ON THE EDGE

Tolerance can only take you so far. Once you are exhausted of refraining, the opposite response becomes prominent. Your bias is now apparent and in charge of all of your emotions, removing any chances of your logical side taking over. Your ability to control yourself slips away, and you are left with a raw response that doesn't always reflect what you think but more on how you are feeling at this specific moment in time. Regret soon follows once you have released your built-up tension by venting all of your frustrations on some undeserving person, which is nearly  impossible to take back. We all have our limits and whether we stop ourselves before we unleash mayhem onto our unsuspecting peers it is up to us to manage our emotions to what we best believe reflects the person that we want to be. So whether you want to be known for your patience or just seen as an angry person, remember that before you get to the edge and explode.

BOTTLE UP

People who bottle up their emotions believe that holding it all in is the better alternative. They feel that burying their frustrations is better than dealing with them when their problems begin to arise even though this is only ever going to be a temporary solution. Avoiding your problems at first may be a quick fix solution, but your problems will still be around the corner waiting for you twofold to ambush you when you are ill prepared. So prioritising your dilemmas is the only way to get a handle on them, this will allow you to put them in an order of urgency, which will help you create a checklist of importance. These problems at hand need to be your focus point and be treated with the respect they deserve because your mental state is on the line. If we neglect the issues when they are minor issues, then we are doing ourselves an injustice because there can be no good in dodging the inevitable . So respect yourself by allowing your mind to tackle the dramas in your life rather than letting your dramas take your life over and swamp you in a place that may lead to your depression because you are better than that.

PERCEPTON DECAY

As we grow older, our recollection of the past can differ from what we have remembered it to be like, almost unrecognisable from the actual events that took place. Through the passing of time, our life memories decay slowly as our brain fills up with new memories from the experiences that we are now facing and tries to decipher the new memories into organised categories. Whether the new memories are pleasant ones or traumatic ones, our brain does its best to make sense of our mindset that is in disarray, but this is no easy task. The facts of the matter can be construed on what we believe did happen from what actually happened because  sometimes our perspective is tainted by unresolved issues that have led us to take a biased point of view which creates a false narrative. Fresh memories that are based on all the facts considered are more likely to be reliable where time hasn't managed to sprinkle a little fairy dust on it. As kids, we tend to react more before we investigate, whereas adults tend to pay a bit more focus on the attention to detail. So where nostalgia can make you feel that you miss the good old days, it probably felt different when you were growing up as that child. It is probably better to focus on the now rather than reminiscing in your past life tales and much better for your mental state. So think forward and leave the past in the distance.

RIGHT THAT'S WRONG

I may eventually be proven to be wrong but that doesn't mean i have to admit that i am, this is the attitude of those closed minded people who were never going to listen to anyone with a different point of view. This attitude is the result of them believing that the way that they do things is perfect in every way because they have got themselves down pat to a perfect way to be, so no amount of conversation can get them to see otherwise. These individuals will drag out conversation with a song and dance response when they are questioned about their opinions because they can see clearly that the end result won't favour their claimed viewpoints which will stand our to be contradictory to all that they've stood for. So if you don't want to feel that your conversation is going round and round with no point to be made then avoid talking to the hand and stop trying to educate the unwilling that wont listen. Better spend your valuable time talking to someone who is willing to listen before they make judgement of your claims.

HAZARD AHEAD

In hindsight we should of seen this coming is what we hear alot of people claim when the shit hits the fan, but is this outcome the result of someone neglecting to recognise the tell-tale signs or just someone that really had no idea that their choices would lead them to their own misfortune. If we are unable to connect the dots from our past to our present with the success of recognising the patterns of discomfort that have led us to our current misfortune, then we are condemned to repeat our errors. If we learn from the patterns that have led us to the dramas that have followed us, maybe we can gain foresight from our dealings. Foresight only comes into fruition when you don't ignore the issues at hand, if you don't be proactive and take control of your life when you see an opportunity to then you may as well wait until you fail to work out your next step. This inaction will only repeat until you make a choice to stop it in its tracks. So would you rather have the foresight to make the right choices or try and work yourself out once you hit the brick wall at full pace?.

AFRAID TO SAY

So many of us have opinions on the tip of our tongue but we are afraid to have our say heard because we believe speaking up means that we would be put in the line of fire. This fear that resides in us has us only speaking up when our opinion is part of the consensus. Avoiding conflict might be the easier pathway but it's not the right one because broadening the range of conversation can enable others to see a valid point that they might have missed. Voices need to be heard calmly and respectfully in order for real progress to be made. If we shut someone down before they make their point how can we say that we disagree with them. Disagreeing with someone shouldn't be seen as an attack on their beliefs its merely that you prefer to do things in the way that makes sense to you. Logical thought can vary from person to person this is reflected in what we choose to put on top of our priority list. As people tend to have different priorities we should be more understanding of our differences, because that is what makes us unique. That is why it is important to see that our appreciation of things can vary and how we choose to express ourselves will not always match how others express their appreciation. So we can't always expect to agree on everything but we should at least give each other a chance to explain why they believe what they believe otherwise you'll never learn anything different from those whos opinions varies from your own.

INDEPENDENCE

Growing up we are encouraged by those who care for us to reach for the stars for that they believe that with their guidance and our perseverance we can fulfil our dreams. The guiding process can vary from individual to individual based on how they take to achieving independent behaviour. Motivation plays a big part in guiding them to strive for more but when those who lend a hand are over reaching all this does is condition the reciever to crave the easier pathway where laziness follows. It is through tough times and experience that creates tough people and no amount of help will ever get someone out of a laziness rut that is instilled from a repetitive behaviour of avoidance. Experience is the best teacher so if you want help guide someone to a successful  destination then stop once you have guided them and let them take over their inherited responsibility because one day you will be unavailable and they will suffer from the consequences. 

FAKE PEOPLE

Fake people change their personality based on who they are socialising with, even if that means going against their personal cemented beliefs. They are able change their persona in an instant just to suit their current situation, the same way someone would put on a face mask on at a masquerade party just to camouflage their true identity. This is all done to mask any of their true intentions so that they can blend in with their new found company without any chance of conflict where now because of their chosen camouflage they are now able to steer the focus away from what may have possibly posed a problem, to there is no problem here because we all agree on the same things. Their personality may differ completely from their alter ego that they put on show but the overpowering rewards of having someone compliant even under false pretences is far more rewarding for them then the conflict that may have taken place if they had chosen to speak their mind. Fake people only care about the end result and not on how they got there. That's why their focus is only on the two possible outcomes with or without, and they do not want to be without. Morals and beliefs are either excused or modified to suit their current situation, which is why fake people need to remain persistent in order to manipulate those that they are wanting to control because people are much easier controlled if they feel that you're on their side no matter what. So if you'd rather not be fooled by a fake person, why don't you test them by saying something to them that you strongly don't agree with in order to see them agree with your set decoy.

LOYALTY LIMITS

Loyalty has to have its limits because without limits how can we support a value system thats ever changing. If we are loyal at any cost then we are at the mercy of the crowd  controlled pendulum that changes with the weight of the ever persuasive influences. The crowd now has become your voice even if you disagree with the direction it's going, this inaction affects the trending opinion which is now focused on a lie that doesn't reflect the will of the unspoken. So if you'd rather keep your loyalty sacred and your dignity honourable then don't change your mind in order to fit in. Changing to suit the popular vote will only take you further away from yourself so stay true to yourself by keeping your voice your  own so that you don't have to wait to hear the opinion of the influences  just to know which way the pendulum is going to swing for you. Remember it takes more guts to stand alone than with a crowd that you don't agree with and it takes more common sense to hold onto your own sense of mind.

BEYOND HELP

It is part of human nature to want to help people when they are in need, even when they are lacking the courage to ask for your help. As much as you would like to help someone all the time that you are able to, sometimes you are limited by your own resourcefulness. Not being resourceful enough may seem to be the biggest hurdle preventing you from solving the issues at hand but it's not the real reason people choose not to help those that are in need. The real reason that people are unwilling to help out our fellow man or woman is because we are all limited by the threshold of patience where we can only do so much for people before we lose ours. We all have our limits and when we see that we are using all that we have to help someone out and they are choosing to ignore our efforts by squandering their life we eventually give up. Once we recognise their patterns of failures we come to terms with the fact that no matter the efforts that we put in to help, some people are beyond help. No matter our level of resourcefulness we are unable to help those that are a glutton for punishment because they live for the drama in their lives and seem to be bored with the steadiness of order. Once we realise that the longer we try to help the unwilling the more likely that their broken down mentality will bring us down to a place where we struggle to stand proud again. So give all you got for them but remember to save a little resilience for yourself for your own sanity.