SIGNS OF NICENESS

Being nice some of the time to prove a point might be enough for you to feel good about yourself but most people base their opinion of you on the majority of the time. If you have to prove that your intentions are good and your heart is pure then you don't have much faith in you what your actions are showing. Being yourself is not a performance act, it should just be a natural action that reflects what you are like when the lime light isn't on you without the forced filters that highlight all of us as flawless human beings. One of peoples biggest flaws is that we try to act in a way that we think our peers want us to be like but who are we fooling because this decision will catch up with us in the end when we are trying to work out what went wrong. Life is about figuring yourself out the sooner you come to terms with who you really are the sooner the charade can end and the sooner you can reach your true goals. 

FORCE MY HAND

We like to believe that fair is fair, you do what is right for you and I'll do what is right for me because your business doesn't have to be my business. This may be the ideal way of thinking in most circumstances but when conflicts do arise all because of a difference of opinion the only outcome left is to push forward your perspective even though the road will get bumpier when conflict hits. Your stance now is forced to adapt to the current situation at hand and accept that your opinion is as important as those who have shunned your point of view and tried to speak over you to highlight the importance of their own words. Your choice to stand up for what you believe in is the only move you have left otherwise your fate will be at the mercy of others. Those people who have gotten comfortable always getting their way will get a rude awakening when they realise there is more to a situation than their own point of view.

THATS BIASED, I THINK

Some people spend more time trying to find problems with a situation than trying to accept that things are the way they are. Even when there is no real issues they spend time nitpicking to find fault so that they can feel justified in any action they decide to take. They are largely influenced by their biased beliefs, which prevents anyone changing their mind. They will use any tactic at their disposal to entrap a person into showing them their bad side just to prove that their negative judgement makes sense. They spend a lot of their time making themselves unapproachable  so that they can play the victim card when nobody wants to spend any time with them. This tactic stops them from pursuing most things because it takes courage to try to make  things work and if they don't try to work on things that are difficult then they technically didn't fail. Making themselves unapproachable sometimes can have the opposite affect when a person starts to feel sorry for them and gives them more attention than they deserve. To them it is better to get any attention than no attention at all. This pattern gets monotonous and so does the rut that they have put themselves in. People will help you out of the hole you put yourself in but you need to be nice and appreciate them otherwise enjoy your ride of pattern of disappointment that will go on and on until you accept your responsible for your own life, no one is to be blamed for your choices. 

I HAVE YOUR BACK

We like to believe that the people that we share our time with will all have our back when it counts, but this is a presumption that can leave us with a bad taste in the mouth. The problem is that we assume if the shoe was on the other foot and if the chance were to arise that everyone would do what we would do for them, but what comes natural for us is not always the same for others. What we consider is a natural way to treat those we spend time with can be far from what others perceive should be a natural way for them because they believe if they were to do anything differently it will go against the grain and they will lose any of their standings all because they went against the usual way of doing things. Expecting that your peers would follow suit will only highlight your relationship standings with them by uncovering the truth of what they would truly do to keep your bond strong. Karma doesn't always come around to teach people the lesson of "Treat people how you would like to be treated", so you can either accept that you can either treat people better than they will treat you or you can stop being a doormat for those who feel that they dont owe you the respect that you always show them. 

NOT ALL SPONGES ARE THE SAME

Alot of parents like to blame themselves for the mistakes that their kids make believing that their kids wouldnt of made any errors if they themselves were better at teaching them the right way to do things. This is nonsense because the limitations of a child can affect their abilities to not only take in the information that you give to them but also the child's own inability to transform that information into practice. We like to think that the more information that we give to our kids the more likely that they will take in the information and transform it into positive energy that will show their acquired talent  on cue. A child's brain may be capable of absorbing the information like a sponge but being able to use it when needed is easier said than done. Playing Beethoven while they are in the womb will not create musicians, getting them to play golf young will not get them to grow up to be like Tiger Woods. Life would be so much simpler if the resources given could translate to talent gained. We are what we are capable of but discovering your limits is only reached when you push yourself out of your comfort zone. So don't quit until you are the better version of yourself and mostly don't give up on the person that you could be.

MY HEADSPACE

Some people live alot of their life in their head space where their insecurities affect how they interact with others. This isn't based on how the are treated by others but more on how they feel when in they are in groups. No matter how people treat them they put it onto themselves to make themselves uncomfortable even though their negative interpretation isn't really justified. They believe that they are alone which reinforces their initial negative thoughts that they shouldn't converse with anyone in the group because they believe that they do not have anything positive to add to the group. Feeling like you don't belong to the group can start to make you feel resentment of those who you interact with who have done nothing to justify your cynacle behaviour. We can be our worst critic especially when we focus on things that aren't true. This can easily be rectified by adding a positive attitude to the group and by treating people with respect.  Nobody needs a bad attitude directed to them all because you have made yourself feel lonely and dont keep on expecting people to continuously make you feel better, it is your job to keep your head space in a positive mode.

I DONT HAVE THAT

One of societies biggest problems is that people are constantly comparing themselves to their peers. People irrationally believe that their circumstances arent fair because they don't have the same things as their peers. They fail to recognise that if they had what ever their peers has it is only a tip of the Iceberg, and you can't claim the good parts without claiming what sacrifices were made to accomplish the end result. These sacrifices could be to great of a loss that you are willing to forgo. We shouldn't measure ourselves on the bases of what others have accomplished because it only takes away our own efforts. We may be similar in our wants but we vary in what we are willing to do to get what we want.  Our line of discomfort is different for each of us this is measured by our threshold so be glad for what you've accomplished in you own threshold and don't assume the grass is greener on the other side because it generally isn't.

I DO IT FOR YOUR BENEFIT

Alot of people claim that they know better than their peers and that if they were ever caught in the same situation that they wouldnt hesitate when making the only right decision. Those same people will use every opportunity they get to take any advantage they can, even at the detriment of someone elses lifestyle. They will use any tactic in their arsenal to keep valuable information away from their peers who might be influenced to make an informed decision that might not suit their own personal agenda all in the guise of, I do it to benefit them. The truth is being a control freak is limiting your trust with your peers because by taking away their ability to make their own choices your decision to withhold information keeps the power of knowledge in your hands and dumbs down their ability to choose correctly. The world is a sphere of possibilities not a cage of control so let others make their own choices with the same advantages you have in life and let lifes challenges be its own lesson for them to grow and eventually be rewarded. 

THATS WHAT I THOUGHT

We all have found ourselves one time or another telling people what we would do if we were in their position. This is easy enough to do when the consequences don't have any bearing on our own lifestyle. Making decisions without the pressure of consequences takes away the factors that you consider when evaluating your preferences. Opinions based on your life experiences can vary from opinions that are based on assumptions. This is why you shouldn't presume what is good for you would be right for another person. You would more than likely make different decisions for your own lifestyle than a peer might make but whatever they decide to do they alone will walk their own path and nobody has the right to claim they know better. We must make our own choices in life but with the same philosophy of understanding that we also must take responsibility for our own decisions. No one can force you in a direction you don't want to go that's why an alcoholic shouldn't blame a bottle shop for selling him alcohol and a gambler shouldn't blame a casino for taking his bet. We are adults and as adults we need to take responsibility for our choices even if we keep on repeating the same mistakes over and over again. The world does not owe any of us anything we owe the world to be better and if we find it challenging than ask the world politely for help.

I THINK I LIKE IT

Throughout the different stages of our life we discover that there are so many unique interests that we could invest our free time in, this is an essential part of our journey of self discovery. It is through this trial and error of process that we work out what we like and what we dont like. This process gets us closer to work out what makes us tick and and what steps we need take to reach our desired goals. The challenge is to discover what keeps you interested as quickly as you can so you don't waste your time by following what others say you should follow. Your interests shouldn't be motivated by what's popular, you need to be honest with what you like even if it doesn't go with the rest of the public.  Some people don't know what to like so they attach themselves to other peoples interests which will only end up doing a dishonour to themselves. So choose what you like without trying to predict what are my friends and family going to think and you'll find comfort with like minded people who genuinely share your same interests.