PRIDE IN TRUTH

 Pride can be a good thing when it is based solely on the undeniable truth rather than personal feelings which is why people feel comfortably confident to stand proud for what is deemed as objectively right. Having too much misplaced pride can affect the positives of what true pride can bring you because once someone's opinion is ruled by their emotions than what is objectively right is now pushed aside to make room for what is now considered the new priority "How do you feel about the uncomfortable facts?" and "How can we make the worlds issues less triggering". When you let your pride get in the way of the truth then your moral compass can no longer be relied on to guide you to the facts because now your first line of defence is "My truth is" which will always change to suit whoever makes the most noise. When did "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" lose its power?, was it the moment that we thought that it is better to support the weak minded ones who's grip on society is furthest from reality while those who are resilient enough to handle the truth just have to bear it. This all sounds fine and dandy, but we should ask ourselves one important question, Is the world a better place now that we've let the fragile mindsets lead us?

TOO RATIONAL TO ARGUE

Rationality is the universal language of logic, it is illogical to argue with it when it's only purpose is to make sense of the confusion that surrounds us. Without rational thought we would be left bumping heads with each other struggling to deal with the dramas that consume us. It is our responsibility to use the rational part of our brain to analyse our current situation so that we are able to formulate the best possible solution for our  dilemma. Once you've discovered the only right answer which has lead to the least negative affects in your life their is no need for you to hold onto regret because you now know wholeheartedly that you have taken all the proper measures to come to the only right conclusion. It is in your ability to use your rational mind to distance yourself from bad choices that a rushed decision can bring which is why your head should have the last say and not be swayed by your heart because your heart will lead you ashtray when your rational mind is not involved in the decision making process. 

REMEMBERED FOR WRONG

We live our life with the hope that those close to us will see us as a good person who brings positive energy not only to the world but also for those who live peacefully within it. This admiration we hope to earn may start from our life but we also hope that the sentiments are carried forward even after we've gone. This is because positive energy transfers to those that we leave behind and remains with them to hopefully spread the same positive energy to others. There are those who crave to be remembered even at the cost of their humanity which leads them to do unthinkable acts. Labelled infamous is not a deterrent when those who intentionally cause heinous crimes all to be remembered justify their acts as necessary while they're attempts to create a everlasting stain on the world will never outlast the good that rational minded people bring to the table. The world might highlight the bad people in it but there are more good people in it and that is why we will remember the triumphs over the failed attempts to spoil the peace. As disastrous as the pure evil acts are "History is written by the victors" this is why their attempts to stand out and rattle us will be stamped out because we will never stop the fight against the evil acts that come our way by using what we have in common against those who want to separate us from our humanity.

SIGNS IGNORED

Subtlety tactics may not work with the overly persistent nor the closed minded who without your stronger stance to their prying questions they will continue to throw caution to the wind which may result with an open dialogue that they may or may not be prepared for. Our choice of topic of conversation with our peers is a guide that we will use to measure what topics¹ are safe to talk about and what we feel is beyond conversation because of its sensitive matter this is all based on the bonds that we share with one another and is steered by our own willingness to open up so that we are able to find common ground with one another.  If we tread on areas of conversation that we ourselves find uncomfortable to open up about but are more than happy to continue to delve deep into the personal affairs of others maybe we should ask ourselves when things haven't gone to plan with our own life why is the circle of friends that we feel comfortable to confide with only consist of a small amount of close friends rather than everyone else that we spend time with?. Why does our storytelling change based on our audience? Is it because only some people are privy to the real us while others will only ever get the perfected version of ourselves on display?

GRIEVANCES MISALIGNED

If we grieve for the victims how can we justify grieving for the perpetrators. This type of thinking puts us all in the victim box where no matter the circumstances we are all safe from blame because you now don't have to admit to any fault which is why it is now okay to treat self-responsibility just like an obstacle that you can just hurdle over. The choices you make go hand in hand with consequences that you'll eventually have to face this doesn't mean that your past should have the power to hold you back from the opportunity to learn from the bad choices that you've made by restricting how you react in the present. If you choose to be ruled by your past then the overpowering negative words that you've held onto will corrupt your present which is why you will have no future unless you choose take responsibility for your bad choices and treat them as lessons learnt but leave the past in your rear view and focus only on the possibilities of your future. You cannot change your past but your future is yet to be written so make the most of it because life is to short to dwell in the past.

COMMUNITY OF RIGHTS

We avoid solitude by connecting to something bigger than ourselves to a community which will take us in with open arms with only one expectation in mind for us to be a positive impact on that community. The only way that we can ever add to an already positive community is by sharing common values without having fundamental similar beliefs we would be left struggling at every crossroad. It is only through a positive value system that strives for peace with the show of integrity that will ever lead us all in the right direction. It is in the joining of our core beliefs that will build our trust in one another that will allow us to have a direction of purpose that in itself is the reward because without purpose in your life you have nothing. So give yourself purpose by adding positive energy to your surroundings because doing the alternative will only distance yourself from the community that you are ever so hard trying to be a part of. If you prefer to live a solitude lifestyle then see how far you can get without the innovations that a happy society brings to the community and its people. People are happier together than they are alone so it is in your best interests that you learn how to push your differences aside and just get along otherwise get used to the discomfort of the alternative lifestyle. 

BOUNDARIES OF CONVERSATION

When you put limits on your conversation not only do you restrict where the conversation can go but you also decrease your chances of building a respectful relationship with those you converse with. Without open conversation we are left attempting to fill the gaps that would normally gel together by tactfully changing the topics of discussion every time the topics got too sensitive for the other party to handle. If we feel the need to constantly change the topic of discussion to avoid uncomfortable confrontations maybe it's evidence enough that you are conversing with the wrong type of person. If you cannot converse amicably even under very different points of views, then part with the mindset each to their own. We will not always get along with everyone, but we should respect each other's differences as unique as long as we don't hurt one another and let each other live in peace that is the only way that we can ever flourish as a human race, the united race. 

MATCH THE MADNESS

Whether we do it intentionally or instinctively we seem to find ourselves comparing our lifestyle to the lifestyle of our peers. We do this to justify the choices that we've made over those of our peers who we believe have had the same opportunities to succeed but may have squandered their chances to shine. Our examination of their lifestyle compared to our own doesn't take into consideration that we dont always want the same things in life and what one person may want to reach for doesn't mean that the other person who is in arms length of it desires to reach for it at all. Some people are constantly craving more from their life while others are happier with just enough this is why trying to copy the steps of someone that is going in a different direction from where you'd rather be is just madness matching the surrounding madness may seem better than staying quiet in your comfort zone but the purpose needs to match your interest not theirs. So step out when you know that the direction you are heading is true to your heart otherwise you'll find out the hard way that mimicking a life that you do not care for will only result in you losing your identity when the dust settles.

EGGS IN ONE BASKET

When you focus all of your attention on doing what is quicker over what is logical you have chosen to side with less thought of what the consequences could be and more of your attention on whatever means will get the job done in the shortest possible amount of time no matter how it affects yourself or anyone else. This decision to ignore all the possible options that you had purely made to save some time will most likely lead to problems that you'd never ever considered is because of the lack of preparation that you failed to make before jumping straight into action. Getting the job done should not be the only focus in your sight because when you are blinded by your desired goals without trying to hard to understand the consequences of your actions you are doomed to make mistakes that you will either in the end do the right thing by taking ownership of those bad choices and try to learn from those bad choices or the cowardly thing by denying your part in the issues that have now lead to the problems at hand. To take claim that you didn't know that you doing this would lead to that is an excuse for those who suffer from a lack of thought in their actions so if you don't want to find yourself on the back foot trying to defend your actions then don't let your logical thought process be overridden by your irresponsible thought process and life will start to make a whole lot more sense.

TWO OF THE SAME

If our efforts are ever questioned we would always claim that we did the best that we could with what we had but how would we fate against someone whos resources matched our own?, Are we only ever giving what we believe a person deserves and not our all as we like to display?. We all like to think that before we commit to a decision that we have considered all the people that may be affected before ourselves but this is a little delusional because we would of answered their request without hesitation. Most of the time we've already worked out how our response will affect us before we've even considered others request even though we will always claim the opposite. The claims we boldly make may promote our own readiness to help those who are in need but what remains evident is that the proof is in the pudding and it is only in our actions not the claims that we make that will show others that we mean what we are saying. When you in a situation where you are meeting someone for the first time and happen to discover that you share alot of similar characteristics to that person you'd think that its a sure fire way that you'll get along like a house on fire,  but this is not always the case if your views are ever changing. If you discover that you are clashing more than normal with someone who shares your values maybe it is your value system that keeps changing to suit not theirs. When you find that you keep on bumping heads with them it should be a clear indicator that you are not as easy to get along with as you thought. If you felt that your similarities  overshadowed each other the evidence is clear that you change you personality when you discover that your findings doesn't support who you claim to be. Is the forced change in your personality enough for you to recognise the selfishness in your self? Or is the fact that it is not you under the truth microscope enough reason to blind you of the connection that you both share? The most accurate test that will help you distinguish whether or not you are a person that can get along with most personalities would be  getting along with a person just like yourself otherwise stop preaching good will to others just for the performance because your performance will only take you so far before people can see exactly what you stand for or don't stand for.

THE PERSON THAT YOU USED TO BE

As we get older we change with the times as we discover more about ourselves we use our life experiences to gain the knowledge to find the place where we believe that we best fit in. The more we learn about the world around us the more we crave to find our rightful place in it because life without finding your purpose is a life wasted. People spend alot of their time focusing on the person that they used to be when they believe that they felt happiest connected to someone or something better than what they are currently experiencing in their life, but nostalgia has the power to  look better from the distance. Nostalgia can decieve you by distorting your current views because life as you knew it was measured by the standards of that time where you didn't crave so much and in this time where you have grown older your expectations have grown to match your current  headspace. If your desired goals remained the same your life goals would be easily achieved but you are not the naive innocent individual who was eager to please you are the person that has been toughened by responsibility and the deadlines which has now moulded you into a person who has to priorities your have to's before want to's. So leave your past where it is and recognise that you are the person who has come through the other end of your life experiences and nobody can take that away from you. So dont ever forget that if you want to be your best version of yourself than stop complaining about it and just do it.

WHO ARE YOU FOOLING?

Those who lie as often as they tell the truth believe that people are foolish enough to take them seriously. The more they try to distract you with chosen antics the more obvious their true intentions are. Their patterns of lies and deceit cannot be masked with a few random truths because their past repetitive behaviour has already managed to set in stone who they really are. One lie may be ignored where two lies will get someones attention but three times a lie is a pattern of deceit that will only ever repeat. So if their lies are no longer getting through is it just a reflex action that sways them to respond with a lie because they have held onto their bad habits for far too long ?, or is the lie said for the purpose that if they dont admit the truth out loud then the lie told is true in their eyes?.Those who have figured out the patterns of deceit will mostly ignore the liars bad habits by not taking anything that is said to them seriously but occasionally your bullsht quota can overfill leaving you with only one thing left to do and that is to remind the liars of the world that you are no fool. Once you have awoken up the liars they very rarely change for the better because they prefer the easier route to change their tactics and come up with a new scheme because in their eyes they are smarter than their peers. So do what you must but remember a liar is a liar because it is who they'd rather be.

MADE TO FEEL AWKWARD

When a mind has been made up close minded people will spend their energy to try to make you feel as uncomfortable as they can if you let them. No matter your approach they will strategise the opposite response to your attempts of trying to start a conversation, this is all done so that they dont have to change their opinion of you. Most of what they say may contradict their true opinion but if it keeps you distanced and in no way capable of finding any common interests than let it be. Whether or not your comments do manage to gain ground it is only short lived the moment that you say or do something that they do not like. Those that they  let in their circle have a get out of jail free card that will never ever expire, which is why they have to modify their value system in order to justify their actions. This is why their is no winning someone over because the more effort that you put in just to fit in the quicker that you will find that you have compromised your own value system. So stand by your beliefs and not by those that will never have your back and you will find yourself in a better and happier place.

WORK BEFORE PLAY

We choose to work not only to benefit our own financial situation but also to help out  those who rely on us. Whereas when we choose to focus our attention on play it is our reward to ourselves for doing the right thing first before choosing to focus solely on our own personal interests. Without work to fund our desired lifestyle we would be limiting our choices and our actions to meet our goals so no matter the urgency or the size of your to do list only the top few priorities will ever get your attention. As much as we would like to spend more of our time on personal interests with limited resources in hand the likely result of ignoring your responsibilities will only lead you to live a life where your selfish behaviour will eventually be you downfall. So if you want to live a full and rewarding life with a status that is honourable you need your choices to be focused around responsibility because nothing good will ever be achieved when you ignore doing what is right. When you choose responsibility you'll notice that you have an elevated enjoyment of the free time that you do have and your appreciation for your free time feels earnt. So earn your play time with the work that makes it all happen and you will have a new appreciation for your responsibilities.

STICKING TO YOUR GUNS

The importance of learning the lesson can out weigh the criticism that is sure likely to come your way when you stick by your guns even at the cost of offending the person that you are trying to reducate. If you quit before the lesson takes your point and your time will be lost with any validity of what you were trying to highlight as relevant. The positive impact that you are trying to make in someones life wont be remembered through hail or shine but be lost with your defeat and your failed attempt to stick by your guns when it truly mattered most. Lessons learned and are most effective when you recognise that it is getting through the struggles of your life that is the better teacher and not skipping the bad parts just to get to the good parts in your life. It is through overcoming the bad times that we discover that without constant positive momentum of perseverance our goals will never be met. So be like Thomas Edison and remember"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."

JUST PERSONALITY

We segregate ourselves at our own detriment from others when we only focus our attention on where someone was born and what someone looks like rather than the important things like whether or not that person has got a good value system. When you make the rash mistake by prejudging someone with the expectations that they will act a certain way all because of the way they look or judging them on the basis of where they were born the chances of you being proven wrong will only increase. To expect people who look similar to one another to act the same way is like expecting identical twins to react the exact same way when responding to a similar situation. This negative thought process could also claim that those who are raised in the same home with similar rules to follow will adopt the same good values that has been drummed into their mind from a young age hence expecting them to be cardboard cut-outs of each other in every single way. When you take the time to acknowledge that we are individuals who have our own unique personalities from each other and no matter what rules that you were meant to follow you will only ever do what ever floats your boat then you will start to accept that we are all individuals with our own motivations. Our attempt to connect with our peers through only superficial similarities will only make room to neglect the true importance of a shared value system. So, put value in your common beliefs because when all else fails, all you have are your beliefs. 

STAY ON TRACK

So many distractions in your life can take you away from your life goals unless you have set yourself up with boundaries that you'll strictly follow. The moment that you make excuses for veering off track is the moment that you'll discover how much harder it is to get yourself back on track with the same momentum and focus that you once had. This unnecessary delay in pursuing your goals by pushing them further and further away from your priority list is disheartening to your mindset which has you convinced  that you would have done things differently if you just had the time. People like to claim that their stand is unchangeable but the moment that they have to face the consequences of standing up for their beliefs they quiver with reluctance to voice their true opinion and would rather change their mind in order to suit the simpler pathway. Our loud voices that are connected to our core beliefs soften when challenged because going against the grain of the populous is much harder to do than just agreeing in order to keep the peace even at the cost of our own. It takes more strength to stick by your guns with an idea different from your peers than it takes to shield yourself with lies that you can't back up. So stop making excuses for your change of mind and just accept that what is truly important to you has taken over what used to be important to you.

WORD'S OF WISDOM

A father prays that his children are ready for the real world when he is gone. This is why the less you have to sugarcoat the facts, the better it is for them in the long run. Wrapping kids in cotton wool will only stagnate their inbuilt growth process which will disable them from learning from their mistakes.You may be able to see where their choices may lead and feel compelled to guide them but when a child's focus is on the prize that is all they see. No amount of good advice can get through to them when a child believes that you are taking away their rights to choose their own path. As a father, all you can do is brace yourself when things don't go to plan and be there to support them when they fall down. As a father you need to make the point that we all make mistakes and that there is nothing wrong with making a bad choices but if you are able to learn from your mistakes you'll find life will become a whole lot easier. Life has its ups and downs, and that is why you need to be stronger than the current times. Otherwise, you will find it harder and harder to get up every time you fall. We also need to point out to them that nothing "worth having comes easy" as Theodore Roosevelt once stated so try untill you've given it your best so that way your regrets won't stay with you to affect your future. 

PUSH YOUR BUTTONS

We all have buttons that can be pushed either by accident or intentional, but how we choose to react once our button has been pushed is up to the individual. Our vulnerabilities are on show the moment we react, so whether you want to be seen as weak or strong, it is all determined on how you choose to react to someone else's attempt on rattling your cage. If you keep in mind that someone has chosen to spend their energy to steer your mood will you use your understanding of their intentions to modify how you decide to react?. If we allow ourselves to be manipulated into doing something that we don't want to do which doesn't sit well with our normal behaviour is this a lack of control of our own emotions. It takes more strength to control yourself than it takes to let loose, so if you have a mature mind and some self-control, you will only ever do what your heart desires. We have to stop blaming people for their actions and start blaming ourselves for how we choose to react to their nonsense. People will only have the power that you give to them so stop allowing them to control how you feel and stop them in their tracks by conditioning them to treat you with respect or give them a taste of their own medicine and see how well that sits with them.

COME TO PASSION

Passion is the drive that persuades you to persevere through your failures so that you dont get demotivated from pursuing your dreams. Without passion in our lives, we struggle to see the point in pushing through the tough times because all we can see is the constantly monotonous repeating of a life that shows no chance of changing. This is why we need to take our lives in our own hands by choosing something that we strive for and making a plan that will eventually guide us to fulfil our dreams. Passions are deep-seated interest that are the key to our happiness  they are tied to what makes you, you, and if you ignore its plea, then you condone its slow suicide. Every fiber of your being should be invested in you pursuing your dreams because if you dont believe your worth it than why should someone else and wouldn't you rather just say that at least you gave it your all rather than its just too hard to even try.