THRESHOLD OF LIES

When someone lies to you on a constant basis it is a pattern that will never change unless you change it yourself. How long would you let yourself get disrespected before you choose to stand up for yourself and say that you've had enough? This is a question that we ask ourselves when it starts to feel like we are getting the raw end of a bad deal. No matter how you look at it and justify your reasons for putting up with the bad deal you have to be honest with yourself and acknowledge that if you are repeatedly blatantly lied to then you accept the fact that you are being regularly disrespected and what makes things worse is while that same person is mistreating you they feel very comfortable in confiding in you about their own problems that they are facing. Some people are only focused on themselves and hate it when anyone gives them a taste of their own medicine. The problem is they have convinced themselves that they are a good person even though their actions say otherwise. If you find that you have to justify your actions with lies then you are nowhere near ready to accept that you have only gotten what you deserve. It is up to those that you are disrespecting to leave you in your own mess rather than trying justify your less then normal compassionate behaviour. In the end we all get what we deserve so if you dont like the repercussions of your actions then change what you are comfortably dishing out to others and be the better version of yourself.

DEFLECT YOUR RESPONSE

These days people have the tendency to tread carefully when making statements that could offend people or various groups for the fear of being cancelled. People shut their mouth and would rather not give their opinion because they prefer to show others that they are inclusive to the different opinions that have been raised. If they were asked a direct question they would use deflecting tactics to avoid giving their true opinion because of the fear that their opinion might taint the image they are wanting to portray. They delay answering questions quickly because they want to know the intention of the questions so that they can formulate the right answer, but the moment you presume that their is a right answer that isnt your true belief is the moment that you leave your opinion behind. It may not be popular to have a different opinion to others but we are all entitled to have a difference of opinion and it is that opinion that makes as individuals because if you dont speak your mind when you have a chance you may as well not have a voice. So the next time someone asks you a question you can either give the opinion you think the person asking you wants to hear or you can own your answer by saying exactly what you want to say. The choice is yours, you are either liked from those controlling your speech because you've succumb to a fake sense of secruity that comes with saying what is popular and saying what is expected of you or you be yourself and say what feels right for you no matter of how it makes you sound, happily knowing that you can sleep sound because you were honest with yourself and your peers. 

LAY IT ON THICK

Saying something positive about someone when it's just not true because you would rather avoid offending them might not always be the best tactic in helping them out. Compassion can sometimes hold people back if there is no truth in your words because our misguided influences deny people's true emotions to react on their own accord and learn from the tough emotions that may be tearing them apart. It's our personal feelings that gives us information about our experiences and teaches us more about ourselves than any false compliment could. Experiencing sadness teaches you that there is purpose to all your emotions, without tough times in your life experiences you would struggle to keep your sanity when the ground feels like its falling out from underneath you. Traversing through the tough times helps build you up for anything that goes against the grain of thought and maintain sanity to a mind that has strengthened from the tough times experienced.