I THINK I AM

Part of how we see ourselves is based on how others see us. If your perception of yourself varies alot from how people perceive you then you are deluded. If you don't spend any of your free time on self analysis then you will find it extremely difficult when anyone asks questions on your intentions. Avoiding self analysis will remove the reassurances that you find when you look deep into your core beliefs and figure out who you really are and what you truely stand for. Alot of people avoid self analysis because it might confirm that they aren't what they thought they were like and would rather think that are a  better person than their actions show. Our beliefs need to be based on a solid foundation of thought that we truly believe in and stand by in the show of our actions. If your words don't mimic your actions you will never be taken seriously. So if you expect to be taken seriously and treated with respect then be the person you think you are by doing what your saying your going to do. 

HITTING A WALL

Arguing with someone you disagree with never ends with an agreement. The chance of understanding one's opinion over your own will not take if you trying to force your views down their throat without listening to their reason of thought. Whether your right and they are wrong the result will not differ in your favour if their point of view is cemented in, so another approach would be sensible. Where our lives entertwine with those we disagree with arguing will only push them further from resolve. Arguing with insane views does not make you any sainer because we all have our own perspectives that are the foundations of our thoughts. So be smart and remember discussions don't need to be disrespectful and the moment they are heading that way then your point is already lost. Those who want to understand another persons opinion will try to understand where their opinion comes from those who aren't willing to comprehend the reasoning behind someones views will keep on hitting a wall. So don't hit the wall go around and hopefully come around peacefully to see what's on the other side of the wall.

TIME TO WAKE

We all like to feel that we are solely responsible for how we choose to spend our day and that no outside influences have the power to detract from what we choose to do. We may choose what our preferences are, but time constraints forces us to priorities in a logical order of what we are able to manage in the limited and precious time we have. The necessity of structured routines are critical in reaching our goals, because without a routine we find ourselves wasting time by questioning whats next. Our days are controlled by routines from the moment the alarm wakes us up, but where would we be without the sound of the morning alarm. Once our day begins so does our journey to tick the check list of goals that we have listed that will help give us a sense of achievement. This sense of achievement is connected to our happiness and it is what propels us to move forward even when your on a less desirable task. We strive to live memorable lives and this can't be done sleeping your dreams away, so wake up with that annoying alarm and tick your way to happiness. 

ON A PEDESTAL

People crave to be like their idols as though their idols have accomplished everything that they themselves aspire to be like. They believe that if they mirror their idols choices that they too could share in the lifestyle glory that their idol experiences on a day to day basis. Alot of people are guilty of placing their idols on a pedestal and idolising every little thing about them even though what they believe is a true representation of their beloved idol is purely based on what is seen when the lime light is shining on their idol. It's easy to assume that those we aspire to be like are living an easier lifestyle with minimal struggles but when you are in the lime light and are constantly judged by your fans the pressure to perform every time you walk out of your home would feel exhausting when you just want a little me time. We crave the good things we see from those we aspire to be like and assume that the bad things won't come with the lifestyle that we desire but the reality is life itself has great moments as well as some disappointing ones and having all the wealth you desire can not take away the disappointing moments that you can not control. So you need to be your own idol by idolising your own achievements because if you can have less then the famous person you envy and can be happier with what you've got then you've achieved more with less resources and that is an achievement you should be proud of when you stand on your own pedestal. When you do feel that you've hit a slump remember Bobby Mcferrin wise words "Don't worry be happy" and do it.

LOST IN TRANSLATION

When interacting with people we are hopeful that the conversation we are having will end up in a positive experience, but this is on the basis that the  discussions you have would eventually reach a common ground. Whether your intentions are to learn by listening or to teach by explaining, your efforts may end up being pointless because if your handbook of ideas doesn't work with those you socialise with then you will eventually hit a wall that won't ever budge. Peoples foundation of truth that they depend on is structured to make sense to that individual, if everyone has a different handbook of truth that is ever changing then they will always bump heads. People will always disagree with you when their book of truth that the solely rely is questioned, because it feels like a personal attack to the truth that they believe in and hold onto. Not liking a situation doesn't mean that the situation isnt happening and it doesn't matter how much we will it to it is still the truth. Your mindset strongly depends on structured thoughts that are governed by rules of logical thought, without logical thought we are left in constant chaotic imbalance of who we are and what we stand for. There's a lot in life you might not like but truth correlates with reality,  not with your preferences. So deal with the truth that science understands or live in your own fantasy world where a person can be whatever they want to be because logical thought isn't bound by proven science. The world is a big place and there is no need that your fantasy should affect my reality,  so be you if fantasy is all you can handle.

DO I HAVE YOUR ATTENTION?

What we consider to be entertainment varies from individual to individual and what makes one person happy may displease another person, this is guided by our own perspective of interests. It is our differences that separates us and guides us to find others that we share common interests with that gives us affirmation that we belong. If you are entertained by your interests, Is it safe to say that you interests are responsible for making you happy?. Or is it just a momentary distraction to your confuse your mind in believing that you are happy even though its only a short term happiness. Entertainment keeps you in a happy state of mind, but is the happiness that entertainment provides enough to claim the label that you are a happy person. Happiness can be measured in so many different ways but the basic foundation of happiness is about being entertained because you can not be happy while you are bored. Boredom craves entertainment and entertainment creates satisfaction which will ultimately lead to you reaching happiness. If you are happy doing nothing then you happiness threshold is very easily satisfied. Those with high demanding happiness threshold never are sated. So be happy with the reachable and don't let the unattainable determine whether your happy or not. 

POISONOUS MINDSET

Lifes dramas can lead your mind to dark places where the anger you hold onto will eventually transform into resentment. The negative energy that you allow in will more than likely manifest into bad choices by keeping you in a negative state of mind that will not only affect you but will also affect the people that you socialise with. If your lucky enough to have a strong mind your frustrations will heighten your ability to deal with lifes dramas, but if you find yourself easily manipulated by a negative bandwagon of bad energy then it will knock you down and take control over you. Resentment can be overwhelming when you find yourself being overly pessimistic, where as optimism will give you hope to see the brighter side to the problems that your facing. When you constantly justify your anger, resentment gets a free chance to create chaos within you logic parameters and thus comes at a dangerous cost that poisons your mood which you'll find is extremely difficult to get yourself out of the slump. Angry people will say the opposite of you just to disagree with your point of view even if they don't, which is their only tactic they've got against your positive frame of mind. So don't tackle a persons complaints because the lies they weave with only entrap you with bad mojo. You have to understand their motives and then do the opposite of what they would expect of you because they want to lead you to an argument by bringing you to their miserable frame of mind. Be smarter than the angry person that they would prefer you to be like, by leading yourself to where you would rather be. Don't play their games by their rules and you will win in the end because you have stayed true to your core.

CHASING THE MOLD

Growing up we all go through stages of self development where we make choices that we believe will help give us a desired result. The results helps us discover who we are as individuals and identifies our  motivations, this basic tactic is our way of figuring out what we like and what we would rather never expierience again. This basic tactic is more miss than hit in our adolescents but with wisdom gained with age we hopefully fine tune the system. Sometimes when we feel someone we admire has achieved what we desire we place them in high regard and place them on a pedestal as though they are the type of person we most want to be like. This so called desired mold we believe will lead us to the standard of happiness that we crave, but at what cost?, Are we willing to sacrifice our own individuality in the pursuit of happiness?. Chasing to fit the mold seems that your expectations are solely based on your chosen idol as to boldly claim that their life is the ultimate result, but the grass isn't always greener when you've become your idol. You should perfect yourself not mirror someone else's shadow.  Being grounded in your own lifestyle is much more real and satisfying then losing yourself in someone else's.

I THINK I HAVE A PROBLEM

People who get asked over and over again Are you okay ?  start looking for a problem even when there is no problem the more persistent you probing questions are. Some people rely on the sympathy of others to prosper, so the quickest way of getting the attention they want is by faking a problem that they dont have. When craving attention at the detriment of your own merit you start to sacrifice too much for too little and the good feeling you get from the carer is fleeting. We all like to feel loved and needed, but sometimes when your not getting the attention you crave you might find yourself going through extremes just to get the attention that you feel that your lacking. If you have to manipulate the right attention out of someone maybe it's the wrong someone. A person who genuinely cares for you doesn't need to be played because they are there for you through thick and thin. So maybe revaluate who you are wanting to get the attention from and stop playing games with the wrong players. 

THATS JUST A PART OF ME

Everyday we interact with people on different social levels, but only few of the people we interact with truly know who we really are. It takes time to get to know someone properly and giving up on your free time to socialise with someone you dont really know is a risk that people dont always want to take. Sacrificing time seems to be a big ask in these modern times when your time is competing with social media. Social media shows people a snapshot of what was taken to project the ideal image that we would like people to see when they think of us, but we are so much more than our names and profile pictures. Very few people want their peers to know that they are not perfect and that they have flaws. The reality is everyone has flaws but that doesn't mean you are not perfect in someones else's eyes flaws and all. Hiding who you are will only disadvantage you in the long run. The people who get to know your false bravado admire you for the charade your showing which can only last so long as you maintain the show. You are only human and as a human being we have  many faces that are attached to many different types of moods that aren't always good or right ways to be but burying your emotions deep inside is only going to take you quicker to depression. We are a whole lot more than perfect human beings that's what makes us unique. Accepting your true identity is about accepting you for everything you are that includes your likes, your dislikes, what motivates you, what you stand for whatever you bring to the table even your baggage and everything in between. Showing people just a part of you is a dishonour to yourself. So be honest to yourself and honour yourself, you are what you are.