OPEN BOOK, CLOSED BOOK

If you want open and honest interaction you need to be honest and open with your interaction. Without a two way communication line one person is speaking his or her mind by giving their opinions and the other is listening but not giving any input which means no negotiation can be reached. Each person or group, gathers information from the discussion and has to be willing to make changes to work together in harmony. We all have limits to what we will allow take place but once we feel we are at our wits ends no more negotiating can take place because now our stance has firmly changed. So if you choose to be closed with your actions don't be stupid and question why the situation is what it is. If you don't like the circumstances at hand, understand we are a product of our circumstances. Circumstances are things that create who we are, and if they create who we are, they are considered our circumstances, whether we like them or not. So don't crap where you eat and complain about the funny smell you have to bear because no one is longer listening. 

VOTE OF NO CONFIDENCE

So many people have little faith in other peoples actions that they automatically assume the wrong decisions would of been made. The inquisitive person asks  questions that should of been safely assumed because common sense would of guided the decision to motion and highlighted that decisions weren't made lightly. The saying don't assume anything takes the power away from what is considered rational decision making and claims that being inquisitive is warranted for asking any questions irrespective of how irrelevant they can be in that situation which is really a poor excuse for supporting your argument that its for safe guarding yourself from making an ass out of you and me. Sometimes a bit of inductive reasoning is enough to solidify any questions that you crave answers for. If we were to ask questions everytime we felt it was necessary we would never need to commit anything to memory because who cares that certain people like certain things majority of the time they might of changed their mind so ask and ask again and never take in any information from your previous answers because being safe always mean no worries, or does it.

CONSENT IN SCHOOLS

I think it's a good idea to mandate school consent as part of the curriculum but it's sad they need to. How far gone is a generation that has to be explained what is the right way to act and what is the wrong to act?. What happened to our body language skills that enabled us to work out what was inappropriate and what was not?. What happened to the line of common decency and empathy? Is common sense now a myth to this generation who need to be educated in what's so wrong with their behaviour?. If it was merely the educational fault that has been the cause of this change with kids, then Are the kids smart enough to learn on how to behave like a rational people? or are the out of control ones just to stupid to learn a new thing because their mind is full of their own wacky morality flawed beliefs where nothing clever can enter?. Lessons will be even harder when the safe guard of schools aren't their to soften the blow with the advice "They just need to be taught the right way to behave" because when it's time for them to start work they the working force would expect them to be ready for the real world where the punishment will fit the crime. Kids believe they are growing up fast but their minds are on rewind back to the days of the Neanderthals.

SAFETY NET NOT AFRAID TO FALL

As parents we try to save our children from falling too far off the pedestal that we encouraged them to get on. Our one sided praises enables them to feel infallible, this takes away their ability to learn from their rights and their wrongs and what measure they need to take to improve their strategies. We have made them feel like they are super heroes on a mission that failure would never be their fate. Our fear of our children possible failures overpowers the negative effects of our own actions . We believe the impact of the fall will hinder them from getting back up and trying again, so we do everything in our power to save them with a premptive strike by stopping anything that might hurt our loved ones. This can do them more harm then good which is a lesson that we learnt the hard way. So maybe we should take the advice we once gave our parents let me make my own choices and my own mistakes  because it's my life.

I TRUST YOU SOME OF THE TIME

Trust is a word that is thrown around to easily and shouldn't be taken lightly when used. Trust is an umbrella term that means more than believing in someone. It stands for strength in someone's character, reliability in their actions, truth in their words and believing in the goodness of a person's integrity that you would trust them to do the right thing by you . If you look at trust as only on circumstances of chance you would be ever changing the rules that apply when attaching the word trust to a person. Trust should be set in stone, breaking the parameters and constantly changing what is acceptable will only discourage your faith in that person. Your word should be your bond their is no point in giving your trust to someone some of the time. We start off by giving respect and trust to others but if it's lost then a person has to earn it back. Time may heal wounds but being honourable is the only way on you getting trust back. If you want trust then be someone who deserves it and you will find you dont need to ask for it, people will trust you in you because actions speak louder than words.

THERE'S NO PLACE LIKE NOSTALGIA

Nostalgia is tied to our past affection, a memory from a period that feels us with bliss. Is it the simplicity of times with little responsibility? or the feeling that we have so much living infront of us with the potential to do anything our imaginative mind can think of? that made us feel like we were walking on the yellow brick road to an adventure that will change our life forever. Life in your adolescents gave you hopefulness and came with unlimited possibilities, whereas now the older you get the more clouded you feel from what you would of felt when there was little doubt in your little head. Time goes on and now you are responsible for more than just yourself and the clouds are no longer where your thoughts lie. Life is now about being serious and making important decisions that will affect you or someone you care about so man up or woman up whatever you prefer is fine with me, but this doesn't mean the fun has to end. Remember what good times you may reflect on in your past and happily to reminisce in is not exactly all spot on, and on the the other side of the coin kids of today wish they could grow up quicker so that they could be like the adults they aspire to be. Nostalgia is good but only because we remember the easier life we had, now we responsible for others so we believe that if we had the power to choose that we would go back to live in our past, even though what we would sacrifice would be everything that we went through and every lesson that taught us who we are. Have your head and your heart in the now and appreciate that your past has made you who you are today.

SILENCE IS SAYING ITS OKAY

Silence is not saying no to a question or that you disagree with what someone is  doing. If you disagree you have to speak up because saying nothing is as bad as those who are performing the act of what you may consider to be wrong. Each person has a voice and an opinion, choosing to use his or her voice and give their opinion is your freedom of speech so use it while its still allowed. The power is in your hands alone choose to say what you think or remove yourself from the conversation. If you don't show people that you stand for something then others will assume you have no issues with what they are saying. Keeping your thoughts in your head has only a negative impact on your self-esteem, which will make you start to doubt yourself and your validity. You have as much right as your anyone to make a point so stand tall and show people that what you think matters. Push any fear aside and remember what is the point if you don't make your point. Are you living or mainly existing? Life is short so stand up and speak up.

ETHICS ROLLER COASTER

What may seem trivial to some people can be very important to others because where we may be similar with our primal needs its our wants that can distinguish our differences. A want is something unnecessary but it is desired, where as a need is something that is essential and is required for life. What we want can divide us to to focus on our own objectives which may require us to push others to the side so we can get what we want. Our wants can change from day to day which forces us to change our stance with it, even if it means changing our ethics to suit. Our fundamental belief system may have to be ignored because the truth might not jel well when contradiction hits us. People make rules for themselves and expect others to follow them even if they don't.  So treat people as you want to be treated and you won't find yourself changing your ethics to suit. You fundamental belief system should not be compromised by your measly desires. Honour yourself as you would like people to honour you.

JOIN US AND HAVE A LITTLE STIGMA

With such diversity of peoples opinions its easy to find stigma in most minority groups. Feminist movement focuses on equal rights for women but a lot of women dont want to be attached to the stigma that joining the movement embraces. Transgender spectrum is becoming ever so popular as growing numbers are created by its members, you would think it was safe to assume that transgender people would be on board but not all transgender people support the idea that they are part of a large spectrum. Stigmas are attached to many groups because when people who try to speak on the behalf of others claim to know your rightful standing they soon discover that people have their own opinion and do not want to be forced into a group that they do not recognise as morally correct. This  presumption unwillingly deters its so called supporters because their choice to choose where they belong has now been taken away from them. People will go with who they believe is in-line with the way they think and will not follow those who try to convince them to change the way they think. If you liked it you dont need to be asked to join because you would eagerly do the asking.

HERE I AM, TRUE SELF

Whether we interact with family, friends or acquaintance we find ourselves modify how we act and how we react depending our relationship bond. If we feel comfortable enough we let our guard down and open up so we can share who we are without any fear of judgement. It is our insecurities that makes us our worst supporter that's why only few people get to see us with our defences down which enables them to use the tools to get a better understanding of what makes us tick. It is that solititde that becomes our weakness because if you only allow yourself to open up to very few people most of your day you would feel that you have limited freedom. We need to stop being afraid of how others would react to our personalities and let them see us for who we really are. We are all unique human beings and what may seem flawed to someone will seem uniquely interesting to others, no one is perfect but we are all unique. So share your mind with more than just a few of your closest circle of friends and don't be afraid of those who aren't ready as you are for your honesty.