SCRAP AND START AGAIN

Times seem to be going in a direction that no one could of ever predicted. What used to be considered simple is now confusing for the most of us who have regarded the lessons in our classroom as factual. When we had a hypothesis in science or psychology we would do an experiment to test our claims which  provided us with proof that our claims were either true or proven to be false. We now have been informed that what we've grown up to know as factual is all wrong and is based on an archaic way of thinking by those who need to justify their own version of the truth. Nuanced thinkers acknowledge that a person has multiple characteristics that can not be easily characterised and should not be placed in the same box as others even though they may share many similarities. Our differences of opinions put us at loggerheads with each other more than ever before arguing about how science is wrong and psychology is more about a persons own perception of themselves rather than the universal truth that keeps them grounded in a shared reality that we are all apart of no matter how unique we think we are. Their truth is more important than what the majority may see as true and their views dont have to be connected to the universal truth because their personal truth is much more satisfying than the unpleasant truths that go against what they themselves consider logical, so its easier and better to push away anyone or anything that may take away your false confidence rather than facing the universal truth by accepting the philosophy it is what it is, so embracing the truth will set you free and you won't need to wonder why you are getting angry all the time. Your life your freedom of choice, but don't you go sacrificing my freedoms because your freedoms shouldn't come at the expense of mine.

CHILD TO ADULT

Our past self is but an echo of who we use to be sometimes unrecognisable to who we've now grown up to become. Would our younger self approve of the changes that you've made on their behalf and be proud to recognise that they were the first step that guided us to become the person that we are today or will they feel ashamed that we've changed so much from the person that they were hoping to become. Growing up we all have hopes and dreams that are lost when we are forced face the world with a sense of maturity that pushes us to hold onto whats real rather than a childhood fantasy that can be too risky to pursue. Our choices are weighed and decisions are made for what we believe is the betterment of our desired lifestyle, but is it better to choose the odds that are in your favour and let go of your childhood dreams? or deny what is real now to chase the dreams that might lead you to a utopian lifestyle?. Most people before making any life changing decisions weigh the impact it has on them to determine what is the mature decision whether its to pursue or to let go. We may believe that if we had the chance to turn the clock back we would choose a different path but the truth is the decisions that we made were made with a clear conscience. So don't be hard on yourself because your younger version will grow to understand the choices that you've made were the right choices for the both of you.

ONE INTEREST, ONE FOCUS

We are  continuously exploring ourselves trying to work out what our priorities are by focusing on what interests us the most. Interests can come and go as quickly as we discover them but only a few will stick with us. Some of us are lucky enough that we have multiple interests which enables us to choose our options of interests and spread them out throughout our day never to be bored. On the opposite scale there are others who are captivated only by a few options of interests and prefer to keep things simpler with less interests to focus on. These individuals have more time to perfect their interests with less distractions to interrupt them from what they are currently focusing on. Is life more rewarding if you enjoy more things? Or Is life better if you focused on less allowing you to take in everything about your chosen interests and be one with your interest. Those who only focus on one thing become masters in their chosen field but at what cost?. Is the depth of your character measured by the amount of your interests youve claimed to have? Or Is your choice to focus on one interests a good representation that you are committed to your chosen interests?. Whatever you choose to focus on as long as it adds to your happiness there is no need to find an excuse for it because we are our interests and we should be proud of the things that we choose to spend our free time doing.

TO BE OR NOT BE CLOSE FRIENDS

Whether you're an acquaintance, friend or close friend what does it take to climb the ladder of friendship so that others will be able to call you a close friend? Some might say time and shared experiences is the answer to build up enough rapport to be able to call someone a close friend and as logical as that may sound the true answer is its really about boundaries. You could share a lifetime of experiences with someone but if they place boundaries on what is a permitable topic of conversation that can be discussed this might not align with what your preferences of conversation are. Restrictions to conversation will take away any lingering topics on your mind and push them away out of bounds to be ignored because it isnt a desirable topic of conversation for your so called close friend. Some people will meet someone for the first time and feel instantly comfortable enough to talk about anything with no set boundaries to taint the direction of the conversation. This type of connection can surpass any limited long term relationship in a vast quicker time frame. Close friends are their to support you by giving you their ear and their advice without restrictions of boundaries getting in the way of a deep and meaningful conversation. Close friends don't want to let you down because they believe in treating you with the same respect you treat them. So you may easily call someone your close friend but when you try to initiate a sensitive conversation will they stop you in your tracks and give you their ear?

CANT WE ALL JUST GET ALONG

Most people get along with most types of people quite easily with the help of their  social skills. Whether you chatting to someone about common interests or your intrigued by topics that you know nothing about, the drive to be social comes with many rewards. We as people a sociable creatures most of what we do we like to do with others, whether its because sharing our experiences with others heightens our own personal experiences or its just purely for the reason to get to know someone on a more personal level we are driven to socialise. Life without friends or family time can feel a little pointless because acquaintances can only get your social meter so far and you cant expect any acquaintance to go out of their way to accommodate for any of your unfair requests. Life truly feels more fulfilling when you share your experiences with your friends and family who will back you up when you  need it and help you when you are struggling with the pot holes of life because of the long term emotional connection you'll always have their support when you feel sad and lost. So socialise and be happy in knowing that an independent person may be strong alone but a group full of friends and family will always conquer.

SAME SAME, BUT DIFFERENT

We are all creatures of habit and because of this we can easily overlook the things that we are constantly complaining about that can also be found in our own set routines. This is mostly a problem for those who spend most of their time looking outwards and never in. It is even harder for those who are bitter and full of resentment to connect the dots between their personal frustrations with their peers and the things that they do themselves regularly enough that don't differ that much from those that they feel very comfortable to complain about. It is understandable to see that some time or another that we all may show a little hypocrisy in our actions but a little may be the result of you not feeling yourself because your having a bad day whereas those whose majority of their conversation consists of complaining about others it is obvious that they are only happy when they are putting someone down. If someone finds it easier to complain about the actions of others than striking up an interesting conversation then maybe they should spare a moment of their time to explore what about their own life isn't worth talking about in a positive light when they are conversing with their peers. There has to be more topics of conversation than what's wrong why not mix it up a little and talk about what's right with the world and see if others will gravitate towards your positivity. What do you have to lose other than your negative aura?.

PLEASE SIR CAN I HAVE SOME MORE MORAL?

Your outlook on life is heavily reliant on your chosen environment whether you are surrounded by positive energy that is uplifting to your spirit or negative energy that keeps you down in a place where you feel at your most insecure it is up to you to choose your environment carefully. No matter on the strength of your spirit, being tested on a daily basis you might of convinced yourself that its character building and it will increase your endurance but is the constant barrage good for your moral?. It is hard to stay true to yourself if your moral is low because your moral is what motivates you to move forward when your feeling down and you don't know what to do. During the tough times when you can feel disheartened by the dilemmas your facing it is only the show of moral that has the power to lift your spirit up and without the presence of moral we become robotic by showing no emotions. In robotic mode we only do the bare necessary without the extra effort that you normally would put in when your moral is high and feel good about what you are doing . Our undesirable chosen environment tries to push away the humanity in us because it is the humanity that connects us to our moral. Knowing one's self is the grandest task of all and going against what feels right is bad for your soul hence will only lead you to unhappiness. So follow your heart and keep your moral intact otherwise your choices will lead you to a place where you find it impossible to justify the reasoning behind your choices.

RIGHT TO BE RICH

The rich will always think they're right because they believe the masses that they have acrued represents that all their choices in life are always going to be spot on even the ones that don't concern finances. It is hard for them to see that they could be wrong when they are surrounded by so much wealth but as much as they can afford all the materials that money can buy without a balanced mindset it is easy to lose sight of what their money can not reach. Not everything has a price tag loyalty from close friends that are there by your side because of your honourable qualities and not there because of the size of wallet. A man with less money and more true friends is richer than a rich man with no true friends only paid ones. Respect goes along way further than money will ever reach, respect from your peers can not be bought and if it could why would anyone ever want respect that wasn't earnt and based purely on what you paid for it. If you were a (wo)man of your worth you would only want what you have earned fairly knowing that you followed the rules and didn't step on anyone to climb the hierarchical ladder just to reach your goal. The satisfaction of being triumphant honourably will fill you up with satisfaction that rings true through your whole body that builds a solid foundation that good people will flock to. If you achieve success dishonesty you will be left feeling shameful, so be proud to be good instead let the dishonest be alone wasting their money on those who will leave the moment the money leaves.

SAME WORD USED DIFFERENTLY

Words only have true meaning if they are factual and are based in reality which inturn helps reassure those who are conversing that you are following the conversation and that the points that you are making are not being misconstrued. When the majority of the population agree that the true meaning of a certain word has a universal meaning that goes beyond all cultural differences ignoring its functional side leaves the unrelenting few  grasping at only whats left which is the irrational thought process that is hard to support because it is based on feelings while true meaning is based on reality and how it connects to the truth. The world would be simpler if it was based on multiple truths because then there would be no need to compromise our beliefs but the harsh facts of life are based on a universal truth which is connected to all of us whether we take part or deny in its existence their is no changing what is fact. If you base you beliefs on something that is not real you will have a hard awakening when the truth hits you like a brick so stop sweeping your issues under the rug and deal with the truths infront of you before your left looking dumbfounded by the questions you can't answer.

LOOKING LIKE IT, DOESN'T MAKE YOU IT

Sometimes someone admires someone so much that they will do anything to be exactly like the one that they admire but all they know about that particular person is what they see on a superficial level. What a person looks is only a small part of who they are and how they choose to represent themselves is not always interpreted in the way that they themselves intended it to, alot of their true character is lost in your translation of them. Twins may share alot of similarities but that doesn't mean that they feel the same inside, so trying to mimic someones appearance just to make you feel closer to them doesn't change that you still are the same person underneath. In life you must accept yourself as you are but if you dont like something about yourself it's okay to look to others for inspiration for qualities that you admire, as long as it is not at the detriment of losing yourself.  Its easy to make judgements based on a lack of information when your trying to compare your life to those you admire but you need to remember that the grass always looks greener from a far. Falling in the trap of needing the approval of others just to justify your insecurities will have you feeling on edge all the time so let the inspiration of others guide you not control you. Generally speaking we look for patterns in the things we focus on so that we can find common ground this is to better understand how we as people work and what motivates us to do what we do this doesn't mean every single instance has to be the same for everyone, it just means that when it counts most that we are more alike than different which is not as bad as people make it to be as if they feel they have to be different to stand out. So don't lose yourself in doubting your part in the grand scheme of things we are all important even if we don't fit the mould, just make sure that what motivates you is real not rushed.