NOT IN THE JOB DESCRIPTION

Once you've made up your mind and decided what you want it's up to you alone to put steps in place in order to get yourself closer to your ideal job. This important decision shouldn't be taken lightly because it can sometimes seem an easy choice but when you have only focused on the advantages of the other job then its easy to fall in the trap of believing the grass is actually greener on the otherside. There is good and bad parts in any job but the questions we forget to ask ourselves is, Does the good out weigh the bad in the new job opportunity? And will your life change dramatically for the better with your new job? Changing your job on regular basis will eventually tire you out because the older you get the harder you'll find getting back on track with learning a new skillset. Our threshold to pressure varies from individual to individual, whether a high pressure job is any better than a low pressure job depends on the individual?. More money usually means more work unless you have managed a strategy to get more money with minimal work. Not all jobs are about the money some are purely about the reward you get for being successful in your chosen field.  If we all chased the money more people would drop what they like, for what will bring them more dough. So if your passions aren't tied to a high end job then just focus on what job will fit your happiness requirements and let others dwell on their money situation and wonder why they have less time to enjoy because of their high paying job.

TOO EASY TO HANDLE

We strive to remove the hardship from our life so that we can live a life without stress and struggles, but its the intolerable levels of hardship that we have to face that has helped us in discovering our true potential. Living a life where the things that you desire are handed to you on a silver platter will only take your desire to try furrher away, because there is no sense of achievement for something that comes that easy to you, this eventually leaves you in a weaken and vulnerable state of mind where you wont do anything ever for yourself untill those helping remove thier assistance. A life that is so simple leaves us feeling that we cant achieve greatness because we have never got ourselves out of our comfort zone because the fear of failure has controlled us. Not trying to pursue our dreams and staying where we are most  comfortable is failing yourself because you have never given yourself the chance to meet your full potential. Let your passions guide you to a place where its worth the risk and even though you may fall there is nothing that can hold you down when your are focused on your passion. So if you plan to use your life appropriately then live it trying to reach your full potential chasing it passionately and maybe you'll surprise yourself because we only know what is around the corner if we get off the couch and look.

FAVOURITES

Once you've reached the level of favoured you can do no wrong. You no longer have to share the repercussions of your actions that others have to face head on all because the others are seen in either a neutral or below neutral standing from those who are holding the  power stick. Even though we are supposedly all part of the same team only the favoured have an unlimited get out of jail free cards for all their indiscretions because they have managed to build a relationship with those in power. Those in power stretch out their neck to shield the favoured then go twice as heavy on anyone else who notices that the favours don't go all around. This forces you to play cat and mouse to even out the playing field. Once you choose to stand up for your beliefs the standing back up pounces onto you highlighting that the rules have changed for you and will continually change out of your favour. So you either put a lid on trying fight for equality by keeping peaceful thoughts against those who trample on peace with their lies or you confront the liar and wait to hear them stumble with the words that their are no favourites here.

SHOWPONY IN DISGUISE

Some people get frustrated if they are not the centre of attention all the time. When they are not included in the conversation they will pony around until the groups eyes are only on them. Showing off only when the crowd is watching them in the hope that you would see them as though they have things under complete control and that they are stand out happy all the time. Their disguise may please the crowd but when your show pony varies so much from your true self that will only come out when the doors are closed in the comfort of your own home it is unhealthy. Their insecurities force them to take part in a conversation even when they have nothing to say, this leads to them putting their dignity on the line all for a laugh. They parade the floor showing others that they are confident in all aspects of their life even though they might have struggles in their life that are adding to their insecurities. To ignore the pain is to deny the pain and how you are actually feeling now masking it with a smile will mean your sorrows will be overlooked and you will never have the assistance that could get you out of your slump. They don't realise that our struggles might be different but we all try to deal with them the best we can by not ignoring them and pretending they dont exist will put you in the line of faking your conversations all to prevent  anyone from getting to know the real you. The more you act past what you are really feeling the more the show pony takes control of you and puts you into a rollecoaster where you will lose yourself. So entertain all you like but not at the detriment of who you are. Acting the fool will lead to people treating you like a fool. Their is more substance in being real than ignoring your reality, so less pony and more you.

FAILED TACTICS

Those of us who recognise the selfish acts of  people who use chameleon tactics to try to camouflage their true selfish intentions refuse to fall victim to their manipulative ways. The shifty chameleons dont like it when you can see through their lies and see them for who they really are because they strongly believe that they are smarter than those that they are trying to fool. Even though not everyone speaks up many see them for who they are but prefer to avoid the conflict that comes with confrontation. Showing them that you can see their true intentions forces them to change their tactics and forces them to come to terms with the fact that they arent as smart as they think that they are which results in them being overly frustrated and grumpier for most of the time. Many of the chameleons spend alot of their time on trying to figure out how they can manipulate someone even in the most normal conversations but they don't realise that when you steer away from your normal behaviour you stand out like a sore thumb. So if your nice only for some of the time then people will wonder what is your angle? And what do you you really want? Chameleons dont want to show you their true colours because the truth that they deny is a lot uglier when it's not filtered. So if you have grown to be selfish and you really don't stand for anything but your own needs than own it and see how many people choose to be a part of your world. Or be someone who people would rather flock to because you are the person who has others in mind when you make important decisions by showing others the respect that they show you. Your choices lead to your consequences so don't blame others for where you've ended up.

DISTORTED TRUTH

If you look close enough you will see more than the superficial, you will see the layers of alternative perspectives that open your eyes to the truth. Where the facts are being ignored lies are put in place to mask the truth of the true situation all to protect those who are willing to be honest from being punished for stating the obvious truth. People who are aware of the outcome of sharing their honest thoughts choose to divert to lies all to ensure that their vulnerabilities aren't on show for the cynical minds to be able to disect their views and use them as a negative tell. If no one knows what your annoyances are then you are safe, but the actual truth is buried under all the lies of your deceit and neglect of the truth. So is it better to share the truth and risk the outcome that it brings for speaking the truth? Or is it better to not be the nail that stands up infront of the hammer waiting to knocked down? The answer is what do you have on the line? and is it worth your honest opinion?. We are all made different some of us see deeply into life while others are content being happy in their own ignorance, either way you do you because whatever gets you through the day and to the next is better than you being miserable and therefore struggling with life's challenges.

PATTERNS OF DISCOMFORT

How many times do the things that cause you discomfort have to repeat before we learn from them. Blinded by the bad repetitive behaviour we face, we are hopeful that the chances we give to others will eventually lead them to showing us the same respect that we have always showed them. The same issues that keep on arising are proof of someone being an opportunist who will always follow the same predictable patterns, "it's all about me philosophy". Nothing will change if you dont change it yourself by taking away their chance of opportunity. We are to blame if we let them disappreciate our value, for that we are not here to be their relief and saviour every time they get themselves into the deep end, especially when it is always going to be one sided. This would be okay if the respect shown were mutual but the moment you test a persons  loyalty is the moment you are disappointed by facts. They don't care about anyone but themselves, they believe the deserve more than the next person and they will never do half of what you do for them. So accept the fact that you are not appreciated and you will move forward once you cut your losses because of the time that you've felt that you have wasted trying to make the relationship work. Life is hard enough without having a so called friend dragging you down, so don't be hard on you be hard on them.

SHED SOME LIGHT

There are those of us who will not stop until we come to the truth of the matter, no matter how exhausting the experience might be. Our persistence to search for truth outweighs our fear of failure while others on the other hand are content with keeping things simple in their life and prefer not to explore to deep into  broader possibilities all because they are afraid of what they might discover. The uninterested are believer's in the philosophy better the devil you know than the one you dont, unlike those who are inquisitive who thirst for truth the others search for comfort in knowing just enough to see them through the day. They have convinced themselves that the comfortable option is the best option because that is what they have gotten use to, no risk no loss. The safer comfortable people dont want to look to deep into things because of the questions that might arise will lead to answers that they might not be prepared for which might shed light on the things that they have spent a whole lot of time trying to avoid. Finding out something new about themselves might go against the person that they claim to be so staying away from testing their claims is much easier for them. Standing in the dark may be working for you now but eventually you'll have to step in the light where you can't hide from the lies that you claim to stand by. Remember if you can't discuss what you think freely then maybe you don't really believe it, so better workout what you do stand for and do that. 

STAYING IN THE SHADE

Most of us live a sheltered life where we do our best to stay in control of our own fate in a way where we feel safe so that way we won't have to face living an unpleasant lifestyle. We choose the path without risk all so we can avoid the dangers that may arise in the real world where our power to perfectly plan our desired outcome dwindles because it is impossible to plan for everything. As john lennon famously said "Life is what happens when you are busy making plans" this rings true with people who have mapped out their life from career to partner to kids to everything in-between and then they feel like their world has fallen apart because they are still single at the age of 25. Life needs you to put a good solid effort into it, you cant just sit in your safe place and expect everything to fall in your lap. When life feels hard then do the best you can do because that is all you can do, the more we avoid the parts of the world that frighten us the weaker we become so embrace life good and bad in your life but dont let it control you. The moment you take in life with a positive attitude will be the moment you realise that you in charge  one step closer to making the most of your life, so be brave and take your first step forward. 

RACE FOR A FULL LIFE

When a loved one dies it's like they have gone into another room where the door handle is on the otherside of you and there is no way to reach them. There is no prejudice when death finally reaches you because death will come to us all rich or poor, black or white, young or old. No one knows when you'll reach the end of your finish line which is one of the reasons that makes time one of the most precious things we have. That is why it is so important to work on your priorities so that you wont waste your time procrastinating with the things that dont matter. No matter where you stand or how close you are to achieving your lifes goals death will stop you in your tracks without any care of your current position so you better use the time you have and hope you've done all that was humanily possible to have lived a good full life. We are alone in death but it doesn't mean we have to be alone in life so surround yourself with friends and family and live a full happy life so that when your card is called you are ready to smile at the blessing of life that you've lived.