GRIEVANCES MISALIGNED

If we grieve for the victims how can we justify grieving for the perpetrators. This type of thinking puts us all in the victim box where no matter the circumstances we are all safe from blame because you now don't have to admit to any fault which is why it is now okay to treat self-responsibility just like an obstacle that you can just hurdle over. The choices you make go hand in hand with consequences that you'll eventually have to face this doesn't mean that your past should have the power to hold you back from the opportunity to learn from the bad choices that you've made by restricting how you react in the present. If you choose to be ruled by your past then the overpowering negative words that you've held onto will corrupt your present which is why you will have no future unless you choose take responsibility for your bad choices and treat them as lessons learnt but leave the past in your rear view and focus only on the possibilities of your future. You cannot change your past but your future is yet to be written so make the most of it because life is to short to dwell in the past.

COMMUNITY OF RIGHTS

We avoid solitude by connecting to something bigger than ourselves to a community which will take us in with open arms with only one expectation in mind for us to be a positive impact on that community. The only way that we can ever add to an already positive community is by sharing common values without having fundamental similar beliefs we would be left struggling at every crossroad. It is only through a positive value system that strives for peace with the show of integrity that will ever lead us all in the right direction. It is in the joining of our core beliefs that will build our trust in one another that will allow us to have a direction of purpose that in itself is the reward because without purpose in your life you have nothing. So give yourself purpose by adding positive energy to your surroundings because doing the alternative will only distance yourself from the community that you are ever so hard trying to be a part of. If you prefer to live a solitude lifestyle then see how far you can get without the innovations that a happy society brings to the community and its people. People are happier together than they are alone so it is in your best interests that you learn how to push your differences aside and just get along otherwise get used to the discomfort of the alternative lifestyle. 

BOUNDARIES OF CONVERSATION

When you put limits on your conversation not only do you restrict where the conversation can go but you also decrease your chances of building a respectful relationship with those you converse with. Without open conversation we are left attempting to fill the gaps that would normally gel together by tactfully changing the topics of discussion every time the topics got too sensitive for the other party to handle. If we feel the need to constantly change the topic of discussion to avoid uncomfortable confrontations maybe it's evidence enough that you are conversing with the wrong type of person. If you cannot converse amicably even under very different points of views, then part with the mindset each to their own. We will not always get along with everyone, but we should respect each other's differences as unique as long as we don't hurt one another and let each other live in peace that is the only way that we can ever flourish as a human race, the united race. 

MATCH THE MADNESS

Whether we do it intentionally or instinctively we seem to find ourselves comparing our lifestyle to the lifestyle of our peers. We do this to justify the choices that we've made over those of our peers who we believe have had the same opportunities to succeed but may have squandered their chances to shine. Our examination of their lifestyle compared to our own doesn't take into consideration that we dont always want the same things in life and what one person may want to reach for doesn't mean that the other person who is in arms length of it desires to reach for it at all. Some people are constantly craving more from their life while others are happier with just enough this is why trying to copy the steps of someone that is going in a different direction from where you'd rather be is just madness matching the surrounding madness may seem better than staying quiet in your comfort zone but the purpose needs to match your interest not theirs. So step out when you know that the direction you are heading is true to your heart otherwise you'll find out the hard way that mimicking a life that you do not care for will only result in you losing your identity when the dust settles.

EGGS IN ONE BASKET

When you focus all of your attention on doing what is quicker over what is logical you have chosen to side with less thought of what the consequences could be and more of your attention on whatever means will get the job done in the shortest possible amount of time no matter how it affects yourself or anyone else. This decision to ignore all the possible options that you had purely made to save some time will most likely lead to problems that you'd never ever considered is because of the lack of preparation that you failed to make before jumping straight into action. Getting the job done should not be the only focus in your sight because when you are blinded by your desired goals without trying to hard to understand the consequences of your actions you are doomed to make mistakes that you will either in the end do the right thing by taking ownership of those bad choices and try to learn from those bad choices or the cowardly thing by denying your part in the issues that have now lead to the problems at hand. To take claim that you didn't know that you doing this would lead to that is an excuse for those who suffer from a lack of thought in their actions so if you don't want to find yourself on the back foot trying to defend your actions then don't let your logical thought process be overridden by your irresponsible thought process and life will start to make a whole lot more sense.

TWO OF THE SAME

If our efforts are ever questioned we would always claim that we did the best that we could with what we had but how would we fate against someone whos resources matched our own?, Are we only ever giving what we believe a person deserves and not our all as we like to display?. We all like to think that before we commit to a decision that we have considered all the people that may be affected before ourselves but this is a little delusional because we would of answered their request without hesitation. Most of the time we've already worked out how our response will affect us before we've even considered others request even though we will always claim the opposite. The claims we boldly make may promote our own readiness to help those who are in need but what remains evident is that the proof is in the pudding and it is only in our actions not the claims that we make that will show others that we mean what we are saying. When you in a situation where you are meeting someone for the first time and happen to discover that you share alot of similar characteristics to that person you'd think that its a sure fire way that you'll get along like a house on fire,  but this is not always the case if your views are ever changing. If you discover that you are clashing more than normal with someone who shares your values maybe it is your value system that keeps changing to suit not theirs. When you find that you keep on bumping heads with them it should be a clear indicator that you are not as easy to get along with as you thought. If you felt that your similarities  overshadowed each other the evidence is clear that you change you personality when you discover that your findings doesn't support who you claim to be. Is the forced change in your personality enough for you to recognise the selfishness in your self? Or is the fact that it is not you under the truth microscope enough reason to blind you of the connection that you both share? The most accurate test that will help you distinguish whether or not you are a person that can get along with most personalities would be  getting along with a person just like yourself otherwise stop preaching good will to others just for the performance because your performance will only take you so far before people can see exactly what you stand for or don't stand for.

THE PERSON THAT YOU USED TO BE

As we get older we change with the times as we discover more about ourselves we use our life experiences to gain the knowledge to find the place where we believe that we best fit in. The more we learn about the world around us the more we crave to find our rightful place in it because life without finding your purpose is a life wasted. People spend alot of their time focusing on the person that they used to be when they believe that they felt happiest connected to someone or something better than what they are currently experiencing in their life, but nostalgia has the power to  look better from the distance. Nostalgia can decieve you by distorting your current views because life as you knew it was measured by the standards of that time where you didn't crave so much and in this time where you have grown older your expectations have grown to match your current  headspace. If your desired goals remained the same your life goals would be easily achieved but you are not the naive innocent individual who was eager to please you are the person that has been toughened by responsibility and the deadlines which has now moulded you into a person who has to priorities your have to's before want to's. So leave your past where it is and recognise that you are the person who has come through the other end of your life experiences and nobody can take that away from you. So dont ever forget that if you want to be your best version of yourself than stop complaining about it and just do it.

WHO ARE YOU FOOLING?

Those who lie as often as they tell the truth believe that people are foolish enough to take them seriously. The more they try to distract you with chosen antics the more obvious their true intentions are. Their patterns of lies and deceit cannot be masked with a few random truths because their past repetitive behaviour has already managed to set in stone who they really are. One lie may be ignored where two lies will get someones attention but three times a lie is a pattern of deceit that will only ever repeat. So if their lies are no longer getting through is it just a reflex action that sways them to respond with a lie because they have held onto their bad habits for far too long ?, or is the lie said for the purpose that if they dont admit the truth out loud then the lie told is true in their eyes?.Those who have figured out the patterns of deceit will mostly ignore the liars bad habits by not taking anything that is said to them seriously but occasionally your bullsht quota can overfill leaving you with only one thing left to do and that is to remind the liars of the world that you are no fool. Once you have awoken up the liars they very rarely change for the better because they prefer the easier route to change their tactics and come up with a new scheme because in their eyes they are smarter than their peers. So do what you must but remember a liar is a liar because it is who they'd rather be.

MADE TO FEEL AWKWARD

When a mind has been made up close minded people will spend their energy to try to make you feel as uncomfortable as they can if you let them. No matter your approach they will strategise the opposite response to your attempts of trying to start a conversation, this is all done so that they dont have to change their opinion of you. Most of what they say may contradict their true opinion but if it keeps you distanced and in no way capable of finding any common interests than let it be. Whether or not your comments do manage to gain ground it is only short lived the moment that you say or do something that they do not like. Those that they  let in their circle have a get out of jail free card that will never ever expire, which is why they have to modify their value system in order to justify their actions. This is why their is no winning someone over because the more effort that you put in just to fit in the quicker that you will find that you have compromised your own value system. So stand by your beliefs and not by those that will never have your back and you will find yourself in a better and happier place.

WORK BEFORE PLAY

We choose to work not only to benefit our own financial situation but also to help out  those who rely on us. Whereas when we choose to focus our attention on play it is our reward to ourselves for doing the right thing first before choosing to focus solely on our own personal interests. Without work to fund our desired lifestyle we would be limiting our choices and our actions to meet our goals so no matter the urgency or the size of your to do list only the top few priorities will ever get your attention. As much as we would like to spend more of our time on personal interests with limited resources in hand the likely result of ignoring your responsibilities will only lead you to live a life where your selfish behaviour will eventually be you downfall. So if you want to live a full and rewarding life with a status that is honourable you need your choices to be focused around responsibility because nothing good will ever be achieved when you ignore doing what is right. When you choose responsibility you'll notice that you have an elevated enjoyment of the free time that you do have and your appreciation for your free time feels earnt. So earn your play time with the work that makes it all happen and you will have a new appreciation for your responsibilities.

STICKING TO YOUR GUNS

The importance of learning the lesson can out weigh the criticism that is sure likely to come your way when you stick by your guns even at the cost of offending the person that you are trying to reducate. If you quit before the lesson takes your point and your time will be lost with any validity of what you were trying to highlight as relevant. The positive impact that you are trying to make in someones life wont be remembered through hail or shine but be lost with your defeat and your failed attempt to stick by your guns when it truly mattered most. Lessons learned and are most effective when you recognise that it is getting through the struggles of your life that is the better teacher and not skipping the bad parts just to get to the good parts in your life. It is through overcoming the bad times that we discover that without constant positive momentum of perseverance our goals will never be met. So be like Thomas Edison and remember"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."

JUST PERSONALITY

We segregate ourselves at our own detriment from others when we only focus our attention on where someone was born and what someone looks like rather than the important things like whether or not that person has got a good value system. When you make the rash mistake by prejudging someone with the expectations that they will act a certain way all because of the way they look or judging them on the basis of where they were born the chances of you being proven wrong will only increase. To expect people who look similar to one another to act the same way is like expecting identical twins to react the exact same way when responding to a similar situation. This negative thought process could also claim that those who are raised in the same home with similar rules to follow will adopt the same good values that has been drummed into their mind from a young age hence expecting them to be cardboard cut-outs of each other in every single way. When you take the time to acknowledge that we are individuals who have our own unique personalities from each other and no matter what rules that you were meant to follow you will only ever do what ever floats your boat then you will start to accept that we are all individuals with our own motivations. Our attempt to connect with our peers through only superficial similarities will only make room to neglect the true importance of a shared value system. So, put value in your common beliefs because when all else fails, all you have are your beliefs. 

STAY ON TRACK

So many distractions in your life can take you away from your life goals unless you have set yourself up with boundaries that you'll strictly follow. The moment that you make excuses for veering off track is the moment that you'll discover how much harder it is to get yourself back on track with the same momentum and focus that you once had. This unnecessary delay in pursuing your goals by pushing them further and further away from your priority list is disheartening to your mindset which has you convinced  that you would have done things differently if you just had the time. People like to claim that their stand is unchangeable but the moment that they have to face the consequences of standing up for their beliefs they quiver with reluctance to voice their true opinion and would rather change their mind in order to suit the simpler pathway. Our loud voices that are connected to our core beliefs soften when challenged because going against the grain of the populous is much harder to do than just agreeing in order to keep the peace even at the cost of our own. It takes more strength to stick by your guns with an idea different from your peers than it takes to shield yourself with lies that you can't back up. So stop making excuses for your change of mind and just accept that what is truly important to you has taken over what used to be important to you.

WORD'S OF WISDOM

A father prays that his children are ready for the real world when he is gone. This is why the less you have to sugarcoat the facts, the better it is for them in the long run. Wrapping kids in cotton wool will only stagnate their inbuilt growth process which will disable them from learning from their mistakes.You may be able to see where their choices may lead and feel compelled to guide them but when a child's focus is on the prize that is all they see. No amount of good advice can get through to them when a child believes that you are taking away their rights to choose their own path. As a father, all you can do is brace yourself when things don't go to plan and be there to support them when they fall down. As a father you need to make the point that we all make mistakes and that there is nothing wrong with making a bad choices but if you are able to learn from your mistakes you'll find life will become a whole lot easier. Life has its ups and downs, and that is why you need to be stronger than the current times. Otherwise, you will find it harder and harder to get up every time you fall. We also need to point out to them that nothing "worth having comes easy" as Theodore Roosevelt once stated so try untill you've given it your best so that way your regrets won't stay with you to affect your future. 

PUSH YOUR BUTTONS

We all have buttons that can be pushed either by accident or intentional, but how we choose to react once our button has been pushed is up to the individual. Our vulnerabilities are on show the moment we react, so whether you want to be seen as weak or strong, it is all determined on how you choose to react to someone else's attempt on rattling your cage. If you keep in mind that someone has chosen to spend their energy to steer your mood will you use your understanding of their intentions to modify how you decide to react?. If we allow ourselves to be manipulated into doing something that we don't want to do which doesn't sit well with our normal behaviour is this a lack of control of our own emotions. It takes more strength to control yourself than it takes to let loose, so if you have a mature mind and some self-control, you will only ever do what your heart desires. We have to stop blaming people for their actions and start blaming ourselves for how we choose to react to their nonsense. People will only have the power that you give to them so stop allowing them to control how you feel and stop them in their tracks by conditioning them to treat you with respect or give them a taste of their own medicine and see how well that sits with them.

COME TO PASSION

Passion is the drive that persuades you to persevere through your failures so that you dont get demotivated from pursuing your dreams. Without passion in our lives, we struggle to see the point in pushing through the tough times because all we can see is the constantly monotonous repeating of a life that shows no chance of changing. This is why we need to take our lives in our own hands by choosing something that we strive for and making a plan that will eventually guide us to fulfil our dreams. Passions are deep-seated interest that are the key to our happiness  they are tied to what makes you, you, and if you ignore its plea, then you condone its slow suicide. Every fiber of your being should be invested in you pursuing your dreams because if you dont believe your worth it than why should someone else and wouldn't you rather just say that at least you gave it your all rather than its just too hard to even try.

HARDER THAN I THOUGHT

When facing hardship, no one could know how they would react to a dire situation. Hardship changes you by pushing you to your limits, and then when you think that you've had enough, it will tip you over the edge. This can leave an everlasting negative impression on your mind, where even after surviving the traumatic event, you can still feel echoes of distress coming down on you without any signs of halting. We can't pretend to know how well we would of reacted if we are not facing the same circumstances as those who are at their wits end but unless you are unlucky enough to find yourself in the exact same position you will have no clue to know how well prepared you would of been when faced with the frustrating dilemmas that can overpower your common sense. So before you lay judgement on someone else's predicament understand they may have fallen prey to pressure and made a few bad calls, so we shouldn't barrage them with cynical criticism to dishearten them from even trying to repair the damage that they may have caused. if they are doing their best to make a menz we should encourage them to persuavere because the harder they try the more people will recognise that the regret they have is real and thats why they will not give up on trying to get back to the point where you can respect them before they had made the bad call. We all like to think that we could do better than the person next to us but we all have our vulnerabilities and some people will use our weaknesses against us so if you don't want to be their next target then do your best to be better prepared for the dramas that may lay ahead. 

EMPATHISE THE BEST WE CAN

When we are attempting to empathise with someone we can only do our best to compare our life experiences to theirs, this is because we are at a disadvantage of not having more insight on the person that we are trying to connect with. In order to properly empathise with someone we need to understand them and share their feelings whereas people like to claim that they are empathetic with only a shared life experience in common, this type of comparison isnt enough to connect to them on a deeper level. What we may perceive to be a similar life experience will never be matched to what is considered a true connection that is measured by true empathy because its not just about the experiences we face that helps connect us but more importantly how we are affected by those experiences based on who we are. To claim that you fully understand and share the exact feelings as that individual will only highlight your own ignorance. People are the same in some ways but are also different in other ways that is why everyone takes loss a different way which depending on the individual and all the variables that make that individual unique will ensure that true empathy will never be reached and the best that we can ever offer is to do our best when trying to empathise with someone who is obviously different.

BORROWED OPINION

Our opinions should be our own, not borrowed from others, to save us time from formulating our own conclusions. Whether we feel nothing on the matter or we have a strong opinion, we owe it to ourselves to speak our mind. We need to voice our opinion so that it is clear where we stand. Otherwise, we are wasting the power of our voices. Where we take the easier pathway and rely on others to do the work for us to expect their opinion to match our own is only doing ourselves an injustice. It is very rare that your opinion will match someone else's every opinion 100%, but that doesn't mean that differences that you discover should be enough to cut them out of your life. If you are the type of person who can't try to communicate with someone who doesn't share your every opinion, it could be signs of your own weakness. So maybe you should work on yourself so that you can work out, Why is it that you are afraid to be seen communicating with someone who has a different opinion on your own? Is it because their may be some validity in what they are saying and you are afraid to be swayed from yours? Or is it that you feel others will judge you on your chosen company?. Either way if someone is putting a blockade on who you can communicate with then maybe you should open your eyes to see who is restricting you and who is trying to have an open conversation with you even though your opinions dont align with theirs?. If those who are trying to communicate with you don't have a valid point then what is the harm of lending your ear to have the conversation, or maybe the harm is in your beliefs being challenged.

STAND FOR TRUTH

If you don't like what someone is saying, then you can agree to disagree and just walk away. There will always be parties who disagree with one another, but a difference of opinion is never enough of an excuse to cause harm to one another. We should be able to debate our ideas with our peers and just because our reasons justify our beliefs to ourselves that doesn't mean that our reasons will always hit home with our peers but respecting that our opinions are our own and each to their own should be the philosophy that we preach as long as we are not hurting anyone in the process should always be our number one priority. If you harm the other party, that surely means that you are admitting that you are afraid of what they are claiming because you couldn't win the argument with words, so you decided to respond with violence. As the popular phrase goes "violence is the last refuge of the incompetent" If someone puts out a lie about you the truth will eventually set you free, but if someone is trying to sprout truths maybe the liars of the world are afraid the seeds of truth will set in. Truth is the most powerful thing in the world. That's why those who lie are afraid of it, the fear of being seen for what they are fraudsters. The truth will not set liars free, so they try to destroy anyone who may be onto their ways. You can try to hide from truth, but eventually, it will find you.

THE PEN IS MIGHTIER THAN THE SWORD

Inspirational words can encourage a society to take inspirational actions, which in turn will govern long-term changes to be made for the betterment of society. Our successors can only be achieved if we as a society are on the same page and are ready to do what needs to be done to propel society forward. The power of positive thinking carries further with the momentum to affect society for the positive rather than the alternative efforts that are put in place in order to force people to submit to what they passionately disagree with and then expecting a good result. The power of words stays with you even when the person who speaks them passes away, this is why getting someone to see another perspective is better than trying to force your opinion down someone's throat in order to control them. In order to reap the benefits that can only be achieved by forward thinking, we need to educate ourselves in being open minded and not judging someone based on one of their many opinions that you may disagree with. Force will never hold the same power or influence that encouragement offers, which is why it will not replace the progress that is willingly achieved through inspirational encouragement that spires from wisdom. So whether you accept that people will eventually rebel against a forced hand rather than an open one, it is up to you to deal with the repercussions when you're faced with them.

OVERRULED

When you put forward a claim there are those who will always claim the opposite in order to prove that they have seen both sides of the story and in your assertion that you may have missed something of importance. This is done not only because they believe that they are making a point that you haven't yet considered but also they want to highlight how open minded they are compared to you. They confidently believe that you have  jumped to conclusions rashly without logical thought even though you've made your claims with all things considered which is why your focus is now only on the importance of what should take presidence. When decisions have to be made we like to consider everyones preferences but where opinions crossover we have to make the choice to satisfy the many and at the same time try to accommodate the best we can for the minority. If we decided to do the opposite to what seems to be the most rational choice to satisfy the most people you can in your power because they are more flexible and more willing to compromise  whereas the minority are more likely to be focused on only their own way of being and are less likely to try to adapt with the consensus because it doesn't fit their specific needs. The choice should be an easy one if you don't turn it into an emotional one because emotions will keep you thinking that you can please everyone but logical thought understands you can't. People are sometimes driven by their irrational emotions which can go against what is logical and steer others into the wrong direction this puts your focus on the individual who isn't in control of their emotions rather than the clear thought process you have when you are in your right mind. So before you make any claim make sure that you can stand by it before it is overruled with a simple comment otherwise you will be left to choose to backtrack anything you may have said that made you second guess your claim.

BORN TO DO IT

Talents are the becons that guide us through to the right job that we should endeavour to pursue, even though our preferences dont always align with our raw talents they still manage to divert our focus away from our intrinsic skill set. Most of the time our chosen pathways are focused on what we see as the practical choice rather than the most logical choice that will bring us a higher level of happiness because it is connected to our core being. Money is a factor that can steer someone to choose what pays more even if it takes away the joy that being in the right job brings you. Talents are rare and should be appreciated as you would appreciate any gift because not everyone is lucky enough to possess what you have achieved without even trying. Those who admire your talents have to put in more time and a lot more hard work just to come close to the standard that you have easily reached. All that extra effort that they put in, they still aren't guaranteed the same result. That is why not using what you've got is abusing what you've been given, and you should never squander the gifts that have fallen in your lap.

LIFE ON HOLD

We put all the things we intend on doing on hold in order to accommodate for the things deemed immediate because our priorities change and the time we have left is limited. Our preferred bucket list gets pushed aside to accommodate for a logical exchange even though our achievements can be measured in so many ways if what we choose to do with our time doesn't belong on the bucket list you can almost predict that you'll feel that you've let yourself down. The bucket list is usually full of life experiences that you wish to fulfil before you kick the bucket whereas your day to day to do list is what you've put in place to ensure that the day runs smoothly. Your day to day task may help you function short-term, but it's your long-term goals that your bucket list is made up of that gives you something to look forward to. Life is about sacrifices, but there is always a limit where the more you give up is the more you feel that you are losing yourself. That's why a balanced lifestyle will reward you with peace . The key is we have to have a to do list to function through the day but we also have to not neglect that at the end of completing our responsibilities we owe it to ourselves to pursue our bucket list. 

HARDER THAN THE TIMES

As much as we strive for an easier life to live without difficulties in your life to challenge you the easier lifestyle you lead will magnify your vulnerabilities so that you will inevitably  struggle at the first sign of trouble. Difficult times strengthen your mentality so that you have the learned experiences to deal with lifes ups and downs because everyone's life has ups and downs. No one is immune to the troubles that will eventually find them. It is very important that we remain tougher than the tough times ahead because our mental health is on the line. No matter how strong you think you are, your mental health can break if you don't allow yourself to learn from your mishaps. So brace yourself during the tough times and wait the storm because the tough times will eventually dissipate, and all that will remain is the stronger version of you.

REPUTATION INPRINTED

Once you have a reputation, it can feel like it is set in stone, but this is only true if it's a bad reputation because it is almost impossible to lift your status once it's down. Those of you who are lucky enough to have a good rep it can be short lived when society has its eyes on you, this is because once you are in the publics eye the expectations on you to remain perfect is heightened beyond any normalcy. Peoples expectations of those that they have already thrown in the bad rep basket are at the all-time lowest that they could be, which is why they are overlooked even when they try to do good. Whereas a good reputation can be tainted quickly because people who see you in high regard are jagged by any slight thing you do that can tarnish their almost perfect view of you. In life their is no possibility of pleasing everyone because once you reach someone's high standards you decline from someone else's. So make your own standards and try your best to live up to them and dont worry what basket society decides to put you in.

TAKEN FOR GRANTED

When you've grown accustomed to having an easier lifestyle, it's likely that you will forget those who have helped you get through those tough times. Whether or not they have played an integral part in you being able to reach your desired lifestyle its all forgotten anyway when you are living in the moment of your success. The moment your desired lifestyle becomes the norm is the moment that your new found comfort takes priority over what is right and overrides any appreciation that you should have shown for those who have contributed to your added happiness. The last thing on the mind of someone who is enjoying their easier lifestyle is what sacrifices may have had to happen for them to get their desired way of life. This is why it is important that we keep to memory that the sacrifices that are done willingly by our friends should never be forgotten for that we are only where we want to be because of those who went with out in order for us to have more. Humility goes a long way when you are able to reflect on your journey through the tough times that you can only succeed surrounded by supportive friends even when you were at your lowest state of mind.

ON THE RIGHT TRACK

We are not always on the right track when it comes to our life, but no matter how many times we veer to the wrong path, there is always a way back to where you'd rather be. It just becomes much more harder the further you stray away from where you'd prefer to be, your efforts now have to be magnified to match the negative position that you've put yourself in and you need to focus on making better life decisions. You will not always do it on the first try but your failures have a purpose to remind you that if you quit you will remain stagnant in the same position that you claim that you'd do anything to get out of. We need to use our failures to fuel our courage to persuavere through the dramas so we can claim the things we say we deserve, you want a better life than do everything in your power to make it a reality. When you make a mistake, own it, then recognise where you went wrong and change your path. Life lessons can either benefit you by teaching you how to manage yourself through the storm, or you can ignore the patterns of your choices and never learn from your mistakes. So tomorrow is a new day. What will you now do with your day?

OUT OF BOUNDS

Boundaries are a necessary measurement to keep us aligned with what we believe in and at the same time steering us away from a pathway that we believe is wrong. We need boundaries not only to keep our standards in check but also to ensure others dont cross our personal line of comfort. Without putting the right boundaries in place, we are only guaranteeing a negative life experience that will lead us to confusion, and eventually, what will follow would be an overwhelming increase of stress. Boundaries are put in place by us for us with logic in mind, with the intention to be our guide in making the right choices for the betterment of ourselves. When we ignore logical reasoning and choose to venture beyond our chosen boundaries, we lose the foundation that keeps us together, causing cracks in our state of mind. Life has its ups and downs and when you feel at your lowest it takes an enormous amount of effort to propel you beyond the sink-hole of depression this is the moment you appreciate what boundaries can do for you. So don't forget you are in control of your boundaries, it is up to you to recognise the good ones from the bad ones.

NO HANDICAPS HERE

Handicap individuals don't want to be treated like they are different from the rest of society they strive to fit in with everyone else and  would rather not be seen purely for their handicap.They want to be recognised for what they can do not for what they can't do  they are strong willed individuals and dont need the sympathy of others to give them  reasons to push through the tough times. They have a resilience that most people would never know because it takes starting on the back foot that strengthens their mentality to persuavere to the next level whereas those who haven't needed to do without take for granted the advantages that they've had on the get go. People who go without the norms appreciate on a higher level the good days for they don't always come as regularly as it does for some, to the other side who can't remember the last struggles that they've had slowly start to forget to appreciate their current situation especially when they are feeling at the top of their game. This is why it is important to appreciate the advantages that you may have in life and to remember not to belittle others when they are trying to be better themselves. Handicap individuals don't want or expect extra they just want they same as their peers. 

BROKEN SPIRIT

We all have hopes and dreams that we crave to fulfil that is fuelled by our spirit, but only a few of us will ever be lucky enough to make our dreams a reality. Without our spirit intact to guide us we would lose any hope that we have in fulfilling our dreams that is why it is important that we need to keep our spirit protected from the cynical minds that will try to discourage us from pursuing our dreams. The bigger we dream, the harder we'll find it to make happen because nothing that is life changing is ever that easy to get. The road ahead isn't without bumps and turns, so you can only persuavere at it if you keep yourself in high spirits through the winding bumpy and unpredictable road. There is so much that can go wrong that breaks your spirit, but if you remain strong, then nothing can break you or your dreams. So take control of yourself and steer yourself away from the negative people of the world and allow your dreams to become your reality. 

FULL OF HOLES

When you converse with your peers and ask a straightforward question, you expect a simple enough answer in return. To some of us being asked a straightforward question is very easy to respond to when you only have truth in mind while others find it extremely difficult to answer spontaneous questions so they have to pause and think for what they believe sounds like the better answer, even if its not the truth. The true right answer might put on an unforgiving light on their personality which is different from what they have being putting on show, whereas if they manufacture a suitable answer it helps them maintain this false image that they are trying ever so hard to portray. Even if the answer is an off-the-cuff response it doesn't always mean that there is any truth to what is being said because those who are compusive liars will always be quick with a story to support their actions which unless checked for its validity will go unnoticed but to those who are willing to investigate their claims will witness the many holes in their story.

 

NEGATIVE POINT OF VIEW

When we converse with our peers, we either interpret what we are hearing as either a negative, neutral, or positive point of view. This interpretation can sometimes be clouded by our own feelings and biases, which have the negative power to misconstrued the point being made. That is why we should not jump to conclusions by assuming the worst without having all the facts in front of us. The moment we make our interpretation known we have to stand by our chosen understanding because if we chop and change our standpoint with the direction that the wind is going then we will lose any impact our words will have in future conversations. Our patterns of behaviour will eventually determine how we are viewed by either enhancing our credibility or disarming it. This is why it is important that you build a solid foundation that is supported by your core beliefs rather than choosing to follow a crowd that's thought process isn't going in the same direction that you'd want to go. Keep in mind that it is better to be alone and proud than with a crowd of people that you're not proud to stand with.

TIME TO COME AROUND

A difference of opinion is enough of a reason for someone not to want to talk to you. This is either because they feel that they are going against their own value system by even giving you a chance to speak or it could even be that they would rather not give you the opportunity to challenge their viewpoints with your own. No matter their excuse, their inability to communicate with you maturely puts them on the back foot to make what could have been a valid point. If you are confident in your beliefs you should be able to easily support your viewpoints against alternative opinions without the fear of consequences that now have forced you to shut people down before they even get to make their point of view known. We may share different opinions in some things, but if we shut people down on everything, we could possibly miss out on the good that they may say. So if you would rather not judge part of a statement harshly then keep your emotions at bay untill the whole point is made that you definitely disagree with then calmly state your own opinion maybe then you will realise that patience comes only when you are listening before you jump to the wrong conclusions rather than losing your patience with someone before you've even heard their side of the story.

REASONS OR EXCUSES

What one person will call a reason another person will eagerly call it an excuse, but it's all a matter of perspective. Some people will justify their actions with excuses in order to deflect the blame from themselves onto someone else while others claim that their actions were inevitable which supports their chosen action. Reasons are given to explain your actions where excuses are your reasons to justify your mistakes usually with the wrong intent in mind. So whether those of you who are trying to convince someone that your actions are justified there is no convincing someone who has already pigeon-holed you. Those who aren't taking in anything you've got to say are only wasting your time so maybe spend less of your time with them and more time with someone who has an ear to your words. One important thing you should keep in mind is no amount of words will change the mind of someone who has already made up their mind on you, so stop wasting your words and your time on them.

GULLIBLE NEVER TO LEARN

It's only through spending time with people that we truly get to know who someone is, but you have to be someone who pays attention to detail otherwise no amount of shared time is ever going to help you see the obvious patterns that are on show. We are creatures of habit which only helps to magnify the tell-tale signs that are unwillingly on display for anyone who is interested to see. There is no hiding from who you are to those that are perceptive to your ways, whereas if your supporters just allowed themselves to look past who said what and focused on how reliable has this person being in the past then maybe it will be easier for them to see who is truly responsible for the wrongdoings. Once you allow facts to lead you to the right pathway rather than your feelings, you will have the right tools to work out how to cease the same bad repetitive behaviour from happening. Biases can help camouflage who is a friend and who is a foe we all are guilty of falling off the beaten path, but some people will go there more often than others. That's why you should ask yourself, "Do you want to support someone who is always on the wrong path?"

I HATE YOU

Hate is such a strong word when you've said it to a person that you can't bare any more but once said the affects will remain with you at all times even when that person is nowhere in sight. Once you have reached that level of hate towards someone, there is no turning back because your hate now clouds your rational state of mind and can throw your judgement in disarray. This out of your hands growing problem can manifest your negative emotions into your worst version of yourself, as Nelson Mandela said "Resentment is like drinking poison then hoping your enemies die" holding onto hate will only ever harm you in the end. When a person you hate is trying to do good and you can't help yourself but to nitpick holes in anything that they say or do than this is an example that you have taken things too far because if you are seeing their positive behaviour as negative then your values have shifted for the wrong reasons. You are the one losing if your rational state of mind can not disregard the hatred that you are feeling to be able to recognise that the person you hate is making valid points. This uncontrolled hatred that you are feeling starts coming out in other aspects of your life with no care of how it may affect those that you are close to because having hate in your heart is about letting go of the control that you have that rationales your actions rather than saying "Fuck that, i dont care any more  i hate you" the problem is the moment you let yourself go and let hate rule you is the moment you will lose yourself. 

VULNERABLE UNTIL HARDENED

When we are born we are in one of our most vulnerable stages of our life where we solely rely on a carer to look after all of our wants and needs untill we are old enough to do it ourselves. Growing up the most important experiences we can learn from usually have come from the mistakes that we've made in which the dramas that we've struggled to face have undoubtedly left a negative impression on us that continues to stay with us as a reminder that bad choices will lead to bad experiences. The unpleasant experiences are instilled in our memories to remind us to use the discomfort that we feel as a guide on what to do and what not to do. If we don't use our failures as an opportunity to toughen us up, then we are likely to be taken advantage of and manipulated into doing someone else's bidding. So if you don't want to be treated like a puppet by being at the mercy of someone's whim, then stop letting someone pull your strings. You don't have to make pushing your buttons such an easy task if you recognise someone's intention in doing so.

DEFENCES ARE UP

There is no amount of effort that you can put into someone to get through to them when they have their defences up. Whether you make them feel unsafe and thats why they dont want to put their guard down or that they feel that they would rather be seen as strong to their peers so the best thing that they can think of is to hide what they believe are their weaknesses in their character. Strength is shown in your character when you are honest and open to your peers and not when you are closed because you are afraid that you might get ridiculed. If its not one or the other, then it could possibly be that they just dont think that you're good enough to show you who they really are. Either way their lack of being open shows a weakness in themselves because people who are open to being ridiculed aren't afraid to be themselves no matter the consequences whereas those who pretend to be someone they're not just to fit in has got to be exhausting. So if you'd rather just be yourself, at least those who do ridicule you are reminders to you that their opinions shouldn't matter anyway, and those who are by your side are there for the right reasons. 

THAT'S STUPID

Stupidity is not restricted to one nationality. It is bound to those who hold onto stupid ideas that lead them to taking stupid actions. There is only so much responsibility we can claim to take on our birthplace. The rest is owed to us by our own take on the world around us. Our decision-making abilities are influenced by how we absorb the information that we are surrounded by, so whether the information is true or not can set us down the pathway to the wrong belief system. If you feel that you can't stand by beliefs calmly and rationally, then it is more likely that anger is directing your path, letting anger rule over you will only lead you to failure. Rational behaviour can only be set on a strong foundation of beliefs, not on one that can be disarmed with a mere alternative suggestion. Stupid people are easily manipulated by their emotions because it takes more intellect to control their running emotions than letting them run free to cause more harm than good. Regret soon follows when anger is in charge, and that is why the point you were hoping to make is lost with your battle cries. People stop listening when people are yelling so if you would rather have your point come across rather than your lack of control which has now managed to camouflage any valid points you might of been making then think before you speak.

PRAISE FREE ZONE

Working hard will more than likely lead to a job well done but that doesn't mean that you will be appreciated for your efforts. Without any direct praise to guide us we are left filling the gap of doubt with job satisfaction. If we only see our contribution through the eyes of the ones that have pushed our efforts aside and ignored anything positive that we may have contributed to a job well done then our well-being will be at the mercy of the unreasonable. This is why it is important that we should learn to rely on our self when it comes to lifting us up when we feel down because the best thing we can do for us is to not give others the power to make us feel what we should be capable of feeling on our own. It is important that we recognise our efforts are necessary and that our efforts do lead to a job well done and no amount of selective praise will make us feel that we do not fit the requirements to receive any direct praise especially in what seems to be  praise free zone when it comes to our contribution to a job well done. One thing you should never forget is you determine your own worth not others so remember the moment you do forget is the moment others will determine your worth.

I WOULD OF

Not until the moment that things are taken away from us do we claim that if that didn't happen, we would have always done what we said we were going to do. It seems to take losing something we took for granted that forces us to appreciate what we did have, which wouldn't be the case if we just had the appreciation from the beginning. It's far too easy for some people not to see the benefits of what they've got if they have always had the advantages from the get-go. This is why when you have less of something from the start but through perseverance you manage to put yourself in a better position it is more than likely that you will appreciate the effort that you put in because you haven't forgotten where you came from. To remain humble is one of the hardest traits to hold onto because you now through hard work and discipline you have managed to gain an abundance of money and time which will now give you the advantages that not everyone has. Time is the most valuable commodity we have because it is limited that is why what we choose to do with our limited time and who we choose to spend it with tells us a lot about the type of individual we are. So if you don't ever want to lose something that you didn't realise was important, then stay humble because the alternative will only bring you down.

PUNISH THE WICKED

A wicked person who goes unpunished is like a becon to the world that you don't have to follow the rules because nothing bad will ever happen to you anyway. Consequences are meaningless if they are never actioned, and people are conditioned by action, which is why the longer times passes without the proper response to bad behaviour, the less impact it leaves on the wicked. Throughout our life we are likely to make mistakes and with those mistakes will come a negative response that teachers us to change our pathway so that we can avoid the uncomfortable feelings that will come when we make bad choices. If we don't experience bad times because of our bad choices, then we will never feel the need to change our tact. Punishment is as necessary as reward, but rewarding bad behaviour will only ever increase bad behaviour. Eventually, those who follow the rules who believe it is the only way of being rewarded will see the light and play the same game that the wicked have been playing from the beginning. We all have our limits, and if those who believe in rules give up on following them, then order will only fall apart. So if we expect order for all, then it's time to punish the wicked so that we can bring back the order that we all need in our life.

LOOKING FORWARD TO IT

The quickest way to get yourself into a depressive state of mind is not to have anything to look forward to. Planning ahead reinforces a positive thought process that enables you to think past your stresses so that you are able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. In life it is important that we are able to differentiate the highs and lows from each other so that we don't get stuck only seeing the negatives in our current situation but rather see the opportunities that are infront of us that will lead us to our preferred lifestyle. Short-term goals and long-term goals are necessary tools to guide you through the steps that you must take in order to achieve your wants. So, if you know what you want in life, you need to take the steps that must be taken in order to have the opportunities that will help make your dreams a reality. Once you allow yourself to dream and pursue those dreams, you will have the power and motivation to guide you through to the next day. So make plans so that you have something to look forward to when the next day comes and dont give in to the easier way by letting your dreams pass you by.

JUDGEMENT DESERVED

People are overly cautious when they meet someone new because of how they have been mistreated in the past by those they thought  they could trust. Our past experiences are our only point of reference in order for us to have the assurances that enable us to make the right decision for our current situation. Déjà vu is there to remind us that our past is important, and if we ignore the signs that are in front of us that we are more than likely to repeat our mistakes. This is why when we only know a little about someone, we still make judgements based on what they say and how they carry themselves in order for us to be prepared for the possible. Whereas we believe the better alternative is to take the risk and lay judgement on those we see even if there is a chance that we may make a wrong call with our assumptions because of the limited information on hand. Our preparation for the worst has us focusing on the patterns that seem to more than likely eventuate into bad circumstances. These patterns usually give clear cut signs that you are heading for unpleasant times so if you would rather have a clean slate mindset when dealing with someone new then dont be surprised if your treading on the same shit path that you blindly trotted on previously. These signs are known by many names, but the end result is the same for all. it's our intrensic ability to protect our well-being from those that may cause us harm. So your choice is would you rather be prepared by protecting yourself and apologise if your assumption was wrong or are you comfortable with the opening up to those who would take advantage of your kindness by knocking you down the first chance that they get.

YOUR FOOTPRINT

Life is very simple. You either want to leave an impact on the world before you move on from it, or you want to blend in with the popular opinions of your peers by camouflage your own. Whether it's one or the other, how we interpret our own significance in the whole scheme of things can influence our choices. You might be under the impression that your opinion doesn't matter and what can one persons opinion do to change how the world is anyway so why should you even try to change things because any effort you make  may disrupt the natural order of things which is why you can justify tip towing round others. This is a misconception of thought because you have as much on the line as the next person and the only way for you to stay true to your opinion is not to deny the influence that you carry inside of you, your voice. It is in our truth that defines who we are not through dodging and weaving through the tough challenges we face just so we can say the most preferred answer to what our peers expect us to say. Throughout our life we have opportunities to either have our say or just keep our opinions to ourselves it is up to you but remember which would you rather be seen for in the end your true self or be seen for only the lies that you put out there just to fool your peers into thinking that you are someone that you are clearly not.

MOJO DOWN AND OUT

Positive mojo is when your positive mindset gives you the power to get the best out of any situation by using your witt combined with your charm to influence others in getting your way. Without positive energy in your life, your chances of reaching your full potential drastically reduce, leaving you with fewer options and only a negative mindset that will discourage you from even trying. Positive mojo is best recognised for its strength in reinforcing your undeniable faith in your own ability to succeed. Thinking positive removes any doubt from lingering that you may have with the power of negative influence that will suffocate your hopes and dreams before you bring them into fruition. Confidence in your actions helps motivate you to move forward and achieve your goals without hesitation of doubt. Once you have positive mojo in your life, you are guaranteed a rewarding outcome because belief in yourself is the first step to a path that ultimately leads to your own happiness. There is no chance for doubt to demotivate you if you stand by your belief system. So, if you would rather achieve your goals, then don't hold onto doubt and make sure that you never ever let your mojo run out.

REVISITING THE PAST

We build up memories from our past personal experiences that remain with us through time. We perceive that those memories are better than they actually were because life was so much simpler when your child who grew up with little to no responsibilities. A simple life reflected as one that should be cherished for its innocence without the corruption that comes to those who become over ambitious. Chasing an over ambitious lifestyle brings out characteristics that may go against your normal way of being, it changes you to do anything in your power to make your dreams a reality even at the harm of those you mostly rely on. In the past, your innocent younger self hasn't yet experienced the downfalls of humanity where the dog eat dog mentality seems to be the lesson we have to learn in order for us to fit in. The world's problems now are shared through social media with misinformation taking its stand to influence us further astray, people have now lost their perspective and are relying on the wrong information to help them find themselves back. Sometimes it is better to go back to basics and try to keep your inner child happy by doing what you like with your focus solely on the ride not on the fear of failure because life is so much simpler if we just keep things simple. 

CANT BEAT THEM JOIN THEM

Eventually, all those who have doubted in their heart join those they have doubted. It's easy to forget your past stand when it doesn't sit well with your future values, how could of you predicted that you were going to be put in the same position only to do the exact opposite to what you've confidently claimed that you would of done. Maybe it's because you were only in your own headspace where you don't have to consider how your choices can lead to undesirable real consequences when you were told to think hard and consider the potential scenario. When you don't have anything to lose, there is no risk for you, so your opinion is tainted with bias, especially if you are incapable of projecting yourself in that vulnerable position when you were asked to. This detachment of emotion has no bearing on your true opinion, which is now made up of fantasy ideals and not your true response. It's not easy for someone to have a perspective that takes into consideration the less than desirable options that force ones hand to do things that they don't want to do. Most people when there is no pressure applied will make calm decisions based on logical thought, so maybe we should take a step back before making judgement to criticise those who are forced to make tough decisions on a regular basis because nobody knows what tomorrow will bring.

MIRRORED BEHAVIOUR

Our actions to others mirror what we expect for ourselves in return. Anything different will only highlight a hypocrisy mindset. If we don't give respect to our peers we can't expect to receive respect in return, for that view point to make sense it would mean that you dont have any problem with treating people better than they are currently treating you. As much as we like to think that we are morally superior to those who keep on making bad choices so we assure ourselves that we don't have to sink down to the same level of those with bad intentions. The reality is that we all have our limits, and some might take more neglect than others, but when you eventually have had enough, the chance for redemption is gone and buried. We are not fools just because we haven't reacted in the past it doesn't mean we hadn't caught on to the hypocrisy that you have willfully created, it just meant we let the show run its course until we just got fed up. So if you wonder if it was the last thing that you might of done that pushed us over the edge it was not one thing but a series of disappointments that helped us make the decision to stop helping those that will never learn because they are always ontop of the priority list and your generous behaviour only conditioned them to carry on with their bad behaviour. Now it's time to reap what you sow because in the end, karma will always catch up with you,  so maybe next time, don't just preach fairness. Make it your core belief.