JOIN US AND HAVE A LITTLE STIGMA

With such diversity of peoples opinions its easy to find stigma in most minority groups. Feminist movement focuses on equal rights for women but a lot of women dont want to be attached to the stigma that joining the movement embraces. Transgender spectrum is becoming ever so popular as growing numbers are created by its members, you would think it was safe to assume that transgender people would be on board but not all transgender people support the idea that they are part of a large spectrum. Stigmas are attached to many groups because when people who try to speak on the behalf of others claim to know your rightful standing they soon discover that people have their own opinion and do not want to be forced into a group that they do not recognise as morally correct. This  presumption unwillingly deters its so called supporters because their choice to choose where they belong has now been taken away from them. People will go with who they believe is in-line with the way they think and will not follow those who try to convince them to change the way they think. If you liked it you dont need to be asked to join because you would eagerly do the asking.

HERE I AM, TRUE SELF

Whether we interact with family, friends or acquaintance we find ourselves modify how we act and how we react depending our relationship bond. If we feel comfortable enough we let our guard down and open up so we can share who we are without any fear of judgement. It is our insecurities that makes us our worst supporter that's why only few people get to see us with our defences down which enables them to use the tools to get a better understanding of what makes us tick. It is that solititde that becomes our weakness because if you only allow yourself to open up to very few people most of your day you would feel that you have limited freedom. We need to stop being afraid of how others would react to our personalities and let them see us for who we really are. We are all unique human beings and what may seem flawed to someone will seem uniquely interesting to others, no one is perfect but we are all unique. So share your mind with more than just a few of your closest circle of friends and don't be afraid of those who aren't ready as you are for your honesty.

MISSED THAT , WHAT DID YOU SAY ?

The world moves fast whether you pay attention to it or not, you alone are responsible to what you focus on and that is the reason why you can't blame others for the changes you might have missed.  Pleading ignorance when trends cross your path is not a legitimate excuse to get you out of trouble. If you have a problem with the direction the world is headed you need to speak up and make your point there is no use arguing your point when the decision has already been made. You are part of the world's population and whether you voice your opinion or not others will speak in your stead so if you don't want people making choices for you then speak up and show them who you are and what you stand for. Not having the conversation Today leaves it for Tommorow and we all know Tommorow never comes. 

I WILL DO EVERYTHING IN MY POWER

 It's easy to say that you would do anything for someone by using words to convey how passionate you feel about the subject but living with the consequences of your actions becomes alot more challenging than you may have expected. Going through it, is what tests your threshold of pain saying that you'd rather have one scenario over another is no real tell of your commitment because saying is easier than doing it.  Being a person of your word is impressive because you have said then done irrespective of the challenge. If you say and never do then all the talk you do really has no consequences of actions,  it just pretending that you are honourable when most people can see through your false claims. So do what you say and people will respect you, or just do what is normal for you but remember there is no need to play the role of a saint if your really a sinner because no one is buying your version of the truth.

NO IM NOT LISTENING

If you are going to be a person who won't listen to anything that someone you dislike would say you may miss out on the few good points that they may make. Conversing with people should not carry the weight and unease of a previous conversation this could affect how you would take their new point. Even your enemies can teach you valuable lessons that you can add to your own repertoire of skills. The person who remains open to thought will keep on growing and adapting becoming at peace with themselves, those who are happy to stick with what they know will remain in the same frame of mind when they first gathered their knowledge. Talking will only show people what you know while listening you may learn something you didn't.

 

MONEY DOESN'T BUY HAPPINESS

If money is the key to happiness why are their so many of the richest people in the world dealing with bigger problems than those of an average income? Why do rich people gamble their wealth, when adding any more money to their already millions doesn't gain any more advantages?, unless they are chasing to be the richest person in the world. Is their already successful lifestyle enough to keep them sated for the rest of their privileged life? or do they find themselves getting bored easier all because they have achieved all the success that they see possible. The challenge of making money has become such a standard task so they now take bigger risks to get any kind of thrill. Rich people are more afraid of being poor because they have more to lose which can create obstacles in their friendships which now force them to question the integrity of their friends. Now they question which friends are there to sponge from their wealth? and who will have their back when the tough times hit? If they were born into privilege rich people may find it hard to connect with people because they can not relate easily to the majority of society. If they built their fortune from ground up and remained humble they could recall that it was the struggles that made them grow and become the successful person that they are today. This lesson would teach them to appreciate what they have and not take for granted their blessed lifestyle. You can't buy happiness, it's wisdom that comes with life experiences that keeps you happy with the hand you've been dealt with.

 

I CHOOSE ABORTION

Some people say an abortion is killing a baby and that's the bottom line. When those same people claimed if abortion was illegal that it would save millions of lives around the world, they don't want to consider any reason on how an abortion could be justified. They would rather focus on the opportunities to live that were taken away from insemination soon to be baby and not what conditions the child would be born in. Is the choice to abort a more humane way to save the child from everlasting pain?. Is it a form of euthanasia that can warranted under certain circumstances?. What if the woman was raped and gets pregnant is it a good enough reason for those trying to make it illegal for a pregnant woman to choose her own fate?. Abortion isn't an easy decision for a soon to be parent and if it has been chosen it hasn't been chosen lightly. We can't focus on just the what opportunities we may be removing for the aborted but on the impact of the world with millions of babies born into system that parents couldn't manage and are left feeling abandoned without any hope because the world can not cope with millions of unwanted babies. 

QUICK FOLLOW, BEFORE ITS OVER

Fads come and go and are short lived because what's right for you now doesn't last and remain important when the fad passes. Fads help connect you to what's in and keeps you in the loop of popularity but like an old photo of your past fashionable regrets remorse is what lives in your mind after the fad dissipates. We grow with our experiences and because our minds are ever changing we eventually give up on the efforts of trying to blend in with the in crowd and finally just say "This is who I am and if you don't like me there's the door." At this point of our lives we are as free from the fads and the peer group pressure that turns us into sheep and we focus on our own interests by connecting to what makes us tick. So be like The Masters Apprentices and "Do what you want to do and be like you want to be" without anyone else's need of approval.

 

THE WORLD WITHOUT CONSEQUENCES

Our actions creates a impact to the world that we are a part of, our moral fibre dictates on how we decide to act and react. If there was no consequences to our actions the world we live in would be such a different place. What would we strive for if there were no reward at the end of the tunnel? A selfless deed where their was no gain is hard to find when there are always consequences to our actions. We are creatures of habit through patterns we learn how to maintain healthy habits and increase our productivity. Without consequences our actions would be as random from day to day with no lessons to be learnt. Society's intelligence relys on the lessons of our consequences to gain knowledge and carry it through to generation to generation which will ensure growth for our society. We need consequences as much as we need order to help us reach a utopian society that strives to be better at every chance it gets.

IS CHIVALRY DEAD?

Is chivalry dead ? and if it is what killed it ? These are the questions that tell a story of repetitive negative reinforcement. I believe it's negative mixed messages that have berated and conditioned those who have attempted to be chivalrous to stop and rethink before they offend the unintended so called victim. In the past what seemed like common courtesy was simply opening the door for someone, but now it shows some people that they are incapable of opening the door for themselves when really they are incapable of accepting assistance which makes themselves feel weak. Is it a weakness to not accept assistance or a show of strength? Does it matter who the person is holding the door open? Or are we just ready to show people we are strong and very capable so we don't need anything from anyone.