I DOUBT THAT

Doubt is a wall that prevents real conversion from hitting its point. It stops any relevant point that you've made from being taken seriously. It doesn't matter if your point is valid or not because it takes a whole lot more than facts to persuade the listener to take notice of your claims when they are only half listening to what you are saying. Logical thought takes twice the effort to set in when what you are claiming goes against the grain of a person's standard way of thinking, especially when they have already made up their mind on the subject. To get them to hear you and understand your point of view will mean they have to first remove their doubt that they have long time cemented into their belief system for them to be able to have an unbiased point of view. Whether we like to admit it or not who the speaker is also is part of the reason that the impact of their claim is either ignored or taken seriously because whether they are seen in a positive light or a negative light it is enough to sway the mind of another. So if you want to get people to respect your opinion then you need to first get them to like you before you make any valid points or suffer the consequences of a judgement that's made before the point is made.

THAT'S MY ROLE MODEL

We strive to be like our role models, but who do our role models want to be like? Most of the time, they are just being themselves while at the same time being admired by those who follow them on social platforms. If people are admired because of their high-value system, maybe all that it takes to be respected is to have a good value system. Peoples values can vary from person to person even though, on average, most people share fundamental similarities, this doesn't mean that you won't be able to find differences between them. One persons motivations may differ from another, but ultimately, in the end, the goals are very similar, which is one of the reasons why we do the things that we do differently from each other. It is better for us to have an open mind when it comes to understanding why people behave the way that they do and not just see things from our own perspective, all this does is shut us down from learning something that we may have missed because of the lack of information we had. Having a good foundation of beliefs is what holds everything together. Without it, we will crumble like a stack of cards in the wind. So if you'd rather be the person who can stand by your statement without any show of aggression, then take control of yourself and be the someone who would like you to be their role model. 

HYPOCRISY EVERYWHERE

We are surrounded by hypocrisy the more we converse with different minds. Even when the situation arises where you feel that you are conversing with a balanced mindset, there will be times when their controlled reactions are overtaken by their emotional state of mind. As human beings we are not perfect so when we lose control of our controlled responses we react without thinking clearly and do the things that we are not proud to do, those out of control moments don't always reflect the persona that we put on show. No one is perfect that is why our rash reactions can hurt the people that we dearly care about because they are the only ones that are willing to put in all the effort that is humanly possible into trying to help us out when we are in a bind. We are all handicapped by our imperfections, which is why it takes a lot more energy for us to do the right thing when someone else keeps on wronging us. That's why eventually we are forced to make the decision to distance ourselves from those who are suffering from being hypocrites all of the time before they break us down to become what we desperately don't want to be our worst version of ourselves.

DESPERATION

Desperate times have the power to change people into the worst version of themselves. When you lack the ability to control yourself in a terrible situation you are left at the mercy of your desperate alter ego where your moral line gets moved far away from your comfort zone to suit your current situation. Once you move your moral line further away from the norm just to accommodate for your new found situation you will find that your choice to ignore your true values will change the president of all your future choices for the worse. That's why adjusting your moral compass will reshuffle your principles and your ethical judgements, showing all that are in your inner circle that you are not a person of your word. Those who can remain true to themselves even during the tough times will always have the respect of others and are more likely to have strong relationships with their peers. So, if you'd rather be admired for having integrity when it counts, then be the person who you claim to be no matter the type of day that you are having. 

ON THE EDGE

Tolerance can only take you so far. Once you are exhausted of refraining, the opposite response becomes prominent. Your bias is now apparent and in charge of all of your emotions, removing any chances of your logical side taking over. Your ability to control yourself slips away, and you are left with a raw response that doesn't always reflect what you think but more on how you are feeling at this specific moment in time. Regret soon follows once you have released your built-up tension by venting all of your frustrations on some undeserving person, which is nearly  impossible to take back. We all have our limits and whether we stop ourselves before we unleash mayhem onto our unsuspecting peers it is up to us to manage our emotions to what we best believe reflects the person that we want to be. So whether you want to be known for your patience or just seen as an angry person, remember that before you get to the edge and explode.

BOTTLE UP

People who bottle up their emotions believe that holding it all in is the better alternative. They feel that burying their frustrations is better than dealing with them when their problems begin to arise even though this is only ever going to be a temporary solution. Avoiding your problems at first may be a quick fix solution, but your problems will still be around the corner waiting for you twofold to ambush you when you are ill prepared. So prioritising your dilemmas is the only way to get a handle on them, this will allow you to put them in an order of urgency, which will help you create a checklist of importance. These problems at hand need to be your focus point and be treated with the respect they deserve because your mental state is on the line. If we neglect the issues when they are minor issues, then we are doing ourselves an injustice because there can be no good in dodging the inevitable . So respect yourself by allowing your mind to tackle the dramas in your life rather than letting your dramas take your life over and swamp you in a place that may lead to your depression because you are better than that.

PERCEPTON DECAY

As we grow older, our recollection of the past can differ from what we have remembered it to be like, almost unrecognisable from the actual events that took place. Through the passing of time, our life memories decay slowly as our brain fills up with new memories from the experiences that we are now facing and tries to decipher the new memories into organised categories. Whether the new memories are pleasant ones or traumatic ones, our brain does its best to make sense of our mindset that is in disarray, but this is no easy task. The facts of the matter can be construed on what we believe did happen from what actually happened because  sometimes our perspective is tainted by unresolved issues that have led us to take a biased point of view which creates a false narrative. Fresh memories that are based on all the facts considered are more likely to be reliable where time hasn't managed to sprinkle a little fairy dust on it. As kids, we tend to react more before we investigate, whereas adults tend to pay a bit more focus on the attention to detail. So where nostalgia can make you feel that you miss the good old days, it probably felt different when you were growing up as that child. It is probably better to focus on the now rather than reminiscing in your past life tales and much better for your mental state. So think forward and leave the past in the distance.

RIGHT THAT'S WRONG

I may eventually be proven to be wrong but that doesn't mean i have to admit that i am, this is the attitude of those closed minded people who were never going to listen to anyone with a different point of view. This attitude is the result of them believing that the way that they do things is perfect in every way because they have got themselves down pat to a perfect way to be, so no amount of conversation can get them to see otherwise. These individuals will drag out conversation with a song and dance response when they are questioned about their opinions because they can see clearly that the end result won't favour their claimed viewpoints which will stand our to be contradictory to all that they've stood for. So if you don't want to feel that your conversation is going round and round with no point to be made then avoid talking to the hand and stop trying to educate the unwilling that wont listen. Better spend your valuable time talking to someone who is willing to listen before they make judgement of your claims.

HAZARD AHEAD

In hindsight we should of seen this coming is what we hear alot of people claim when the shit hits the fan, but is this outcome the result of someone neglecting to recognise the tell-tale signs or just someone that really had no idea that their choices would lead them to their own misfortune. If we are unable to connect the dots from our past to our present with the success of recognising the patterns of discomfort that have led us to our current misfortune, then we are condemned to repeat our errors. If we learn from the patterns that have led us to the dramas that have followed us, maybe we can gain foresight from our dealings. Foresight only comes into fruition when you don't ignore the issues at hand, if you don't be proactive and take control of your life when you see an opportunity to then you may as well wait until you fail to work out your next step. This inaction will only repeat until you make a choice to stop it in its tracks. So would you rather have the foresight to make the right choices or try and work yourself out once you hit the brick wall at full pace?.

AFRAID TO SAY

So many of us have opinions on the tip of our tongue but we are afraid to have our say heard because we believe speaking up means that we would be put in the line of fire. This fear that resides in us has us only speaking up when our opinion is part of the consensus. Avoiding conflict might be the easier pathway but it's not the right one because broadening the range of conversation can enable others to see a valid point that they might have missed. Voices need to be heard calmly and respectfully in order for real progress to be made. If we shut someone down before they make their point how can we say that we disagree with them. Disagreeing with someone shouldn't be seen as an attack on their beliefs its merely that you prefer to do things in the way that makes sense to you. Logical thought can vary from person to person this is reflected in what we choose to put on top of our priority list. As people tend to have different priorities we should be more understanding of our differences, because that is what makes us unique. That is why it is important to see that our appreciation of things can vary and how we choose to express ourselves will not always match how others express their appreciation. So we can't always expect to agree on everything but we should at least give each other a chance to explain why they believe what they believe otherwise you'll never learn anything different from those whos opinions varies from your own.