DEFLECT YOUR RESPONSE

These days people have the tendency to tread carefully when making statements that could offend people or various groups for the fear of being cancelled. People shut their mouth and would rather not give their opinion because they prefer to show others that they are inclusive to the different opinions that have been raised. If they were asked a direct question they would use deflecting tactics to avoid giving their true opinion because of the fear that their opinion might taint the image they are wanting to portray. They delay answering questions quickly because they want to know the intention of the questions so that they can formulate the right answer, but the moment you presume that their is a right answer that isnt your true belief is the moment that you leave your opinion behind. It may not be popular to have a different opinion to others but we are all entitled to have a difference of opinion and it is that opinion that makes as individuals because if you dont speak your mind when you have a chance you may as well not have a voice. So the next time someone asks you a question you can either give the opinion you think the person asking you wants to hear or you can own your answer by saying exactly what you want to say. The choice is yours, you are either liked from those controlling your speech because you've succumb to a fake sense of secruity that comes with saying what is popular and saying what is expected of you or you be yourself and say what feels right for you no matter of how it makes you sound, happily knowing that you can sleep sound because you were honest with yourself and your peers. 

LAY IT ON THICK

Saying something positive about someone when it's just not true because you would rather avoid offending them might not always be the best tactic in helping them out. Compassion can sometimes hold people back if there is no truth in your words because our misguided influences deny people's true emotions to react on their own accord and learn from the tough emotions that may be tearing them apart. It's our personal feelings that gives us information about our experiences and teaches us more about ourselves than any false compliment could. Experiencing sadness teaches you that there is purpose to all your emotions, without tough times in your life experiences you would struggle to keep your sanity when the ground feels like its falling out from underneath you. Traversing through the tough times helps build you up for anything that goes against the grain of thought and maintain sanity to a mind that has strengthened from the tough times experienced. 

LESSONS IGNORED

Not everyone takes in information the same way or is able to make sense of the information that they do to take in, so unless you are willing to try out different ways to connect with people who you're not on the same page with the point you try to make may end up bouncing on deaf ears. Lessons don't take well when the mind is focused on the frustrations of life, so your only chance to get through to people during the tough times is on how good your ability is to understand when its the appropriate time to approach them and how you should approach them. The ability to know the correct time of when to approach people coincides with you recognising what the persons current state of mind is and by understanding that their perspective should be taken in consideration. People need to have a clear head if you want them to absorb the knowledge that you give to them. A rational mind makes rational decisions, emotions need to be controlled for logical thought to be heightened. Without control of your emotions the anger you feel will speak louder than your mind and ignore what you really think like most of the time.

FALLS ON TRUST

Taking pride in yourself shows others that you are confident in your self being and that you are a reliable person who should be trusted. Most people will start off trusting you without you having to do anything for them to earn their trust, this is due to the fact that we have the tendency to give respect to people when we meet someone new because we inturn expect them to show us the same respect that we have given to them. When we first meet someone we dont want to feel that we've started on the back foot with them feeling that we have to earn their trust when we know that we haven't done anything wrong to deserve to be treated like we have wronged them. We dont want their past to make us feel like we are to blame for what they have been through. When you cross the line and lose someone's trust your irrational behaviour puts you in a place where trust must be gained back this is a matter of the consequences of your actions which conditions people to recognise that the actions they do or don't do will get you to reply to them with either niceness or to be stand offish. So if you want to be trusted, be the person that people won't have any problem trusting. Your actions speak louder than words, so be the person that you say you are because talking about why you should be trusted won't get you any closer to being trusted.

SPITE AFFECTS ALL

If spite was your sole motivator, you soon will find out that crossing the line just to get to effect someone else's lifestyle for the negative will affect you and others in the crossfire. Having your mindset stuck in feeling resentment for someone will have you fixated on the negative effects that you could use to affect your rival, but the negative thoughts will also remain with you and influence you on everything that you do. Spite is like a virus that attaches itself to you and holds you back from moving forward, the only thing that you can do to remedy the resentment your feeling is to focus on what you need not on depriving the needs of your rival. Letting spite take charge will mean that your values have to be pushed aside to make way for the everchanging grudge that takes you over with the purpose to influences your every move. So, if you don't want to be in proximity when spite claims a victim avoid the crossfire from ever happening by keeping your focus on what makes you happy and not on what will make someone else unhappy. We all have different aspirations that guide us, we don't need to collide heads when jealousy hits, we should use the achievements of others to motivate us to do better. Being happy for people success is your best pathway to your own successful life otherwise karma will ruin your day of success. So remember that it takes more strength to let go of your frustrations than to hold onto them.

PLAN OF BREAKING POINT

Some people would rather spend their efforts to push you in a place where you would react in a way that supports their arguments. There intentions are focused on getting you to dislike them so that when you finally give up on them that they can reassure themselves that you never cared anyway, but distancing yourself from them is the only rational response to their miserable behaviour. Their intention to create unnecessary drama all to bring you to breaking point brings their plan into fruition, now they don't have to feel so guilty with how they have been making you feel because the cat and mouse game is finally over. This is their biggest mistake because what makes people different is their threshold to drama but the end result is the same for all of us once we feel that we have nothing more to give the bond that we once had is broken and the bond can not be repaired no matter the effort afterwards. This is never considered because the depth of their actions is only focused on short term fixes. Life is about the long game short term fixes will pass as quickly as they started in the whole scheme of things, once the line has been crossed all that remains is the regret that can not be rectified. So choose your words wisely and your actions even more carefully so that you don't have to wonder, "What if I just". 

LOOK EVERYWHERE, LEARN EVERYWHERE

Information can be disregarded all because of where it was attained. People stop paying attention the moment the source is revealed all because they don't feel comfortable to accept the information as valid. Their dislike of the source bounds them to only look at what is being said when they deem it a suitable trustworthy source even though what is being said might be identical on both sources. If the information was extracted and the source was not the focus all that would be left is valid information to be recognised for what it is. Even untrustworthy sources can get it right some of the time, It is up to you to cypher through the mess and make sense of what is true and what is false. By placing limitations on where you go to gain knowledge will only result in shutting yourself down from the places that could have a perspective that you haven't considered. Limitations control where you look, to where you learn, so look everywhere you haven't and learn from anyone who has valuable information otherwise you are only doing yourself a injustice. Don't dumb yourself down just because you would rather stick to the boundaries that you put up.

HELLO WHOS THERE? "GUILT"

Feeling guilty can be your wake up call to the bad choices that you've made because it is your minds way of letting you know that your actions go against what you yourself consider rational. Your mind uses the guilt that your feeling to tell you that something is majorly wrong with your choices and that the only way of you rectifying it is by doing the right thing which will eventually clear your conscious. If the guilt trip isn't strong enough to change your ways then the part of your brain that ignores what is the right thing to do is solely in charge and would rather choose to pretend that you coudnt of done anything differently to fix the problem. No one can sway your thinking because you alone have the power to listen to the rational part of your brain that tries to steer you to a place that allows innerpeace peace to be your guide which will help you when you go to sleep at night knowing that you've done everything in your power to do what is considered the right thing to do. Choosing the easiest path was only ever beneficial to you because anything else would of meant you had to put actual effort into making something work which you would prefer to take the easy pathway with minimal put out. The easiest way will lead you to the hardest reality that you will face because your intentions in mind were selfish and you only had you in mind when making decisions, nobody else ever crossed your mind when the tough decisions had to be made. So take responsibility for the outcome of your current situation and dont blame the peoples voices that you ignored. You choices, your outcome, your repercussions, your life.

WHO AM I?

Growing up one of the hardest questions that we can face and spend a lifetime trying to figure out is, Who we really are? In our adolescents we try to mirror the ones we admire thinking that if we do everything that they do then we too would be admired and respected. Eventually our interests changes and we focus on another person to put onto a pedestal, all  this does is to divert the much needed attention away from ourselves and gets us to focus on other peoples achievements. This should be the time where we spend on working on ourselves, what are our wants and what do we need to do to achieve our personal goals. Trying to be something that your not will detach you further away from the person that would bring you true happiness the person that is the truest version of yourself because that version has accepted that you don't have to be anything but yourself. Most people believe that how they see themselves is how people see them, but if this were true why are we constantly trying to prove ourselves to our peers rather than letting our honour stand for us. Guilty until  proven innocent seem to be the mood of these days If your not present to defend yourself then your honour isn't enough to defend the heresy of conversation that has spread lies about your stance. So stop trying to please others if it puts your honour on the line and just be the person you want to be because the people that truly matter to you don't need you to defend yourself because they already believe in you.

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I DONT LIKE THE RULES

Rebelling against what's not fair makes sense but rebelling against a rule just because it's a rule makes no sense. Defiant people will break the rules even though they may agree with them because being told that they can't do something makes them want to prove that they can do whatever they want and that nobody has the power to tell them what they can or can't do. As the saying goes "Rules are meant to be broken" is the underlying basis of their beliefs system and it is enough to overpower the logical part of their brain that knows that they are breaking the rules for the wrong reasons. Some people find it hard to look past the person enforcing the rules because of a dislike that they may have of a particular person . This form of stubbornness affects them from taking in any valid points all because of the disconnection that they may have with the person speaking.  People need to listen to the content of what is being said and separate their feelings from what is the right thing to do otherwise they will be left with following the wrong path all because it wasn't suggested by the speaker. So keep your thoughts aligned with the right side of your brain otherwise your fears of following instructions to the right path will steer you to the wrong path to misfortune.