DIVIDED MIND

As children grow older, they change from their simple lifestyle and basic desires to a more complex and competitive way of living with higher expectations. Even though it is easy to say that the past is in the past, it does not always mean that your past has no bearing on your present day—especially if you strongly believe that you have unresolved issues.

This is why, unless you have managed to satisfy those early lifestyle preferences and personal desires before reaching a certain age, you may find that your past eventually catches up with you, bringing a great deal of emotional baggage left for you to unpack. What might seem trivial to some of your peers may feel very different to you. You might view your past endeavours as failures, and those feelings can carry their impact into the present day, affecting your adulthood.

This sense of failure can manifest itself as a constant hurdle of disappointment, reminding you that perhaps you did not put enough effort into trying to achieve your dreams. It is this feeling that can transform a hopeful, confident child into a scared and anxious adult, simply because the life plans they once imagined were never fulfilled.

It is extremely important that we do not ignore the dreams we crave, because eventually they may return as regrets. Instead, put your heart and soul into the things that motivate you. At the very least, you will be able to say that you gave it everything you had—with no regrets.

FEELING NUMB

Life’s stresses not only have the overwhelming power to knock you down, but also to weaken your mentality so that you don’t even try to get back up. Whenever you feel that you are at your lowest point, where you struggle to find any reason to stand up, the pain that you feel lingers and tries to discourage you from finding any motivation to move forward. This pain dulls your senses so that you are left with only the feeling of a failed resolution, which is why you can feel so deflated when the stresses you face are too much for you to bear.In our desperation to feel that we are in control of our own fate, we sometimes intentionally plunge ourselves into being a victim, where we can attempt to control our sorrows before they control us. Whether we use a sad movie, a sad song, or any sad feelings that we can muster up, the intention is to put ourselves in a place that keeps us feeling sad so that not even another bad experience can alter our mood any further.Once our shield is up, the pain that we feel can be turned on and off whenever we feel it’s safe to do so. This tactic to defend ourselves focuses on the belief that once you’re in pain, the numbness you feel can protect you from anything else coming your way.Whatever your tactics, you need to always remember that you will have bad days, but you will also have good ones. So don’t give up on the good ones because of the bad ones.

BOUND BY RULES

In life, we are bound by parameters — some of which we have put in place to ensure we are all on the same page, while others are defined by the natural order of things. The parameters we advocate for promote mutual respect, which can only exist when both parties give what they take. Trust, honesty, and respect form the foundation of any healthy partnership. Without a relationship built on a strong foundation, it is far more likely to crumble.Parameters show others that you practise what you preach. They reflect your belief in a structured society — one that doesn’t chop and change to suit one person’s needs over another’s. We should not expect to be respected by our peers if we don’t believe in mutual respect ourselves. This is why it is difficult to show respect to someone whose words are empty and meaningless.

If you choose a dishonest path, don’t be surprised when those who once believed in you lose their trust and faith. Even the most generous heart has its limits. Don’t let selfish actions create the patterns that turn allies into enemies. And remember: once you’ve lost someone’s trust, it’s almost impossible to win it back — so choose your actions far more wisely

SWEETEN THE TAKE, SAME IMPACT

Words have the power to offend those who would prefer a more tactful approach but by choosing to modify speech words also have the power to camouflage the impact that they have caused. So, no matter which words you choose to say the results will always end up in the same place where your left picking up the pieces from the inevitable impact. So, whether your intentions to sugarcoat the truth is to suit your narrative or you just believe that people are too weak to handle the truth then your avoidance of your responsibility to the truth will result in a society that is less than prepared for the tough times ahead. There are those who would rather live in ignorance but for those who base their foundations on truth and prefer their integrity to stay intact will stand by their beliefs even at the cost of their popularity diminishing are more than happy to converse with those who challenge their beliefs. Those of you who are willing for an open dialogue aren't swayed by an irrational emotion but purely by logical thought because the world runs on laws not your mood which is why eventually when the shit hits the fan is the moment that you will see them run to and rely on those you remain composed. So, speak your mind now or just agree with the mob when the moment arises the ones that struggle to have a civil conversation with anyone who disagrees with them, remember it's your choice because they won't give you one.

NOT JUST OUR LIFE

Our life isn’t just ours alone, because we are all connected to one another like turning cogs in a vast machine. This is why, even when our actions are unintentional, the effect they have on others can change someone’s life for the worse—even those we haven’t directly interacted with. We may live a short life in the grand scheme of things, but our brief and precious time on this earth can have a lasting impact on someone else’s wellbeing. Choosing to keep to yourself doesn’t mean you will affect only a few; it means you’re missing the opportunity life gives you to make the world better. By holding back, you avoid your true purpose—to keep turning your cog with a positivity that spreads through the world, so that everyone may benefit when its inhabitants finally reach true prosperity. The one enduring truth that should bring you comfort is this: you will have triumphantly played your part in helping the world move closer to utopia, even if that future doesn’t unfold within your lifetime.

PERSONALITY VS NATIONALITY

 Alot of people believe that it is our nationality that defines who we are,  I prefer to believe that it is our personality that better represents who we are. Our place of birth may be where our loyalties lie but there is alot more to us than just our birthplace. If we were to believe that our nationality is the better reflection of who we are than that would have to mean that one person born in a country would be a carbon copy of the person that is next to them. Growing up in a community can have the power to motivate how you do things but in the end it's up to you to decide whether you want to follow in those same footsteps. We are so much more than the place that we grew up in our personality is shaped by many factors' genetics, environment, and the experience we face. It is our personality which makes us unique to others because it is how we've handled the challenges that life has dealt us that has made us who we are presently. So be proud that no matter how hard the storm has hit you, you have not let it drag you down where you'd struggle to get back up and the person that you can thank for that is the person that you've grown up to be, so stand proud because you are unique.

POWER WITH MORALITY

With the evolution of technology, we have managed to evolve our society to the next level, increasing our societies potential to reach further than it could have ever reached if the help of technology was never utilised. Without the modern marvels of technology in our lives, we would be stuck in past still trying to figure out how to solve the common problems of that day, but where there are technological advancements, we should not ignore what too much power in the wrong hands can do. Too much power would more than likely have a negative effect on society if we are yet to evolve our standards of ethics at equal measure. If we only evolve in power than we are likely to suffer in a lack of moral judgement? Where bad decisions are likely to be made before the ones that focus on the betterment of society. What we should be asking ourselves first before anything else is Has our own moral tendency matched our rapid growth in power?, because if the answer is no then we should probably question what will all that power that technology has brought us likely do in the hands of a power hungry control freak who has little to no ethics? Power without ethics is the quickest way to turmoil. So, we should remember not to be distracted by the power of technology with pointless blame and misguided frustrations but rather use the advancements that technology has brought us to our favour by educating people to advance their ethics standards so that they will help guide all of society to a better place that only accepting technology as progress can bring you.

 

LOST PERSPECTIVE SONG

Lost Perspective Song

OKAY TO DISAGREE

In the past we grew up arguing about which is better Nintendo or Sega, Soccer or Football, Holden or Ford but no matter how our much our opinions may have varied from each other we still managed to get along without letting our personal preferences get in the way of our long-term friendship. What used to be considered just a minor disagreement between good friends has now been transformed into a rational reason to not associate with anyone who thinks differently to the way they think. Those who hold onto harsh expectations feel that a challenging mindset to their own is like a knife in the back resembling a betrayal, this betrayal of sorts is seen as a lack of support even though the ideas that are portrayed go against your own core beliefs. The dilemma that we face today is whether we chooose to support someone else's ideas even though they dont match our own and by doing this could we be proud of our blind support that we reluctantly give or should we be honest with our own mindset even at the cost of possibly losing our so called friend. I believe a healthy friendship requires growth that can only be truly achieved through challenging times not in a quivering mind that fears the thoughts that they have that don't match those friends of theirs who would prefer their undivided loyalty over true honesty. So be true or be dishonest the choice and the repercussions are yours to deal with in the end.

PREY ON THE VULNERABLE

Those who choose to prey on the vulnerable only manage to highlight their own personal weaknesses .It takes being at your lowest mental state to not consider how your words may impact others. If your initial reaction to your uncomfortable stresses is to lash out at others by any means possible than maybe you should focus inwards rather than only outwards. When you ignore why it is that you feel that you have to prove your worth to others by putting people down in order just to show yourself up then you are denying the real problem. Your attempts to show others how clever you are by belittling the vulnerable doesn't highlight your dominance it highlights your ignorance because everyone in your social circle sees you for who you really are an immature person who has little to no control of your actions. So grow up and show yourself that you can do the right thing with or without an audience just because it is the right thing to do.

SINCERITY FALLS SHORT

Sincerity is waisted on the undeserving, for those who desire only the lies that would support their personal insecurities without any challenges to their false persona dont care for true empathy they only care for reassurance. They would prefer to keep things on a superficial level where engagement is kept at a minimal because with the help of distance and no shared time the chances of building a true connection with anyone is less than likely and without a true connection how can anyone ever discover that all their claims are false. The first sign of discomfort comes when they feel the probing questions that may lead to someone finding the holes in their story which is why they will find out the hard way that their chosen attitude to their peers will only ever make it hard to build a true relationships with anyone with standards. So if you are more comfortable with the lies that sincerity can not bring you then dont complain when you are surrounded by people who you do not matter to because eventually people will only go by the rules that you have put in play. So play nice if you want to be treated nicely. 

PRIDE IN TRUTH

 Pride can be a good thing when it is based solely on the undeniable truth rather than personal feelings which is why people feel comfortably confident to stand proud for what is deemed as objectively right. Having too much misplaced pride can affect the positives of what true pride can bring you because once someone's opinion is ruled by their emotions than what is objectively right is now pushed aside to make room for what is now considered the new priority "How do you feel about the uncomfortable facts?" and "How can we make the worlds issues less triggering". When you let your pride get in the way of the truth then your moral compass can no longer be relied on to guide you to the facts because now your first line of defence is "My truth is" which will always change to suit whoever makes the most noise. When did "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" lose its power?, was it the moment that we thought that it is better to support the weak minded ones who's grip on society is furthest from reality while those who are resilient enough to handle the truth just have to bear it. This all sounds fine and dandy, but we should ask ourselves one important question, Is the world a better place now that we've let the fragile mindsets lead us?

TOO RATIONAL TO ARGUE

Rationality is the universal language of logic, it is illogical to argue with it when it's only purpose is to make sense of the confusion that surrounds us. Without rational thought we would be left bumping heads with each other struggling to deal with the dramas that consume us. It is our responsibility to use the rational part of our brain to analyse our current situation so that we are able to formulate the best possible solution for our  dilemma. Once you've discovered the only right answer which has lead to the least negative affects in your life their is no need for you to hold onto regret because you now know wholeheartedly that you have taken all the proper measures to come to the only right conclusion. It is in your ability to use your rational mind to distance yourself from bad choices that a rushed decision can bring which is why your head should have the last say and not be swayed by your heart because your heart will lead you ashtray when your rational mind is not involved in the decision making process. 

REMEMBERED FOR WRONG

We live our life with the hope that those close to us will see us as a good person who brings positive energy not only to the world but also for those who live peacefully within it. This admiration we hope to earn may start from our life but we also hope that the sentiments are carried forward even after we've gone. This is because positive energy transfers to those that we leave behind and remains with them to hopefully spread the same positive energy to others. There are those who crave to be remembered even at the cost of their humanity which leads them to do unthinkable acts. Labelled infamous is not a deterrent when those who intentionally cause heinous crimes all to be remembered justify their acts as necessary while they're attempts to create a everlasting stain on the world will never outlast the good that rational minded people bring to the table. The world might highlight the bad people in it but there are more good people in it and that is why we will remember the triumphs over the failed attempts to spoil the peace. As disastrous as the pure evil acts are "History is written by the victors" this is why their attempts to stand out and rattle us will be stamped out because we will never stop the fight against the evil acts that come our way by using what we have in common against those who want to separate us from our humanity.

SIGNS IGNORED

Subtlety tactics may not work with the overly persistent nor the closed minded who without your stronger stance to their prying questions they will continue to throw caution to the wind which may result with an open dialogue that they may or may not be prepared for. Our choice of topic of conversation with our peers is a guide that we will use to measure what topics¹ are safe to talk about and what we feel is beyond conversation because of its sensitive matter this is all based on the bonds that we share with one another and is steered by our own willingness to open up so that we are able to find common ground with one another.  If we tread on areas of conversation that we ourselves find uncomfortable to open up about but are more than happy to continue to delve deep into the personal affairs of others maybe we should ask ourselves when things haven't gone to plan with our own life why is the circle of friends that we feel comfortable to confide with only consist of a small amount of close friends rather than everyone else that we spend time with?. Why does our storytelling change based on our audience? Is it because only some people are privy to the real us while others will only ever get the perfected version of ourselves on display?

GRIEVANCES MISALIGNED

If we grieve for the victims how can we justify grieving for the perpetrators. This type of thinking puts us all in the victim box where no matter the circumstances we are all safe from blame because you now don't have to admit to any fault which is why it is now okay to treat self-responsibility just like an obstacle that you can just hurdle over. The choices you make go hand in hand with consequences that you'll eventually have to face this doesn't mean that your past should have the power to hold you back from the opportunity to learn from the bad choices that you've made by restricting how you react in the present. If you choose to be ruled by your past then the overpowering negative words that you've held onto will corrupt your present which is why you will have no future unless you choose take responsibility for your bad choices and treat them as lessons learnt but leave the past in your rear view and focus only on the possibilities of your future. You cannot change your past but your future is yet to be written so make the most of it because life is to short to dwell in the past.

COMMUNITY OF RIGHTS

We avoid solitude by connecting to something bigger than ourselves to a community which will take us in with open arms with only one expectation in mind for us to be a positive impact on that community. The only way that we can ever add to an already positive community is by sharing common values without having fundamental similar beliefs we would be left struggling at every crossroad. It is only through a positive value system that strives for peace with the show of integrity that will ever lead us all in the right direction. It is in the joining of our core beliefs that will build our trust in one another that will allow us to have a direction of purpose that in itself is the reward because without purpose in your life you have nothing. So give yourself purpose by adding positive energy to your surroundings because doing the alternative will only distance yourself from the community that you are ever so hard trying to be a part of. If you prefer to live a solitude lifestyle then see how far you can get without the innovations that a happy society brings to the community and its people. People are happier together than they are alone so it is in your best interests that you learn how to push your differences aside and just get along otherwise get used to the discomfort of the alternative lifestyle. 

BOUNDARIES OF CONVERSATION

When you put limits on your conversation not only do you restrict where the conversation can go but you also decrease your chances of building a respectful relationship with those you converse with. Without open conversation we are left attempting to fill the gaps that would normally gel together by tactfully changing the topics of discussion every time the topics got too sensitive for the other party to handle. If we feel the need to constantly change the topic of discussion to avoid uncomfortable confrontations maybe it's evidence enough that you are conversing with the wrong type of person. If you cannot converse amicably even under very different points of views, then part with the mindset each to their own. We will not always get along with everyone, but we should respect each other's differences as unique as long as we don't hurt one another and let each other live in peace that is the only way that we can ever flourish as a human race, the united race. 

MATCH THE MADNESS

Whether we do it intentionally or instinctively we seem to find ourselves comparing our lifestyle to the lifestyle of our peers. We do this to justify the choices that we've made over those of our peers who we believe have had the same opportunities to succeed but may have squandered their chances to shine. Our examination of their lifestyle compared to our own doesn't take into consideration that we dont always want the same things in life and what one person may want to reach for doesn't mean that the other person who is in arms length of it desires to reach for it at all. Some people are constantly craving more from their life while others are happier with just enough this is why trying to copy the steps of someone that is going in a different direction from where you'd rather be is just madness matching the surrounding madness may seem better than staying quiet in your comfort zone but the purpose needs to match your interest not theirs. So step out when you know that the direction you are heading is true to your heart otherwise you'll find out the hard way that mimicking a life that you do not care for will only result in you losing your identity when the dust settles.

EGGS IN ONE BASKET

When you focus all of your attention on doing what is quicker over what is logical you have chosen to side with less thought of what the consequences could be and more of your attention on whatever means will get the job done in the shortest possible amount of time no matter how it affects yourself or anyone else. This decision to ignore all the possible options that you had purely made to save some time will most likely lead to problems that you'd never ever considered is because of the lack of preparation that you failed to make before jumping straight into action. Getting the job done should not be the only focus in your sight because when you are blinded by your desired goals without trying to hard to understand the consequences of your actions you are doomed to make mistakes that you will either in the end do the right thing by taking ownership of those bad choices and try to learn from those bad choices or the cowardly thing by denying your part in the issues that have now lead to the problems at hand. To take claim that you didn't know that you doing this would lead to that is an excuse for those who suffer from a lack of thought in their actions so if you don't want to find yourself on the back foot trying to defend your actions then don't let your logical thought process be overridden by your irresponsible thought process and life will start to make a whole lot more sense.