IS HAPPINESS DECLINING THROUGH GENERATION TO GENERATION?

As a new generation comes along new parents promise themselves that they will be the best parents they can be by giving their child more than they ever had growing up. More of anything feels like the right answer to removing their child's desire to want and replace it with now i have, now im sated. Most people believe  that craving something that you cant have will lead you to resentment for those who possess what you desire and the longer you crave the things that you cant have the quicker you'll reach unhappiness and remain there. Having everything you could possibly crave actually creates the opposite affect because as the new generations arrive their happiness declines with their motivations even though they are born with certain  privileges. When parents give everything  their kids ask for they take away their child's own ability to challenge themselves in obtaining what they want on their own. It is the challenge to the goal that helps motivate you but when the difficulty is removed everything is too easy because you have reached the goal with assistance not with own merit which makes the rewarding experience feel unsatisfying. The issue is parents dont want to see their kids fail and go through the sadness that comes with failure but this is what pushes them to learn from their failures. So we give them no chance to fail but we also take away the chance of trying which will lead to an unhappy unsatisfied upbringing. So give them just enough and not too much otherwise your spoilt kids will be lazy and not appreciative of your intentions.

I SEE NOTHING

We sometimes shut our eyes to the wrongs we witness from the people we respect the most because we don't want to get upset and be let down by those we admire. The admiration we feel creates icons that are flawless so we view them in high regard and hope in the near future that we too could achieve what they already have with determination and hard work. In our mind our heroes are what we want to be and that's why we don't see a flawed hero when they make mistakes because flaws take away the magic that motivates us to reach for the impossible dream. Sometimes, however, living that dream doesn’t turn out quite how you may have imagined it would. Living The Dream' might not be everything it's cracked up to be because we have an amazing imagination that can never be surpassed by real life everyday living. 

WHAT KIND OF LIAR ARE YOU?

Is it okay to lie? Some might say there is no excuse to lie whether you lie for a good reason or bad reason, it's still a lie. To say that there is not a good enough reason for someone to lie you are condemning all liars to the not to be trusted basket. Whether they are a pathological liar or  a tactful liar in your eyes they are all as dishonest as each other and dont deserve your trust which may be a bad judgement call because it should always be about motives. What was their motive and is it a justifiable reason for the lie. Whether you are a pathological liar, intentional liar, a manipulative liar, protective liar, avoidant liar, an impressive liar, lazy liar, or a tactful liar each liar should be treated based on the Intention of that lie. Some people do deserve trust and others should never be trusted it is up to you to decide but don't make a rash decision because you will be judged by your judgements. Then the circumstances will change to were you to judgemental or could of you been more understanding. The cycle will go in circles all because of the miscalculation that you helped propel to the next person. 

LOST PERSPECTIVE

Opinions vary as much as peoples personalities vary and that's why there are so many versions of the truth. If every perspective is true than what does true mean?. What you may consider true for you is not always true for your neighbours. Can anyone be lost any more? if we now make allowances for all kinds of different perspectives as a show of respect to our fellow man and woman. If something exists in someones belief system is it true in universal belief? or Is the saying in your own little world what you believe is true a definition of a egocentric self-centered somebody who thinks only about himself/herself and believes the world revolves around him/her. If the latter is true then welcome to a world where the only way of not disappointing someone is by keeping your thoughts to yourself even if it's at the detriment of your own self being. Remember its better to put other peoples feelings above your own because that is the key to happiness, for them.

OPEN BOOK, CLOSED BOOK

If you want open and honest interaction you need to be honest and open with your interaction. Without a two way communication line one person is speaking his or her mind by giving their opinions and the other is listening but not giving any input which means no negotiation can be reached. Each person or group, gathers information from the discussion and has to be willing to make changes to work together in harmony. We all have limits to what we will allow take place but once we feel we are at our wits ends no more negotiating can take place because now our stance has firmly changed. So if you choose to be closed with your actions don't be stupid and question why the situation is what it is. If you don't like the circumstances at hand, understand we are a product of our circumstances. Circumstances are things that create who we are, and if they create who we are, they are considered our circumstances, whether we like them or not. So don't crap where you eat and complain about the funny smell you have to bear because no one is longer listening. 

VOTE OF NO CONFIDENCE

So many people have little faith in other peoples actions that they automatically assume the wrong decisions would of been made. The inquisitive person asks  questions that should of been safely assumed because common sense would of guided the decision to motion and highlighted that decisions weren't made lightly. The saying don't assume anything takes the power away from what is considered rational decision making and claims that being inquisitive is warranted for asking any questions irrespective of how irrelevant they can be in that situation which is really a poor excuse for supporting your argument that its for safe guarding yourself from making an ass out of you and me. Sometimes a bit of inductive reasoning is enough to solidify any questions that you crave answers for. If we were to ask questions everytime we felt it was necessary we would never need to commit anything to memory because who cares that certain people like certain things majority of the time they might of changed their mind so ask and ask again and never take in any information from your previous answers because being safe always mean no worries, or does it.

CONSENT IN SCHOOLS

I think it's a good idea to mandate school consent as part of the curriculum but it's sad they need to. How far gone is a generation that has to be explained what is the right way to act and what is the wrong to act?. What happened to our body language skills that enabled us to work out what was inappropriate and what was not?. What happened to the line of common decency and empathy? Is common sense now a myth to this generation who need to be educated in what's so wrong with their behaviour?. If it was merely the educational fault that has been the cause of this change with kids, then Are the kids smart enough to learn on how to behave like a rational people? or are the out of control ones just to stupid to learn a new thing because their mind is full of their own wacky morality flawed beliefs where nothing clever can enter?. Lessons will be even harder when the safe guard of schools aren't their to soften the blow with the advice "They just need to be taught the right way to behave" because when it's time for them to start work they the working force would expect them to be ready for the real world where the punishment will fit the crime. Kids believe they are growing up fast but their minds are on rewind back to the days of the Neanderthals.

SAFETY NET NOT AFRAID TO FALL

As parents we try to save our children from falling too far off the pedestal that we encouraged them to get on. Our one sided praises enables them to feel infallible, this takes away their ability to learn from their rights and their wrongs and what measure they need to take to improve their strategies. We have made them feel like they are super heroes on a mission that failure would never be their fate. Our fear of our children possible failures overpowers the negative effects of our own actions . We believe the impact of the fall will hinder them from getting back up and trying again, so we do everything in our power to save them with a premptive strike by stopping anything that might hurt our loved ones. This can do them more harm then good which is a lesson that we learnt the hard way. So maybe we should take the advice we once gave our parents let me make my own choices and my own mistakes  because it's my life.

I TRUST YOU SOME OF THE TIME

Trust is a word that is thrown around to easily and shouldn't be taken lightly when used. Trust is an umbrella term that means more than believing in someone. It stands for strength in someone's character, reliability in their actions, truth in their words and believing in the goodness of a person's integrity that you would trust them to do the right thing by you . If you look at trust as only on circumstances of chance you would be ever changing the rules that apply when attaching the word trust to a person. Trust should be set in stone, breaking the parameters and constantly changing what is acceptable will only discourage your faith in that person. Your word should be your bond their is no point in giving your trust to someone some of the time. We start off by giving respect and trust to others but if it's lost then a person has to earn it back. Time may heal wounds but being honourable is the only way on you getting trust back. If you want trust then be someone who deserves it and you will find you dont need to ask for it, people will trust you in you because actions speak louder than words.

THERE'S NO PLACE LIKE NOSTALGIA

Nostalgia is tied to our past affection, a memory from a period that feels us with bliss. Is it the simplicity of times with little responsibility? or the feeling that we have so much living infront of us with the potential to do anything our imaginative mind can think of? that made us feel like we were walking on the yellow brick road to an adventure that will change our life forever. Life in your adolescents gave you hopefulness and came with unlimited possibilities, whereas now the older you get the more clouded you feel from what you would of felt when there was little doubt in your little head. Time goes on and now you are responsible for more than just yourself and the clouds are no longer where your thoughts lie. Life is now about being serious and making important decisions that will affect you or someone you care about so man up or woman up whatever you prefer is fine with me, but this doesn't mean the fun has to end. Remember what good times you may reflect on in your past and happily to reminisce in is not exactly all spot on, and on the the other side of the coin kids of today wish they could grow up quicker so that they could be like the adults they aspire to be. Nostalgia is good but only because we remember the easier life we had, now we responsible for others so we believe that if we had the power to choose that we would go back to live in our past, even though what we would sacrifice would be everything that we went through and every lesson that taught us who we are. Have your head and your heart in the now and appreciate that your past has made you who you are today.