GRIEVANCES MISALIGNED

If we grieve for the victims how can we justify grieving for the perpetrators. This type of thinking puts us all in the victim box where no matter the circumstances we are all safe from blame because you now don't have to admit to any fault which is why it is now okay to treat self-responsibility just like an obstacle that you can just hurdle over. The choices you make go hand in hand with consequences that you'll eventually have to face this doesn't mean that your past should have the power to hold you back from the opportunity to learn from the bad choices that you've made by restricting how you react in the present. If you choose to be ruled by your past then the overpowering negative words that you've held onto will corrupt your present which is why you will have no future unless you choose take responsibility for your bad choices and treat them as lessons learnt but leave the past in your rear view and focus only on the possibilities of your future. You cannot change your past but your future is yet to be written so make the most of it because life is to short to dwell in the past.

COMMUNITY OF RIGHTS

We avoid solitude by connecting to something bigger than ourselves to a community which will take us in with open arms with only one expectation in mind for us to be a positive impact on that community. The only way that we can ever add to an already positive community is by sharing common values without having fundamental similar beliefs we would be left struggling at every crossroad. It is only through a positive value system that strives for peace with the show of integrity that will ever lead us all in the right direction. It is in the joining of our core beliefs that will build our trust in one another that will allow us to have a direction of purpose that in itself is the reward because without purpose in your life you have nothing. So give yourself purpose by adding positive energy to your surroundings because doing the alternative will only distance yourself from the community that you are ever so hard trying to be a part of. If you prefer to live a solitude lifestyle then see how far you can get without the innovations that a happy society brings to the community and its people. People are happier together than they are alone so it is in your best interests that you learn how to push your differences aside and just get along otherwise get used to the discomfort of the alternative lifestyle. 

BOUNDARIES OF CONVERSATION

When you put limits on your conversation not only do you restrict where the conversation can go but you also decrease your chances of building a respectful relationship with those you converse with. Without open conversation we are left attempting to fill the gaps that would normally gel together by tactfully changing the topics of discussion every time the topics got too sensitive for the other party to handle. If we feel the need to constantly change the topic of discussion to avoid uncomfortable confrontations maybe it's evidence enough that you are conversing with the wrong type of person. If you cannot converse amicably even under very different points of views, then part with the mindset each to their own. We will not always get along with everyone, but we should respect each other's differences as unique as long as we don't hurt one another and let each other live in peace that is the only way that we can ever flourish as a human race, the united race. 

MATCH THE MADNESS

Whether we do it intentionally or instinctively we seem to find ourselves comparing our lifestyle to the lifestyle of our peers. We do this to justify the choices that we've made over those of our peers who we believe have had the same opportunities to succeed but may have squandered their chances to shine. Our examination of their lifestyle compared to our own doesn't take into consideration that we dont always want the same things in life and what one person may want to reach for doesn't mean that the other person who is in arms length of it desires to reach for it at all. Some people are constantly craving more from their life while others are happier with just enough this is why trying to copy the steps of someone that is going in a different direction from where you'd rather be is just madness matching the surrounding madness may seem better than staying quiet in your comfort zone but the purpose needs to match your interest not theirs. So step out when you know that the direction you are heading is true to your heart otherwise you'll find out the hard way that mimicking a life that you do not care for will only result in you losing your identity when the dust settles.

EGGS IN ONE BASKET

When you focus all of your attention on doing what is quicker over what is logical you have chosen to side with less thought of what the consequences could be and more of your attention on whatever means will get the job done in the shortest possible amount of time no matter how it affects yourself or anyone else. This decision to ignore all the possible options that you had purely made to save some time will most likely lead to problems that you'd never ever considered is because of the lack of preparation that you failed to make before jumping straight into action. Getting the job done should not be the only focus in your sight because when you are blinded by your desired goals without trying to hard to understand the consequences of your actions you are doomed to make mistakes that you will either in the end do the right thing by taking ownership of those bad choices and try to learn from those bad choices or the cowardly thing by denying your part in the issues that have now lead to the problems at hand. To take claim that you didn't know that you doing this would lead to that is an excuse for those who suffer from a lack of thought in their actions so if you don't want to find yourself on the back foot trying to defend your actions then don't let your logical thought process be overridden by your irresponsible thought process and life will start to make a whole lot more sense.

TWO OF THE SAME

If our efforts are ever questioned we would always claim that we did the best that we could with what we had but how would we fate against someone whos resources matched our own?, Are we only ever giving what we believe a person deserves and not our all as we like to display?. We all like to think that before we commit to a decision that we have considered all the people that may be affected before ourselves but this is a little delusional because we would of answered their request without hesitation. Most of the time we've already worked out how our response will affect us before we've even considered others request even though we will always claim the opposite. The claims we boldly make may promote our own readiness to help those who are in need but what remains evident is that the proof is in the pudding and it is only in our actions not the claims that we make that will show others that we mean what we are saying. When you in a situation where you are meeting someone for the first time and happen to discover that you share alot of similar characteristics to that person you'd think that its a sure fire way that you'll get along like a house on fire,  but this is not always the case if your views are ever changing. If you discover that you are clashing more than normal with someone who shares your values maybe it is your value system that keeps changing to suit not theirs. When you find that you keep on bumping heads with them it should be a clear indicator that you are not as easy to get along with as you thought. If you felt that your similarities  overshadowed each other the evidence is clear that you change you personality when you discover that your findings doesn't support who you claim to be. Is the forced change in your personality enough for you to recognise the selfishness in your self? Or is the fact that it is not you under the truth microscope enough reason to blind you of the connection that you both share? The most accurate test that will help you distinguish whether or not you are a person that can get along with most personalities would be  getting along with a person just like yourself otherwise stop preaching good will to others just for the performance because your performance will only take you so far before people can see exactly what you stand for or don't stand for.

THE PERSON THAT YOU USED TO BE

As we get older we change with the times as we discover more about ourselves we use our life experiences to gain the knowledge to find the place where we believe that we best fit in. The more we learn about the world around us the more we crave to find our rightful place in it because life without finding your purpose is a life wasted. People spend alot of their time focusing on the person that they used to be when they believe that they felt happiest connected to someone or something better than what they are currently experiencing in their life, but nostalgia has the power to  look better from the distance. Nostalgia can decieve you by distorting your current views because life as you knew it was measured by the standards of that time where you didn't crave so much and in this time where you have grown older your expectations have grown to match your current  headspace. If your desired goals remained the same your life goals would be easily achieved but you are not the naive innocent individual who was eager to please you are the person that has been toughened by responsibility and the deadlines which has now moulded you into a person who has to priorities your have to's before want to's. So leave your past where it is and recognise that you are the person who has come through the other end of your life experiences and nobody can take that away from you. So dont ever forget that if you want to be your best version of yourself than stop complaining about it and just do it.

WHO ARE YOU FOOLING?

Those who lie as often as they tell the truth believe that people are foolish enough to take them seriously. The more they try to distract you with chosen antics the more obvious their true intentions are. Their patterns of lies and deceit cannot be masked with a few random truths because their past repetitive behaviour has already managed to set in stone who they really are. One lie may be ignored where two lies will get someones attention but three times a lie is a pattern of deceit that will only ever repeat. So if their lies are no longer getting through is it just a reflex action that sways them to respond with a lie because they have held onto their bad habits for far too long ?, or is the lie said for the purpose that if they dont admit the truth out loud then the lie told is true in their eyes?.Those who have figured out the patterns of deceit will mostly ignore the liars bad habits by not taking anything that is said to them seriously but occasionally your bullsht quota can overfill leaving you with only one thing left to do and that is to remind the liars of the world that you are no fool. Once you have awoken up the liars they very rarely change for the better because they prefer the easier route to change their tactics and come up with a new scheme because in their eyes they are smarter than their peers. So do what you must but remember a liar is a liar because it is who they'd rather be.

MADE TO FEEL AWKWARD

When a mind has been made up close minded people will spend their energy to try to make you feel as uncomfortable as they can if you let them. No matter your approach they will strategise the opposite response to your attempts of trying to start a conversation, this is all done so that they dont have to change their opinion of you. Most of what they say may contradict their true opinion but if it keeps you distanced and in no way capable of finding any common interests than let it be. Whether or not your comments do manage to gain ground it is only short lived the moment that you say or do something that they do not like. Those that they  let in their circle have a get out of jail free card that will never ever expire, which is why they have to modify their value system in order to justify their actions. This is why their is no winning someone over because the more effort that you put in just to fit in the quicker that you will find that you have compromised your own value system. So stand by your beliefs and not by those that will never have your back and you will find yourself in a better and happier place.

WORK BEFORE PLAY

We choose to work not only to benefit our own financial situation but also to help out  those who rely on us. Whereas when we choose to focus our attention on play it is our reward to ourselves for doing the right thing first before choosing to focus solely on our own personal interests. Without work to fund our desired lifestyle we would be limiting our choices and our actions to meet our goals so no matter the urgency or the size of your to do list only the top few priorities will ever get your attention. As much as we would like to spend more of our time on personal interests with limited resources in hand the likely result of ignoring your responsibilities will only lead you to live a life where your selfish behaviour will eventually be you downfall. So if you want to live a full and rewarding life with a status that is honourable you need your choices to be focused around responsibility because nothing good will ever be achieved when you ignore doing what is right. When you choose responsibility you'll notice that you have an elevated enjoyment of the free time that you do have and your appreciation for your free time feels earnt. So earn your play time with the work that makes it all happen and you will have a new appreciation for your responsibilities.