like to think that they are the victims of unpleasant circumstances rather than their life choices have brought them their own suffering and their medicine is karma. Lifes repetitive altercations we experience conditions us to choose the path of avoidance where confrontation is at a bare minimum. We believe the better path for us is stepping aside to let others take away whatever they please. Our desire not to offend others leads our thoughts into prioritising their needs over our own all to keep the peace. The more we do this and ignore how this affects our own state of mind the more we get further away from our true self. The moment in life when you choose to priorities your own happiness is much more important than keeping the peace is an the moment you will feel free to think whatever your heart desires. Taking a stand for what you believe in is an important step for you to balance your life and realise what's good for the goose should also be good for the gander, so why shouldn't you stand up if others have never hesitated to.

THE CHOICE TO CHOOSE IS NOT YOURS

Now that it is a illegal to have an abortion in some parts of the world, Who is now responsible to raise a newborn when the choices of a pregnant woman has now been taken away from her. From a pregnant teen to a financially disadvantaged pregnant person and everything in between, Who will take the responsibility for the newborn child and raise the unwanted child in a way that will create a positive human being?. Taking away the choice of the pregnant woman who has made the strenuous decision to have an abortion and who knows in advance that she will not beable to cope with the financially demanding child's needs while at the same time be able to cope mentally with all the responsibilities that come with raising the child is like giving a child a licence to drive when they are not ready to drive on highway full of speeding cars. Whether a pregnant woman isn't ready to be a parent or a person is not fit to be a parent they are both irrelevant in the courts eyes who see pregnancy as one sided, it's just about the fetus. Do the millions of forced parents get to drop off their children in the courts to get those who have made these laws now illegal to raise their baby? or Do the unwanted babies get raised in a system that is overpopulated and will break with the increase of admittance?. Making abortion illegal will only force some woman to do back yard abortions while others will resent their position and eventually be a burden in society. Its all dandy to say the decision to make abortion illegal will save a child but at what cost to the mother and what impact will it have on society. 

UNIVERSAL TRUTH

If you were on the side of the truth and someone told you something that you didn't believe in your point of view would not be affected but if there was any truth in what they are claiming it will rock your world. Truth hurts if you are not on the side of it, your illusion of truth will fade if someone shows you a side that you've never considered and can support their claim with proof. So stay open minded so the shock of the claim that you've never considered doesn't knock you down because once the realisation sets in you will find yourself emotionally distraught. The truth can be offensive because when it isn't sugar coated it can sound harsh to an unaccepting mind but the truth is not right or wrong its just the truth so either connect with the truth and base how live your lifestyle on its merits or create your own version of truth and patiently wait because the truth eventually catches up with you. The truth has the power to alter your foundation of thought which will trigger you to reavalute your beliefs. If truth wasn't universal then that means we are all in our own universe which makes the universes sole existence here to support our logic system , rather than that we are here trying to understand where we fit in, in the ever expanding universe. The truth will lead us to discover what is the universal language for all of us.

IN LINGO WE TRUST

If a bisexual person is attracted to both male and female sexes because of their physiological appearances, What does a pansexual person like about all other genders if they don't base their interest on a persons biological sex? Men and women have different distinguishing appearances that makes it easier for anyone to group their differences at a glance, but what underlying differences do other genders have from those of a biological man or a biological woman? and How does their chosen pro noun highlight who they really are?. How does the generation of the self labelled person differ from a cis man or cis woman? Why is it that most people just see a man or just a woman infront of them and not genders if genders are the focal point that we should focus on? Is it because the identifying features a person has stands out more than a persons choice of gender interpretation for themselves? Do those who use a pronoun feel that their pronoun explains a lot more about who they are then their biological sex? Or is it just a way of being noticed in the crowd? because its so easy to get unnoticed and ignored unless you stand out to be different. Self labelling is their way to take control back and to show people that they are more than a man or a woman. Man(he) woman(she) are words that say nothing about someones character so how does one expect a pro noun to do any better. Only a handful of your close friends will ever know who you are as an individual and this can not be achieved by just looking at you or using your chosen pro noun its about getting to know what makes you tick which can only be defined by your character. Those who don't want to know you are shallow, those who do know you are worthy to be called true friends. So maybe you focus should be on your true friends not on those who dont want to know your true character which doesn't come out of your pro nouns or your biological sex but in your actions. 

JUST DONT ASK!

 Are your beliefs justified? Do you have the confidence to stand by your beliefs and not walk away from the questions people ask of you?. If your beliefs are never challenged you might be missing out on another perspective that could enlighten your way of thinking, valid points would not stick if they weren't valid points so maybe you should listen in on the chance that you might learn something new. Are we offended or afraid to hear another persons point of view?, challenging questions can be considered thought provoking and harmful to those who feel that they are targeted because they are in the spotlight. Triggering and activating response can be harmful for those who would rather not face the truth that they might not have a full grasp on the reality of truth and what they thought made sense feels now like their handle on life is drifting further away because a sound argument now puts holes in their belief system. Beliefs that are grounded on a solid foundation can not be swayed because those beliefs have been supported by facts that give you the power and confidence to stand tall and proud because of your opinions. Anger has no place in winning any debate because logic teachers us that a clear mind and a solid point of view can only be supported by truth. Humanity is in constant search for truth, there are so many belief systems in the world but who has it right. Maybe the ones that are confident to face the questions and stand by their beliefs. 

 

MISJUDGED

We all like to believe that we are a good judge of character, but if that was true we would never have any failed relationships. The moment things do go pear shaped we question our ability to judge for ourselves who are the right people that we should be sharing our time with and who we should avoid. Throughout our relationships we invest time in building strong foundations with what we perceive to be the right kind of people and as much as we give out we assume those friends would equally do for us what we do for them. Relationships that aren't equal will eventually fail because without sharing the responsibilities in keeping solidarity the person giving more will find happiness somewhere else. So treat people with the same respect you require or you might find yourself wondering what went wrong. The reality is that some people will take advantage of nice people but that doesn't mean that you should not be welcoming to new friends it means that you shouldn't be a door mat to anyone.

TRUTH BE TOLD

"You can't handle the truth" is a famous line from a few good men, but it is more than just a line from a movie it's represents people's attitudes of today and how people differ from one another. Some people would rather know the real truth irrespective of how gruesome it might be, while others are happy to remain in their own ignorance and at the same time get overly frustrated by any questions asked of them. People are faced with dilemmas every day whether you open up and listen to the dramas that surround you so that you are better equipped to you deal with the issues or you choose to tune out and pretend its not really happening so that you can avoid having to do anything about it, the choice is always yours to make. Your acknowledgement of the matter at hand doesnt make it more pronounced or you choosing not to acknowledge it at all will not make it disappear, so maybe you should listen to the world around you so that you can feel confident that you did all that you could have done to make the situation better. You can not complain about a world with problems if you are not prepared to make it any better if you had the chance to.