PATTERNS OF DISCOMFORT

How many times do the things that cause you discomfort have to repeat before we learn from them. Blinded by the bad repetitive behaviour we face, we are hopeful that the chances we give to others will eventually lead them to showing us the same respect that we have always showed them. The same issues that keep on arising are proof of someone being an opportunist who will always follow the same predictable patterns, "it's all about me philosophy". Nothing will change if you dont change it yourself by taking away their chance of opportunity. We are to blame if we let them disappreciate our value, for that we are not here to be their relief and saviour every time they get themselves into the deep end, especially when it is always going to be one sided. This would be okay if the respect shown were mutual but the moment you test a persons  loyalty is the moment you are disappointed by facts. They don't care about anyone but themselves, they believe the deserve more than the next person and they will never do half of what you do for them. So accept the fact that you are not appreciated and you will move forward once you cut your losses because of the time that you've felt that you have wasted trying to make the relationship work. Life is hard enough without having a so called friend dragging you down, so don't be hard on you be hard on them.

SHED SOME LIGHT

There are those of us who will not stop until we come to the truth of the matter, no matter how exhausting the experience might be. Our persistence to search for truth outweighs our fear of failure while others on the other hand are content with keeping things simple in their life and prefer not to explore to deep into  broader possibilities all because they are afraid of what they might discover. The uninterested are believer's in the philosophy better the devil you know than the one you dont, unlike those who are inquisitive who thirst for truth the others search for comfort in knowing just enough to see them through the day. They have convinced themselves that the comfortable option is the best option because that is what they have gotten use to, no risk no loss. The safer comfortable people dont want to look to deep into things because of the questions that might arise will lead to answers that they might not be prepared for which might shed light on the things that they have spent a whole lot of time trying to avoid. Finding out something new about themselves might go against the person that they claim to be so staying away from testing their claims is much easier for them. Standing in the dark may be working for you now but eventually you'll have to step in the light where you can't hide from the lies that you claim to stand by. Remember if you can't discuss what you think freely then maybe you don't really believe it, so better workout what you do stand for and do that. 

STAYING IN THE SHADE

Most of us live a sheltered life where we do our best to stay in control of our own fate in a way where we feel safe so that way we won't have to face living an unpleasant lifestyle. We choose the path without risk all so we can avoid the dangers that may arise in the real world where our power to perfectly plan our desired outcome dwindles because it is impossible to plan for everything. As john lennon famously said "Life is what happens when you are busy making plans" this rings true with people who have mapped out their life from career to partner to kids to everything in-between and then they feel like their world has fallen apart because they are still single at the age of 25. Life needs you to put a good solid effort into it, you cant just sit in your safe place and expect everything to fall in your lap. When life feels hard then do the best you can do because that is all you can do, the more we avoid the parts of the world that frighten us the weaker we become so embrace life good and bad in your life but dont let it control you. The moment you take in life with a positive attitude will be the moment you realise that you in charge  one step closer to making the most of your life, so be brave and take your first step forward. 

RACE FOR A FULL LIFE

When a loved one dies it's like they have gone into another room where the door handle is on the otherside of you and there is no way to reach them. There is no prejudice when death finally reaches you because death will come to us all rich or poor, black or white, young or old. No one knows when you'll reach the end of your finish line which is one of the reasons that makes time one of the most precious things we have. That is why it is so important to work on your priorities so that you wont waste your time procrastinating with the things that dont matter. No matter where you stand or how close you are to achieving your lifes goals death will stop you in your tracks without any care of your current position so you better use the time you have and hope you've done all that was humanily possible to have lived a good full life. We are alone in death but it doesn't mean we have to be alone in life so surround yourself with friends and family and live a full happy life so that when your card is called you are ready to smile at the blessing of life that you've lived.

JUST BE NICE

Truth and reality go out the window if politeness becomes more important than hurting the minds of the weak minded. Throughout all our life things either go the way we hoped for which makes us happy or we are unhappy because our lifes plans have gone pear shaped. No matter what cards we are dealt we deal with life's dramas the best we can because the only real choice we have is to be tougher than the tough times we have to face. Life is made up of memorable moments that we wish would last a lifetime and moments that we wish to forget sooner rather than later, but forgetting the tough times doesn't mean they didn't happen. Once you accept that there is no such life as one without the other you are able to finally get over it and move towards your next challenge. Being nice to someone is good but not at the detriment of others because wraping someone in cotton wool just so you can support their lies and cement their version of the truth will create chaos when the universal truth hits them hard because it doesn't support their made up truths. Alot of people rush in to be polite but at what cost if we keep on humouring those that find the truth and reality unbearable then our society will fracture because a community needs to be strong minded so that they can make the tough decisions that need to be made otherwise when the times get tougher we will be stuck with the delusional minded to work out the priorities of the now broken community. 

BROKEN LANGUAGES

When we learn an alternative language we equip ourselves with the right tool to remove the barriers that keep us in the dark when trying to understand what someone is trying to say to us in their learned language. Sometimes our lack of knowledge in someone else tongue puts us in a pitfall of thinking where we believe our chosen mastered language should be the prominent language because it is known by the majority of people in the country that we reside in, but if you only have the power of your own learned language at your disposal then you are missing out on the beauty of language and all that comes with it. Their are more than 7100 languages spoken in the world today what makes you think your chosen language should be the only one that makes sense?. You could make so much more sense out of the world if you stopped thinking that your language is the only one that's important. Language is a beautiful tool that helps us understand what we as people are trying to communicate to one another, it is in our own weakness of misinterpretation that fails to understand what makes sense for us in our learned vocabulary does not make sense for those who speak a different language. Just because you might have the right word to express yourself in your own language their might not even be a word to match in the alternative vocabulary. So appreciate what you know but also be aware that the more languages you can experience the more understanding you would have of the unknown. 

IGNORING BAD TRAITS

When you ignore the bad traits in someone just because it's easier to believe in the version of truth that you prefer, then you shouldn't be surprised by the bad outcome that follows all because you've chosen acceptance over doing the right thing when it mattered. Recognising the bad traits in someone but choosing to look past their indiscretions by tactfully switching your focus from the unpleasant feelings that your feeling that are inbuilt to keep you honest, but to choose to focus purely on the littlle positives that you take from your social interaction will only come back twofold when you finally realise that breaking your own morals will only taint your integrity. So when you are at these defining moments in your life that give you an opportunity to solidify your actions that support your claimed beliefs then make the right stance and be the person that you claim to be.The reason our brain either feels good or bad which ties to our own personal happiness is all based on our choices because our choices represent who we are and what we stand for, so if you can't say what you want to say infront of your peers then don't pretend that you are high and mighty above all others when your loyalties change like the wind. If you choose to focus purely on what characteristics someone should have to deserve your loyalty will the ones you've been supporting fit the mould?. Think hard how do you feel when that person leaves the room after conversing with you? Are you sated by the mutual respect or do you feel the respect is one sided? Are you ashamed that you didn't stand up and say what you really think when they were out of line? Or are you ashamed at yourself when you agreed with their statements knowing they were out of line? Maybe the real problem is that we think we are better than our neighbour when we are more the same as those that we spend a lot of time trying to convince ourselves that our intentions are true and theirs is not.

CLEAR CONSCIENCE

We are constantly challenged by our own conscience to do the right thing when making decisions that may not only affect ourselves  but may also have and impact on others. Those decisions made purely on the angle of proving that we are a good person with a high moral standing will fail to hold true when we are tested to see if we are willing to stand by our claims no matter the circumstances. Our attempts to show others that our actions are in true alignment will fail if our behaviour isn't sincere, thats why It is solely our actions that show others who we really are and not our words. If we cannot justify our actions to our conscience we are forced  to manoeuvre around our moral compass and go against what we naturally feel is right all in the attempt to distract ourselves from the truth that we really are selfish. You cannot run from the truth because your conscience will catch up with you eventually. A clear conscience is the quickest pathway to happiness so without a clear conscience you will be stuck in limbo trying to work out why you are finding it so hard to be happy. You can find it nearly impossible to feel good when you dont have a clear conscience  so either you accept that you are who you are and own it or be a better actor and convince your toughest audience "You", that you are a good person even if your actions show otherwise and you may be able to start smiling again even if its all based on a big fat lie.

MOB MENTALITY

The mob mentality is all about pushing the differences between men versus women,  but all this tactic does is show us how alike we are. We are both equally focused only on our own group distracted by the negative noise polution that the opposition creates to sway our focus from our shared interests. The strategic distractions try to sway us with fear to forget that we are both chasing the same thing. We both crave to mean something to our friends and to our family. We also both desire to be seen as a positive impact on the world that we will one day leave behind, hopefully not to soon and long enough to be remembered as a positive force to be reckoned with. The fact that we try and deny our similarities and spend wasteful energy highlighting how we are better than the opposite sex is proof enough to cementify that we are cut from the same cloth and share many similar characteristics even the bad and stubborn ones. Our differences may separate us but its our similarities that help us relate to one another and bridge the gap that fear puts in-between us. So remember that without the companionship of the opposite sex the community will not grow and we will remain lost stuck fearing the differences of others all because we chose to stay focused only on ourselves. 

STRONG BODY, WEAK MIND

We spend alot of our time working on our bodies trying to make us look more appealing to ourselves and to others all in the name of being healthier and hopefully happier. We believe that once we've reached our ideal body image that happiness will soon follow, this would of been true if looks were everlasting and having a good mindset wasn't so important to anyone. Happiness that is focused purely on your body image will fail to hold relevance to those whom we are wanting to impress who may have higher expectations for us than what looks are able to hold on their own. If we focus our free time only on the body then we will leave the mind in a fragile state where our own negligence has failed to strengthen our mind to cope with the dramas that life may bring. Without a balanced mind we will drown in the anxiety that our neglect has created and struggle with anyone challenging our beliefs. A healthy mind will steer you in the right direction to happiness, without a good grasp of reality your mindset will find it harder to stand by you with the confidence that surety brings. You need to be confident in who you are and what you stand for otherwise peoples criticism will stick where you can't support your argument. So be sure that say what you believe and believe what you say otherwise the only words you'll utter when questioned why do you believe what you believe? is ahm.