LOOK A DOG WITH A FLUFFY TAIL

Distractions are keeping us from achieving our goals while also hindering us from even beginning our goals. Whether it's our busy lifestyle we lead which leaves us with very little free time or our financial issues that restrict us from chasing our dreams, we are constantly holding ourselves back because in part we are afraid to fail. Lifes unwanted dramas adds another level of difficulty to our progression especially when you try to priorities your life with your long term goals and get hit by a unplanned predicaments which knocks you off your determined course and discourages you to get back on your bike and try again. Living in your comfort zone might be the safest way but it doesn't make it the best way for you because without challenging yourself you could be possibly be missing out on a better future. Fearing losing yourself to failure is already failing because without even giving yourself an opportunity to succeed you've become content with having less. Having this mindset puts you in a place where your confidence is shot and you become your worst enemy. So focus on what you want and write it down so it becomes a real step by step plan to get you what you desire and don't get distracted by the dog with the fluffy tail.

FAMOUS FOR WHAT?

Being famous is being well known by many around the world but there are so many levels of being famous. You may not matter to all but to some you are their idol. So whether its your lifestyle people admire or your fortune people crave what you have achieved is someone else's long term goal. Those who idolise you use your achievements as a reference point that guides them step by step to a pathway that may potentially get them to a reach the gold at the end of the rainbow. So if you are in a position to be famous remember that what your famous for is as important as those people who idolise you. Nobody wants to be famous for being an idiot so be someone that everyone would be proud to share any time with. Whatever type of famous person you are it is the people who are a fan of you that make you famous so be humble and show respect to those people who respect you and your life choices. 

GETTING OLD

When you reach a certain age where others would consider you old, you would hope that you have already reached an optimum state of mind. As ageing means your mind and body start to deteriorate and getting old will only magnify your state of mind which is already struggling with the most basic tasks. If old people were selfish as young adults they then  grow into selfish old grumpy people. Old people have even less time to gain the wisdom to learn to be selfless if its not in them to be compassionate and they're not willing to change. We tend to put old people and babies in a similar category of fragility and innocents because at face value they can both seem harmless and wholesome. Where as babies grow to be who they are with the experiences they face, innocents is carried through until they have been corrupted by misguided influences, where as an old persons fragile state makes him or her look innocent but it doesn't mean that he or she is a decent person. Remember if you keep yourself in a negative mindset you would find yourself affected for the worse because your grumpiness would be increased by a higher level the more time passes on and the ageing effects take affect. 

IS HAPPINESS DECLINING THROUGH GENERATION TO GENERATION?

As a new generation comes along new parents promise themselves that they will be the best parents they can be by giving their child more than they ever had growing up. More of anything feels like the right answer to removing their child's desire to want and replace it with now i have, now im sated. Most people believe  that craving something that you cant have will lead you to resentment for those who possess what you desire and the longer you crave the things that you cant have the quicker you'll reach unhappiness and remain there. Having everything you could possibly crave actually creates the opposite affect because as the new generations arrive their happiness declines with their motivations even though they are born with certain  privileges. When parents give everything  their kids ask for they take away their child's own ability to challenge themselves in obtaining what they want on their own. It is the challenge to the goal that helps motivate you but when the difficulty is removed everything is too easy because you have reached the goal with assistance not with own merit which makes the rewarding experience feel unsatisfying. The issue is parents dont want to see their kids fail and go through the sadness that comes with failure but this is what pushes them to learn from their failures. So we give them no chance to fail but we also take away the chance of trying which will lead to an unhappy unsatisfied upbringing. So give them just enough and not too much otherwise your spoilt kids will be lazy and not appreciative of your intentions.

I SEE NOTHING

We sometimes shut our eyes to the wrongs we witness from the people we respect the most because we don't want to get upset and be let down by those we admire. The admiration we feel creates icons that are flawless so we view them in high regard and hope in the near future that we too could achieve what they already have with determination and hard work. In our mind our heroes are what we want to be and that's why we don't see a flawed hero when they make mistakes because flaws take away the magic that motivates us to reach for the impossible dream. Sometimes, however, living that dream doesn’t turn out quite how you may have imagined it would. Living The Dream' might not be everything it's cracked up to be because we have an amazing imagination that can never be surpassed by real life everyday living. 

WHAT KIND OF LIAR ARE YOU?

Is it okay to lie? Some might say there is no excuse to lie whether you lie for a good reason or bad reason, it's still a lie. To say that there is not a good enough reason for someone to lie you are condemning all liars to the not to be trusted basket. Whether they are a pathological liar or  a tactful liar in your eyes they are all as dishonest as each other and dont deserve your trust which may be a bad judgement call because it should always be about motives. What was their motive and is it a justifiable reason for the lie. Whether you are a pathological liar, intentional liar, a manipulative liar, protective liar, avoidant liar, an impressive liar, lazy liar, or a tactful liar each liar should be treated based on the Intention of that lie. Some people do deserve trust and others should never be trusted it is up to you to decide but don't make a rash decision because you will be judged by your judgements. Then the circumstances will change to were you to judgemental or could of you been more understanding. The cycle will go in circles all because of the miscalculation that you helped propel to the next person. 

LOST PERSPECTIVE

Opinions vary as much as peoples personalities vary and that's why there are so many versions of the truth. If every perspective is true than what does true mean?. What you may consider true for you is not always true for your neighbours. Can anyone be lost any more? if we now make allowances for all kinds of different perspectives as a show of respect to our fellow man and woman. If something exists in someones belief system is it true in universal belief? or Is the saying in your own little world what you believe is true a definition of a egocentric self-centered somebody who thinks only about himself/herself and believes the world revolves around him/her. If the latter is true then welcome to a world where the only way of not disappointing someone is by keeping your thoughts to yourself even if it's at the detriment of your own self being. Remember its better to put other peoples feelings above your own because that is the key to happiness, for them.

OPEN BOOK, CLOSED BOOK

If you want open and honest interaction you need to be honest and open with your interaction. Without a two way communication line one person is speaking his or her mind by giving their opinions and the other is listening but not giving any input which means no negotiation can be reached. Each person or group, gathers information from the discussion and has to be willing to make changes to work together in harmony. We all have limits to what we will allow take place but once we feel we are at our wits ends no more negotiating can take place because now our stance has firmly changed. So if you choose to be closed with your actions don't be stupid and question why the situation is what it is. If you don't like the circumstances at hand, understand we are a product of our circumstances. Circumstances are things that create who we are, and if they create who we are, they are considered our circumstances, whether we like them or not. So don't crap where you eat and complain about the funny smell you have to bear because no one is longer listening. 

VOTE OF NO CONFIDENCE

So many people have little faith in other peoples actions that they automatically assume the wrong decisions would of been made. The inquisitive person asks  questions that should of been safely assumed because common sense would of guided the decision to motion and highlighted that decisions weren't made lightly. The saying don't assume anything takes the power away from what is considered rational decision making and claims that being inquisitive is warranted for asking any questions irrespective of how irrelevant they can be in that situation which is really a poor excuse for supporting your argument that its for safe guarding yourself from making an ass out of you and me. Sometimes a bit of inductive reasoning is enough to solidify any questions that you crave answers for. If we were to ask questions everytime we felt it was necessary we would never need to commit anything to memory because who cares that certain people like certain things majority of the time they might of changed their mind so ask and ask again and never take in any information from your previous answers because being safe always mean no worries, or does it.

CONSENT IN SCHOOLS

I think it's a good idea to mandate school consent as part of the curriculum but it's sad they need to. How far gone is a generation that has to be explained what is the right way to act and what is the wrong to act?. What happened to our body language skills that enabled us to work out what was inappropriate and what was not?. What happened to the line of common decency and empathy? Is common sense now a myth to this generation who need to be educated in what's so wrong with their behaviour?. If it was merely the educational fault that has been the cause of this change with kids, then Are the kids smart enough to learn on how to behave like a rational people? or are the out of control ones just to stupid to learn a new thing because their mind is full of their own wacky morality flawed beliefs where nothing clever can enter?. Lessons will be even harder when the safe guard of schools aren't their to soften the blow with the advice "They just need to be taught the right way to behave" because when it's time for them to start work they the working force would expect them to be ready for the real world where the punishment will fit the crime. Kids believe they are growing up fast but their minds are on rewind back to the days of the Neanderthals.