HARDER THAN THE TIMES

As much as we strive for an easier life to live without difficulties in your life to challenge you the easier lifestyle you lead will magnify your vulnerabilities so that you will inevitably  struggle at the first sign of trouble. Difficult times strengthen your mentality so that you have the learned experiences to deal with lifes ups and downs because everyone's life has ups and downs. No one is immune to the troubles that will eventually find them. It is very important that we remain tougher than the tough times ahead because our mental health is on the line. No matter how strong you think you are, your mental health can break if you don't allow yourself to learn from your mishaps. So brace yourself during the tough times and wait the storm because the tough times will eventually dissipate, and all that will remain is the stronger version of you.

REPUTATION INPRINTED

Once you have a reputation, it can feel like it is set in stone, but this is only true if it's a bad reputation because it is almost impossible to lift your status once it's down. Those of you who are lucky enough to have a good rep it can be short lived when society has its eyes on you, this is because once you are in the publics eye the expectations on you to remain perfect is heightened beyond any normalcy. Peoples expectations of those that they have already thrown in the bad rep basket are at the all-time lowest that they could be, which is why they are overlooked even when they try to do good. Whereas a good reputation can be tainted quickly because people who see you in high regard are jagged by any slight thing you do that can tarnish their almost perfect view of you. In life their is no possibility of pleasing everyone because once you reach someone's high standards you decline from someone else's. So make your own standards and try your best to live up to them and dont worry what basket society decides to put you in.

TAKEN FOR GRANTED

When you've grown accustomed to having an easier lifestyle, it's likely that you will forget those who have helped you get through those tough times. Whether or not they have played an integral part in you being able to reach your desired lifestyle its all forgotten anyway when you are living in the moment of your success. The moment your desired lifestyle becomes the norm is the moment that your new found comfort takes priority over what is right and overrides any appreciation that you should have shown for those who have contributed to your added happiness. The last thing on the mind of someone who is enjoying their easier lifestyle is what sacrifices may have had to happen for them to get their desired way of life. This is why it is important that we keep to memory that the sacrifices that are done willingly by our friends should never be forgotten for that we are only where we want to be because of those who went with out in order for us to have more. Humility goes a long way when you are able to reflect on your journey through the tough times that you can only succeed surrounded by supportive friends even when you were at your lowest state of mind.

ON THE RIGHT TRACK

We are not always on the right track when it comes to our life, but no matter how many times we veer to the wrong path, there is always a way back to where you'd rather be. It just becomes much more harder the further you stray away from where you'd prefer to be, your efforts now have to be magnified to match the negative position that you've put yourself in and you need to focus on making better life decisions. You will not always do it on the first try but your failures have a purpose to remind you that if you quit you will remain stagnant in the same position that you claim that you'd do anything to get out of. We need to use our failures to fuel our courage to persuavere through the dramas so we can claim the things we say we deserve, you want a better life than do everything in your power to make it a reality. When you make a mistake, own it, then recognise where you went wrong and change your path. Life lessons can either benefit you by teaching you how to manage yourself through the storm, or you can ignore the patterns of your choices and never learn from your mistakes. So tomorrow is a new day. What will you now do with your day?

OUT OF BOUNDS

Boundaries are a necessary measurement to keep us aligned with what we believe in and at the same time steering us away from a pathway that we believe is wrong. We need boundaries not only to keep our standards in check but also to ensure others dont cross our personal line of comfort. Without putting the right boundaries in place, we are only guaranteeing a negative life experience that will lead us to confusion, and eventually, what will follow would be an overwhelming increase of stress. Boundaries are put in place by us for us with logic in mind, with the intention to be our guide in making the right choices for the betterment of ourselves. When we ignore logical reasoning and choose to venture beyond our chosen boundaries, we lose the foundation that keeps us together, causing cracks in our state of mind. Life has its ups and downs and when you feel at your lowest it takes an enormous amount of effort to propel you beyond the sink-hole of depression this is the moment you appreciate what boundaries can do for you. So don't forget you are in control of your boundaries, it is up to you to recognise the good ones from the bad ones.

NO HANDICAPS HERE

Handicap individuals don't want to be treated like they are different from the rest of society they strive to fit in with everyone else and  would rather not be seen purely for their handicap.They want to be recognised for what they can do not for what they can't do  they are strong willed individuals and dont need the sympathy of others to give them  reasons to push through the tough times. They have a resilience that most people would never know because it takes starting on the back foot that strengthens their mentality to persuavere to the next level whereas those who haven't needed to do without take for granted the advantages that they've had on the get go. People who go without the norms appreciate on a higher level the good days for they don't always come as regularly as it does for some, to the other side who can't remember the last struggles that they've had slowly start to forget to appreciate their current situation especially when they are feeling at the top of their game. This is why it is important to appreciate the advantages that you may have in life and to remember not to belittle others when they are trying to be better themselves. Handicap individuals don't want or expect extra they just want they same as their peers. 

BROKEN SPIRIT

We all have hopes and dreams that we crave to fulfil that is fuelled by our spirit, but only a few of us will ever be lucky enough to make our dreams a reality. Without our spirit intact to guide us we would lose any hope that we have in fulfilling our dreams that is why it is important that we need to keep our spirit protected from the cynical minds that will try to discourage us from pursuing our dreams. The bigger we dream, the harder we'll find it to make happen because nothing that is life changing is ever that easy to get. The road ahead isn't without bumps and turns, so you can only persuavere at it if you keep yourself in high spirits through the winding bumpy and unpredictable road. There is so much that can go wrong that breaks your spirit, but if you remain strong, then nothing can break you or your dreams. So take control of yourself and steer yourself away from the negative people of the world and allow your dreams to become your reality. 

FULL OF HOLES

When you converse with your peers and ask a straightforward question, you expect a simple enough answer in return. To some of us being asked a straightforward question is very easy to respond to when you only have truth in mind while others find it extremely difficult to answer spontaneous questions so they have to pause and think for what they believe sounds like the better answer, even if its not the truth. The true right answer might put on an unforgiving light on their personality which is different from what they have being putting on show, whereas if they manufacture a suitable answer it helps them maintain this false image that they are trying ever so hard to portray. Even if the answer is an off-the-cuff response it doesn't always mean that there is any truth to what is being said because those who are compusive liars will always be quick with a story to support their actions which unless checked for its validity will go unnoticed but to those who are willing to investigate their claims will witness the many holes in their story.

 

NEGATIVE POINT OF VIEW

When we converse with our peers, we either interpret what we are hearing as either a negative, neutral, or positive point of view. This interpretation can sometimes be clouded by our own feelings and biases, which have the negative power to misconstrued the point being made. That is why we should not jump to conclusions by assuming the worst without having all the facts in front of us. The moment we make our interpretation known we have to stand by our chosen understanding because if we chop and change our standpoint with the direction that the wind is going then we will lose any impact our words will have in future conversations. Our patterns of behaviour will eventually determine how we are viewed by either enhancing our credibility or disarming it. This is why it is important that you build a solid foundation that is supported by your core beliefs rather than choosing to follow a crowd that's thought process isn't going in the same direction that you'd want to go. Keep in mind that it is better to be alone and proud than with a crowd of people that you're not proud to stand with.

TIME TO COME AROUND

A difference of opinion is enough of a reason for someone not to want to talk to you. This is either because they feel that they are going against their own value system by even giving you a chance to speak or it could even be that they would rather not give you the opportunity to challenge their viewpoints with your own. No matter their excuse, their inability to communicate with you maturely puts them on the back foot to make what could have been a valid point. If you are confident in your beliefs you should be able to easily support your viewpoints against alternative opinions without the fear of consequences that now have forced you to shut people down before they even get to make their point of view known. We may share different opinions in some things, but if we shut people down on everything, we could possibly miss out on the good that they may say. So if you would rather not judge part of a statement harshly then keep your emotions at bay untill the whole point is made that you definitely disagree with then calmly state your own opinion maybe then you will realise that patience comes only when you are listening before you jump to the wrong conclusions rather than losing your patience with someone before you've even heard their side of the story.

REASONS OR EXCUSES

What one person will call a reason another person will eagerly call it an excuse, but it's all a matter of perspective. Some people will justify their actions with excuses in order to deflect the blame from themselves onto someone else while others claim that their actions were inevitable which supports their chosen action. Reasons are given to explain your actions where excuses are your reasons to justify your mistakes usually with the wrong intent in mind. So whether those of you who are trying to convince someone that your actions are justified there is no convincing someone who has already pigeon-holed you. Those who aren't taking in anything you've got to say are only wasting your time so maybe spend less of your time with them and more time with someone who has an ear to your words. One important thing you should keep in mind is no amount of words will change the mind of someone who has already made up their mind on you, so stop wasting your words and your time on them.

GULLIBLE NEVER TO LEARN

It's only through spending time with people that we truly get to know who someone is, but you have to be someone who pays attention to detail otherwise no amount of shared time is ever going to help you see the obvious patterns that are on show. We are creatures of habit which only helps to magnify the tell-tale signs that are unwillingly on display for anyone who is interested to see. There is no hiding from who you are to those that are perceptive to your ways, whereas if your supporters just allowed themselves to look past who said what and focused on how reliable has this person being in the past then maybe it will be easier for them to see who is truly responsible for the wrongdoings. Once you allow facts to lead you to the right pathway rather than your feelings, you will have the right tools to work out how to cease the same bad repetitive behaviour from happening. Biases can help camouflage who is a friend and who is a foe we all are guilty of falling off the beaten path, but some people will go there more often than others. That's why you should ask yourself, "Do you want to support someone who is always on the wrong path?"

I HATE YOU

Hate is such a strong word when you've said it to a person that you can't bare any more but once said the affects will remain with you at all times even when that person is nowhere in sight. Once you have reached that level of hate towards someone, there is no turning back because your hate now clouds your rational state of mind and can throw your judgement in disarray. This out of your hands growing problem can manifest your negative emotions into your worst version of yourself, as Nelson Mandela said "Resentment is like drinking poison then hoping your enemies die" holding onto hate will only ever harm you in the end. When a person you hate is trying to do good and you can't help yourself but to nitpick holes in anything that they say or do than this is an example that you have taken things too far because if you are seeing their positive behaviour as negative then your values have shifted for the wrong reasons. You are the one losing if your rational state of mind can not disregard the hatred that you are feeling to be able to recognise that the person you hate is making valid points. This uncontrolled hatred that you are feeling starts coming out in other aspects of your life with no care of how it may affect those that you are close to because having hate in your heart is about letting go of the control that you have that rationales your actions rather than saying "Fuck that, i dont care any more  i hate you" the problem is the moment you let yourself go and let hate rule you is the moment you will lose yourself. 

VULNERABLE UNTIL HARDENED

When we are born we are in one of our most vulnerable stages of our life where we solely rely on a carer to look after all of our wants and needs untill we are old enough to do it ourselves. Growing up the most important experiences we can learn from usually have come from the mistakes that we've made in which the dramas that we've struggled to face have undoubtedly left a negative impression on us that continues to stay with us as a reminder that bad choices will lead to bad experiences. The unpleasant experiences are instilled in our memories to remind us to use the discomfort that we feel as a guide on what to do and what not to do. If we don't use our failures as an opportunity to toughen us up, then we are likely to be taken advantage of and manipulated into doing someone else's bidding. So if you don't want to be treated like a puppet by being at the mercy of someone's whim, then stop letting someone pull your strings. You don't have to make pushing your buttons such an easy task if you recognise someone's intention in doing so.

DEFENCES ARE UP

There is no amount of effort that you can put into someone to get through to them when they have their defences up. Whether you make them feel unsafe and thats why they dont want to put their guard down or that they feel that they would rather be seen as strong to their peers so the best thing that they can think of is to hide what they believe are their weaknesses in their character. Strength is shown in your character when you are honest and open to your peers and not when you are closed because you are afraid that you might get ridiculed. If its not one or the other, then it could possibly be that they just dont think that you're good enough to show you who they really are. Either way their lack of being open shows a weakness in themselves because people who are open to being ridiculed aren't afraid to be themselves no matter the consequences whereas those who pretend to be someone they're not just to fit in has got to be exhausting. So if you'd rather just be yourself, at least those who do ridicule you are reminders to you that their opinions shouldn't matter anyway, and those who are by your side are there for the right reasons. 

THAT'S STUPID

Stupidity is not restricted to one nationality. It is bound to those who hold onto stupid ideas that lead them to taking stupid actions. There is only so much responsibility we can claim to take on our birthplace. The rest is owed to us by our own take on the world around us. Our decision-making abilities are influenced by how we absorb the information that we are surrounded by, so whether the information is true or not can set us down the pathway to the wrong belief system. If you feel that you can't stand by beliefs calmly and rationally, then it is more likely that anger is directing your path, letting anger rule over you will only lead you to failure. Rational behaviour can only be set on a strong foundation of beliefs, not on one that can be disarmed with a mere alternative suggestion. Stupid people are easily manipulated by their emotions because it takes more intellect to control their running emotions than letting them run free to cause more harm than good. Regret soon follows when anger is in charge, and that is why the point you were hoping to make is lost with your battle cries. People stop listening when people are yelling so if you would rather have your point come across rather than your lack of control which has now managed to camouflage any valid points you might of been making then think before you speak.