PARENTING QUICKLY OR SMARTLY

As parents our attitudes vary on what we consider is the right type of parenting.  Parenting can be categorised in four main groups Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive or Uninvolved. The one thing all parents can agree on is that their child's health is the number one priority. This doesn't mean that what we all consider is unsafe is the same for all of us. You might leave your child alone when the pot is on the stove boiling because you've done it a thousand times and your child has never shown any interest in touching the cooking, but it is still a gamble. The odds might be in your favour but is it a risk that you as the guardian want to take. On a day to day basis you as a the parent or carer are constantly making decisions on behalf of those you are responsible for so make the choice that is better not the one that is quicker. 

I DON'T KNOW

It's okay to say I don't know. So many people feel embarrassed to admit they don't have the answers to questions that their peers know off by heart. Trying to fool people that your confident about the topic of conversation without having any clue to what someone is talking about will only falter your personality and highlight that you are struggling to connect the dots with the current conversation. People crave to be connected to that is why you owe it to yourself to be your true self so when you do find a connection with someone it is strong and true to who you really are and what you stand for. A mutual respect for your integrity will only show when you be yourself without trying to impress your current company.

SWITCHED ON

To be switched on and connected to your surroundings is the only way to multi task. When you find it hard to focus on more than one task at a time you suffer the consequences of a slow mind which will leave you struggling to handle the tough decisions that have to be made quick. Life is fast paced and without training yourself to think fast and make rational choices you'll find yourself falling far behind struggling to climb out of the mess. So be alert and train yourself to take in more than just what your experiencing. So much is happening around you and if you master the art of paying attention to your surroundings you will find it easier to respond to more than what your use to. You are not the only one trying to get through the challenges that life throws at you so be less self absorbed and be one with the world. 

DAMSEL IN DISTRESS

The Western movies that depict the typical Damsel in distress saved by the male protagonist of the big screen has now transformed from our living room and into our everyday life situations but with a unique twist. The modern times have now modified the roles because its not only females who find themselves in trouble playing the victim, but also time has added dudes in distress to the equation which still carries the same message "Oh Please help me for I am helpless and need a hero to save me". This is the easy way out for both of the sexes, why try when someone else can do it for you.  If we let this mentality rule us we will never stand on our own two feet and never excel to a potential that can only be reached if we push ourselves to be better. What may seem the easier path will only damage us in the long run. Life's tough times strengthens you so your able to get through the difficult challenges you face and avoidance will only teach you the bad habits that you will find it virtually impossible to break at a later stage of your life. So be like Nike and "Just do it" yourself.

A FAMILY AFFAIR

A family that lives together, doesn't always grow together. We may all start off close-knit and bounded together by our forced upon proximity experiences, but that all changes in an instant once our social bubble grows and we leave the comfort zone that we grew up in. The moment we get older and leave the nest so does our ability to relate to one another change. What seemed to be a simple task of interaction metamorphoses into "The idiots guide to relating to one another from scratch".Surrounded by an awkward feeling that is controlled by the space of time since your last meeting swollows any nostalgic memory that entwines us to our shared childhood. Do we fight to rekindle what was once there? Or do we continue the charade that simplifys our new relationship?

TO BE OR NOT TO BE CONSISTENT

 Conditioning relies solely on the consequences to keep it relevant. The desired result will never occur if the wrong conditioning is applied. Consequences need to be consistent to reinforce the lesson that good or bad life decisions are connected to completely different end results. It is your responsibility to accept that your choices have lead you to your current outcome. Without taking sole responsibility for your actions you will never learn the lessons that will guide you to an optimum lifestyle and easier decision making abilities in your future. 

SMILE FOR A WHILE

 Treating people good only when your feeling good means it's an effort to be nice. Are you really a nice person when it counts? or does being nice take all your energy?.Being short with people over minor issues and blaming them for the cause of your bad day is really your defence  mechanism trying to stop you from delving deep into what's bugging you. Are you really the one with the problem? If you accept yourself as you are you'll find it easier to accept others as they are and you won't need to pretend that you are a tolerant person. Smiling will come easier without trying so hard to be happy.

SIN IS IN THE MISINTERPRETATION

We grew up being taught in the classroom to be more descriptive with our writing, the more detailed the better. It is now instilled in us that even in our social interactions that we try and share our experiences by using descriptive words. The fat, skinny, tall, short, black, white, young or old person is used as a way of painting a picture of our experiences. The description helps you understand what the storyteller went through and sometimes the descriptive word can connect you to the why it happened. You can single out any descriptive word and claim it's used in a negative way but unless the storyteller uses all with a negative connotation then the listeners are interpreting it wrong. Their are so many layers that affect how and why we react the way we do, to simplify it by saying someone is being discrimatory is like telling someone to describe their friend features without using describing words that paint the picture of what they look like. Their friends description may tick what a listener would interpret as negative interpretation. 

CONSEQUENCES WELCOMED

If you know that your heading to dangerous grounds and you are still willing to put yourself in harm's way what is your train of thought?. Do your reasons justify your decisions? or Do you just think if things don't go to plan someone will bail me out?. When the shit hits the fan is it okay to back pedal denying that you made the conscious decision to put you life at risk or do you do the honourable thing and take full responsibilities for you actions and accept you are where you are because of your choices. If we live our life taking responsibilities for our choices good or bad and stop playing ignorant when things do go bad we can move forward and learn for the next time we make choices that could affect our well being.

RACIST EQUALS IDIOT

The word racist should be replaced with the word idiot because anyone who thinks that the location of where you were born depicts the type of character you will become are fooling themselves. In every country there will always be a mix of personalities, so the idiot way of thinking will always stand out from those who are lateral thinkers. If we shut our eyes to what people looked like and treated people based on their personality we would soon  discover our inner circle of friends would be like minded people and that doesn't mean the same nationality. So treat people as you would want to be treated and remember the less idiots you associate with the greater your chance of reaching happiness.