CRAVE TO FEEL

Every day of our life we share the one repetitive dilemma, what should we do with our limited free time? but as much as we share the same dilemma our choices vary from individual to individual all because the satisfaction that we crave comes in many different types of forms. Some of us are happy to choose less to do during our day of free time while others are only happy if they fill up their day with as many things as they can fit in so that they can reassure themselves that they didn't waste any time procrastinating. As unique as we all are, we are also simple creatures in that we crave to feel something just to remind us that we are here and that our opinions matter, this satisfaction of reached craving is sometimes reached at the detriment of our well-being all because our line of integrity shifts when times are tough. At our lowest times our self-esteem would do anything to receive attention even if its negative attention. All we can do to counteract the craving to feel anything is to satisfy the craving with healthy positive reinforcement. Most of us crave the company of others even the homebodies of the world crave company and adventure sometimes to break the monotonous routine of work and home life. So, remember we spend a lifetime working ourselves out that formula of happiness doesn't always mix well with others to stick with your happiness and leave others discover their own.

MEN AND WOMEN

We all hear the claims that men are better at this and women are better at that, both men and women use this claim because they know their gender is successful at something so they believe that they too can use this statement to highlight that they themselves are successful. But just because men are the stronger gender in general im sure there are many stronger women that are much stronger than myself and to think otherwise is narrow minded. The same with women just because women may be better at multi tasking it doesn't mean all women fit the same mould, we all have our own strengths and weaknesses thats not gender based thats individual based. If you want to be the exception you need to do what it takes to stand out, you have to strengthen your weaknesses by working at it you cant just claim your stronger and better at multi tasking just because you are a part of that gender. So maybe the lesson is we should stop piggy backing on the success of others and focus on how we want to represent ourselves. On the average men and women are equally intelligent but some men and women use their intelligence while others play the victim card and never try to better themselves. So stop with the negative words and start with the positive movements by reaching for that better you that people would crave to be around. 

BEING RIGHT ISN'T ENOUGH

What makes sense to you doesn't mean someone else will see the sense in your stated facts. Logical thinking is dependent on facts not emotions because focusing on how your feeling doesn't change the end result, What are the facts?. If you would prefer to ignore facts and focus on your emotions then that is up to you but dont then question how you got yourself stuck in a bad situation when you let your heart control what your head should of. Emotions may steer us to what we believe is a happy place but at the end of the day we need to be able live with our choices and be able to justify our actions. If you choose raw emotions over logical thought then your raw emotions may put you in a place where you wont be prepared for and not know the right course of action to to get you back on track because thinking hard about the right action to take is always going to lead you to a better result rather than blindly going where your heart leads you. Logical thinking will get you out of the trenches that emotion has left you in, so listen to you head more because eventually your heart will catch up and be on the same page once you realise that your head and heart want the same thing, they both want what is best for you in the end.

WE ARE NOT ALL FAULTLESS

In life we have expectations for ourselves and expectations that we put onto the people that we socialise with in order to protect us from being taken advantage of. Putting expectations onto your social circle may be considered unfair but we do it so people dont take more than we are willing to give. We may claim that we don't expect anything from our friends but that is far from the truth because we expect more from them than we do a stranger. We all have responsibilities and expect others to take responsibility for their choices because claiming ignorance is never a good enough reason to justify their inaction to react. Nothing can be resolved unless you accept part of the blame because that is what mature people do. Acknowledging that you've made mistakes too is the first step to recovery and leads you to the next step of determining the best pathway to get you in a better frame of mind. Looking soley on what others have done is your attempt to detract from the bad choices that you've made. We reflect back on the choices that we"ve made to take ownice on the part we played in a bad situation so that we won't repeat the mistakes. So take responsibility quick and try be be quicker with making the right choices rather than stuck in handballing your bad choices onto someone else's lap.

TRUE MOTIVATIONS

The reasons why some people strive to reach the top of their chosen career varies from individual to individual. Whether their motivations are true in that their decisions don't revolve around doing something just so that they can receive a reward or that the alternative is fitting where their main goal is to strive to increase their stature and their bank account which will only increase their happiness to a level of what they can afford to buy. Making decisions in the name of passion means that you don't have to force yourself to compromise your integrity but if you find that your decisions have forced you to adjust your moral line to suit your curent goal just to make more money even at the expense of others then you are much more likely to find yourself alone wondering why people have distanced themselves from you. Alot of money might help promote their stature and brings opportunities to them but at what cost?. Do what you love with thoughtfulness and dont lose sight of how you want to be looked upon rather than faking your interests and goals just because you think the pathway to more money would get you closer to what you need. Remember happiness is in your essence of fulfilment and achievement of your true goals will bring you closer than you pretending everything else is less important than making the big bucks.

A GOOD IDEA IN THEORY

Good ideas aren't valued until you have proven their validity by making them into a successful idea. People aren't interested in theory or concepts because they themselves cant visualise the idea to be a success. It is up to those with the ideas alone to make their concept work with only little resources at their disposal. What could be achieved if investors believed in someones idea will never be discovered because the ones that may have the resources don't want to part with it on what could be a risky business adventure. So many good ideas get left behind in the dark never to see the light of day because nobody wants to give the money that could get the idea to the masses. If you manage to get your business idea to perform then some big business will choose to invest money into it once the one who conjured up the concept does the hard work and proves that the momentum will continue if more money was invested. So believing that you have a good idea is easy getting someone to believe in your idea is the hard thing. Ideas will come and go it is up to you to stick by your idea even if no one else believes in it.

MANY FRIENDS FEW ALLIES

So many of us claim to have many friends but how many of those friends will have your back when it counts. Friends aren't usually put in tough positions where they can stand up for us when someone decides to taint our reputation. So we safely assume that all our friends will stand up for us even if it means someone they know will shut them down. In our social groups we have people that are acquaintances who we can enjoy superficial chatting, friends who we  like their company enough to enjoy spending some time with and very few really reliable good friends that we can comfortably say that they are with us not only during the easy good times but also during the difficult tough times. Friends who choose to spend time with when your not always showing your best side understand that life can knock you down and you aren't always going to react the right way but having a good friend to help you through the darkness is part of what makes them a good friend. The Friends that are only by your side when you are entertaining to them will ditch you when your not. So choose your friends wisely otherwise they will disappear the moment the shit hits the fan.

THE COMMUNITY MADE ME DO IT

Alot of what is wrong with the world can be blamed on the divided communities that focus on the differences of people rather than what makes us similar. When someone creates a negative affect on the community it is up to us to remain unified to keep the balance within the community, that is why if you don't speak up for what you stand for and believe in when it is your moment to speak then your chance is lost and so is your voice. In the end, most people don't regret what they've done in their life but majority of them regret what they didn't do, so if you would rather feel that you have done whatever was in your power to do and you dont agree with the direction your community is going then be brave and speak up rather than taking the cowards way out by saying nothing. How you choose to respond as a community member determines what is considered an acceptable level of divergence for the community, it is in our decision-making that conditions the community by letting others know this is either a tolerable action or this will never happen again because this is intolerable. When people complain that there is nothing on TV to watch it's because there is too many people watching the so called rubbish shows so the rubbish keeps on running, if you dont like what you are seeing then don't sit down, stand up and speak. When someone complains that the world is corrupt it's because money talks and people listen, if you don't like to play by their rules then play by your own make the effort and choose to take pride in yourself and dont let money be your soul motivator. Being admirable is what you should stand for not being a sell out, a sell out of your morals and standards will only lead you ashtray. if you want to be popular then be popular for doing what is the right thing for you and your community.

 

PUT YOUR BEST FACE ON

Putting on too many faces when dealing with different people may seem wrong because you are not showing people your true self, but there is so much more to us than one unique perspective. We all have different types of social interactions that help us determine whether someone is a close friend that we open up to, or they are just an acquaintance that we socialise with on occasion. When we haven't clicked enough with an acquaintance to promote them from acquaintance to friend, we tend to limit what we say to them and only tell them little of what we think, but when we are socialising with our close friends the mask comes off and our true self shines. Not Putting on different face depending on who you are interacting with will not protect you from the unpleasantries that truth creates for those who prefer sugar coated responses and will only put you in the limelight awaiting to be cancelled. Some people are terrible at understanding that their choice of words is wrong because they can easily be misinterpreted for an uncaring choice of words, but this is due to the fact that our vocabulary differs from one another and so does our personal interpretation of that word. So, whether you feel comfortable enough in your viewpoint to say exactly what is on your mind when someone's choice of words gets your emotions riled up or you put on a happy face and leave them in the acquaintance basket because some people you will never get along with.

I DONT WANT TO KNOW

The earth continues to rotate eastward and the problems of the world spin within it. No matter your acceptance of the dramas you face the tolerance you have is either able to handle the pressure of the drama or the drama is too much for you to handle which leaves you ignoring the issues at hand. Some people prefer not to know anything which may leave a negative impact on their life where others are comfortable to know everything about a situation because they believe ignorance is not bliss and it is respectful to the ones suffering to not be ignored. Whether you are in a position to assist or not those people who are willing to listen to the good and bad about a situation prefer the truth over a sugar coated one. We all have our own limitations no matter what you think yours is it is up to you to decide if knowing the whole truth disturbs you so much then don't complain if you're cut out of the conversation when the raw truth hits the fan. So if you prefer to know things as they are, then ask the questions that you need to ask, if the truth is too harsh then live your life on the same rotating earth as the rest of the population but with your own spin on it either way the choice is yours.