I HAVE YOUR BACK

We like to believe that the people that we share our time with will all have our back when it counts, but this is a presumption that can leave us with a bad taste in the mouth. The problem is that we assume if the shoe was on the other foot and if the chance were to arise that everyone would do what we would do for them, but what comes natural for us is not always the same for others. What we consider is a natural way to treat those we spend time with can be far from what others perceive should be a natural way for them because they believe if they were to do anything differently it will go against the grain and they will lose any of their standings all because they went against the usual way of doing things. Expecting that your peers would follow suit will only highlight your relationship standings with them by uncovering the truth of what they would truly do to keep your bond strong. Karma doesn't always come around to teach people the lesson of "Treat people how you would like to be treated", so you can either accept that you can either treat people better than they will treat you or you can stop being a doormat for those who feel that they dont owe you the respect that you always show them. 

NOT ALL SPONGES ARE THE SAME

Alot of parents like to blame themselves for the mistakes that their kids make believing that their kids wouldnt of made any errors if they themselves were better at teaching them the right way to do things. This is nonsense because the limitations of a child can affect their abilities to not only take in the information that you give to them but also the child's own inability to transform that information into practice. We like to think that the more information that we give to our kids the more likely that they will take in the information and transform it into positive energy that will show their acquired talent  on cue. A child's brain may be capable of absorbing the information like a sponge but being able to use it when needed is easier said than done. Playing Beethoven while they are in the womb will not create musicians, getting them to play golf young will not get them to grow up to be like Tiger Woods. Life would be so much simpler if the resources given could translate to talent gained. We are what we are capable of but discovering your limits is only reached when you push yourself out of your comfort zone. So don't quit until you are the better version of yourself and mostly don't give up on the person that you could be.

MY HEADSPACE

Some people live alot of their life in their head space where their insecurities affect how they interact with others. This isn't based on how the are treated by others but more on how they feel when in they are in groups. No matter how people treat them they put it onto themselves to make themselves uncomfortable even though their negative interpretation isn't really justified. They believe that they are alone which reinforces their initial negative thoughts that they shouldn't converse with anyone in the group because they believe that they do not have anything positive to add to the group. Feeling like you don't belong to the group can start to make you feel resentment of those who you interact with who have done nothing to justify your cynacle behaviour. We can be our worst critic especially when we focus on things that aren't true. This can easily be rectified by adding a positive attitude to the group and by treating people with respect.  Nobody needs a bad attitude directed to them all because you have made yourself feel lonely and dont keep on expecting people to continuously make you feel better, it is your job to keep your head space in a positive mode.

I DONT HAVE THAT

One of societies biggest problems is that people are constantly comparing themselves to their peers. People irrationally believe that their circumstances arent fair because they don't have the same things as their peers. They fail to recognise that if they had what ever their peers has it is only a tip of the Iceberg, and you can't claim the good parts without claiming what sacrifices were made to accomplish the end result. These sacrifices could be to great of a loss that you are willing to forgo. We shouldn't measure ourselves on the bases of what others have accomplished because it only takes away our own efforts. We may be similar in our wants but we vary in what we are willing to do to get what we want.  Our line of discomfort is different for each of us this is measured by our threshold so be glad for what you've accomplished in you own threshold and don't assume the grass is greener on the other side because it generally isn't.

I DO IT FOR YOUR BENEFIT

Alot of people claim that they know better than their peers and that if they were ever caught in the same situation that they wouldnt hesitate when making the only right decision. Those same people will use every opportunity they get to take any advantage they can, even at the detriment of someone elses lifestyle. They will use any tactic in their arsenal to keep valuable information away from their peers who might be influenced to make an informed decision that might not suit their own personal agenda all in the guise of, I do it to benefit them. The truth is being a control freak is limiting your trust with your peers because by taking away their ability to make their own choices your decision to withhold information keeps the power of knowledge in your hands and dumbs down their ability to choose correctly. The world is a sphere of possibilities not a cage of control so let others make their own choices with the same advantages you have in life and let lifes challenges be its own lesson for them to grow and eventually be rewarded. 

THATS WHAT I THOUGHT

We all have found ourselves one time or another telling people what we would do if we were in their position. This is easy enough to do when the consequences don't have any bearing on our own lifestyle. Making decisions without the pressure of consequences takes away the factors that you consider when evaluating your preferences. Opinions based on your life experiences can vary from opinions that are based on assumptions. This is why you shouldn't presume what is good for you would be right for another person. You would more than likely make different decisions for your own lifestyle than a peer might make but whatever they decide to do they alone will walk their own path and nobody has the right to claim they know better. We must make our own choices in life but with the same philosophy of understanding that we also must take responsibility for our own decisions. No one can force you in a direction you don't want to go that's why an alcoholic shouldn't blame a bottle shop for selling him alcohol and a gambler shouldn't blame a casino for taking his bet. We are adults and as adults we need to take responsibility for our choices even if we keep on repeating the same mistakes over and over again. The world does not owe any of us anything we owe the world to be better and if we find it challenging than ask the world politely for help.

I THINK I LIKE IT

Throughout the different stages of our life we discover that there are so many unique interests that we could invest our free time in, this is an essential part of our journey of self discovery. It is through this trial and error of process that we work out what we like and what we dont like. This process gets us closer to work out what makes us tick and and what steps we need take to reach our desired goals. The challenge is to discover what keeps you interested as quickly as you can so you don't waste your time by following what others say you should follow. Your interests shouldn't be motivated by what's popular, you need to be honest with what you like even if it doesn't go with the rest of the public.  Some people don't know what to like so they attach themselves to other peoples interests which will only end up doing a dishonour to themselves. So choose what you like without trying to predict what are my friends and family going to think and you'll find comfort with like minded people who genuinely share your same interests.

PRESSURE TO FIT IN

One of the hardest things that alot of people face, is trying to find where they fit in the world. It is fashionable to be popular and sometimes chasing popularity can lead us ashtray from who we really are. Its not easy standing out for being different, so we believe that if we put on a facade, that we will fit in better. Liking something just to fit in will create an alter ego that you will learn to despise because it goes against your grain of thought and it is tiring to act your way through life. So be proud that your different and unique to the rest of the carbon copies of the world. Life is short and the quicker you find yourself the quicker you can reach your desired goals. If we all mirrored the ones we idolised we would neglect the person that we could of become all because of the person we are pretending to be. You are dishonouring yourself to disregard the person who could show others how to stand proud for what you believe in. If you worry about what society says you should be then you give the world the power to control your fate. So be yourself and let others idolise you humble ways by you being the sole controller of your own fate.

I'LL TAKE LIFE WITH THE LOT PLEASE

Life is more than just ideal moments put together on repeat, some of the time life can be exhausting leaving you feeling that you've had enough. When you choose to live life, you choose to accept life for everything that it entails good and bad. A full life is full of moments you want to remember and some you wish you could forget. Whether good things fall in your favour or your life seems like one bad day after another, you need to remember that hard times will pass as long as you stay stronger than the hard times ahead. It is the hard times that you get through that make you into the resilient person that can stand proud of your achievements. Your accomplishments are celebrated in the quiet moments of your life where you can appreciate lifes ups and not forget that it was the tough times that you managed to get through that failed to hold you down. We cannot choose what life we are dealt but we can choose how we will deal with the troubles that we face. So look at your bad days as a challenge that you will overcome face on and don't be afraid of the challenges ahead. 

THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK

Throughout our interactions with people we come across moments where we hold back from saying what ever we feel so we don't offend our peers, this sentiment is not always reciprocated. Where it takes true strength and control not to give what you are getting, its a testament of your character that stops you from taking the easy route that leads you to playing the same games as the culprit who never holds back from saying whatever is on the tip of their tongue. Conversations would be very different if both parties chose their words selectively rather than the opposite outcome where your emotions took charge and influenced the direction that lead to a negative outcome. It is so easy not to try to be nice because all it takes is putting in no effort with the ones you are communicating with, but putting a little effort into people the positive karma will come back because happy people would rather surround themselves with like minded happy people. So treat people as you want to be treated and you won't be surprised when you are chosen over the other people in your social circle who keep up the boundaries so nobody ever gets too close.