SEEING RED

People may try and push your buttons to  trigger you, but it's up to you to take control of how you react. Its not always about who is in the right that justifys how you've reacted because sometimes not reacting at all will be the best way to not escalate frustrations further. If you are pushed to see red you have lost touch with your humanity and the virtues that guide you on the right way to act. We only understand the importance of not losing it once it is too late and the impact has already taken place. Most people who see red because they have overreacted are left with remorse on how they have reacted and it is only when they gather their thoughts that they start seeing clear again. This is the underlying truth that acknowledges that losing it will only lead you further away from the person that you have grown up to become and the person that you would rather be than a person who reacts purely on impulses. So be the man or woman that you are proud to be not the person you were in that moment of weakness. 

WHO ARE YOU REALLY? AND WHAT IS YOUR WORTH?

When we converse with others we all like to believe that our worth deserves to receive their undivided attention, even though those we converse with don't really know who we really are as people. We believe that any attention less than what we rightfully deserve is not just and disrespects our true value because if we settle for less it would mean we agree that we are a second thought in which the lack of attention we receive is justified. Letting this attitude towards you fly will deminish your self worth and train your brain in accepting that what ever attention you can get is good enough, this means that your self worth is in someone else's hands. So if you would rather have your destiny remain in your own hands than be a force to be reckoned with and demand to be treated with respect or if that doesn't work treat people with the same respect they treat you with. 

M.A.P HIDING IN PLAIN SIGHT

We live in a world where we try to normalise everything even the things that should never be normalised. Some groups use abbreviations to hide in plain sight because if a group has an abbreviation people dont look to deep into its true meaning and assume its just another small minority group that doesn't have any effect on the world. M.A.P is appreviated for many different types of groups but the biggest concern is when it's used to change the formally known group of paedophile into Minor attracted person as a way to claim that they are an okay minority who are comfortable speaking up for what they believe in. Those who are a part of M.A.Ps believe that there is a huge difference between them and paedophiles thus creating an abbreviation and a flag to highlight their group as different and a evolved group that is part of these current times. They believe they should be welcomed and accepted and shouldn't not be seen in a negative light. We live in time where labels are over used and are strategically placed to hide the real truth that some things should never be normalised it is a sheer embarrassment that these current times will condone almost any behaviour just not to offend a certain group. Paedophile and Minor Attracted person should be ashamed not separated as different because one has done it while the other is only thinking about it.  It is wrong on every possible level and should be set straight as wrong behaviour no matter the new abbreviation or effort of designing a flag to try and normalise it.

STRONG MINDED

We go to school to be educated, strengthen our mind and be ready for what the world has install for us. At an early age our mind is more malleable to ensure that we gain the important skills needed from our life experiences and then beable to use those lessons we've learned as a tool to adapt to the difficulties that may arise in our life. It is these lessons that guides conditioning of our thoughts that will prevent us from making the same repeated mistakes over and over again. These lessons can only be affective if you remain true to what motivates you and accept that you are where you are because of your choices. The more you lie to yourself and take no responsibility for your actions the longer you will struggle with repeated dramas, for that the dramas that life confronts you with can only be dealt with if you accept responsibility for your choices and strive to be strong minded. 

BEST FACE ON

Most people would rather show you that everything is okay with them and that they are in complete control of their life rather than having their personal vulnerabilitys on display. But all this does is create a false sense of security for those who would rely on you for guidance because it is your vulnerabilitys that show others that you are only human too and are capable of making the same mistakes they do. Life is made up of ups and downs and can make you feel like your feelings are on a roller-coaster but pretending that you are in power and flawless will only keep you going down on lifes track with no chance of recovery because a person who shows you their vulnerabilitys is much braver than one who hides from the truth. We are only human and as humans we are stronger together not on a podium by ourselves especially a podium based on lies.

I SAW IT ALLEGEDLY

The word allegedly is thrown around to easily because we don't want to claim that someone is guilty without any solid proof. One of the problems with innocent until proven guilty is that people who witness the incident as it happens have to wait an exhausting long period before they have their say in court and during this waiting period the word allegedly is used to shower the culprit with possible doubt blaming the eye witnesses for possibly getting it wrong. Allegedly should only be used if there is doubt in the accusation not if someone is caught red handed. Guilty people should not be mixed up with those people whos case isn't as straightforward. You commit a crime who should not be thinking there is a chance to get out of it based on the hope of circumstantial evidence supporting your point of view. Consequences need to be concise and consistent so that conditioning can create repercussions to anyone thinking of repeating those crimes. Laws are put in place to protect the community if you do not want to follow the laws you should not be part of the community and be placed in a jail cell so that you could remember that it was your actions alone that got you put in a place where you have restricted freedoms. So think before you commit the crime that could change you life for ever allegedly. 

LOGIC SAYS NO

Throughout life men and women have searched for truth in the world assuming that once the truth is attained that it will lead them to a common ground of sensibility. The assumption is that truth is a universal language that corresponds with the same outcome irrespective or point of view, but to some people truth is a matter of perspective and should not be measured purely on the basis of the facts but should take in consideration how people feel about the circumstances at hand. When faced with a problematic issue some people accept that things are what they are and move on while others don't let logic influence their outcome of thought, they deny the truth even when they are staring it in the face and would rather not change their already made up mind. Those people believe that if they will it enough and don't focus on the said truth then the truth can be anything they want it to be. If believing in something strong enough made it true then all of us would be living in a fantasy world of our own design where our personal truths would not be affected by each others reality. This is not true because our choices have repercussions that cause effects on those around us and denying our influences  doesn't mean our perception of the truth is right, it just means we are living in denial.

CULTURAL BAGGAGE

Living in a multicultural country the chances of you interacting with people of a different culture to your own is very high. Even though we are surrounded by  multiculturalism our understandings of  other peoples culture is very limited  because where we butt heads with our beliefs is enough for some people to put up a wall that halters any chance of building a respectful relationship. When people choose to leave their country of origin and try to blend in to their new found community its easy to forget that part of their country of origin will always find its way to follow them to their new home. Cultural baggage can influence thinking, speech and behaviour this is why culture gets tied to stereotypes, which can lead to groups of people that unfairly attach generalisations that come with  stigma no matter if many people don't fit those generalisations. Painting everyone with the same generalisation brush will only point out the ignorance of the accuser. So if you don't want to be ignorant then be aware of the differences between people and you'll be a little closer to being someone that should be respected. 

BULLIES WANTING SYMPATHY

We tip toe around bullies trying not to tip them over the edge as we side step the egg shells, but what about the victim "How does the avoidance affect the victim?. The victim might feel that letting the bullys have their way is the safer path and doing anything that might rile the bully up is asking for trouble so shutting up is the better alternative but this is a short term fix and eventually what keeps the victim quiet dissipates and all that is left is the raw truth. Truth is stronger than fear of consequences and no matter of outcome the truth keeps your moral compass aligned for the better of the world. Standing up for what you believe in will help you reach the courage that comes with the confidence of following your rituoues path. Those who base their beliefs on untruths get hit harder when they are alone and left with an unsettled mindset. Once the fault is realised and regret hits home all that is left is taking responsibilities for their actions. This is not always easy to do depending on how long they've disrespected someone, because by this time their target has lost any hope in your ability to be rehabilitate from a place of disfavour.  In the end the bully craves sympathy for the history between him and his target victim who are meant to empathise instantaneously with the bullys current state. This is easier said than done because all the victims have left is how they feel and feelings are based on solid experiences when reflecting on the past is full many repetitive disappointing circumstances that took their toll on having a trusting relationship. Trust is built on time with positive reinforcement and can not be fast tracked.  So remember actions speak louder than words so skip the speech and act on how you feel because that is what is genuine. 

HAPPINESS FROM THE PAST

We all grow up in discovery mode where we are in constant search for happiness. Every experience we have is new and teaches us a little more about ourselves.  No matter if its a good or bad experience it is still responsible for shaping us to be the person that we are today. Throughout life we discover interests that keeps us motivated and keeps us moving forward to strive for more, it is those things that we enjoy doing most that differentiate us from others. Sometimes our busy lifestyle modifys our priorities and leaves our basic interests on the bench. We try and justify our decision to deny our interests by choosing what we believe is more important and then using the over used excuse " I just don't have the time!" , but we forget that it is the little things in your life that keeps us sane. You may find the difficulties in your life become easier to handle when you allow yourself some breathing time where you could focus on yourself. If you brush aside the importance of the little things that put a smile on your face you'll probably find that with all the seriousness of the important things that take priority in your life that you will eventually find it harder to slow down and relax when you do have an oportunity to. So get back to your core and spend some time doing those things you grew up doing and have now made yourself feel like there is no place for it in your adult life.