SPITE AFFECTS ALL

If spite was your sole motivator, you soon will find out that crossing the line just to get to effect someone else's lifestyle for the negative will affect you and others in the crossfire. Having your mindset stuck in feeling resentment for someone will have you fixated on the negative effects that you could use to affect your rival, but the negative thoughts will also remain with you and influence you on everything that you do. Spite is like a virus that attaches itself to you and holds you back from moving forward, the only thing that you can do to remedy the resentment your feeling is to focus on what you need not on depriving the needs of your rival. Letting spite take charge will mean that your values have to be pushed aside to make way for the everchanging grudge that takes you over with the purpose to influences your every move. So, if you don't want to be in proximity when spite claims a victim avoid the crossfire from ever happening by keeping your focus on what makes you happy and not on what will make someone else unhappy. We all have different aspirations that guide us, we don't need to collide heads when jealousy hits, we should use the achievements of others to motivate us to do better. Being happy for people success is your best pathway to your own successful life otherwise karma will ruin your day of success. So remember that it takes more strength to let go of your frustrations than to hold onto them.

PLAN OF BREAKING POINT

Some people would rather spend their efforts to push you in a place where you would react in a way that supports their arguments. There intentions are focused on getting you to dislike them so that when you finally give up on them that they can reassure themselves that you never cared anyway, but distancing yourself from them is the only rational response to their miserable behaviour. Their intention to create unnecessary drama all to bring you to breaking point brings their plan into fruition, now they don't have to feel so guilty with how they have been making you feel because the cat and mouse game is finally over. This is their biggest mistake because what makes people different is their threshold to drama but the end result is the same for all of us once we feel that we have nothing more to give the bond that we once had is broken and the bond can not be repaired no matter the effort afterwards. This is never considered because the depth of their actions is only focused on short term fixes. Life is about the long game short term fixes will pass as quickly as they started in the whole scheme of things, once the line has been crossed all that remains is the regret that can not be rectified. So choose your words wisely and your actions even more carefully so that you don't have to wonder, "What if I just". 

LOOK EVERYWHERE, LEARN EVERYWHERE

Information can be disregarded all because of where it was attained. People stop paying attention the moment the source is revealed all because they don't feel comfortable to accept the information as valid. Their dislike of the source bounds them to only look at what is being said when they deem it a suitable trustworthy source even though what is being said might be identical on both sources. If the information was extracted and the source was not the focus all that would be left is valid information to be recognised for what it is. Even untrustworthy sources can get it right some of the time, It is up to you to cypher through the mess and make sense of what is true and what is false. By placing limitations on where you go to gain knowledge will only result in shutting yourself down from the places that could have a perspective that you haven't considered. Limitations control where you look, to where you learn, so look everywhere you haven't and learn from anyone who has valuable information otherwise you are only doing yourself a injustice. Don't dumb yourself down just because you would rather stick to the boundaries that you put up.

HELLO WHOS THERE? "GUILT"

Feeling guilty can be your wake up call to the bad choices that you've made because it is your minds way of letting you know that your actions go against what you yourself consider rational. Your mind uses the guilt that your feeling to tell you that something is majorly wrong with your choices and that the only way of you rectifying it is by doing the right thing which will eventually clear your conscious. If the guilt trip isn't strong enough to change your ways then the part of your brain that ignores what is the right thing to do is solely in charge and would rather choose to pretend that you coudnt of done anything differently to fix the problem. No one can sway your thinking because you alone have the power to listen to the rational part of your brain that tries to steer you to a place that allows innerpeace peace to be your guide which will help you when you go to sleep at night knowing that you've done everything in your power to do what is considered the right thing to do. Choosing the easiest path was only ever beneficial to you because anything else would of meant you had to put actual effort into making something work which you would prefer to take the easy pathway with minimal put out. The easiest way will lead you to the hardest reality that you will face because your intentions in mind were selfish and you only had you in mind when making decisions, nobody else ever crossed your mind when the tough decisions had to be made. So take responsibility for the outcome of your current situation and dont blame the peoples voices that you ignored. You choices, your outcome, your repercussions, your life.

WHO AM I?

Growing up one of the hardest questions that we can face and spend a lifetime trying to figure out is, Who we really are? In our adolescents we try to mirror the ones we admire thinking that if we do everything that they do then we too would be admired and respected. Eventually our interests changes and we focus on another person to put onto a pedestal, all  this does is to divert the much needed attention away from ourselves and gets us to focus on other peoples achievements. This should be the time where we spend on working on ourselves, what are our wants and what do we need to do to achieve our personal goals. Trying to be something that your not will detach you further away from the person that would bring you true happiness the person that is the truest version of yourself because that version has accepted that you don't have to be anything but yourself. Most people believe that how they see themselves is how people see them, but if this were true why are we constantly trying to prove ourselves to our peers rather than letting our honour stand for us. Guilty until  proven innocent seem to be the mood of these days If your not present to defend yourself then your honour isn't enough to defend the heresy of conversation that has spread lies about your stance. So stop trying to please others if it puts your honour on the line and just be the person you want to be because the people that truly matter to you don't need you to defend yourself because they already believe in you.

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I DONT LIKE THE RULES

Rebelling against what's not fair makes sense but rebelling against a rule just because it's a rule makes no sense. Defiant people will break the rules even though they may agree with them because being told that they can't do something makes them want to prove that they can do whatever they want and that nobody has the power to tell them what they can or can't do. As the saying goes "Rules are meant to be broken" is the underlying basis of their beliefs system and it is enough to overpower the logical part of their brain that knows that they are breaking the rules for the wrong reasons. Some people find it hard to look past the person enforcing the rules because of a dislike that they may have of a particular person . This form of stubbornness affects them from taking in any valid points all because of the disconnection that they may have with the person speaking.  People need to listen to the content of what is being said and separate their feelings from what is the right thing to do otherwise they will be left with following the wrong path all because it wasn't suggested by the speaker. So keep your thoughts aligned with the right side of your brain otherwise your fears of following instructions to the right path will steer you to the wrong path to misfortune.

GOOD AND BAD

As humans we are all capable of good things and bad things, but it is in our power alone to choose how we react to the world around us and the people within it. Nobody can force your hand on how to act or control what you should think that is all controlled within the confines of your own mind. With all the conflicting information we receive it is up to us to make sense of the things that we dont understand and accept that we alone are responsible for our actions. The world does not owe us a thing, life is a blessing we need to appreciate that we are all lucky to have the opportunity to make something of ourselves. The chances we all had at birth was one in more than a million so we should appreciate being alive. How you choose to live your life is up to you, your choice to be good or bad is up to you as well, so don't blame the world for what you've chosen because the power to choose is in your hands.

SIGNS OF NICENESS

Being nice some of the time to prove a point might be enough for you to feel good about yourself but most people base their opinion of you on the majority of the time. If you have to prove that your intentions are good and your heart is pure then you don't have much faith in you what your actions are showing. Being yourself is not a performance act, it should just be a natural action that reflects what you are like when the lime light isn't on you without the forced filters that highlight all of us as flawless human beings. One of peoples biggest flaws is that we try to act in a way that we think our peers want us to be like but who are we fooling because this decision will catch up with us in the end when we are trying to work out what went wrong. Life is about figuring yourself out the sooner you come to terms with who you really are the sooner the charade can end and the sooner you can reach your true goals. 

FORCE MY HAND

We like to believe that fair is fair, you do what is right for you and I'll do what is right for me because your business doesn't have to be my business. This may be the ideal way of thinking in most circumstances but when conflicts do arise all because of a difference of opinion the only outcome left is to push forward your perspective even though the road will get bumpier when conflict hits. Your stance now is forced to adapt to the current situation at hand and accept that your opinion is as important as those who have shunned your point of view and tried to speak over you to highlight the importance of their own words. Your choice to stand up for what you believe in is the only move you have left otherwise your fate will be at the mercy of others. Those people who have gotten comfortable always getting their way will get a rude awakening when they realise there is more to a situation than their own point of view.

THATS BIASED, I THINK

Some people spend more time trying to find problems with a situation than trying to accept that things are the way they are. Even when there is no real issues they spend time nitpicking to find fault so that they can feel justified in any action they decide to take. They are largely influenced by their biased beliefs, which prevents anyone changing their mind. They will use any tactic at their disposal to entrap a person into showing them their bad side just to prove that their negative judgement makes sense. They spend a lot of their time making themselves unapproachable  so that they can play the victim card when nobody wants to spend any time with them. This tactic stops them from pursuing most things because it takes courage to try to make  things work and if they don't try to work on things that are difficult then they technically didn't fail. Making themselves unapproachable sometimes can have the opposite affect when a person starts to feel sorry for them and gives them more attention than they deserve. To them it is better to get any attention than no attention at all. This pattern gets monotonous and so does the rut that they have put themselves in. People will help you out of the hole you put yourself in but you need to be nice and appreciate them otherwise enjoy your ride of pattern of disappointment that will go on and on until you accept your responsible for your own life, no one is to be blamed for your choices.