RIGHT THAT'S WRONG

I may eventually be proven to be wrong but that doesn't mean i have to admit that i am, this is the attitude of those closed minded people who were never going to listen to anyone with a different point of view. This attitude is the result of them believing that the way that they do things is perfect in every way because they have got themselves down pat to a perfect way to be, so no amount of conversation can get them to see otherwise. These individuals will drag out conversation with a song and dance response when they are questioned about their opinions because they can see clearly that the end result won't favour their claimed viewpoints which will stand our to be contradictory to all that they've stood for. So if you don't want to feel that your conversation is going round and round with no point to be made then avoid talking to the hand and stop trying to educate the unwilling that wont listen. Better spend your valuable time talking to someone who is willing to listen before they make judgement of your claims.

HAZARD AHEAD

In hindsight we should of seen this coming is what we hear alot of people claim when the shit hits the fan, but is this outcome the result of someone neglecting to recognise the tell-tale signs or just someone that really had no idea that their choices would lead them to their own misfortune. If we are unable to connect the dots from our past to our present with the success of recognising the patterns of discomfort that have led us to our current misfortune, then we are condemned to repeat our errors. If we learn from the patterns that have led us to the dramas that have followed us, maybe we can gain foresight from our dealings. Foresight only comes into fruition when you don't ignore the issues at hand, if you don't be proactive and take control of your life when you see an opportunity to then you may as well wait until you fail to work out your next step. This inaction will only repeat until you make a choice to stop it in its tracks. So would you rather have the foresight to make the right choices or try and work yourself out once you hit the brick wall at full pace?.

AFRAID TO SAY

So many of us have opinions on the tip of our tongue but we are afraid to have our say heard because we believe speaking up means that we would be put in the line of fire. This fear that resides in us has us only speaking up when our opinion is part of the consensus. Avoiding conflict might be the easier pathway but it's not the right one because broadening the range of conversation can enable others to see a valid point that they might have missed. Voices need to be heard calmly and respectfully in order for real progress to be made. If we shut someone down before they make their point how can we say that we disagree with them. Disagreeing with someone shouldn't be seen as an attack on their beliefs its merely that you prefer to do things in the way that makes sense to you. Logical thought can vary from person to person this is reflected in what we choose to put on top of our priority list. As people tend to have different priorities we should be more understanding of our differences, because that is what makes us unique. That is why it is important to see that our appreciation of things can vary and how we choose to express ourselves will not always match how others express their appreciation. So we can't always expect to agree on everything but we should at least give each other a chance to explain why they believe what they believe otherwise you'll never learn anything different from those whos opinions varies from your own.

INDEPENDENCE

Growing up we are encouraged by those who care for us to reach for the stars for that they believe that with their guidance and our perseverance we can fulfil our dreams. The guiding process can vary from individual to individual based on how they take to achieving independent behaviour. Motivation plays a big part in guiding them to strive for more but when those who lend a hand are over reaching all this does is condition the reciever to crave the easier pathway where laziness follows. It is through tough times and experience that creates tough people and no amount of help will ever get someone out of a laziness rut that is instilled from a repetitive behaviour of avoidance. Experience is the best teacher so if you want help guide someone to a successful  destination then stop once you have guided them and let them take over their inherited responsibility because one day you will be unavailable and they will suffer from the consequences. 

FAKE PEOPLE

Fake people change their personality based on who they are socialising with, even if that means going against their personal cemented beliefs. They are able change their persona in an instant just to suit their current situation, the same way someone would put on a face mask on at a masquerade party just to camouflage their true identity. This is all done to mask any of their true intentions so that they can blend in with their new found company without any chance of conflict where now because of their chosen camouflage they are now able to steer the focus away from what may have possibly posed a problem, to there is no problem here because we all agree on the same things. Their personality may differ completely from their alter ego that they put on show but the overpowering rewards of having someone compliant even under false pretences is far more rewarding for them then the conflict that may have taken place if they had chosen to speak their mind. Fake people only care about the end result and not on how they got there. That's why their focus is only on the two possible outcomes with or without, and they do not want to be without. Morals and beliefs are either excused or modified to suit their current situation, which is why fake people need to remain persistent in order to manipulate those that they are wanting to control because people are much easier controlled if they feel that you're on their side no matter what. So if you'd rather not be fooled by a fake person, why don't you test them by saying something to them that you strongly don't agree with in order to see them agree with your set decoy.

LOYALTY LIMITS

Loyalty has to have its limits because without limits how can we support a value system thats ever changing. If we are loyal at any cost then we are at the mercy of the crowd  controlled pendulum that changes with the weight of the ever persuasive influences. The crowd now has become your voice even if you disagree with the direction it's going, this inaction affects the trending opinion which is now focused on a lie that doesn't reflect the will of the unspoken. So if you'd rather keep your loyalty sacred and your dignity honourable then don't change your mind in order to fit in. Changing to suit the popular vote will only take you further away from yourself so stay true to yourself by keeping your voice your  own so that you don't have to wait to hear the opinion of the influences  just to know which way the pendulum is going to swing for you. Remember it takes more guts to stand alone than with a crowd that you don't agree with and it takes more common sense to hold onto your own sense of mind.

BEYOND HELP

It is part of human nature to want to help people when they are in need, even when they are lacking the courage to ask for your help. As much as you would like to help someone all the time that you are able to, sometimes you are limited by your own resourcefulness. Not being resourceful enough may seem to be the biggest hurdle preventing you from solving the issues at hand but it's not the real reason people choose not to help those that are in need. The real reason that people are unwilling to help out our fellow man or woman is because we are all limited by the threshold of patience where we can only do so much for people before we lose ours. We all have our limits and when we see that we are using all that we have to help someone out and they are choosing to ignore our efforts by squandering their life we eventually give up. Once we recognise their patterns of failures we come to terms with the fact that no matter the efforts that we put in to help, some people are beyond help. No matter our level of resourcefulness we are unable to help those that are a glutton for punishment because they live for the drama in their lives and seem to be bored with the steadiness of order. Once we realise that the longer we try to help the unwilling the more likely that their broken down mentality will bring us down to a place where we struggle to stand proud again. So give all you got for them but remember to save a little resilience for yourself for your own sanity. 

VICTIMHOOD

We centre ourselves by controlling our emotions so that we don't ever react without the right purpose in mind. We do our best to harness any anger we may have in order to dull our frustrations and increase our own chances of keeping our bearings in check. Without this level of control we are more likely to repeat our mistakes which will strengthen the patterns of our own failures that will eventually lead us to a resentment where the victim stance is the only stand we know. Our victim mentality stands prominently to claim that we are blameless in a world where everything that is done to us is without warrant. This false narrative highlights that we are never at fault no matter what the other side claims. Victimhood is a state of mind where we've taken ourselves out of the equation of what may have lead to us receiving any negative attention and has us now focusing purely on the words "Why is it always me?". Each move we make is motioned by our state of mind where regret has no home because we strongly believe that we are in the right and our emotions are not misguided even though logical thought isn't taken into consideration. Without logical thought we are at the mercy of our emotions and in a place we are vulnerable to the hearsay of the crowd. So if you'd rather take your life out of someone else's hands then you have to start to take responsibility for yours and let your actions dictate your own direction and not the direction of the schemers of the world. 

STRESS DECLINING

When your stresses start to climb, there is only one way to help them decline, but the answer is uniquely different for each one of us. We all have our own way to de-stress which should never be compared to another persons methods of unwinding, for that your effort to compare their methods over yours is just your attempt to belittle anyone with a different point of view to your own. What may seem silly to you and even harder for you to comprehend is that what they do may not make sense to you but it just comes natural to those that you've tried ever so hard to pigeon hole. So please try to remember each to their own and you focus on you while i do me because I don't need help figuring who i am even though you may need a little help focusing only on you. We are not meant to be the same. Otherwise, our conversation will be so plain because it is our differences that make us exciting and unique. So I will de-stress however i see fit while you have the freedom to do whatever floats your boat and try your best to let others just be happy in their own self being rather than trying to re-educate them in your perceived version of them and you'll quickly notice that now you have more free time to yourself. So enjoy your free time to get to "know thyself" so that you can be the one that is actually enlightened and stop projecting you unsureity on those in your circle. 

HEAD IN THE SAND

Life can feel taxing when the stresses of the world take control over you. This is why it is very important that when you are prioritizing your goals that you should be focusing on trying to resolve today's problems rather than focusing on your distant future where you will still have time to plan ahead. If you ignore your current situation at hand, then your concerns will only stack higher and higher and build up at an incredible rate where it becomes harder and harder to deal with, which may manifest into anxiety. None of your so called problems will go away without being dealt with in the proper manner that is why you should not rush through the issues when considering your options and only move forward when you are ready to deal with the next problem. We all have our own personal limitations, and this will be heightened if we are distracted by the possible stresses that come when you are unprepared. It takes strength to tackle the issues you face head-on, and it also builds resilience when you are disciplined. So, rather than avoiding the challenges in front of you, broaden yourself by keeping an open mind to your own suffering and trying to develop the tough moments into positive character building qualities. This development will help remove your head from the sand and help you experience life in its entirety.