THE PERSON THAT YOU USED TO BE

As we get older we change with the times as we discover more about ourselves we use our life experiences to gain the knowledge to find the place where we believe that we best fit in. The more we learn about the world around us the more we crave to find our rightful place in it because life without finding your purpose is a life wasted. People spend alot of their time focusing on the person that they used to be when they believe that they felt happiest connected to someone or something better than what they are currently experiencing in their life, but nostalgia has the power to  look better from the distance. Nostalgia can decieve you by distorting your current views because life as you knew it was measured by the standards of that time where you didn't crave so much and in this time where you have grown older your expectations have grown to match your current  headspace. If your desired goals remained the same your life goals would be easily achieved but you are not the naive innocent individual who was eager to please you are the person that has been toughened by responsibility and the deadlines which has now moulded you into a person who has to priorities your have to's before want to's. So leave your past where it is and recognise that you are the person who has come through the other end of your life experiences and nobody can take that away from you. So dont ever forget that if you want to be your best version of yourself than stop complaining about it and just do it.

WHO ARE YOU FOOLING?

Those who lie as often as they tell the truth believe that people are foolish enough to take them seriously. The more they try to distract you with chosen antics the more obvious their true intentions are. Their patterns of lies and deceit cannot be masked with a few random truths because their past repetitive behaviour has already managed to set in stone who they really are. One lie may be ignored where two lies will get someones attention but three times a lie is a pattern of deceit that will only ever repeat. So if their lies are no longer getting through is it just a reflex action that sways them to respond with a lie because they have held onto their bad habits for far too long ?, or is the lie said for the purpose that if they dont admit the truth out loud then the lie told is true in their eyes?.Those who have figured out the patterns of deceit will mostly ignore the liars bad habits by not taking anything that is said to them seriously but occasionally your bullsht quota can overfill leaving you with only one thing left to do and that is to remind the liars of the world that you are no fool. Once you have awoken up the liars they very rarely change for the better because they prefer the easier route to change their tactics and come up with a new scheme because in their eyes they are smarter than their peers. So do what you must but remember a liar is a liar because it is who they'd rather be.

MADE TO FEEL AWKWARD

When a mind has been made up close minded people will spend their energy to try to make you feel as uncomfortable as they can if you let them. No matter your approach they will strategise the opposite response to your attempts of trying to start a conversation, this is all done so that they dont have to change their opinion of you. Most of what they say may contradict their true opinion but if it keeps you distanced and in no way capable of finding any common interests than let it be. Whether or not your comments do manage to gain ground it is only short lived the moment that you say or do something that they do not like. Those that they  let in their circle have a get out of jail free card that will never ever expire, which is why they have to modify their value system in order to justify their actions. This is why their is no winning someone over because the more effort that you put in just to fit in the quicker that you will find that you have compromised your own value system. So stand by your beliefs and not by those that will never have your back and you will find yourself in a better and happier place.

WORK BEFORE PLAY

We choose to work not only to benefit our own financial situation but also to help out  those who rely on us. Whereas when we choose to focus our attention on play it is our reward to ourselves for doing the right thing first before choosing to focus solely on our own personal interests. Without work to fund our desired lifestyle we would be limiting our choices and our actions to meet our goals so no matter the urgency or the size of your to do list only the top few priorities will ever get your attention. As much as we would like to spend more of our time on personal interests with limited resources in hand the likely result of ignoring your responsibilities will only lead you to live a life where your selfish behaviour will eventually be you downfall. So if you want to live a full and rewarding life with a status that is honourable you need your choices to be focused around responsibility because nothing good will ever be achieved when you ignore doing what is right. When you choose responsibility you'll notice that you have an elevated enjoyment of the free time that you do have and your appreciation for your free time feels earnt. So earn your play time with the work that makes it all happen and you will have a new appreciation for your responsibilities.

STICKING TO YOUR GUNS

The importance of learning the lesson can out weigh the criticism that is sure likely to come your way when you stick by your guns even at the cost of offending the person that you are trying to reducate. If you quit before the lesson takes your point and your time will be lost with any validity of what you were trying to highlight as relevant. The positive impact that you are trying to make in someones life wont be remembered through hail or shine but be lost with your defeat and your failed attempt to stick by your guns when it truly mattered most. Lessons learned and are most effective when you recognise that it is getting through the struggles of your life that is the better teacher and not skipping the bad parts just to get to the good parts in your life. It is through overcoming the bad times that we discover that without constant positive momentum of perseverance our goals will never be met. So be like Thomas Edison and remember"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."

JUST PERSONALITY

We segregate ourselves at our own detriment from others when we only focus our attention on where someone was born and what someone looks like rather than the important things like whether or not that person has got a good value system. When you make the rash mistake by prejudging someone with the expectations that they will act a certain way all because of the way they look or judging them on the basis of where they were born the chances of you being proven wrong will only increase. To expect people who look similar to one another to act the same way is like expecting identical twins to react the exact same way when responding to a similar situation. This negative thought process could also claim that those who are raised in the same home with similar rules to follow will adopt the same good values that has been drummed into their mind from a young age hence expecting them to be cardboard cut-outs of each other in every single way. When you take the time to acknowledge that we are individuals who have our own unique personalities from each other and no matter what rules that you were meant to follow you will only ever do what ever floats your boat then you will start to accept that we are all individuals with our own motivations. Our attempt to connect with our peers through only superficial similarities will only make room to neglect the true importance of a shared value system. So, put value in your common beliefs because when all else fails, all you have are your beliefs. 

STAY ON TRACK

So many distractions in your life can take you away from your life goals unless you have set yourself up with boundaries that you'll strictly follow. The moment that you make excuses for veering off track is the moment that you'll discover how much harder it is to get yourself back on track with the same momentum and focus that you once had. This unnecessary delay in pursuing your goals by pushing them further and further away from your priority list is disheartening to your mindset which has you convinced  that you would have done things differently if you just had the time. People like to claim that their stand is unchangeable but the moment that they have to face the consequences of standing up for their beliefs they quiver with reluctance to voice their true opinion and would rather change their mind in order to suit the simpler pathway. Our loud voices that are connected to our core beliefs soften when challenged because going against the grain of the populous is much harder to do than just agreeing in order to keep the peace even at the cost of our own. It takes more strength to stick by your guns with an idea different from your peers than it takes to shield yourself with lies that you can't back up. So stop making excuses for your change of mind and just accept that what is truly important to you has taken over what used to be important to you.

WORD'S OF WISDOM

A father prays that his children are ready for the real world when he is gone. This is why the less you have to sugarcoat the facts, the better it is for them in the long run. Wrapping kids in cotton wool will only stagnate their inbuilt growth process which will disable them from learning from their mistakes.You may be able to see where their choices may lead and feel compelled to guide them but when a child's focus is on the prize that is all they see. No amount of good advice can get through to them when a child believes that you are taking away their rights to choose their own path. As a father, all you can do is brace yourself when things don't go to plan and be there to support them when they fall down. As a father you need to make the point that we all make mistakes and that there is nothing wrong with making a bad choices but if you are able to learn from your mistakes you'll find life will become a whole lot easier. Life has its ups and downs, and that is why you need to be stronger than the current times. Otherwise, you will find it harder and harder to get up every time you fall. We also need to point out to them that nothing "worth having comes easy" as Theodore Roosevelt once stated so try untill you've given it your best so that way your regrets won't stay with you to affect your future. 

PUSH YOUR BUTTONS

We all have buttons that can be pushed either by accident or intentional, but how we choose to react once our button has been pushed is up to the individual. Our vulnerabilities are on show the moment we react, so whether you want to be seen as weak or strong, it is all determined on how you choose to react to someone else's attempt on rattling your cage. If you keep in mind that someone has chosen to spend their energy to steer your mood will you use your understanding of their intentions to modify how you decide to react?. If we allow ourselves to be manipulated into doing something that we don't want to do which doesn't sit well with our normal behaviour is this a lack of control of our own emotions. It takes more strength to control yourself than it takes to let loose, so if you have a mature mind and some self-control, you will only ever do what your heart desires. We have to stop blaming people for their actions and start blaming ourselves for how we choose to react to their nonsense. People will only have the power that you give to them so stop allowing them to control how you feel and stop them in their tracks by conditioning them to treat you with respect or give them a taste of their own medicine and see how well that sits with them.

COME TO PASSION

Passion is the drive that persuades you to persevere through your failures so that you dont get demotivated from pursuing your dreams. Without passion in our lives, we struggle to see the point in pushing through the tough times because all we can see is the constantly monotonous repeating of a life that shows no chance of changing. This is why we need to take our lives in our own hands by choosing something that we strive for and making a plan that will eventually guide us to fulfil our dreams. Passions are deep-seated interest that are the key to our happiness  they are tied to what makes you, you, and if you ignore its plea, then you condone its slow suicide. Every fiber of your being should be invested in you pursuing your dreams because if you dont believe your worth it than why should someone else and wouldn't you rather just say that at least you gave it your all rather than its just too hard to even try.