Wednesday, 30 December 2015
Im finding it harder and harder to have time to myself this stage of my life. My life seems to be made up of work and responsibilities leaving very little time left which forces me to choose between sleeping more or catching up with my own personal time. I try to remember when life seemed a lot simpler but its a struggle. Does anyone remember what they did to make life less complicated ?
Monday, 30 November 2015
I like many others was in a situation where moving in with my future in-laws seemed like a great idea at the time. It all started fine but the moment my in-laws got comfortable with the extra company they got back into normal routine of treating all those in their home as kids irrespective of age. It got worse and gradually and me and my fiancee decided renting was our only option. We may be spending more now, but our sanity was far more important. Now i feel my relationship with my future in-laws may have changed for the worse. Any suggestion on how to repair the relationship because subtleties aren't working.
Wednesday, 18 November 2015
I am 62 years old and i had to go to the hospital for a hip operation. I walked in and because of a mistake made by the surgeon who some how managed to damage a nerve in my leg, I'm now unable to walker without the assistance. I had to sign a form before the operation and now I'm not sure what are my rights. The surgeon said i have to give it 3 months to see if i would feel better but he can't promise me because of the nerve damage. Any advice would be great.
Wednesday, 28 October 2015
Im writing because i have become unsure if its normal young girl behaviour of this generation that they show little respect for their parents. I feel if i don't get angry with them that they feel that they can do what ever they want to do. Negotiating leads to some sought of bribe that seems to be they only way they'll listen. If your a good girl i will get you that thing you want. Ive tried the soft approach and the tough love, any suggestion would love to hear.
Tuesday, 4 August 2015
I feel that I'm in a situation that either means I shut up and let people choose how I should live my life or make them understand that what they want and expect from me is no where near what my wants are. The only problem is being subtle doesn't seem to get my point across. I find that unless I stand up and offend those whom claim to only have my best interests at heart I will be stuck trying to get out of a situation that I would of never been in. Please help.
Sunday, 19 July 2015
Im finding it extremely hard to get any help with my kids, irrespective the amount of notice that i give to the possible babysitter. Whether its friends or family the answer still seems to be "That doesn't suit me." I feel that i have no choice but to take my kids with me where ever i go which sometimes can take its toll on my patience. I find myself trying to stay up late just to be able to have some quiet time. I know this isn't good for my health but without it my mental state wouldn't be strong enough to help me get through the day. Please give me your suggestions because i refuse to believe that this has to be the way that it is.
Monday, 11 May 2015
I have a friend who keeps on telling me all is fine and that there is nothing wrong which I'm not entirely sure they are telling me the truth. They seem that in the last 6 months they have changed dramatically which they seem to be more distant now. I'm worried that they are going to get worse because they don't seem to be thinking much about the consequence of their actions, which comes out as lack of caring. Hopefully this is just a phase.
Thursday, 25 December 2014
I don't have many true friends, i find that its hard to make friends that i can feel confident that they will go out of their way for me or at least show me the respect that i would show them. I don't have a lot of spare time which makes me more less tolerant for the lies people say. I find people keep a lot of what they are thinking to themselves which makes me feel that they are holding a lot of themselves back. Why should a start a friendship with someone who can only handle my honesty in small amounts. If you can't be yourself to people than its better to wait till you can with the right people.
Monday, 1 September 2014
I had a successful furniture business where i was making $1000 dollars each working day. Personal and business issues resulted in me getting a divorce and losing much of what i owned. I am now in a position where i have to start from scratch and work for wage. Not only has my lifestyle had to change but losing my family relationship has hurt me. Now I'm trying to pick up the pieces but its hard to encourage my kids to do the same. I try and be strong for them and i find it a struggle whenever i pick myself up, i feel that something out of my power brings me back down. I wish things were the way they used to be.
Sunday, 31 August 2014
I feel frustrated when all i want to do is my job and to be treated like everyone else. It seems that my boss has worked out how to push his staff out of a job in such a gentle way that it can't be classed as work case bullying. He chooses his words carefully and covers his selective bad treatment up by throwing the odd staff member names in the mix of mistakes. But if i was to do some of the things that his so called favourite staff do, i would be in his office so quick my head would spin. It doesn't matter what i try to do, i feel like I'm always in the bad books for even the smallest of things. I just wish that if its wrong for me than it shouldn't be right for anyone else.
My kids spend all there free time in their bedroom playing computer games. It doesn't matter how gorgeous the day is outside, they would rather be indoors. I feel that staring at the screen all day and not talking to real people is bad for their health. It doesn't matter what i tried they complaining that this is what they would rather do with their time. What is wrong with kids these days ?
I spend most of my money on gambling. When i get paid weekly, the first thing i think of is can i make my money back. A lot of times i win at the start but the small amounts isn't enough to get me out of my money problems. It feels as if even when I've saved money my bills come at the time. I feel its hard to do anything without worrying where my moneys going. I was thinking about working extra hours but then i felt tired all the time, which made me feel antisocial. They say you can't buy away your problems , id love to try.
I seem to be able to get jobs quite easily, but i find it hard to stick to a job. Within 3 to 6 months i get bored. Once i know the job there seems to be nothing about the job that keeps me interested. The more i try to make it work the harder i find it to convince myself that this is the job for me. I find it hard to think that I'm supposed to be in this same job for another thirty years or so. I have had such a variety of jobs that i still can't find the perfect one. Am i supposed to settle ?
My father keeps on making promises that he can't keep. He seems to find excuses that he tells me whenever something goes wrong. I think he believes the things he tells will happen but the more times he breaks his word, it becomes a lot harder to believe him with even the simplest of tasks. I now only believe things will happen when they happen. Its hard to get excited because i start to feel a bit foolish for believing the broken promises.
I find myself getting angry way more easier these days. Even the small things frustrate me. Im not sure if people seem to be getting on my nerves because of the stupid things they say, or because my patience can't handle the repetitive mistakes they make. What happened to people being courteous ?
I've raised my sons alone from when they have been very young, and have worked two jobs trying to make ends meet. Now close to retirement I've now told my kids that i can longer support them with the extra cash that i have given them here and there. But now i find that they're not calling as much or visiting me. It saddens me that all that i have given them and all that i have done for them that they haven't appreciated it.