JUST DONT ASK!

 Are your beliefs justified? Do you have the confidence to stand by your beliefs and not walk away from the questions people ask of you?. If your beliefs are never challenged you might be missing out on another perspective that could enlighten your way of thinking, valid points would not stick if they weren't valid points so maybe you should listen in on the chance that you might learn something new. Are we offended or afraid to hear another persons point of view?, challenging questions can be considered thought provoking and harmful to those who feel that they are targeted because they are in the spotlight. Triggering and activating response can be harmful for those who would rather not face the truth that they might not have a full grasp on the reality of truth and what they thought made sense feels now like their handle on life is drifting further away because a sound argument now puts holes in their belief system. Beliefs that are grounded on a solid foundation can not be swayed because those beliefs have been supported by facts that give you the power and confidence to stand tall and proud because of your opinions. Anger has no place in winning any debate because logic teachers us that a clear mind and a solid point of view can only be supported by truth. Humanity is in constant search for truth, there are so many belief systems in the world but who has it right. Maybe the ones that are confident to face the questions and stand by their beliefs. 

 

MISJUDGED

We all like to believe that we are a good judge of character, but if that was true we would never have any failed relationships. The moment things do go pear shaped we question our ability to judge for ourselves who are the right people that we should be sharing our time with and who we should avoid. Throughout our relationships we invest time in building strong foundations with what we perceive to be the right kind of people and as much as we give out we assume those friends would equally do for us what we do for them. Relationships that aren't equal will eventually fail because without sharing the responsibilities in keeping solidarity the person giving more will find happiness somewhere else. So treat people with the same respect you require or you might find yourself wondering what went wrong. The reality is that some people will take advantage of nice people but that doesn't mean that you should not be welcoming to new friends it means that you shouldn't be a door mat to anyone.

TRUTH BE TOLD

"You can't handle the truth" is a famous line from a few good men, but it is more than just a line from a movie it's represents people's attitudes of today and how people differ from one another. Some people would rather know the real truth irrespective of how gruesome it might be, while others are happy to remain in their own ignorance and at the same time get overly frustrated by any questions asked of them. People are faced with dilemmas every day whether you open up and listen to the dramas that surround you so that you are better equipped to you deal with the issues or you choose to tune out and pretend its not really happening so that you can avoid having to do anything about it, the choice is always yours to make. Your acknowledgement of the matter at hand doesnt make it more pronounced or you choosing not to acknowledge it at all will not make it disappear, so maybe you should listen to the world around you so that you can feel confident that you did all that you could have done to make the situation better. You can not complain about a world with problems if you are not prepared to make it any better if you had the chance to. 

TIME WITH ME

Time is fleeting which makes people's choices on how they spend their time and who they spend time with very important. People feel that their time is spent better if they fill it up with as much social interactions as possible. They believe building on relationships with people should be their number one priority. They don't see the importance of making some time alone for themselves because they feel this is wasted time spent doing nothing. Alot of peoples busy lifestyles puts them in situations where they are constantly surrounded by people, and very little time is portioned off for them to catch up for a little alone time which is the time you would work on yourself. If you haven't worked out how you tick by understanding your motivations in life and how to reach your desired level of happiness then you will find life's struggles will hit you hard. The dramas in your life will disorientate you and make you feel that you don't know if you are coming or going. So stop and focus on yourself and try to understand yourself at your core because this is a part of growing up but if you skipped it because you were too busy then stop and focus on you and what you really want in your life.

WHATS YOUR OPINION?

Having an opinion without a voicing yours is an opinion lost. We live in a time where we keep a lot of our thoughts to ourselves because we would rather not sound opinionated but having an opinion doesn't mean you are opinionated, it just means you have a thought on the topic. We all have the right to have our own opinion irrespective if it clashes with the current popular opinion. Keeping your thoughts to yourself because you would rather not offend anyone will only give a false representation of how you feel about the current topic and it is a dishonest stance to take. So stand tall and don't let fear control your statement because fitting in is neglecting your true opinion, and if you can't rely on yourself to be truthful than you shouldn't rely on others to be truthful. 

POWER OF MUSIC

Music is such a powerful medium that has the power to get people to say things that might not make any sense or even sometimes have the affect to be offensive to alot of people all because you are saying the words that the artist has written. Literature read isn't always literature agreed with, Are you supposed to bleep out the words that are offensive when reading a biography on a tyrant or when your singing to an angry song full of cursing. Songs like Whitney Houston "I'm every woman have the power to get most people to sing out loud including men even though you may look a little odd when singing. Certain songs that use offensive language in the lyrics still have people repeating the lyrics even if they have no idea what they are actually singing or understanding the true meaning of those controversial words. Artist aren't as straightforward as the arts that are used to tell their story because of this so much can be lost in translation when the average person tries to interpret another persons work. Catchy tunes can distract us from the true essence of the song that doesn't mean we agree with the sentiment it conveys in the music. To some people the perspective that is most important is how it sounds not what is actually being said. Remember we may have different perspectives but it still can lead us to the same outcome enjoying the music for what it is entertainment. 

WHAT NATIONALITY ARE YOU?

Some people choose to spend their time with only people of the same nationality, even though their culture might be the only thing that they have in common. You don't like a person because of their nationality, you like a person because of the qualities that they have. A good character has traits like loyalty, honesty, courage, integrity, fortitude and is generally a person who chooses to do what is morally right. People who gravitate towards good people will not be bounded by nationalities but be on the lookout for like minded people who they admire or sometimes aspire to be like. If you stick to the confounds of your nationality you will miss out on the diversity that the world has on offer. Our bones stop growing  between the ages of 16 and 18 but our mind should never be content with limited knowledge when there is so much beauty in the world. 

LOOK TO JUDGE

The world is full of judgement, fair or not fair it is the way of the world. Alot of the blame can be tied to our primal instinct of self preservation that uses our desire to protect ourselves by staying away from things that we believe may harm us. When someone looks dangerous we distance ourselves even though we don't really know who they are. How we present ourselves may reflect on how we are treated in society which isn't fair but it is fact. if someone gives you bad vibes and looks dangerous you try and avoid them even though you may be completely wrong in your assumption. Not liking how your perceived by people who try to profile you into certain categories the answer may seem that a little education could teach them who you really are, but it is a task that you'll soon grow tired to repeat. Changing how you look will satisfy the general crowd but you'll lose your own identity. So surround yourself with people who are happy with you the way you are and leave those who don't like your persona away in their own little corner.

I PRESENT MYSELF

Normal is just the standard of what is average, it is not right or wrong. Being the same as the crowd just to fit in is wrong and being different just to be different is also not the right way of being true to yourself. You are what you are not what the world says you should be so take advantage of your adolescents and discover who you are while every experience is new. Once you reach your true identity then you don't need an audience to self promote because a mirror will be enough to announce to the only person that you need to answer to "Here I AM". The person that you are in your alone time isn't set out trying to prove anything  they just are. You will only be free if you accept that you don't need affirmation from others you just need to succeed in being you. Freedom starts with you letting go of what people think and starts with what you think of yourself. So let it be the time to set yourself free.

SEEING RED

People may try and push your buttons to  trigger you, but it's up to you to take control of how you react. Its not always about who is in the right that justifys how you've reacted because sometimes not reacting at all will be the best way to not escalate frustrations further. If you are pushed to see red you have lost touch with your humanity and the virtues that guide you on the right way to act. We only understand the importance of not losing it once it is too late and the impact has already taken place. Most people who see red because they have overreacted are left with remorse on how they have reacted and it is only when they gather their thoughts that they start seeing clear again. This is the underlying truth that acknowledges that losing it will only lead you further away from the person that you have grown up to become and the person that you would rather be than a person who reacts purely on impulses. So be the man or woman that you are proud to be not the person you were in that moment of weakness.