BEST FACE ON

Most people would rather show you that everything is okay with them and that they are in complete control of their life rather than having their personal vulnerabilitys on display. But all this does is create a false sense of security for those who would rely on you for guidance because it is your vulnerabilitys that show others that you are only human too and are capable of making the same mistakes they do. Life is made up of ups and downs and can make you feel like your feelings are on a roller-coaster but pretending that you are in power and flawless will only keep you going down on lifes track with no chance of recovery because a person who shows you their vulnerabilitys is much braver than one who hides from the truth. We are only human and as humans we are stronger together not on a podium by ourselves especially a podium based on lies.

I SAW IT ALLEGEDLY

The word allegedly is thrown around to easily because we don't want to claim that someone is guilty without any solid proof. One of the problems with innocent until proven guilty is that people who witness the incident as it happens have to wait an exhausting long period before they have their say in court and during this waiting period the word allegedly is used to shower the culprit with possible doubt blaming the eye witnesses for possibly getting it wrong. Allegedly should only be used if there is doubt in the accusation not if someone is caught red handed. Guilty people should not be mixed up with those people whos case isn't as straightforward. You commit a crime who should not be thinking there is a chance to get out of it based on the hope of circumstantial evidence supporting your point of view. Consequences need to be concise and consistent so that conditioning can create repercussions to anyone thinking of repeating those crimes. Laws are put in place to protect the community if you do not want to follow the laws you should not be part of the community and be placed in a jail cell so that you could remember that it was your actions alone that got you put in a place where you have restricted freedoms. So think before you commit the crime that could change you life for ever allegedly. 

LOGIC SAYS NO

Throughout life men and women have searched for truth in the world assuming that once the truth is attained that it will lead them to a common ground of sensibility. The assumption is that truth is a universal language that corresponds with the same outcome irrespective or point of view, but to some people truth is a matter of perspective and should not be measured purely on the basis of the facts but should take in consideration how people feel about the circumstances at hand. When faced with a problematic issue some people accept that things are what they are and move on while others don't let logic influence their outcome of thought, they deny the truth even when they are staring it in the face and would rather not change their already made up mind. Those people believe that if they will it enough and don't focus on the said truth then the truth can be anything they want it to be. If believing in something strong enough made it true then all of us would be living in a fantasy world of our own design where our personal truths would not be affected by each others reality. This is not true because our choices have repercussions that cause effects on those around us and denying our influences  doesn't mean our perception of the truth is right, it just means we are living in denial.

CULTURAL BAGGAGE

Living in a multicultural country the chances of you interacting with people of a different culture to your own is very high. Even though we are surrounded by  multiculturalism our understandings of  other peoples culture is very limited  because where we butt heads with our beliefs is enough for some people to put up a wall that halters any chance of building a respectful relationship. When people choose to leave their country of origin and try to blend in to their new found community its easy to forget that part of their country of origin will always find its way to follow them to their new home. Cultural baggage can influence thinking, speech and behaviour this is why culture gets tied to stereotypes, which can lead to groups of people that unfairly attach generalisations that come with  stigma no matter if many people don't fit those generalisations. Painting everyone with the same generalisation brush will only point out the ignorance of the accuser. So if you don't want to be ignorant then be aware of the differences between people and you'll be a little closer to being someone that should be respected. 

BULLIES WANTING SYMPATHY

We tip toe around bullies trying not to tip them over the edge as we side step the egg shells, but what about the victim "How does the avoidance affect the victim?. The victim might feel that letting the bullys have their way is the safer path and doing anything that might rile the bully up is asking for trouble so shutting up is the better alternative but this is a short term fix and eventually what keeps the victim quiet dissipates and all that is left is the raw truth. Truth is stronger than fear of consequences and no matter of outcome the truth keeps your moral compass aligned for the better of the world. Standing up for what you believe in will help you reach the courage that comes with the confidence of following your rituoues path. Those who base their beliefs on untruths get hit harder when they are alone and left with an unsettled mindset. Once the fault is realised and regret hits home all that is left is taking responsibilities for their actions. This is not always easy to do depending on how long they've disrespected someone, because by this time their target has lost any hope in your ability to be rehabilitate from a place of disfavour.  In the end the bully craves sympathy for the history between him and his target victim who are meant to empathise instantaneously with the bullys current state. This is easier said than done because all the victims have left is how they feel and feelings are based on solid experiences when reflecting on the past is full many repetitive disappointing circumstances that took their toll on having a trusting relationship. Trust is built on time with positive reinforcement and can not be fast tracked.  So remember actions speak louder than words so skip the speech and act on how you feel because that is what is genuine. 

HAPPINESS FROM THE PAST

We all grow up in discovery mode where we are in constant search for happiness. Every experience we have is new and teaches us a little more about ourselves.  No matter if its a good or bad experience it is still responsible for shaping us to be the person that we are today. Throughout life we discover interests that keeps us motivated and keeps us moving forward to strive for more, it is those things that we enjoy doing most that differentiate us from others. Sometimes our busy lifestyle modifys our priorities and leaves our basic interests on the bench. We try and justify our decision to deny our interests by choosing what we believe is more important and then using the over used excuse " I just don't have the time!" , but we forget that it is the little things in your life that keeps us sane. You may find the difficulties in your life become easier to handle when you allow yourself some breathing time where you could focus on yourself. If you brush aside the importance of the little things that put a smile on your face you'll probably find that with all the seriousness of the important things that take priority in your life that you will eventually find it harder to slow down and relax when you do have an oportunity to. So get back to your core and spend some time doing those things you grew up doing and have now made yourself feel like there is no place for it in your adult life.

CRAVE THE PURSUIT

While some people prefer to talk about their cravings as a hyperthetical, others make it their mission to do as much as they can do to reach their goals. Craving a certain type of lifestyle but putting little effort into trying to achieve that desired lifestyle highlights that some people crave the idea of the pursuit more than they do the actual journey. These people get rid of any potential opportunities by placing challenging hurdles strategically where they will have the desired affect of demotivating themselves  by confronting  a molehill and then their fear transforms it into a mountain of disappointment. The power of fear is enough to discourage them from pursuing their dreams because failure would be emminent in their eyes. So they may as well not risk losing what little they have to crave for and accept that they should be content with the bait that is waiving infront of their face of a potential hyperthetical pipe dream without the desire to pursue it. If you ask yourself, Why risk falling from the safety net for the chance of disappointment that may follow when the chance of success is not likely? You better answer swiftly "It's better to fail at something you crave than have nothing to crave for."

CHASING NOSTALGIA

 

We spend a lot of time trying reconnect to our past memories through nostalgia which the affects brings back those cherished memories that we hold dear to our heart. Reflecting on the memories from our past hoping for answers on how we've become the person we are today and remembering how innocent we used to be before life's ups and downs hardened our persona. Believing that the answers on who we are lies somewhere in our past, hoping that our past could give us an indication of what is yet to come if our lifestyle were to follow a set path. Sometimes we find resolute in our past memories because they remind us of our innocents as children, but as adults our memories are tainted by our current point of view. Looking at our past with an evolved mindset rather than the mindset of a child will make you feel that you should of made different choices that could of lead you to have more of things that you crave as an adult. Life is very different for kids everything is new and can be a little daunting, whereas adults we feel prepared because of our experiences which gives us the confidence that we could tackle any problem thrown at us. We would not be the adults that we are today if we weren't the kids that we were growing up. So stand and be proud of who you are and don't be hard on who you've become because it's the person you are today that has survived your ups and downs in life, that helps you in being persistent to strive further and never give up on yourself. 

DON'T JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER

Most people don't want to admit that they have some time or another judged a book by its cover when a new person has entered their social circle. We are guilty of making presumptions on the basis of probability, this tactic relys on patterns of behaviour which may ring true in most cases but is unfair to those who don't fit the mould and are put behind the 8 ball with no fault of their own actions. Self preservation is inbuilt in our basic instinct to protect us from harm or death. This survival instinct keeps us wary of the strangers that we haven't spent the time building a trusting relationship with all because the unknown makes us feel uncomfortable. Letting your guard down can leave you open for disappointment but it also waivers your chance to discover something new that could change your mind for the better. So don't let your wariness turn you off the people that can influence your mind to grow and become a better person. 

FULFILMENT ACHIEVED

Some people feel that they have to have a huge bucket list to feel that they are ambitious, while others are content with a simpler lifestyle and a smaller bucket list. Either way, we shouldn't compare one person's list to another person bucket list to measure whos is better. Peoples motivations vary and what might not make sense to one person is utterly logical to another person, your life your goals. It's not easy to understand why people do what they do but its also not anyone's job to navigate through the mind of someone else's interests. Setting goals and achieving them makes you feel that you are on track to completing your bucket list and this inturn will help you reach a happiness that will satisfy your desires. Whereas some feel the euphoria lasts long enough to keep them happy others are continuing craving the next best hit of self satisfaction through a list that seems to have no end. The more you crave the less you feel you have achieved, this is how I interpret the lyrics "I still haven't found what I'm looking for" in U2s hit song. Even though that song is about the search for spiritual fulfillment and the conflict between knowing that God exists and the desire for earthly things, I interpret it as a search for happiness through the expectations that we never meet. So use your time effectively because trying to figure out what you really want is the key to finding what you think you are looking for which may not be on a bucket list so achieve this before your time is up.