EMPATHISE THE BEST WE CAN

When we are attempting to empathise with someone we can only do our best to compare our life experiences to theirs, this is because we are at a disadvantage of not having more insight on the person that we are trying to connect with. In order to properly empathise with someone we need to understand them and share their feelings whereas people like to claim that they are empathetic with only a shared life experience in common, this type of comparison isnt enough to connect to them on a deeper level. What we may perceive to be a similar life experience will never be matched to what is considered a true connection that is measured by true empathy because its not just about the experiences we face that helps connect us but more importantly how we are affected by those experiences based on who we are. To claim that you fully understand and share the exact feelings as that individual will only highlight your own ignorance. People are the same in some ways but are also different in other ways that is why everyone takes loss a different way which depending on the individual and all the variables that make that individual unique will ensure that true empathy will never be reached and the best that we can ever offer is to do our best when trying to empathise with someone who is obviously different.

BORROWED OPINION

Our opinions should be our own, not borrowed from others, to save us time from formulating our own conclusions. Whether we feel nothing on the matter or we have a strong opinion, we owe it to ourselves to speak our mind. We need to voice our opinion so that it is clear where we stand. Otherwise, we are wasting the power of our voices. Where we take the easier pathway and rely on others to do the work for us to expect their opinion to match our own is only doing ourselves an injustice. It is very rare that your opinion will match someone else's every opinion 100%, but that doesn't mean that differences that you discover should be enough to cut them out of your life. If you are the type of person who can't try to communicate with someone who doesn't share your every opinion, it could be signs of your own weakness. So maybe you should work on yourself so that you can work out, Why is it that you are afraid to be seen communicating with someone who has a different opinion on your own? Is it because their may be some validity in what they are saying and you are afraid to be swayed from yours? Or is it that you feel others will judge you on your chosen company?. Either way if someone is putting a blockade on who you can communicate with then maybe you should open your eyes to see who is restricting you and who is trying to have an open conversation with you even though your opinions dont align with theirs?. If those who are trying to communicate with you don't have a valid point then what is the harm of lending your ear to have the conversation, or maybe the harm is in your beliefs being challenged.

STAND FOR TRUTH

If you don't like what someone is saying, then you can agree to disagree and just walk away. There will always be parties who disagree with one another, but a difference of opinion is never enough of an excuse to cause harm to one another. We should be able to debate our ideas with our peers and just because our reasons justify our beliefs to ourselves that doesn't mean that our reasons will always hit home with our peers but respecting that our opinions are our own and each to their own should be the philosophy that we preach as long as we are not hurting anyone in the process should always be our number one priority. If you harm the other party, that surely means that you are admitting that you are afraid of what they are claiming because you couldn't win the argument with words, so you decided to respond with violence. As the popular phrase goes "violence is the last refuge of the incompetent" If someone puts out a lie about you the truth will eventually set you free, but if someone is trying to sprout truths maybe the liars of the world are afraid the seeds of truth will set in. Truth is the most powerful thing in the world. That's why those who lie are afraid of it, the fear of being seen for what they are fraudsters. The truth will not set liars free, so they try to destroy anyone who may be onto their ways. You can try to hide from truth, but eventually, it will find you.

THE PEN IS MIGHTIER THAN THE SWORD

Inspirational words can encourage a society to take inspirational actions, which in turn will govern long-term changes to be made for the betterment of society. Our successors can only be achieved if we as a society are on the same page and are ready to do what needs to be done to propel society forward. The power of positive thinking carries further with the momentum to affect society for the positive rather than the alternative efforts that are put in place in order to force people to submit to what they passionately disagree with and then expecting a good result. The power of words stays with you even when the person who speaks them passes away, this is why getting someone to see another perspective is better than trying to force your opinion down someone's throat in order to control them. In order to reap the benefits that can only be achieved by forward thinking, we need to educate ourselves in being open minded and not judging someone based on one of their many opinions that you may disagree with. Force will never hold the same power or influence that encouragement offers, which is why it will not replace the progress that is willingly achieved through inspirational encouragement that spires from wisdom. So whether you accept that people will eventually rebel against a forced hand rather than an open one, it is up to you to deal with the repercussions when you're faced with them.

OVERRULED

When you put forward a claim there are those who will always claim the opposite in order to prove that they have seen both sides of the story and in your assertion that you may have missed something of importance. This is done not only because they believe that they are making a point that you haven't yet considered but also they want to highlight how open minded they are compared to you. They confidently believe that you have  jumped to conclusions rashly without logical thought even though you've made your claims with all things considered which is why your focus is now only on the importance of what should take presidence. When decisions have to be made we like to consider everyones preferences but where opinions crossover we have to make the choice to satisfy the many and at the same time try to accommodate the best we can for the minority. If we decided to do the opposite to what seems to be the most rational choice to satisfy the most people you can in your power because they are more flexible and more willing to compromise  whereas the minority are more likely to be focused on only their own way of being and are less likely to try to adapt with the consensus because it doesn't fit their specific needs. The choice should be an easy one if you don't turn it into an emotional one because emotions will keep you thinking that you can please everyone but logical thought understands you can't. People are sometimes driven by their irrational emotions which can go against what is logical and steer others into the wrong direction this puts your focus on the individual who isn't in control of their emotions rather than the clear thought process you have when you are in your right mind. So before you make any claim make sure that you can stand by it before it is overruled with a simple comment otherwise you will be left to choose to backtrack anything you may have said that made you second guess your claim.

BORN TO DO IT

Talents are the becons that guide us through to the right job that we should endeavour to pursue, even though our preferences dont always align with our raw talents they still manage to divert our focus away from our intrinsic skill set. Most of the time our chosen pathways are focused on what we see as the practical choice rather than the most logical choice that will bring us a higher level of happiness because it is connected to our core being. Money is a factor that can steer someone to choose what pays more even if it takes away the joy that being in the right job brings you. Talents are rare and should be appreciated as you would appreciate any gift because not everyone is lucky enough to possess what you have achieved without even trying. Those who admire your talents have to put in more time and a lot more hard work just to come close to the standard that you have easily reached. All that extra effort that they put in, they still aren't guaranteed the same result. That is why not using what you've got is abusing what you've been given, and you should never squander the gifts that have fallen in your lap.

LIFE ON HOLD

We put all the things we intend on doing on hold in order to accommodate for the things deemed immediate because our priorities change and the time we have left is limited. Our preferred bucket list gets pushed aside to accommodate for a logical exchange even though our achievements can be measured in so many ways if what we choose to do with our time doesn't belong on the bucket list you can almost predict that you'll feel that you've let yourself down. The bucket list is usually full of life experiences that you wish to fulfil before you kick the bucket whereas your day to day to do list is what you've put in place to ensure that the day runs smoothly. Your day to day task may help you function short-term, but it's your long-term goals that your bucket list is made up of that gives you something to look forward to. Life is about sacrifices, but there is always a limit where the more you give up is the more you feel that you are losing yourself. That's why a balanced lifestyle will reward you with peace . The key is we have to have a to do list to function through the day but we also have to not neglect that at the end of completing our responsibilities we owe it to ourselves to pursue our bucket list. 

HARDER THAN THE TIMES

As much as we strive for an easier life to live without difficulties in your life to challenge you the easier lifestyle you lead will magnify your vulnerabilities so that you will inevitably  struggle at the first sign of trouble. Difficult times strengthen your mentality so that you have the learned experiences to deal with lifes ups and downs because everyone's life has ups and downs. No one is immune to the troubles that will eventually find them. It is very important that we remain tougher than the tough times ahead because our mental health is on the line. No matter how strong you think you are, your mental health can break if you don't allow yourself to learn from your mishaps. So brace yourself during the tough times and wait the storm because the tough times will eventually dissipate, and all that will remain is the stronger version of you.

REPUTATION INPRINTED

Once you have a reputation, it can feel like it is set in stone, but this is only true if it's a bad reputation because it is almost impossible to lift your status once it's down. Those of you who are lucky enough to have a good rep it can be short lived when society has its eyes on you, this is because once you are in the publics eye the expectations on you to remain perfect is heightened beyond any normalcy. Peoples expectations of those that they have already thrown in the bad rep basket are at the all-time lowest that they could be, which is why they are overlooked even when they try to do good. Whereas a good reputation can be tainted quickly because people who see you in high regard are jagged by any slight thing you do that can tarnish their almost perfect view of you. In life their is no possibility of pleasing everyone because once you reach someone's high standards you decline from someone else's. So make your own standards and try your best to live up to them and dont worry what basket society decides to put you in.

TAKEN FOR GRANTED

When you've grown accustomed to having an easier lifestyle, it's likely that you will forget those who have helped you get through those tough times. Whether or not they have played an integral part in you being able to reach your desired lifestyle its all forgotten anyway when you are living in the moment of your success. The moment your desired lifestyle becomes the norm is the moment that your new found comfort takes priority over what is right and overrides any appreciation that you should have shown for those who have contributed to your added happiness. The last thing on the mind of someone who is enjoying their easier lifestyle is what sacrifices may have had to happen for them to get their desired way of life. This is why it is important that we keep to memory that the sacrifices that are done willingly by our friends should never be forgotten for that we are only where we want to be because of those who went with out in order for us to have more. Humility goes a long way when you are able to reflect on your journey through the tough times that you can only succeed surrounded by supportive friends even when you were at your lowest state of mind.