BAD ADVICE

We all differ in the amount of friends we have in our social circles but our friendship groups share alot of unique similarities. Our friendship groups consist of four categories: acquaintance, friend, close friend and best friend. As time passes your shared life experiences helps you strengthen your relationship bond with your friends because mutual respect is reciprocated. No matter the type of friend you have if their is an imbalance of respect resentment will build up and jealousy will take over leaving the non loyal friend to modify his or her behaviour by starting to give bad advice rather than the heart felt good advice you got used to. This will lead your disloyal friend down the pathway of resenting you and spending energy steering you on the wrong crooked path. So know who your true friends are and what their true motives are so that you won't wonder why they lead you down the garden path before you cant fix your bad choices.

CONSEQUENCES OF DOING

Consequences need to be concise and consistent if they were ever to be affective. If people aren't afraid of the consequences of their actions they will repeat the same mistakes over and over again. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity. Control and order go hand in hand and rely strongly on the consequences to maintain conditioning. People do the right thing because of the consequences they may be faced with,  they will either feel good when they be good or they may feel bad when the fail to be good. We all crave stimuli to feel alive which can either be positive or negative its a matter of perspective. Consequences sit in the middle between good and bad it leads you to the outcome that encourages you to reflect on your actions.  It is the consequences of our actions that remind us that what we did is the cause of where we are now, so taking responsibility of your choices will help you modify your behaviour to achieve a different result. We all like to believe that we are capable of being selfless but there is no such thing as a selfless act because anything you put out creates a feeling that comes back to you that influences your actions in either a positive or a negative way. Our basic human needs crave Certainty, variety, connection, growth, contribution and significance so what you might see as a selfless act with no intentions your subconscious has its own agenda for which you have not comprehended.

TRY TO BE CIVIL

Being polite seems a simpler enough task to achieve when your trying to follow the rules of good behaviour, but this becomes ever so challenging when unexpected hurdles are put in your way to hinder your behaviour. As you converse with small groups of people your intentions are finding common ground which is fairly easy to do but the the bigger the group that you converse with the harder you'll find to reach an equilibrium with others because through the diversity of people brings diversity in opinions. When you have a difference of beliefs your unpopular opinion will highlight you as an unacceptable person to converse with but should pleasing others be at the detriment of your own happiness. The more time you spend in a circle of people that deprive you of your opinions because they find them offensive the quicker you'll reach unhappiness and your freedom of speech will be ignored during controversial topics. So be civil and remember if we all had the same thoughts no one will learn anything new and conversation would be a little boring.

WOMEN AND MEN

We live in an era of inclusion transgender women compete in sports with biological women while some men and women dont see any problem with the inclusion others are disappointed with the amalgamation. I believe the line that separates women and men sports should be eradicated because it is discrimination that separates men and women sports and not any other justifiable reason for their separation. Maybe if we let time tell with the inclusion of men and women in competitive sports we will be reminded why the sexes of sports were separated and then it won't be a few woman complaining about the unfair advantage that a transgender woman has over a biological woman but it will bring more women to the table of how they feel and how they are affected by inclusion. This expierience might encourage them to decide to band together and stand up for their rights for fairness rather than worrying about the transgender rights to compete in competitive sports. Transgender athletes should compete with Transgender athletes if we expect equality. High level sports creates categories which may seem sexist or unfair but they are there to keep things fair by being equal.

EXPECTATIONS MET

Peoples expectations vary from one another, whether its a standard expectation with minimal output or high expectations that comes with a lot of responsibility some people want more out of certain people and settle for less from others. This may work on the short term basis but those who are expected to do more eventually will fill like they are being taken advantage of and will break ties looking for a little appreciation from another source. This takes away an integral part of the relationship that relied solely on one person to take the reins of leadership and left others hitching an easy ride with little contribution. There is no gain in focusing on the short term benefits if you consider the long term affects being detriment to the relationship. Just because something hasn't happened yet it doesn't mean it's not a problem, it is your responsibility to deal with the possible problems before they take affect so you are able to asess and choose the better outcome. Everyone has a different threshold that once crossed their is no remedy. So treat everyone the same as if they were in the same boat otherwise the ones that are responsible for more will be searching for a raft off the boat looking for something that meets their expectations.

I AM ALL POWERFUL, BOW BEFORE ME

Some people can be more prone to suffer from delusions of grandeur because of their status in society. With all the praise they receive for their achievements it is hard for them to feel that they can do no wrong but no body can escape the underlying truth that as people we are all capable of having a bad day. Those suffering from delusions are superstars in the eyes of the public and this only adds to their delusions of grandeur but being great at something doesn't mean that your are infallible at everything else. A head swollen doesnt see clearly and mistakes can be made because having the power you have is limited and controlled by who gave you that power in the first place. Whether you are an entrepreneur with many talents or a famous person with many fans without those who admire you,  you are only left to admire yourself. So be humble and be true to the person you were before you achieved your success and people will respect you even on your toughest days and remember no one is perfect and no on has to be. 

THE ZOMBIE GENERATION

Kids of today may be referred to as the zombie generation which might seem an over exaggeration when stating from an outsiders point of view but once observed up close their are a lot of common factors. Kids walk with no purpose better than a neanderthal but befitting to the walking dead. Asking them questions they'll answer with a grrrgrrr, if you ask them to do anything they'll forget your instructions three seconds later the same interaction you'd get if you were trying to converse with a stiff. They act like life is over because of the smallest thing that is not going their way even though it's just the beginning of their life. Will time revive the lazy zombie or is simple technology enough to mesmerise them with the same effect that fresh meat dangling infront of a hungry zombie causes. Being a zombie may seem like their is no hope but if a zombie can find a purpose to move forward even at a staggering slow pace just to search for meat then their is hope for kids finding their feet and searching for something more interesting than what's in their bedroom. So to the kids of the world show us that your generation has more than meets the eye and us oldies will admit that it's your time to shine and we'll move aside so that the kids of the world can pave their way to greatness. 

BLACK AND WHITE

People would rather close their eyes then acknowledge the truth when it's written in black and white. Only the strong minded people are able to accept the errors in their personal views and move forward. It feels strange to accept that smart people can do stupid things because we see intelligence as covering all spectrums but your level of intelligence is usually focused on your passions. The truth can be painful to accept because it is not filtered and we live in a generation where we try to protect our kids by cotton wooling their experiences. The reality is that the hard truth is not compassionate nor empathetic it just is an answer to the question we find ourselves asking, How come?. The answer doesn't have to be forgiving or fair it is merely the truth to why things are the way that they are and by understanding the why you might be able to come to terms with the reasons that got you here even though your mind finds it difficult to grasp because the truth contradicts your point of view. If you base your core beliefs on untruths you will never beable to build a solid foundation that being mature will allow you to reach which will lead you to gain the skills to beable to build a positive lifestyle. So grow up and remember that learning doesn't stop just because you are out of school, and accept the truth for what it is and not what you would rather it be.

JUST A WORD

Words are created and changed through our evolution of our species but even though the power of words can highlight by encapsulating a meaning, without people grabbing hold of the new word and adding it to their everyday vocabulary it will eventually be discarded into the already ever growing not used pile of useless words. Words can sometimes transform from generation to generation and when a word is created to represent a specific meaning the next generation modifys the word and the new meaning takes the podium. So how language can transforms through evolution, so can it be lost in translation when attempting to use it in another language which is also part of the reason that what we see as a significant word with a significant meaning is still just a word. As Shakespeare said "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet" words are labels to describe something, but without labels that encapsulate meaning we are left with only the true essence which is the real reason to appreciate things as they are because we are so more than just names and labels.

24 HOURS

We all suffer from the same time constraints in a day, it doesn't matter who you are 24 hours is all you get to achieve what you desire. How you choose to spend your time is based on what you favour as the more important priority for that day. Claiming that time restrictions takes away your power to be able to do more so you shouldn't be blamed for your choices because you are forced into particular decisions doesn't justify how you have chosen how to spend your time and with whom. Priorities are choices that are above other options so using the saying "I just didn't have enough time in the day otherwise i would of done that instead of this" is an excuse that doesn't answer why your priorities were what they were. Time passes on and it is up to you to slow down and priorities your life by not falling in the trap of "If I could I would of. Unless you are locked in a cell that restricts your movement and binds your mouth shut you have no real excuse but the sad reality is the only cell you are in is the prison of  your own mind that puts limitations to the way you think  that relys solely on the foundations of your excuses to thrive.