THRESHOLD OF LIES

When someone lies to you on a constant basis it is a pattern that will never change unless you change it yourself. How long would you let yourself get disrespected before you choose to stand up for yourself and say that you've had enough? This is a question that we ask ourselves when it starts to feel like we are getting the raw end of a bad deal. No matter how you look at it and justify your reasons for putting up with the bad deal you have to be honest with yourself and acknowledge that if you are repeatedly blatantly lied to then you accept the fact that you are being regularly disrespected and what makes things worse is while that same person is mistreating you they feel very comfortable in confiding in you about their own problems that they are facing. Some people are only focused on themselves and hate it when anyone gives them a taste of their own medicine. The problem is they have convinced themselves that they are a good person even though their actions say otherwise. If you find that you have to justify your actions with lies then you are nowhere near ready to accept that you have only gotten what you deserve. It is up to those that you are disrespecting to leave you in your own mess rather than trying justify your less then normal compassionate behaviour. In the end we all get what we deserve so if you dont like the repercussions of your actions then change what you are comfortably dishing out to others and be the better version of yourself.

DEFLECT YOUR RESPONSE

These days people have the tendency to tread carefully when making statements that could offend people or various groups for the fear of being cancelled. People shut their mouth and would rather not give their opinion because they prefer to show others that they are inclusive to the different opinions that have been raised. If they were asked a direct question they would use deflecting tactics to avoid giving their true opinion because of the fear that their opinion might taint the image they are wanting to portray. They delay answering questions quickly because they want to know the intention of the questions so that they can formulate the right answer, but the moment you presume that their is a right answer that isnt your true belief is the moment that you leave your opinion behind. It may not be popular to have a different opinion to others but we are all entitled to have a difference of opinion and it is that opinion that makes as individuals because if you dont speak your mind when you have a chance you may as well not have a voice. So the next time someone asks you a question you can either give the opinion you think the person asking you wants to hear or you can own your answer by saying exactly what you want to say. The choice is yours, you are either liked from those controlling your speech because you've succumb to a fake sense of secruity that comes with saying what is popular and saying what is expected of you or you be yourself and say what feels right for you no matter of how it makes you sound, happily knowing that you can sleep sound because you were honest with yourself and your peers. 

LAY IT ON THICK

Saying something positive about someone when it's just not true because you would rather avoid offending them might not always be the best tactic in helping them out. Compassion can sometimes hold people back if there is no truth in your words because our misguided influences deny people's true emotions to react on their own accord and learn from the tough emotions that may be tearing them apart. It's our personal feelings that gives us information about our experiences and teaches us more about ourselves than any false compliment could. Experiencing sadness teaches you that there is purpose to all your emotions, without tough times in your life experiences you would struggle to keep your sanity when the ground feels like its falling out from underneath you. Traversing through the tough times helps build you up for anything that goes against the grain of thought and maintain sanity to a mind that has strengthened from the tough times experienced. 

LESSONS IGNORED

Not everyone takes in information the same way or is able to make sense of the information that they do to take in, so unless you are willing to try out different ways to connect with people who you're not on the same page with the point you try to make may end up bouncing on deaf ears. Lessons don't take well when the mind is focused on the frustrations of life, so your only chance to get through to people during the tough times is on how good your ability is to understand when its the appropriate time to approach them and how you should approach them. The ability to know the correct time of when to approach people coincides with you recognising what the persons current state of mind is and by understanding that their perspective should be taken in consideration. People need to have a clear head if you want them to absorb the knowledge that you give to them. A rational mind makes rational decisions, emotions need to be controlled for logical thought to be heightened. Without control of your emotions the anger you feel will speak louder than your mind and ignore what you really think like most of the time.

FALLS ON TRUST

Taking pride in yourself shows others that you are confident in your self being and that you are a reliable person who should be trusted. Most people will start off trusting you without you having to do anything for them to earn their trust, this is due to the fact that we have the tendency to give respect to people when we meet someone new because we inturn expect them to show us the same respect that we have given to them. When we first meet someone we dont want to feel that we've started on the back foot with them feeling that we have to earn their trust when we know that we haven't done anything wrong to deserve to be treated like we have wronged them. We dont want their past to make us feel like we are to blame for what they have been through. When you cross the line and lose someone's trust your irrational behaviour puts you in a place where trust must be gained back this is a matter of the consequences of your actions which conditions people to recognise that the actions they do or don't do will get you to reply to them with either niceness or to be stand offish. So if you want to be trusted, be the person that people won't have any problem trusting. Your actions speak louder than words, so be the person that you say you are because talking about why you should be trusted won't get you any closer to being trusted.

SPITE AFFECTS ALL

If spite was your sole motivator, you soon will find out that crossing the line just to get to effect someone else's lifestyle for the negative will affect you and others in the crossfire. Having your mindset stuck in feeling resentment for someone will have you fixated on the negative effects that you could use to affect your rival, but the negative thoughts will also remain with you and influence you on everything that you do. Spite is like a virus that attaches itself to you and holds you back from moving forward, the only thing that you can do to remedy the resentment your feeling is to focus on what you need not on depriving the needs of your rival. Letting spite take charge will mean that your values have to be pushed aside to make way for the everchanging grudge that takes you over with the purpose to influences your every move. So, if you don't want to be in proximity when spite claims a victim avoid the crossfire from ever happening by keeping your focus on what makes you happy and not on what will make someone else unhappy. We all have different aspirations that guide us, we don't need to collide heads when jealousy hits, we should use the achievements of others to motivate us to do better. Being happy for people success is your best pathway to your own successful life otherwise karma will ruin your day of success. So remember that it takes more strength to let go of your frustrations than to hold onto them.

PLAN OF BREAKING POINT

Some people would rather spend their efforts to push you in a place where you would react in a way that supports their arguments. There intentions are focused on getting you to dislike them so that when you finally give up on them that they can reassure themselves that you never cared anyway, but distancing yourself from them is the only rational response to their miserable behaviour. Their intention to create unnecessary drama all to bring you to breaking point brings their plan into fruition, now they don't have to feel so guilty with how they have been making you feel because the cat and mouse game is finally over. This is their biggest mistake because what makes people different is their threshold to drama but the end result is the same for all of us once we feel that we have nothing more to give the bond that we once had is broken and the bond can not be repaired no matter the effort afterwards. This is never considered because the depth of their actions is only focused on short term fixes. Life is about the long game short term fixes will pass as quickly as they started in the whole scheme of things, once the line has been crossed all that remains is the regret that can not be rectified. So choose your words wisely and your actions even more carefully so that you don't have to wonder, "What if I just".