PAIN FULL OF AUDIENCE

Most people have experienced pain in their lives, but how they react to that pain can vary depending on their audience. When pain hits you and you are alone, you take it in and deal with it the best way that you can. This intrinsic response changes the moment someone else enters the room. Even though you are quietly managing your pain, your threshold for pain declines when your audience has their eyes on you. This overreaction gets the observer to transform into a carer, and now, with their focus solely on you, their newfound objective is what they can do to make you feel better. When we were kids and we fell down and scraped our knees our parents would either cuddle us with the intention of making us feel safe or they helped us by picking us up dusting us off and then encouraged us to keep on playing. Even though both decisions are made with good intentions, the decision to give more attention than what is required will only encourage bad behaviour. We are all product of conditioning it is human nature to recognise patterns in behaviour and if we notice that a little overreacting gets us what we deem is the right kind of attention then we will play on it. So if you don't want to fall for the drama then change the way you react to it and wait for the next episode that seems to come on a heightened level even though there is no urgency for it.