IGNORING BAD TRAITS

When you ignore the bad traits in someone just because it's easier to believe in the version of truth that you prefer, then you shouldn't be surprised by the bad outcome that follows all because you've chosen acceptance over doing the right thing when it mattered. Recognising the bad traits in someone but choosing to look past their indiscretions by tactfully switching your focus from the unpleasant feelings that your feeling that are inbuilt to keep you honest, but to choose to focus purely on the littlle positives that you take from your social interaction will only come back twofold when you finally realise that breaking your own morals will only taint your integrity. So when you are at these defining moments in your life that give you an opportunity to solidify your actions that support your claimed beliefs then make the right stance and be the person that you claim to be.The reason our brain either feels good or bad which ties to our own personal happiness is all based on our choices because our choices represent who we are and what we stand for, so if you can't say what you want to say infront of your peers then don't pretend that you are high and mighty above all others when your loyalties change like the wind. If you choose to focus purely on what characteristics someone should have to deserve your loyalty will the ones you've been supporting fit the mould?. Think hard how do you feel when that person leaves the room after conversing with you? Are you sated by the mutual respect or do you feel the respect is one sided? Are you ashamed that you didn't stand up and say what you really think when they were out of line? Or are you ashamed at yourself when you agreed with their statements knowing they were out of line? Maybe the real problem is that we think we are better than our neighbour when we are more the same as those that we spend a lot of time trying to convince ourselves that our intentions are true and theirs is not.

CLEAR CONSCIENCE

We are constantly challenged by our own conscience to do the right thing when making decisions that may not only affect ourselves  but may also have and impact on others. Those decisions made purely on the angle of proving that we are a good person with a high moral standing will fail to hold true when we are tested to see if we are willing to stand by our claims no matter the circumstances. Our attempts to show others that our actions are in true alignment will fail if our behaviour isn't sincere, thats why It is solely our actions that show others who we really are and not our words. If we cannot justify our actions to our conscience we are forced  to manoeuvre around our moral compass and go against what we naturally feel is right all in the attempt to distract ourselves from the truth that we really are selfish. You cannot run from the truth because your conscience will catch up with you eventually. A clear conscience is the quickest pathway to happiness so without a clear conscience you will be stuck in limbo trying to work out why you are finding it so hard to be happy. You can find it nearly impossible to feel good when you dont have a clear conscience  so either you accept that you are who you are and own it or be a better actor and convince your toughest audience "You", that you are a good person even if your actions show otherwise and you may be able to start smiling again even if its all based on a big fat lie.

MOB MENTALITY

The mob mentality is all about pushing the differences between men versus women,  but all this tactic does is show us how alike we are. We are both equally focused only on our own group distracted by the negative noise polution that the opposition creates to sway our focus from our shared interests. The strategic distractions try to sway us with fear to forget that we are both chasing the same thing. We both crave to mean something to our friends and to our family. We also both desire to be seen as a positive impact on the world that we will one day leave behind, hopefully not to soon and long enough to be remembered as a positive force to be reckoned with. The fact that we try and deny our similarities and spend wasteful energy highlighting how we are better than the opposite sex is proof enough to cementify that we are cut from the same cloth and share many similar characteristics even the bad and stubborn ones. Our differences may separate us but its our similarities that help us relate to one another and bridge the gap that fear puts in-between us. So remember that without the companionship of the opposite sex the community will not grow and we will remain lost stuck fearing the differences of others all because we chose to stay focused only on ourselves. 

STRONG BODY, WEAK MIND

We spend alot of our time working on our bodies trying to make us look more appealing to ourselves and to others all in the name of being healthier and hopefully happier. We believe that once we've reached our ideal body image that happiness will soon follow, this would of been true if looks were everlasting and having a good mindset wasn't so important to anyone. Happiness that is focused purely on your body image will fail to hold relevance to those whom we are wanting to impress who may have higher expectations for us than what looks are able to hold on their own. If we focus our free time only on the body then we will leave the mind in a fragile state where our own negligence has failed to strengthen our mind to cope with the dramas that life may bring. Without a balanced mind we will drown in the anxiety that our neglect has created and struggle with anyone challenging our beliefs. A healthy mind will steer you in the right direction to happiness, without a good grasp of reality your mindset will find it harder to stand by you with the confidence that surety brings. You need to be confident in who you are and what you stand for otherwise peoples criticism will stick where you can't support your argument. So be sure that say what you believe and believe what you say otherwise the only words you'll utter when questioned why do you believe what you believe? is ahm.

NICE SOME OF THE TIME

We all like to think that we are a good person but on what measure of scale do we measure what makes a person good?. We all can't be good all of the time because if that were true why do we fight with one another when times get tough?. What motivates a person to be good? Is it karma that directs a person's intentions?. Or does the honour go to our own conscience which through persistence has eventually won by getting through to us past our stubborn side and successfully steering us in the direction of being good?. Whatever the motivation is that allows us to put others before ourselves and be as fair as is humanily possible, is our now new and improved self enough to cancel the wrongs we may have made in our past? The simplest way to answer the question are we a good person is to know the affect you have on others not only when you are infront of them but when you've left their presence. Are your peers left with neutral, positive or negative energy in your absence?, that is a question you could either confidently answer or you'd rather remain distracted because you might find yourself realising that what you ask of people is something you are not willing to do for them. So are you a good person or not?

DEFEND A FRIEND

Connecting with someone in your social circle beyond idle chit chat can help build up on a bond that goes beyond just being friendly. The unity you share with them helps strengthen your bond and cements the decision to treat them like family where you would do more for them than for any other person in your social circle. Friends with the added benefits of looking the other way when they break the rules, even at the cost of what is obviously ignoring your moral compass. You allow your friend to break the rules that you preach to others not to do or else because of your connection with your so called loyal friend and at the detriment of your own moral system. We defend the people we like and highlight the negative in the people we dont even if our friends share some similar characteristics to those that we complain about. If there is a change in the relationship and our friends cross the line too much where we can not ignore their disrespectful decisions we are forced to take our blinkers off and bare witness to whom our once loyal friend has become.  In the times we stopped putting them in check we compromised our own values, this was the same moment that they dishonoured our loyalty and made the repetitive mistake by confusing our kindness for a weakness because they thought that we didn't acknowledge their indiscretions. What you ignore today will come back twofold and you will find it impossible to ignore then so speak your mind before you lose your mind. 

ARE YOU A GOOD JUDGE OF CHARACTER?

We all like to think that we are a good judge of character, but in hindsight how many of us regret past decisions with past encounters. It is our past that shapes us into who we are, if we deny the honest mistakes that we've made in our past how can we appreciate the challenges that we've struggled through and overcame. It may have been our bad choices that have brought us down to our lowest state of mind but it was our courage to persevere that pulled us out of depth of depression and helped build up our resilience to handle any situation mad or not. Life without pain without any push back of difficult situations creates an ill prepared mind that will crumble when challenged. So closing your heart and your mind doesn't make you safer from hurt it makes you less resilient when the shit hits the fan. Stronger minds are open to the world all of it good and bad. Iife is not about surviving with an easier path choosing to focus only on the good and ignore the bad , life is about opening up and growing up being vulnerable to the world is how you feel the world. We are more than ourselves we are part of a community that's why when we feel the pain of those who are suffering we try to do what we can to alleviate their pain. Happy you happy me and remember stop helping those who only think of themselves otherwise you will be dragged in their misery. 

ALL IN THE SAME BOAT, BUT DIFFERENT

We all like to think that because we are all in the same boat that the odds are more likely that we will all share similar outcomes, but this is only true if we were all seen with the same torch in the same light. It is a part of human nature that we may click with some people easier than others, some of us no matter how hard you try interacting with them it feels like a grind match to even be in the same room. It is also human nature that we shield the ones we care about by any means possible, the better connection we have with them the more likely that we will position ourselves in danger in order to take the brunt of impact. Our relationships are tied to the roles that we have with one another, these roles once appointed are fused by the loyalties of friendship of which the bond becomes stronger in time with shared experiences. No matter the amount of disappointing circumstances that may arise to dishonour the so called honest bond you have with your companion going against your devoted companion can make you feel like another failure to add to your already bad decisions from your past. So stick with them even if it means you have to modify your core beliefs or maybe they will just become the person that they claim to be in time. Questioning the roles given would cast a negative view on the captain of the ship which is heresy. So know your role and learn to ignore the obvious underlying rule that you can ride safe passage for now but only for now because when anything goes pear shaped its because of your overpowering influence on your peers.

I CAN HEAR YOU, BUT IM NOT LISTENING

Throughout the day we converse with our peers in the hope that what we are saying to them is listened to and considered with an open mind. Whether the point or points we are making are connecting or not the lending of their ear with an open mind is enough to show us that they have been respectful during the discourse. Without showing mutual respect for one another the conversation is dead and can not be revived because a lack of respect for the party that you are trying to converse with will only make it harder for you in the end to be able to take in any of what they are trying to say,  good points or not. The key is to shut out the emotional side of you that steers you to a resentment towards the person and blocks your ability to listen to the points that they are trying to make. A bad person can still make a good point the moment you can look past your resentment for the person, will be the moment that you can grow from a lesson that was learned and not ignored all because of who was teaching the lesson. We are surrounded by peers that can teach us a thing or two about another perspective alternative to our own so dont let your arrogance only give them half of your time when you could be better off with their point of view.

BROKEN PHILOSOPHY

The further we distance ourselves from our true self the part of us that always stays true to our wants and needs no matter of the consequences, the quicker we lose our true potential value. It is within our capabilities to use our desires to reach our true potential but if we keep on changing our philosophy to suit the consensus so do we begin to lose our ourselves in the crowd of pressured acceptance. Choosing to break your philosophy will only take you away from your imbededed goals and lead you to a path that will never satisfy your true self. It is in our misdirected values that our passion to perform loses its spark and the motivation to support our actions becomes compromised with little to no impact on the world. Our effectiveness to perform is magnified when we are on the right path and happy. Life is about not letting the uncomfortable situations stop you from reaching your true happiness that comes when you have finally reached your desired goals, this can only be reached by being the best version of yourself that you can be. Its not about following a crowd that you don't agree with just for a smoother ride. So are you merely existing in a crowd that you dont want to be a part of or are you living to strive for the lifestyle you crave?. The choice is yours and so is the outcome.